Another Rebound Dating Debacle

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The following  article was by one of our readers: I entered into a rebound relationship with a woman who had only been divorced for 3 months after 16 years of marriage. Very stupid move on my part. She assured me that they had been separated for 18 months and she was completely over him. Not only that, but she was the one to initiate the divorce, so I really did think she was ready for a new relationship. She pursued me pretty aggressively, texting me often, calling just to say hi, and telling me she loved me after only 5 or 6 weeks of dating.

We got along beautifully, and were intensely attracted to each other. After 9 months of walking on air and feeling like I had finally found the true love one I was supposed to be with, she very abruptly broke things off. She told me in a 10 minute phone conversation that we were in different places in life, and I have not heard from her since.

I would advise anyone contemplating getting involved with someone who is just out of a serious relationship, DON”T!!! This is a rebound dating relationship!  No matter what they say or how ready they seem for a commitment, they are not! They most likely have good intentions and are good people, but they are in a very bad place for a relationship right now.

I knew in the back of my mind when I met her that dating her being freshly divorced might be a problem, but I chose to stay with her anyway. I have learned a very painful lesson, this is the lowest I have felt in a long time. I feel nauseous all the time and I keep thinking about how happy I was with her and the hopes I had for a future with her. I know on an intellectual level that I will feel better about this someday, but right now I am just broken hearted and devastated. Don’t make the same mistake I did, you will regret it.

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christian womenChristian women complaints? The following article on single Christian women was written by Oscar, one of our single readers who has used dating sites like eHarmony and Christian Mingle. Any comments girls?

“I find that to many Christian women are confused about what values they should be looking for in a Christian man. I think to many Christian women take the word “Christian” vary loosely. Guys will say anything to get a good looking women. There is a shallowness on Bible Theology these days. Most don’t know what to look for from a Godly perspective. Oprah and other talk shows are defining what a good man is from a secular stand point. Today all a guy need to say is “Yes, I’m a Christian” and for most Christian women that is enough for them to go out on a date with them.

And if a guy has a good job and nice car along with a Christian confession. 90% of Christian women will go out with him without any authenticity or background screening. This really scares me. It’s like the American dollar. It has lost it’s value. It is not worth as much today as of 50 years ago. I saw a Christian women in Bible study. I asked her out for coffee. She told me that she dated a guy one week before who was a warlock. She knew he was a warlock before she went out with him. Yet in church she looked so much like a strong single Christian woman.

As a guy who has a strong call on his life. I just want to say that you are only as strong as your weakest link. If you ignore the screening of the Holy Ghost. You are going to get in a relationship from hell. There are a lot of shallow people out there with no spiritual roots in the word of God but confess to be Christians. And it is getting worst. Don’t be desperate. It’s better to be alone than to be in the wrong relationship. I get frustrated at times over this sometimes. But I thank God I listened to him and have not got involved with the wrong person and have to pay alimony and child support today.”

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