Porn Use, Christian Singles and Dating Relationships

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Porn use among Christians is pretty much out of control. Some of you may even have been tempted to drop by a porn site before coming here. Hey, we’re glad you made it!

So what’s the big deal about using porn? In our featured church podcast of the week from Church @ the Springs in Ocala, Florida (FL), Pastor Joe Lacognata speaks on the negative effects soft and hard porn has on romance and singles in dating relationships.

Porn Help

In our opinion, lack of communication and fear of what others may think are two of the major barriers keeping people from getting help for their porn issues. Overall, if you are single, and serious about staying pure, this is a message you defintely don’t want to miss.

Are you addicted to porn? Or do you know someone with a porn problem? Let’s talk about porn.

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Dating Relationships-Top Reasons to Try Online

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Many Christian singles seeking a dating relationship are questioning whether they should try online Christian dating services. Everyday thousands of Christians are making the choice to seek that dating relationship through the internet. Here are the top reasons they give for doing so:

1. Online Dating Relationships Work

According to the Pew Internet and American Life Project, it is estimated that two million married Internet users met their spouses online. In 2005 alone, eHarmony estimated that 16,500 people got married through using their services

2. Have You Checked Out My Church?

Connecting with other Christian singles in church is not as easy as it seems. Excluding the one or two whackos they seem to attract at church, many Christian singles relay that there are very few available dating relationship prospects among their everyday contacts.
3. Finding a Dating Relationship Via the Web is Less Expensive

There is a cost, on average between 15 and 40 USD per month. However, when you compare this with what one pays for just one night out in hopes of attaining that dating relationship, the costs pale.

4. It’s Easier to Find Someone of the Same Faith and Background

This is one of the most popular reasons Christians give for seeking a dating relationship in this way. Using the large search databases of web based dating sites, a single person can narrow in on their target: Finding a relationship for dating and possible marriage with a true believer in Christ.

5. Single Parents Find it a Convenient Time-Saver

Christian single parents have anything but time on their hands. Sure, single parents with kids in the home are interested in a dating relationship, but much of their time goes toward working and/or worrying how they will survive if their next child support payments don’t come. So, when there is time to breathe, single parents in search of a relationship for dating and romance find single parent dating services a great time saver.

6. You Can Get a Date From Your Local Area

We know some singles are into long distance dating relationships. My one friend has travelled half way around the globe to meet his date. However, other singles are not cool with this type of dating relationship. For them, online matchmaking sites allow them to check off this variable in their search, and find a Christian date locally

7. A Fun Way to Get To Know Someone Before Meeting

Most dating sites have free Christian Chatrooms where you can get to know a dating relationship possibility through online chats, IMs, webcams or email before you actually meet in person. It’s not only fun, but also allows for real emotional sharing, which is the foundation of any serious and good Christian dating relationship. Just be sure you put these practical online safety dating tips into practice.

Well, these are just some of the reasons our readers have given for looking for a dating relationship online. Are you are Christian single who’s found a dating relationship through the web? Feel free to share your relationship experiences.

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Christian Singles Groups and Singles

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There are Christian singles groups (although not enough) scattered all over the place. Yet, most Christian singles groups are not making a positive impact on the lives of Christian singles Since we believe Christian singles groups have great potential to minister to singles, one of the goals of Christian Dating Service PLUS! is to help connect folks locally with a singles group.

Unfortunately, more and more single Christians report that they are simply bypassing the Christian singles group route entirely. Why is this the case? If you are a Christian single (whether a divorced single parent or never married college student) who has attended a number of Christian singles groups, you probably already know what I’m talking about.

Reasons Singles Avoid Christian Singles Groups

Singles Groups are Perceived as a Club for Losers and Desperados

As one thirty-something woman told me, “When you walk in you see a bunch of lonely people, which reminds me that I’m still alone and single as well. It’s Friday night, and we’re all together in the same boat. That’s why Christian singles groups are depressing to me.” Gee, what a downer!

Christian Singles Groups are Perceived as Meat Markets

The thought here is that since everyone who attends a Christian singles group is single, many from the opposite sex (one hopes it’s the opposite sex!) will be “checking people out” in hopes of meeting their mate.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with attending a Christian singles group, with one of the by products being finding a date. However, some single Christians who struggle with shyness or fear rejection or unknown situations, may perceive this scenario as threatening.

Christian Singles Groups are Perceived as Cliquey and Irrelevant

Very often, if a church has a Christian singles group ministry (and that’s a big if), they tend to lump together all singles into one group. What you’re left with is a Christian singles group with wild age ranges. So what does a 20 year old college student have in common with a 35 year old single mom? you guessed it, not much.

Additionally, what also usually happens in Christian singles groups like this is that the predominant age group starts to control the activites at the exclusion of the others. Feeling alienated and unwanted, the other singles not part of this group eventually leave.

The above are some perceived “failures” of Christian singles groups that often keep singles away. But what if you are a single Christian interested in being part of a Christian singles group? What are some positive signs to be on the lookout for?

Good Christian Singles Groups

A good Christian singles group should have the following components:

A decent Christian singles group should target singles by age and interest.

For example, a college and career single group, a single parents group and so on. Why is this? The more singles have in common, the greater the satisfaction and bonding. Of course, no one should be purposely excluded, which brings us to the next point.

A good Christian singles group is not ingrown, but has a plan for growth

There will be true warmth and friendliness between attendees and a welcoming attitude toward those visiting. This singles group will also be looking for ways to minister to the church and community at large.

A good Christian singles group is structured but flexible

There are regularly scheduled meetings that follow an agenda, but also allow for fellowship and informal mingling. The Christian singles group should not be dominated by one person (now that’s boring!), but encourage mass participation.

How to Improve Your Christian Singles Group Experience

If you are attending a Christian singles group, but are not satisfied, may we make the following suggestions:

• Consider the spiritual and emotional needs of others before your own (Phil 2). Remember Jesus said it is more blessed to give than receive. By having this attitude in your Christian singles group, you will experience great blessing.

• If you are seeking a date, remember that a Christian singles groups is only one place of several for this to occur.

• Learn to be content in your present circumstances

• Pray about starting your own Christian singles group. If you you are interested in meeting new singles, this is best way to do it.

Are you a single person with a different take on Christian singles groups?

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