Background Checks in online dating are becoming more and more popular, as some internet dating services such as eHarmony are offering the option to their members. One of the online dating sites to offer background checks of their members is an interesting site called WealthyMan.com which began doing criminal background checks. Some lawmakers have actually proposed legislation that would force matchmaking services, including all Christian Dating Services, to perform background record checks on all the folks who use their sites.
Additionally, there are many companies that offer discreet background checks for those daters who have doubts about their potential dating partners. Just “Google” the phrase “background check”, and you’ll see a number of these services come on screen.
Most companies start the background check by verifying the potential soulmate’s identity using a combination of name, date of birth and residential/postal info. If you have a partial social security number, that will do as well. Once the person’s birthday and residence information is confirmed, the company can perform a background check on the person of interest, searching a number of different variables
Reasons to Use Background Checks With Online Christian Dating
Surveys show many singles, including Christian singles, would be interested in using background checks on their dating interests. The reason is simple: No one wants to invest their tender emotions in a pathological liar. The companies that offer background checks claim they can answer the following questions for the right price:
- Does he/she have a criminal background?
- Is he/she already married, but still in the dating market?
- Does he/she have a prior family court history with domestic violence or abuse?
- Is he/she lying about name, age, occupation, location, etc?
Why Background Checks are Not So Hot
Unless you are using one of the sites that offer background checks, checking
backgrounds on somebody can be pricey. A background check can cost you anywhere from $15-$80, depending on how nosy or scared you are.
Unless you pay top money, or have a dating site that knows what they’re doing, your background check may be outdated by a few years. Also, because identity theft is so prevalent, the person you think you’re doing a background check on, may not be the person you’re doing a background check on. Get it?
Single Christians can meet whackos, liars and cheaters not only online, but also in church (i’ve met a couple myself there), the market, a club, literally anywhere. So where do we draw the line on background checks?
Our take on the background check fad is that single people who use an online Christian Dating Service could find protection in the vast majority of cases by simply educating themselves about dating safety, both online and offline.
What are your thoughts on using dating background checks?