Here’s a fact: Many dating Christians have messed up sex lives. No, I’m not talkin’ bout those dating Christians who are suffering through the agony of waiting until after marriage to unleash their passion. I am referring to dating Christians who do indulge in sex.

Dating Christians and Spiritual Unhappiness

Although survey after survey shows dating Christians have sex before marriage almost as frequently as your run of the mill unbeliever, many involved in this activity never planned on it happening. And most pertinent to our dating Christian pod-cast, they’re not really happy about dating relationship consequences.

Let’s be real here. Sex feels really good! However, most dating Christians who have been involved in sexual relationships will tell you, the pleasure comes with a big price. As one dating Christian relayed, “I could experience pleasure, but pleasure with peace was impossible because I was grieving the Holy Spirit.” Wow, now that’s really messed up!

Are you a dating Christian who feels like you have messed up your sex life? Do you have trouble getting over the past because of past sins and mistakes? If so, Pastor Ed Young of Fellowship Church, Dallas, Texas (TX), brings a great message aptly called “Messed Up”. This pod-cast is all about hope and how dating Christians who have made relationship mistakes, can experience that real joy and peace again. This is definitely worth a listen.

Are you a dating Christian with something to share about your sex life?

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Many Christian guys write us asking advice on how they can find a girlfriend. Most say they can’t find a girlfriend whose a Christian because there are simply not enough of them to go around at church or the in area they hang out.

Our dating advice is this: If you have exhausted traditional ways in your quest to find a girlfriend, why nor try an online Christian dating service like eHarmony? After all, thousands each year find a girlfriend and potential mate in this way. In fact, if you’re out to find a girlfriend, there are many reason to try doing it online.

4 Steps Needed to Find a Girlfriend Online

Find a Girlfriend Tip 1-Know What You Are Looking For.

It’s great that you want to try to find a girlfriend online. But if you don’t have an idea of the kind of person it is you want to meet, how will ever be successful? In this sense, it all starts with vision.

Find a Girlfriend Tip 2-Understand the Difference Between Good and Bad

Yeah, there ARE a lot of bad dating sites out there. So if you want to be a satisfied customer, become an educated customer. Understanding the qualities of what makes a good dating site will help you have a successful online dating experience. We’ve listed some of the top sites Christians use right here.

Find a Girlfriend Tip 3-Learn How to Use Online Sites

If you want to find a girlfriend online, you also need to know how to use the services. There are some guys who have failed to find a girlfreind online because they never took the time to learn how they work from start to finish. it’s like having a great powerful racing car, but not being able to drive it because you don’t know how to shift gears. was that a lame analogy? I suppose, I guess you get the point.

The absolute best way to learn the ropes of online dating is to join a couple of the free trial dating services, and poke around their sites. Afterwards, you can pick out the one that suits you best. By the way, all of those listed on Christian Dating Service PLUS! have free trial periods.

Find a Girlfreind Tip 4-Ask the Girl Out

This is where many seeking to find a girlfriend falter, but reading some dating advice on how to ask someone out may help find you a Christian girlfriend.

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Many single Christians have told us that dealing with guilt is one of the biggest drains on their personal relationships, self-esteem and spiritual lives. The bottom line is that inappropriately dealing with guilt can destroy our lives and those around us.

Top Areas Where We Are Dealing With Guilt

Dealing with guilt as a single person can come from many different areas of our lives.

Dealing with Guilt in our Dating Relationships

This is a biggie. Many Christians walk around with this heavy burden of guilt because they are allowing sexual impurity in their dating lives. I know I am speaking to some who are weary (hey, I’ve been there, done that) of all the double-mindedness, but can’t quite get up the strength to turn around. So they live with guilt like a millstone tied around their necks, and it’s chokng every bit of spiritual joy out their lives. Sound vaguely familiar?

Other takes on dealing with guilt in dating relationships include:

• Remaining in a relationship include remaining in a liaison that you know you should have never entered in the first place. For example, Dating an unbeliever and all that goes along with that.
• Remaining in a relationship for all the wrong reasons such as convenience or fear over how the other person may react to the news that you’re breaking up with them.

Dealing With the Guilt of Being Single

Much of this guilt is hoisted upon us by those misguided but well meaning friends, family and church members who insist on wanting to to know why we (The great catches that we are!) are still single after all these years.

Not a few singles have gotten quite pissed off at others for pointing out their continued single state. For this reason, many singles avoid church events that are flush with married couples, and holiday celebrations where the topic will most likely come up.

Dealing With Guilt as a Single Parent

In the US alone, there are 13 million single parents living with their children. Many of these are Christian single parents who deal with guilt in so many different areas of their lives:

• Guilt over getting a divorce or having a child out of wedlock
• Guilt over not being able to provide better for the children
• Guilt over even taking a few hours away from the children to go on a date. And that’s only the tip of the iceberg. there are many other potential areas a single parent dating may be be tempted to feel guilty.

How to Deal with Guilt

Understand What Guilt Means

Guilt literally means “delinquency” or “culpability”. If you ask the average person on the street what guilt means they will say it’s a feeling they get when they feel like they,ve done something wrong.

Therefore, it’s important to identify the source of your guilt to determine if it is really appropriate for you to feel this way, or if you’re dealing with what we call false guilt. As Christians we need to remember that Satan , also known as the Accuser, specializes in putting believers on false guilt trips. If you are dealing with inappropriate guilt, you need to claim God’s promises found in Romans 8: “There is no condemnation now for those in Christ Jesus.”

Learn to Forgive Yourself

If you are dealing with guilt deemed appropriate, remember you need to forgive yourself just as Christ has forgiven you. Do I need to repeat 1 John 1:9?: “If we confess our sins (guilt) He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” How amazing is that!

Jesus IS your peace, and He has actually made peace with your past screw ups. Don’t allow the enemy to bring you back to something that’s been washed away. Okay?

Are you a Christian single dealing with guilt? Feel free to share your burdens with us.

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You can find Christian dating tips all over the Internet. Christian Dating Service PLUS! is just one of hundreds of Christian dating tips sites that spouts info from how to ask someone out on a date to how to breakup. The only problem with most (Ahem, not us, of course) Christian singles dating advice is that most of it isn’t true or even Christian.

Christian Singles Dating Tips Pod-cast

In our Christian singles pod-cast of the week, Pastor John Mark, from a Christian singles groups support network located in California (CA), offers some great Christian singles dating tips in his message: The Truth About Dating.

Admittedly, this Christian singles dating message is not what you would normally find on the web, but will be a blessing to any single Christian woman or man a little discouraged or lonely over their present situation. Blessings!

Are you a single person with some info on Christian singles dating?

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How do you know when a guy is flirting with you? Understanding body language flirting is essential for Christian singles.

What exactly is body language flirting? It’s basically a collection of all the nonverbal clues a guy (whether he be a Christian or not) gives out when he’s interested in woman. Just to be clear, not all body language flirting is a conscious decision on the part of the single guy, but may in fact be a subconscious behavior.

Therefore, the more a woman knows how a guy flirts with body language, the greater her chances of picking up when a guy is actually interested in her. Of course, knowing how to tell when a guy is flirting is an important skill to have, especially if there is mutual attraction.

Top Body Language Flirting Signs

Okay, let’s say you’re at a Christian singles group gathering, and there are a bunch of cute guys (Hey, we can dream, right?) in the room. Here are some body language flirting signs to look for:

Body Language Flirting Sign #1: Smiling

When a guy flashes you those pearly whites, (well, we hope they’re white) that usually means he’s pleased to have you in his company. Just make sure he’s smiling at you, and not the girl behind you. Have you ever done that before?

Body Language Flirting Sign #2: Modeling

What? Well behavioural scientists say when someone is body language flirting they subconsciously “model or line up” with the behaviour of the person of interest. Examples here could be having their feet pointed in the same direction, crossing or uncrossing of legs, blinking, cracking knuckles, etc.

Body Language Flirting Sign #3: Making Frequent Eye Contact

Two simple points here: First, all guys (including Christian guys) are attracted by sight, and have a healthy appreciation for the female attributes, including a woman’s eyes, face and figure. If a guy denies this fact, he’s a liar and probably not the kind of guy you want around anyway.

Secondly, the eyes often give away the heart’s intentions. There are different types of eye contact you should look out for, depending on the personality of the guy. If you have a sweet, shy guy on your hands, he may attempt to sneak a peak at you without you realizing it. Then when you turn in his direction, he may get red faced, or quickly look in a different direction. The second kind of eye contact is the kind a guy with confidence and boldness will practice. He has no problem making extended eye to eye contact. Do you know the type?

Body Language Flirting Sign #4: Grooming Self

This body language flirting sign includes doing such things as fixing collars, pulling up socks, straightening ties. This is the male ego’s way of preparing himself for the hunt.

Body Language Flirting Sign #5: Strutting

The guy will stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out. Some single gals I know refer to this ritual as the “Peacock Strut”. Some girls out there are saying, “yep, I’ve seen that before.”

Well there you have our top five body language flirting hints that guys will do around girls they like. Being aware of these may help any Christian single girl whose in “the market” for a nice Christian guy.

One disclaimer here: If a guy exhibits only one or two body language hints, don’t jump to hasty conclusions. Make sure you interpret these body language flirt signs cumulatively, not individually. Otherwise, you may misinterpret a man’s intentions, which could put you in an embarrassing situation.

Are you a Christian single person with something to share about body language flirting?

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If you are considering using a Christian dating agency or Christian dating site, you may benefit by going over some of the questions we listed below. We are assuming you are a dedicated Christian single who is using a Christian dating agency in order to find a serious dating relationship. The following checklist will assist you in weeding out the less desirable Christian dating agencies.

Christian Dating Agency Checklist

Is the Christian Dating Agency in line with your morals?

For example, some so called Christian dating agencies have no problem with same sex unions. Another Christian dating agency named Big Church also owns and operates pornographic dating sites. If topics like these are issues with you, you need to closely research the Christian dating agency before joining. The good news here is that Christian Dating Service PLUS! does not advocate questionable Christian dating agencies like these.

Does the Christian Dating Agency have a large enough search database?

In other words, does the Christian dating agency have a good selection of Christian dating matches for you according to variables like, age, location, language, denomination etc.?

Does the Christian Dating Agency have a decent amount of bells and whistles?

In a addition to easy navigation, a decent Christian dating agency will have such goodies as Christian Chat Rooms, email and forums, all with your online dating safety in mind.

Does the Christian Dating Agency offer a free trial membership?

While most of the top dating sites Christians use offer free trials, some do not. A free test drive of a Christian dating agency will help you make some good decisions, especially if you putting down some money to join.

Does the Christian Agency allow you to choose your own perfectmatch, or do they do it for you?

For example, an online dating service like eHarmony, match you with a compatible person using their matching system. Conversely, a Christian dating agency like Christian Cafe allows you to reach out to prospective soul-mate on your own. The choice is totally your own in regard to the kind of Christian dating agency you choose. However, it’s important to know the difference.

Are you a Christian single who is willing to share your experience of using a Christian dating agency?

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Our church pod-cast of the week has an interesting twist on the subject of singleness and the single life, that may change your concept of singleness and dating. Pastor Bill Lloyd of White Stone Fellowship in Stuart, Florida (FL), speaks on singleness, dating, mating, love and marriage, all from the from the perspective of Adam and Eve, the first single guy and gal. Did you ever look at this couple in that way?

Singleness Equals Incomplete?

Many Christian singles and certain married couples in the church equate singleness with incompleteness and discontentment. If your view of singleness is in line with this view, this message will be encouraging and helpful to you.

As a single person, are you finding contentment in singleness? Or do you consider singleness a plague to be avoided at all costs? Share your thoughts on singleness here, or sign up as an author at Christian dating Service PLUS!

If you would like to have your church or Christian singles group’s audio message pod-casted through our site, just send a CD or tape, and we will gladly convert it (pun intended) to mp3 and put it on our site. It’s a great way to geometrically expand your audience, and drive traffic to your singles related ministry or site, since we reach tens of thousands of singles each month.

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