A soul-mate test on how to make sure you don’t marry a loser? Don’t get excited. Unfortunately, there is no such soul-mate test. However, if you’re a dating single person interested in marriage someday, this week’s church pod-cast for single Christians is relevant to you.

Pastor Lee McFarland, of the Radiant Church located in Surprise, Arizona (AZ), brings a message, “”How To Make Sure You Don’t Marry a LOSER!”, that’s a wakeup call for anybody seeking a mate-God’s way!

Do you have a church or Christian singles group message you want pod-casted on the Internet? Contact Christian Dating Service PLUS!, and we will place it on our site, which will expose your ministry to thousands of singles.

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Attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right for a dating relationship that leads toward marriage is a goal of most Christian singles. Although there are a lot of online dating tips for attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right, some singles tend to keep attracting the exact opposite kind of person they need in a relationship. For example, did you ever wonder why abused women keep entering abusive relationships? I do, because I see it everyday in family court.

Why Singles Fail to Attract Mr Right or Miss Right

As a single Christian you may be wondering why you keep missing out on attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right. While Dr Phil and the Minirth Meier Clinic boys offer some cool advice on attracting the right mate, attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right really boils down to two ingredients: Vision and a plan to achieve the vision.

Attracting Mr Right Begins with Vision

The Bible teaches that the people perish for lack of vision. Knowing the general signs of what makes up a good Christian dating relationship is a little different than what we are talking about here. Our meaning for vision here means having in mind the kind of person it is you feel makes a perfect match for you. Think about it. How can we attract Mr. Right or Miss Right if we have no clue about what our Mr. or Miss Right looks like spiritually, physically and emotionally? Some singles may have already let a potential Right or Miss Right slip right through because they had no vision of Mr. or Miss Right in their minds.
A Plan to Attract Mr or Miss Right

Beyond having a vision of what your Mr. Right or Miss Right looks like, having a plan on how to attract that special woman or man to date is most important. Why? If you have an idea of the kind of person you would like to meet, but have no plan of action to achieve this goal, you basically have an endlessly frustrating situation.

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Recognizing signs of flirting from Christian single gals is an important skill to master if you’re a guy are interested in dating. One clueless single Christan guy (every church has a few) told me he didn’t think he needed to know the signs of flirting because he didn’t think Christian girls flirted. Yeah, okay.

Girl Signs of Flirting

Since most gals give subtle signs of flirting, it’s important for a guy, especially if they’re love shy or lacking in confidence, to know he has a fighting chance of dating them, and not face rejection. Quite frankly, the fragile male ego would have a hard time with this.

Analyzing Signs of Flirting

Men, the following signs of flirting will help you how to tell if a girl is flirting with you. However, there are a few flirting tip disclaimers here.

First, they taught us in seminary never to build a theology based on one Bible verse. Likewise, great care needs to be taken here not to get too excited when you observe just one sign of flirting in a woman. What are we saying? These signs of flirting should be looked at cumulatively.

Secondly, make observe how the single girl of interest treats other men around her. If she treats everyone the same way, she may just have a flirtatious personality, and not necessarily have any special feelings for you.

Top Signs of Flirting

Well, without further ado, here are some of the top signs of flirting some of our readers have come up with:

Sign of Flirting #1:

She repeatedly glances in your direction

Say your in a christian singles group. Is she looking your way everytime you take a peek her way? Pronlonged eye contact is a pretty stong sign of flirting. Just look behind you to make sure she’s not spying some other hunk sitting right behind you!

Sign of Flirting #2

She goes out of her way to “bump” into you

My one friend met his wife this way. She always found a way to cross paths with him, even if she had no reason to be in area.

Sign of Flirting #3

You keep seeing that smiling face

If a girl is frequently smiling at you , it’s a good indication that she enjoys hanging around. Smiling back at her will disarm any fear she may have about pursuing the matter.

Sign of flirting #4:

She laughs at your stupid jokes

This is a good indication you have her interest, but just go easy on the one liners.

Sign of Flirting #5:

She approaches you in conversation

A sure-fire sign of flirting, this also means she is not the shy type. Warning: Now that you have her attention, don’t blow it by not knowing how to keep a conversation going strong.

Sign of Flirting #6

She gives you a compliment

Since deep down most men are really insecure cravers of attention , women interested in dating would do much better if they threw more compliments a guy’s way.

Sign of Flirting #7

She shows other positive body language signs

Body language is a powerful tool women use when flirting with a man, and most know how to use this flirting sign to their advantage. Social scientists tell us 97% of communication is nonverbal in nature, so it’s very important for a guy to catch some of these signs of flirting:

• twirling a finger through her hair as she looks your way
• winking
• discreet touchingof your arm or knee
• moving and leaning toward you when speaking
• uncrossed arms and legs when facing you in conversation.

Overall, learning the above signs of flirting is only the first step toward successful dating. The next step includes facing any fears you may have about actually reaching out and asking the single girl out.

Are you a Christian single who wants to share other signs of flirting, flirting tips, or a different take on flirting altogether?

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Many Christian singles dating dislike the single life and pray for the day they can get married. Other singles who have gotten marred yearn for the days when, as Christian singles dating, they were single and free of any attachments.

A Relevant Message for Christian Singles Dating

In our church podcast of the week from Willingdon Church in Burnaby, British Columbia (BC), Canada, pastor John Neufeld, speaks a relevant message for Christian singles dating on the the benefits and challenges of being single in the kind of world in which we live.

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Single parents, especially those with joint custody, can often feel discouraged and stressed out when thinking about their daily dose of responsibilities. A Christian single parent friend of mine says she sometimes feels like “a gerbil running round and round on a wheel, with no end in sight.” She went on to lament that she would love to try out one of those single parent dating services, but barely has time to eat and sleep. If you’re a single parent reading this article, do you ever feel this way?

A Message for Single Parents

If you’re a single parent feeling a little pooped out at the moment, you will really be blessed if you listen our church podcast for this week. Pastor Dwayne Petty, of Crossroads Church of Fremont, California (CA), speaks a message called “Hope and Help for Single Parents.” Need I say anything more?

Do you have a singles or dating related message from your church, para-church organization or Christian singles group you would like to put into a podcast? Help us expand your ministry by broadcasting your me it for you for free to thousands of other singles on Christian Dating Service Plus!

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Abusive relationships are not uncommon among dating single Christians. Some singles have been in an abusive relationship, and know the pain that goes with it. Sadly, other single Christians reading this article right now are presently in an abusive relationship, but may not know it or be in denial over it.

While in the rest of this article we will designate the victim as a “she”, over 10% of abusive relationships consist of women against men. Abusive relationships come in all sizes and shapes, which at times could make it difficult to realize you or one of your friends are actually in one. Would you know it if you were dating an abuser?

Abusive Dating Relationships Are About Power and Control

The victim of an abusive relationship may suffer one or more of the following forms of abuse:

Abusive Relationships and Isolation

In an abusive relationship the abuser is obsessively possessive and jealous.He has tight reigns on what the victim does, where she goes or who she talks to on the cell phone.

Abusive Relationships and Emotional Attacks

The abusive dating partner will often make the other party feel inept, stupid or crazy. He accomplishes this through manipulative words or acions. He may accomplish this through putdowns about her appearance or intelligence. He may also inexplicably withdraw affection, using it as a weapon. All of this wreaks havoc on the abused’s self esteem.

Abusive Relationships and Intimidation

In an abusive relationship there are often subtle forms of intimidation by the use of body language (facial expressions, gestures, etc). An escalation in this area would also include yelling, ranting and smashing items precious to the victim. This a bad scene all around.

Abusive Relationships and Threats

If the perpetrator in an abusive relationship is not getting his way, he may resort to making threats of physical violence against the other person, their children or even themselves: “If you leave me I will kill you and myself.”

Abusive Relationships and Physical Violence

In this most dangerous stage of an abusive relationship, physical violence could very well include beatings and/or sexual abuse. The abuser will often apologize afterwards through tears and promises, and the victim will usually forgive them or be afraid to report the incidents, even to the local church leaders.

Proactive Steps to Take in an Abusive Relationship

1. Never give up outside relationships with family, your local church pastor and trusted friends who can give godly advice in time of need. In this regard, the benefits of being involved in a Christian singles small group cannot be overstated. Remember, since the victims in abusive relationships tend to be co-dependent, keeping contacts with the outside world will help them maintain realistic thinking.
2. Educate yourself on the resources available for victims in abusive relationships. A good place to start in the US is the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They can be accessed via the web at ndvh.org. In the UK, you may want to check out hiddenhurt.co.uk. In Australia, a great abusive relationship resource can be found at dvirc.org.au/HelpHub/HelpIndex.htm
3. Seek professional Christian counseling to help guide you through the issues that caused you to get into an abusive relationship. This is important because unless you learn why you got into such a relationship, you will likely repeat the process.

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Getting into a dating relationship is easier than ever since there are so many decent online Christian dating services. However, keeping that dating relationship growing will be almost impossible without good conversation starter skills.

Dating Relationships and Listening Skills

In fact, most couples, whether they are married or in a dating relationship, give lack of communication as the major reason for breaking up. These relationships break down because the parties have forgotten or never learned how to listen to the each other.

As someone who has done quite a bit of relationship mediation, the truth of the above staement can’t be overstated.That’s why our church podcast for this week centers on improving your dating relationship chances by learning how to listen to your partner. Pastor Bret Avlakeotes, of Spring Hills Community Church in Santa Rosa, California (CA), speaks from the James 1 on this topic sure to interest all Christian singles looking forward to a great Christian dating relationship.

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Flirting is an art, and those men who learn how to flirt with a girl will be more successful with both traditional and online dating. Just what does it mean to flirt? One definition in Webster’s on flirting reads: “to act in such a way so as to attract.” While some Christian singles are more flirtatious than others, nearly all interested in a dating or courtship relationship flirt from time to time.

Many online Christian dating services make it possible to communicate via e-mail, chat and IM’s with other singles. This format can be a very playful and fun way of flirting but should be done with some knowledge of online dating safety in mind. Many singles actually relay that they find flirting easier online because they are more at ease when the other person is not standing right next to them.

Understanding how to flirt online, and what to avoid while flirting may help you get to the next level: a true dating relationship. The following flirt tips are are actually “pre-flirting” tips that will prepare you for the real thing

How to Flirt Online Successfully

Flirt Tip 1: First Let Them Get to Know You a Little Bit

Most people, especially single women, want to know some background on a person before they start flirting online. In other words, she may be thinking, “is the person flirting with me a whacko or is there a real possiblity of a relationship here?” If you begin flirting before making a proper introduction via that initial email, you have less chance of the person accepting your flirt. She probably receives a ton of flirt mail, so put some thought into your email message, and use proper email etiquette. This puts you in a better flirting position.

Flirt Tip 2: Have a Great Photo and Captivating Profile

Guys, this is what will make or break you, even if you are the best flirt on the web. Guess what’s the first thing a person will do after you make initial contact and begin flirting. Yup. They’re gonna check out that handsome picture you submitted (and if you don’t have one you are ten times less likely to have someone even acknowledge your presence).

The second thing a Christian single woman will do is read your profile and look at your screen name. A sparce profile may lead her to believe you a married player looking for a fling, or a complete neanderthal who lacks any sensitvity and brains.

Flirt Tip 3: Have a Creative Screen Name

A good screen name or user name speaks a thousands words. Have fun with this one, but make sure you get it right. Do we need to remind you guys that sexual innuendos are a big no no? I didn’t think so.

Flirt tip 4: Take it Easy and Slow

Single women like to be wooed, not run over. Please avoid asking her for a date on your first flirt. It usually won’t work. Instead, take the time to get to know her likes and dislikes, which will only help you become a better flirt the next time you meet online.

In a future article, we will deal with specific examples of flirting. In the meantime, putting the above into practice will help you in your online dating life.

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