Porn use among Christians is pretty much out of control. Some of you may even have been tempted to drop by a porn site before coming here. Hey, we’re glad you made it!
So what’s the big deal about using porn? In our featured church podcast of the week from Church @ the Springs in Ocala, Florida (FL), Pastor Joe Lacognata speaks on the negative effects soft and hard porn has on romance and singles in dating relationships.
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In our opinion, lack of communication and fear of what others may think are two of the major barriers keeping people from getting help for their porn issues. Overall, if you are single, and serious about staying pure, this is a message you defintely don’t want to miss.
Are you addicted to porn? Or do you know someone with a porn problem? Let’s talk about porn.
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Many Christian singles seeking a dating relationship are questioning whether they should try online Christian dating services. Everyday thousands of Christians are making the choice to seek that dating relationship through the internet. Here are the top reasons they give for doing so:
1. Online Dating Relationships Work
According to the Pew Internet and American Life Project, it is estimated that two million married Internet users met their spouses online. In 2005 alone, eHarmony estimated that 16,500 people got married through using their services
2. Have You Checked Out My Church?
Connecting with other Christian singles in church is not as easy as it seems. Excluding the one or two whackos they seem to attract at church, many Christian singles relay that there are very few available dating relationship prospects among their everyday contacts.
3. Finding a Dating Relationship Via the Web is Less Expensive
There is a cost, on average between 15 and 40 USD per month. However, when you compare this with what one pays for just one night out in hopes of attaining that dating relationship, the costs pale.
4. It’s Easier to Find Someone of the Same Faith and Background
This is one of the most popular reasons Christians give for seeking a dating relationship in this way. Using the large search databases of web based dating sites, a single person can narrow in on their target: Finding a relationship for dating and possible marriage with a true believer in Christ.
5. Single Parents Find it a Convenient Time-Saver
Christian single parents have anything but time on their hands. Sure, single parents with kids in the home are interested in a dating relationship, but much of their time goes toward working and/or worrying how they will survive if their next child support payments don’t come. So, when there is time to breathe, single parents in search of a relationship for dating and romance find single parent dating services a great time saver.
6. You Can Get a Date From Your Local Area
We know some singles are into long distance dating relationships. My one friend has travelled half way around the globe to meet his date. However, other singles are not cool with this type of dating relationship. For them, online matchmaking sites allow them to check off this variable in their search, and find a Christian date locally
7. A Fun Way to Get To Know Someone Before Meeting
Most dating sites have free Christian Chatrooms where you can get to know a dating relationship possibility through online chats, IMs, webcams or email before you actually meet in person. It’s not only fun, but also allows for real emotional sharing, which is the foundation of any serious and good Christian dating relationship. Just be sure you put these practical online safety dating tips into practice.
Well, these are just some of the reasons our readers have given for looking for a dating relationship online. Are you are Christian single who’s found a dating relationship through the web? Feel free to share your relationship experiences.
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There are Christian singles groups (although not enough) scattered all over the place. Yet, most Christian singles groups are not making a positive impact on the lives of Christian singles Since we believe Christian singles groups have great potential to minister to singles, one of the goals of Christian Dating Service PLUS! is to help connect folks locally with a singles group.
Unfortunately, more and more single Christians report that they are simply bypassing the Christian singles group route entirely. Why is this the case? If you are a Christian single (whether a divorced single parent or never married college student) who has attended a number of Christian singles groups, you probably already know what I’m talking about.
Reasons Singles Avoid Christian Singles Groups
Singles Groups are Perceived as a Club for Losers and Desperados
As one thirty-something woman told me, “When you walk in you see a bunch of lonely people, which reminds me that I’m still alone and single as well. It’s Friday night, and we’re all together in the same boat. That’s why Christian singles groups are depressing to me.” Gee, what a downer!
Christian Singles Groups are Perceived as Meat Markets
The thought here is that since everyone who attends a Christian singles group is single, many from the opposite sex (one hopes it’s the opposite sex!) will be “checking people out” in hopes of meeting their mate.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with attending a Christian singles group, with one of the by products being finding a date. However, some single Christians who struggle with shyness or fear rejection or unknown situations, may perceive this scenario as threatening.
Christian Singles Groups are Perceived as Cliquey and Irrelevant
Very often, if a church has a Christian singles group ministry (and that’s a big if), they tend to lump together all singles into one group. What you’re left with is a Christian singles group with wild age ranges. So what does a 20 year old college student have in common with a 35 year old single mom? you guessed it, not much.
Additionally, what also usually happens in Christian singles groups like this is that the predominant age group starts to control the activites at the exclusion of the others. Feeling alienated and unwanted, the other singles not part of this group eventually leave.
The above are some perceived “failures” of Christian singles groups that often keep singles away. But what if you are a single Christian interested in being part of a Christian singles group? What are some positive signs to be on the lookout for?
Good Christian Singles Groups
A good Christian singles group should have the following components:
A decent Christian singles group should target singles by age and interest.
For example, a college and career single group, a single parents group and so on. Why is this? The more singles have in common, the greater the satisfaction and bonding. Of course, no one should be purposely excluded, which brings us to the next point.
A good Christian singles group is not ingrown, but has a plan for growth
There will be true warmth and friendliness between attendees and a welcoming attitude toward those visiting. This singles group will also be looking for ways to minister to the church and community at large.
A good Christian singles group is structured but flexible
There are regularly scheduled meetings that follow an agenda, but also allow for fellowship and informal mingling. The Christian singles group should not be dominated by one person (now that’s boring!), but encourage mass participation.
How to Improve Your Christian Singles Group Experience
If you are attending a Christian singles group, but are not satisfied, may we make the following suggestions:
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Consider the spiritual and emotional needs of others before your own (Phil 2). Remember Jesus said it is more blessed to give than receive. By having this attitude in your Christian singles group, you will experience great blessing.
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If you are seeking a date, remember that a Christian singles groups is only one place of several for this to occur.
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Learn to be content in your present circumstances
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Pray about starting your own Christian singles group. If you you are interested in meeting new singles, this is best way to do it.
Are you a single person with a different take on Christian singles groups?
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This week our Christian podcast is all about sex and Christian dating. Sound interesting? Yeah, I thought so too! Pastor Andre Wallis, of Bristol Vineyard in Horfield, Bristol, England, speaks on sexual and relational brokeness in all types of relationships, including Chritian dating. If you’re looking for some straight talk about your sex life in the context of Christian dating life, this is where to begin.
Pastor Wallis’ message, entitled “Eros Redeemed”, comes directly from the Song of Songs, one of the sexiest books of the Bible, and very much misunderstood.
If you are a Christian single who has been affected by this message on sex and Christian dating, or you have another view, feel free to leave your comments. Bristol Vineyard may be contacted directly at Tel: 0117 3731414. Blessings!
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Most Christian singles dating are seeking to meet other single Christians who complement them spiritually. However, as many Christian singles dating will also tell you, finding a date or potential mate with similar beliefs is not so easy.
As opposed to non-Christians who have a larger available pool to meet someone, Christian singles dating who are passionate about their faith are much more limited in their choices. These types of single Christians interested in dating will not be cruising the bars or be inclined to date unbelievers.
Christian Singles Dating Choices
In a previous article, we discussed where Christian singles dating meet other singles. By far, the number one way Christian singles dating meet matches is through family, colleagues or friends. Other ways of meeting people include attending events or activities that attract singles, like Christian singles groups.
Finally, there are numerous online Christian singles dating services, both free and paid, that give Christian singles dating an opportunity to meet their dating and spiritual matches. Many Christian singles dating have found online dating sites to be complementary to other traditional ways of meeting others.
The convenience of online Christian singles dating sites takes a lot of the legwork out of meeting an individual with a similar faith backgrounds and interests. There are also many other benefits to using an online Christian single dating service.
Overall, whichever route you take as a Christian single interested in dating, whether you use one or combine all of the above, remember that it’s the Lord who is leading you as you wait on Him to provide you with all that you need.
What are your views on Christian singles dating?
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Romantic gifts? I know some of you may be thinking, “Why do I need to know about romantic gifts? I don’t even have a boyfriend or girlfriend right now, which is why I’m even on this site!” While that may be true for this short while, understanding the ins and outs of romantic gift giving now, may save you some holiday gift hassles, embarrassment and pain later. Do I hear some amens out there?
Anyway, now where was I? Oh yeah, romantic gifts. A romantic gift is anything dating singles give in order to express or display their special affection for each other. But coming up with romantic gift ideas for your courtship or dating partner can be a tricky and difficult business, especially for Christian singles.
Romantic Gift Considerations
So before going off half-cocked purchasing romantic gifts for your honey, or hope to be future honey, keep in mind the following questions and points as a romantic gift guide:
Pre-Purchase Romantic Gift Question Checklist
- How Long Have You Been Dating?
- How Well Do You Know Your Partner’s Likes and Dislikes?
- What Is The Level Of Your Relationship?
- What Kind of Response Do You Anticipate?
Romantic Gift Points To Remember
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Giving Romantic Gifts Cannot Buy You True Love, or Save a Relationship That Needs to End
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Sending Romantic Gifts Too Frequently Can Ruin the Special Moments
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Remember, Behind Every Romantic Gift, It Really Is The Thought That Counts
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Failure to Think Through the Above Romantic Gift Questions Can Result In Disaterous Results For Your Relationship
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A Carefully Chosen Romantic Gift will Enrich Your Romance
Overall, whether you are looking to find a romantic gift for Christmas, Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year, your date will no doubt enjoy his or her present more if you put both prayer and thought into the process.
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Our Christian podcast this week is on dating tips. Pastor Matthew Ro, of the Journey Church in Atlanta, GA, give us some dating tips on how to find that perfect dating match, and what true love signs to look for along the way. Speaking from Genesis 2:18-24, Pastor Ro’s dating tips cover the gamut from how to know you’re in a good relationship to courtship and how prepare for marriage.
The neat thing for me about this dating tips message is that it comes from a church that is a two year old church plant made up largely of Christian singles and young families. If you don’t know me, this is where my heart is.
Anyway, if you’re a single Christian seeking a Christ centered romantic relationship, or someone just looking for some wise and godly dating tips, this is it! Oh yeah, if you are a single Christian with something to share about dating tips, fire away!
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