One of the most difficult things for Christian singles interested in dating is waiting on the Lord for that special soulmate. This is especially true as we see our single freinds meet their dream date, get married and move on. Loneliness and anxiety starts to creep in as we wonder when God will bless us.
Although King David did not have Christian dating in mind when he wrote Psalms 13, many single people waiting for a mate can certainly identify with his feelings in verse 1: ” How long O Lord? Will you forget me forever?”
Are you a single Christian girl or guy struggling with your faith in the area of “waiting on the Lord” for a husband or wife? Be encouraged and recall that David, whom God described as a man after His own heart, also struggled. Yet, it’s interesting that during the time he wrote Psalms 13, he also penned Psalms 62:1: “My soul waits in silence for God only.” If you read the rest of Psalms 62, you’ll see David could wait upon the Lord because he had a calm, confident expectation that God would do exactly what He promised: He would meet David’s needs.
Recently, I had a single woman come up to me quite confused over the Christian dating issue. Although she wanted so much to be married to a godly man, she was torn over whether using Christian dating services meant she was no longer waiting on God for His provision.
How about you? Are you confused over how you should approach Christian dating and waiting on God? If so, consider these questions to guide your actions and test your heart motives:
- Does God’s word and/or uncontrollable circumstances preclude you from taking action toward entering a dating relationship? If so, this may be the time to silently wait on Him, resting in His promises to provide.
- Have you done all that you could do in your particular situation? Remember, God wants us to take faith-filled risks as we ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7). Many times we claim to be “waiting on God” before making a move on a matter, but God has already given permission to simultaneously take action while honouring him as well.
- Do your attitude and actions show that your soul is submitted to God’s will and resting on His promises? Or are you hell bent on taking your Christian dating life into your own hands because you fear losing out on that single man or woman?
As you meander through the Christian singles dating scene, remember that waiting on God and taking proactive steps toward your dating goal need not be an either/or proposition. Just make sure as a Christian single, your heart is aligned with God’s each step of the way.
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Long distance relationships have always been with us. However, in recent years, global online dating services and increased ease of travel helped make long distance relationships much more prevalent. In fact, according to dating experts on the topic, there are an estimated 1 to 2 million couples presently in long distance dating relationships.
Many single men and single women feel dating in a long distance relationship is a losing proposition. However, there many dating couples who have experienced tremendous romantic and successful long distance relationships. As a matter of fact, I currently have a friend who met a guy through an online Christian dating service, and they have been in a long distance relationship for the past two years. He lives in New Hampshire while she calls New Jersey her home. The great news here is that these Christian singles are getting married this June. 
Long Distance Relationship Keys
What was it that made my friend’s long distance relationship successful? After looking over much of the research on the subject and speaking with her, the following dating tips appear to be key:
- Before entering a long distance dating relationship, the couple should have a frank discussion on expectations for the relationship. Is there a possibility of this being a serious relationship culminating in marriage? Is there a possibility that one party will relocate? Don’t be afraid to bring up these topics now, because it could save you lots of stress, anxiety, confusion and conflict later.
- Set the ground rules of this long distance relationship together. That means communicating how often you will be meeting and contacting each other, and whether or not there will be dating of other people. One of the ground rules should also include the understanding that the dating couple will assess the long distance relationship at agreed upon intervals.
- Practice creative ways of sharing your heart with each other on a regular basis. Web cams, e-mail, telephone, text messages, digital cameras and snail mail, to name a few ways of keeping in touch, provide many romantic possibilities for keeping the long distance relationship healthy and fun. Enjoying regular communication also builds emotional and spiritual intimacy and trust.
- Pray daily for your long distance relationship and your dating partner. This is by far the most important thing you can do. Ask the Lord Jesus to mold you both into the people He wants you be, and surrender your long distance relationship to His will (Proverbs. 3:5-6). This will bring you great peace and assurance.
Overall, if you follow these dating tips, your long distance relationship will be a blessed and exciting experience even if the dating relationship ends.
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Believe it or not, there are 100’s of purported online Christian dating sites world wide. With so many Christian dating sites to choose from, you couldn’t blame Christian singles for being a little confused as to which Christian dating site to use. That’s one reason why we have researched and provided a page listing the top good online Christian dating sites.
Signs of a Good Christian Dating Site
So what are some predictors of a good Christian Dating site? Keep the following dating site tips in mind as you shop around:
- A good Christian dating site will provide a free trial membership that not only allows you to browse other members, but also lets you know if those members are still actively seeking a soul mate. It’s really a little deceptive that some secular and Christian dating sites advertise a large membership base, but not all of those are active.
- A good Christian dating site will have a search and matching database that allows you to seek matches that not only share similar beliefs and values, but also live in your general area. The good Christian dating sites will let you browse for a mate using a number of variables. Let’s be real here: What chance does your dating relationship have if your potential soulmate match lives in Tahiti, but you call New York your home? Dating sites like Christian Cafe, Yahoo personals and AmericanSingles are so successful because they have the above mentioned quality.
- A good Christian dating site has the ability to protect your privacy. In other words, you should be able to have complete control over things like your name, true e-mail address, phone number, etc. For example, quality Christian dating sites will have “in house” chat and e-mail addresses that allow you to remain anonymous while contacting other members. While we’re on the subject of privacy, you may also want to check with customer service to see if the dating site ever sells your personal info to other online dating sites (very common) or telemarketers. If you find out that is the case, it’s time to try out another Christian dating site.
- Finally, a good Christian dating site will have happy customers. Dating sites like e-Harmony boasts thousands of engagements every year. Great. But a personal testimony speaks louder than any marketing hype. Say you’re interested in a certain Christian dating site. Do you know of any friends, relatives or singles group members who have used that Christian dating site? If so, weigh in their two cents when choosing your own Christian dating service. It may save you a lot of time and money.
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