Sabotaging Relationships-Christian Dating

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Are you into sabotaging relationships? You’re not alone. From the Garden of Eden on, human beings have been sabotaging relationships of all kinds. It’s a catch 22 for many Christian singles: While desiring a dating relationship leading toward marriage, some at the same time allow their fears to keep them single to sabotage any hopeful relationship.

Sabotaging Relationships Podcast

Many singles who sabotage relationships often have have problems with intimacy. This problem is in turn related to a flawed relationship with God.  In today’s podcast at Oasis, the discussion centers on how a restored relationship with God can restore our relationships with others.

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How to Fix Relationship Problems

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Wondering how to fix relationship problems with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Well you’re not alone.  A lot of single Christians write us wanting advice on how to fix relationship problems. There is a good amount of Christian relationship advice on building solid relationships  on this singles blog. However,  the root cause of relationship problems with others, whether you your mate or date, really stems from our relationship with God. Most relationship problems come from us avoiding true intimacy with God, and this in turn affects our relationships with others

How to Fix Relationship Problems Podcast

In this week’s relationship podcast from Oasis Church, the discussion centers on Jonah, and why he fled from God. Many of us flee from God because we fear intimacy with him. But we won’t be able to fix our relationship proms unless we first fix our problem with God

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Insecurity in Relationships-Christian Dating

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As a Christian single, do you suffer from insecurity in relationships? If you suffer insecurity in your Christian dating relationship (like I used to) you probably have inner voices spewing insecure thoughts  like these about your date:

• “This is too good to be true, she’s bound to break up with me.”
• “When she finds out what I’m really like she’s gonna reject me like the others did.”
• “I just know my date is cheating on me.”

Overcoming Insecurity in Relationships

People with low self esteem tend to suffer from insecurities in their dating  and love  relationships. Yet, the following simple steps in the way they think can lessen the insecurity they fell in relationships:

1. Get a Reality Check from a trusted friend. Many times people who are insecure need help differentiating between what is “real” and what is “fantasy”.
2. Stop being a control freak. Fact is much of one’s insecurity in relationships is due to trying to control every little issue in a relationship.
3. Stop over analyzing every word your date says. Over analysis always leads to no good. The key in any positive Christian relationship  to relax and enjoy your date one day at a time. Jesus taught us this about life in general in Matthew 6:34, and living by this is a great antidote for the insecurity found in some relationships.

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Will they reject me?
Have I done something to upset them?
This is just too good to last!

These are the typical thoughts and feelings of the chronically insecure partner. Being insecure is a whole lot of hard work. So what does it involve?