Online Christian Dating Advice: Diversify

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You’ve decided to give online Christian dating a try. Great! But unless you’re really sold on one particular online Christian dating site, the dating advice here is to diversify by using several dating services. There are several positive reasons why you would benefit by using more than one Christian dating service.

Why Try Several Christian Dating Sites?

Dating advice: You can compare sites for FREE before buying

You have nothing to lose by way of money because most online Christian dating sites offer Free trial memberships that allow you to test out their services without obligation. Taking advantage of free trials alllows you the opportunity to test drive before buying into one Christian dating site. (In fact, all the sites listed on our sidebar offer some form of free membership).

As you compare dating services, take into account such things as the cost, the number and location of Christian singles in the database and how user friendly the service is. For example, unless you’re into long distance relationships, what good is a dating service to you if the nearest potential soulmate is half way around the world?

By checking out each service, you will become educated on what makes a good online Christian dating site, and save yourself heartache and time in the long run. This also makes sense when you think about how expensive full membership costs are on some of these sites.

Dating advice: You will meet more available singles in your area

It’s really simple: The more you expand your base, the greater the chance of meeting that special mate. By putting your “eggs in one online dating service basket”, you limit the number and quality of potential matches. For example, one Christian single friend of mine got completely turned off after using eHarmony because they only matched her with one person, and he lived 3000 miles away! Take advantage of the online Christian dating sites that allow you to search the databases for singles in your area.

Dating advice: You can tweak your profile and picture layout

Two of the most important things to get right is writing your dating profile and submitting a decent picture of yourself. This is really a science and an art. If you fail in any of these areas, you will get few responses and have a poor online dating experience.

Joining up for free trial memberships at various Christian dating services allows you the ability to test out your profile and picture layout in different ways. This will allow you to determine which works best for you.

Are you a single person with online dating advice about Christian dating services? Please help other singles by sharing your online dating experiences.

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Singles and Loneliness

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Many singles have a difficult time dealing with loneliness. This is especially true in cases where the single person had suffered a recent dating relationship break up, divorce or sudden loss of a loved one. Whatever the reason for loneliness, some singles feel as if their whole existence has become an empty and meaningless experience.

My dear brothers and sisters, if you are suffering this kind of lonliness, there are several practical steps you can take to help ease your pain.

5 Steps for Defeating Loneliness

Remember that God Knows Your Pain

Sometimes we feel no one understands the loneliness we are suffering. But you are not alone in your loneliness because the Lord is with you. More than that, Jesus Himself suffered loneliness and rejection, and because of that is able to empathize and sympathize with your suffering (Hebrew 4:15,16). Go to Him in prayer, and He will meet you in your need.

Keep Busy by Finding a Personal Hobby or Interest

When we experience loneliness, it’s easy to want to isolate ourselves and go into a shell. But this only makes our loneliness and depression worse.

Instead of retreating, make a schedule of your day, and chalk in some enjoyable activities to fill in your free time. Be creative, and try something new and exciting. You may not “feel” like doing this at first, but positive feelings will soon flow from your actions.

Volunteer Your Time at a Charitable Organization

One of the best medicines for loneliness is ministering to others who are in need. I don’t understand it, but a certain level of healing occurs when we take our eyes off of ourselves, and reach out to others who are hurting.

There are a huge number of worthwhile charitable organizations in the world. Volunteering at such places as a homeless shelter, World Vision, the Salvation Army or say, Habitat for Humanity, is a great way to show Jesus’ love in practical ways. It also helps takes our minds off our own problems while bringing us much needed contact with other people. It’s a win-win proposition.

Join a Christian Support Group

We all need a little help from time to time. Christian singles groups offer many benefits including great fellowship, spiritual guidance and loving support from singles who are probably going through similar struggles with loneliness. Many singles have also met their special soulmates through these types of groups. Finding one in your area of the world is as easy as doing a Google search. At Christian dating Service PLUS, we are actually in the process of listing every known Christian singles group under the sun, so if you have such a group let us know.

If you have special needs, such as you have just suffered a divorce, or have lost a loved one, www.divorcecare.com and www.griefshare.org are international programs where you may find help.

Keep Perspective on Your Loneliness

Finally, remember that everyone experiences loneliness, whether they are married, single, young or old. It’s simply a part of life. As the Scripture states: “There is a time and place for everything under the sun.” The important thing to recall is that, in the vast majority of cases, loneliness is a temporary experience. The Lord will provide you with all you need in regard to a relationship. Hang in there because He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).

Furthermore, as Christians, we know that He works all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). Therefore, in the long run, loneliness can be a blessing in disguise if it causes us to run into the arms of God and makes us more thankful for the little things in life. Oftentimes, God meets us in special ways through our loneliness.

Are you a Christian single or minister with other thoughts? Please help other singles by sharing your insights on loneliness.

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Dating Advice: How to Break Up

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A famous 50s break up song gives us this little bit of dating advice on how to break up: “Breaking up is hard to do.” No, ya think?

Whether you are a Christian single couple in a courtship or an online dating relationship, how you break up a relationship will be emotionally painful for both of you. If you are contemplating a break up of your dating relationship, considering the following dating advice may help you avoid a wrong decision, while making it as easy and painless as possible.

6 Dating Advice Tips on Break Ups and Ending a Relationship

Ask the Lord for wisdom ( see James 1:5)

As a single Christian, praying for guidance and wisdom in the matter of a break up should be the very first course of action before making any dating decisions. You will be less likely to make a mistake if you do so.

Discuss the break up possibility with family and friends

God often leads through our parents’ dating advice, even if they are not Christians. Proverbs teaches that there is wisdom in using a multiplicity of counselors, so also discuss the possibility of a break up with trusted Christian friends. They may very well give you some much needed advice that helps you make a decision, or puts the relationship in a completely different light. Be sure to use these valuable resources.

Be honest, but speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15)

Never bash your dating partner personally, which will only hurt them even more and affect their self worth for quite some time. Do you really want to do that? Instead, tenderly explain why you feel God’s leading you to end the relationship. As you do this, remember the “Golden Rule”, and how it would feel if someone was breaking up with you.

While face to face conversation allows for far better closure, if that is not possible, a handwritten letter is the next best thing. A typed or emailed “Dear John” letter is seen as cold and mean.

Don’t delay the inevitable

Okay, you’ve prayed over the break up. You’ve discussed the issues with family, minister and friends. You know what you need to do. Delaying the obvious now will not only cause more pain for both of you, but will delay the healing process. By acting now, you give the Lord opportunity to begin leading both of you to the soulmates He has in mind.

Many delay break ups because they may be using the other person until “something better” comes along. Another reason for delayed break ups is that the other person is manipulating by putting the person who wants the break up on a “guilt trip” to remain in an unhealthy dating situation.

Make a clean break

Right, this is going to be hard, but you must be strong here because it is in the best interests of both to move forward. This means after the break up there should be no face to face meetings (if possible), no emails, telephone calls, letters, etc. While some couples may agree to remain friends, the data suggests that in over 90% of breakups, this fails miserably, and only lengthens the healing process.

Learn from the dating experience

Use this dating experience to learn from your mistakes, and build on the future. What has the Lord taught you about yourself? What has he taught you about what you need in a husband or a wife? If you’ve sexually sinned in this relationship, remember Jesus forgives and cleanses (1John 1:9). Finally, thank Him for the bright plans He has for you (Jer. 29:11).

Are you single with dating advice to share about break ups? Feel free to comment here.

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