Don’t you just love that title?你不只是爱标题？ I do.我手边。 Christian dating without losing your brain.基督教约会失去你的大脑。 Now there’sa novel thought.现在有一种新型的思想。 How many Christian dating singles have acted irrationally in pursuit of their perfect date?有多少基督徒约会单打入屋拘捕行动，理性在追求其完美的日期？ From自 Christian single girls who date bad guys基督教单身女孩谁日期坏人 , to ， dating mistakes by both guys约会失误，双方球员 and和 girls女孩 , it seems many need a little help in this area. ，似乎有很多需要一个没有多大帮助，在这方面的工作。
Well.好。 here’s some good news: in our Christian dating podcast of the month, Pastor Bob Gibson, of the Vineyard Church in Ithaca, NY, delievers a message entitiled, you guess it, Christian Dating Without Losing Your Brain .这里的一些好消息：在我们的基督徒约会的podcast至本月底，牧师鲍勃吉布森，葡萄园教会在绮色佳，纽约州， delievers一个讯息entitiled ，你猜它， 基督教约会失去你的大脑 。 Enjoy!享受！ Oh yeah, this Christian dating message has a musical intro of 40 seconds, so be patient.噢，耶，这基督教约会讯息一出音乐剧介绍的40秒，所以要有耐心。 
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Now that we have your attention, sorry if you googled “ pornography nude women ” and came up with our site.现在我们有了你注意，对不起，如果你googled “ 色情裸体女人 ” ，并想出了我们的网站。 Our church podcast of the week is not so much about nude women pornography, as it it about how poisonous pornography really is to healthy dating relationships and to Christians (mostly Christian men) in general.我们的教会播客的一周是不是这么多关于女性的裸体色情，因为它，它如何有毒色情，实在是健康的约会关系和基督徒（主要是基督教的男子）在一般。 Fact is, the sad truth is that事实是，可悲的事实是， many Christians have messed up sex lives很多基督徒搞砸的性生活 , and are as addicted to pornography as much as unbelievers are. ，并作为成瘾色情高达unbelievers 。 Many are lonely许多人孤独 Christian single men基督教单身男性 , who also struggle with ，谁也斗争 masturbation自慰 and all kinds of和所有种 sexual impurity性杂质
Victory Over Pornography胜利的色情
A good first step toward victory over pornography is to talk about it.一个良好的第一步胜利，色情是谈论它。 Open and honest confession, claiming the promises of God in His word and getting accountability in Christian support groups or公开和诚实的自白，声称上帝的承诺，在他的Word和取得的问责在基督教的支持团体或 Christian counseling基督教辅导 can go a long way toward healing.可还有很长的路要走，对愈合。 Unfortunately不幸地 many Christians choose to live secretly in their sins许多基督徒选择居住秘密在他们的罪孽 . 。
Pastor Forrest Pollock, from牧师福里斯特波洛克，从 Bell Shoals Baptist Church钟滩涂浸信会教堂 in Brandon Florida, brings us the following message of hope against pornography.在佛罗里达州的布兰登，给我们带来以下的讯息，希望对色情活动。 I hope it helps我希望它有助于
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The following article, Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women , was written by a single Christian woman who is also a mental health professional.下面的文章， 性的感情，基督教的单身妇女 ，作者是一个单一的基督教女谁是也是一个精神健康专业人士。 The writer thought it important that作者认为重要的是 single Christian men单一的基督教男子 , in their ，在其 fight against lust打击的欲望 and quest for和追求 sexual purity in dating relationships性纯洁性，在约会关系 , understand how the sexual feelings of Christian single women work: ，了解如何在性的感情，基督教单身女性的工作：
I just want to say to all the我只想说，所有 Christian men基督教男子 who think single Christian women don’t think as much about sex as you do - we do.谁认为单一的基督教妇女不认为这么多的性别，你这样做-我们这样做。 We just romanticize and emotionalize it a bit more.我们只是romanticize和emotionalize它多一点。 Romance novels are an emotional stimulus that has an end result similar to porn; so do Cosmo and Glamor magazines.罗曼史小说是一个情绪化的刺激有一个最终的结果类似色情;这样做小宇和魅力的杂志。 This is because emotional and intellectual connection are generally more of what turn women on.这是因为情感和智力方面，一般更多的是什么，从而使妇女。
As a woman who was作为一名女性是谁 sexually abused性虐待 in her own home at a very young age, I have struggled a lot with在她自己的家在一个非常年轻的年龄，我已奋斗了很多与 sexual impurity性杂质 and guilt that my mind fantasizes about my current Christian boyfriend.和内疚，我的心fantasizes约我目前的基督教男朋友。 Long before I met my boyfriend, I went to前不久我见到了我男朋友，我去了 counseling辅导 for years (because of the abuse) and now am a mental health professional.多年来， （因为滥用）和现在感到精神健康专业人士。 Yet, I know from my professional background that in spite of all my healing, there are just some changes in my brain and my chemistry from childhood that just make me a more sexual person than I otherwise would have been.然而，我知道从我的专业背景是，尽管我所有的愈合，有一些变化，只是在我的脑化学和我从童年，就使我更加性的人比我，否则会已。
I was我是 tired of the guilt厌倦了有罪 and just spoke to my boyfriend about my sexual feelings fantasies and he told me he has similar fantasies.和刚才的发言，以我男朋友对我的性幻想和感情，他告诉我，他也有类似的幻想。 We prayed together that God would help us remain in control of ourselves and our sexual urges because we want to save sex for marriage.我们一起祈祷，上帝会帮助我们留在控制我们自己和我们的性要求，因为我们要保存的性别结婚。 We also set up rules for ourselves that would keep us from getting into situations that would give us means and opportunity (because the motive -我们还设立了规则，为自己这将让我们从进入情况，这将给予我们的手段和机会， （因为动机- temptation诱惑 - is there). -是否有） 。 Everyone’s different, so details of this are micromanagement, but I think every couple that is dating exclusively (especially Christian couples) should have每个人的不同，所以细节，这是微观管理，但我认为，每夫妇是专门约会（尤其是基督教夫妇）应该有 a sex talk性别谈 , and share what their insights are as far as setting up fences long before the cliff as not to tip toe until over the edge. ，并分享他们的见解是，据设立围栏，很久之前的悬崖不提示脚趾，直到超过边缘。
When a当 Christian single girl基督教单身女孩 learns over time to trust a man that is willing to work with her for the sake of putting Christ first in the relationship (eg, above sexual feelings and impulses), she is much more free to experience herself and her man as who they fully are, relaxing and knowing that he does not intend to pressure her into sex, either directly or just by exploring her with his hands in ways that tempt her.学会随着时间的推移，以信任一个男人，是愿意工作，与她为求把基督的第一次的关系（例如，上述的感情和性的冲动） ，她是更为自由，以自己的经验和她的男子是谁，完全是，放宽知道他不打算压力，她的性别，无论是直接或刚刚探索，她与他的手的方式，诱使她。
For Christian single women, when we deeply connect with a man on other levels (emotional, intellectual, spiritual) we feel a strong need (our own yearning) and obligation (to please) to reciprocate, sexually.为基督教的单身妇女，当我们深感连接与一名男子对其他各级（情绪，智力，精神） ，我们觉得非常有必要（我们自己的向往）和义务（请）往，非礼也，性。 Our temptation is to我们的诱惑是 use sex to get more love使用性，以获得更多的爱 (remember how much we women romanticize) from a man and validate the love we are already feeling from him. （请记住我们是多么妇女romanticize ）由一名男子和验证的爱情，我们已经从他的感觉。 As leaders, Christian men can reassure us of their love, commitment, and devotion that will not fade when we choose not to go all the way during temptation.作为领导人，基督教男人可以放心，我们自己的爱，承诺和献身精神将不会淡出，当我们选择不要前往所有的方式在诱惑。 That is, the world tells we women if we don’t have sex with a man, we’ll lose him to someone else who will, or that we owe men sex in return for pursuing us and sweeping us off our feet.那就是，世界妇女告诉我们，如果我们不发生性关系的一名男子，我们会失去他给别人谁，或认为我们有责任在男性性别的回报，追求我们和清扫我们离开我们的双脚。 It’sa crock (if the men are decent and worth being with anyway), but some of it sinks in now and then.这是摩擦（如男性体面和价值，正在与无论如何） ，但有些它汇在现在然后。
A Christian man who puts Christ and participating in Christian service/ministry might see dating as an opportunity to show a woman that he is willing to devote himself to her like Christ did to the church.一个基督教男子谁把基督和参与在基督教服务处/部可能会看到约会以此为契机，显示一名女子，他愿意致力于她像基督所做的教会。 This perspective might come from knowing that Christ gave to the church more (= to love, devotion, romantic pursuit from a man to a woman) before expecting the church to understand how to receive and give back to Him (= to sexually giving from a woman to a man) and it was all in the context of the deepest of这个角度可能来自知道基督给教会更多（ =爱，奉献，浪漫的追求，从一名男子向一女） ，然后期待教会了解如何接收，并给予回他（ =性给予从女子的一名男子） ，这是所有语境中的最深的 commitments承诺 (= to marriage). （ =婚姻） 。
God bless all you men who care enough about your relationships with women and with Christ to read this feminine perspective.愿上帝保佑你们所有的男子谁照顾足够的关于您的关系，与妇女和与基督要阅读此女性的角度来看。 I hope I have helped you see a little more into what women need and that you can be the best men God intended you to be.我希望我已经帮助你看到些什么妇女的需要，以及您是否可以是最好的男子上帝，你打算要。
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