28
8月
2006
聖書は性の4つの基本的な目的を述べている: 出産、レクリエーション、解放および親密なコミュニケーション。 それはこれよりよくすることを得るか。
親密なコミュニケーションとして性に関して、日の私達の聖書の詩は起源2:24にある: “従って人の許可彼の父および彼の母、彼の妻に裂く: そしてそれらはある 1肉.”
ほとんどの聖書のexpositorsは私達の詩での話されている「1肉」があなたの夫か妻あとのボディ、精神、心および精神あなたの全体の驚かせる混合を意味するように教える。 親密なコミュニケーションについての話!
要するに、性のための主のすばらしい計画は全く彼ら自身を互いに明らかにすることの手段として結婚されていたカップルのために意図されていた。 性はカップルのに方法をに「付き合っている」単語の完全な感覚のお互いを提供するので親密なコミュニケーションである。 そういうわけでクリスチャンは神が意図したように「大きい性」を楽しむかもしれなかったり残りすべてからごまかす彼ら自身を結婚の責任の外の性があることを選ぶがかだれが選抜する。
今日コミュニケーションとして性のトピックに住むように、あなたの未来の夫か妻のために祈りなさい。 である、神はかだれ知る! 彼が1日なるあなたが付いている「1の肉」に仲間を準備していること性のあること、彼に感謝すること主に感謝しなさい。
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家クリスチャン日付を記入サービスとへのリターン
掲示される: 日の聖書の詩, クリスチャンは性選抜し、 札: 性, コミュニケーション, 親密なコミュニケーション, 起源2:24, 1肉。
27
8月
2006
クリスチャンの中で異人種間に日付を記入することは選抜する 世界的に急騰している。 クリスチャンは私達が世界で今日見る暴力およびall the文化的で、人種的な、民族の憎悪に対して破壊している障壁を選抜する。
All of this bears witness to our Scripture of the day found in Galations 3:28, which rings out: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Is that amazing or what? The most wonderful thing about Jesus’ love is that it transcends all language, culture, race, sex and status. In part, that’s why I see Christian interracial dating as a testimony of Jesus’ overwhelming love.
Whether Jew or Arab, Chinese or Japanese, American or Russan, Black or White, we are all one in Jesus, and brothers and sisters because of Him. That’s why the world needs to continue to see our lights shining in this present darkness.
As you go on your way this week, think about this verse and pray for your single Christian brothers and sisters who are living in difficult times of testing.
Are you a Christian single with thoughts to share about interracial dating?
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24
August
2006
As Christian singles, it’s sometimes easy to suffer discouragement or fear over new sets of circumstances or future uncertainties. Undoing depression that often accompanies discouragement is a difficult thing to do.
Because we’re human, discouragement, depression and stress can crop up at anytime, for a variety of reasons.
Why Singles Suffer Discouragement and Depression
The following are some top reasons singles give for having discouragement and depression in their dating lives:
- Some battle discouragement and depression because they have just suffered the end of a long term relationship
- Other singles keep seeing friends marry off, but feel discouraged and depressed because they have no dating or courting prospects. This makes them fearful they will never get married.
- Some are recently single again parents (by divorce or death) who feel discouragement and depression because they now have added responsibilities with less support.
- Some Christian singles feel discouragement with their churches because of perceived lack of concern for their needs.
I’m sure you may be able to add additional causes for discouragement and depression. But you know what’s neat? Whatever discouraging emotions we go through as Christian single believers, the Lord has answers for us in His living word.
Our Scripture for the day is found in Joshua 1:9: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
The death of Moses signified a whole new beginning for Joshua, with a bunch of added responsibilities. God had just told Joshua that he was the guy who was going to lead the Israelites across the Jordan after they had spent 40 years wandering around in the Wilderness.
Besides having the Israelites to deal with, which was no easy task, Joshua had to think about all the scary things that could befall him once he crossed the river in the near future.
Judging by God’s words in our verse of the day, we can pretty much assume Joshua was discouraged, depressed, freaked out and overwhelmed with his new responsibilites and position.
What happened to Joshua? With God’s help he overcame his discouragement, and undoing his depression, went on to lead the people to glorious victories.
As Christian singles, we too can have victory over our circumstances by undoing depression and discouragement in our lives. The following tips will help you as you seek the Lord in this matter.
By the way, if you are not sure you are a child of God, please check this out before continuing.
Tips For Undoing Depression and Discouragement
Remember You Have a Choice
God will never command us to do something without providing the power to obey. When we feel discouragement we sometimes lose sight of the fact that we have a choice not to feel this way. Why? Because God has commanded us not to feel this way. In fact, God had to remind Joshua what He had already commanded: Do not have discouragement, dismay or fear.
Remember God Has a Wonderful Future for Your Life
God told Joshua he was going to do great things for him and through him. After having just lost Moses, Joshua became discouraged and depressed, and may have lost sight of this wonderful fact.
As a single Christian, maybe some bad experience has caused you to lose hope. Like Joshua, God has promised you wonderful things as well (Jer. 29:11). Believe Him on this, even if you don’t feel it or see it.
Remember God Promises Help
God promised Joshua twice in different words (Joshua 1:5,9) that He would never leave Him alone in his circumstances. The same promises are available to us as we work through our discouragement, undoing our depression (Read Hebrews 13:5, John 14:8).
Remember the Needs of Others
When a person feels discouraged or depressed they tend to withdraw from life. God challenged Joshua at this point by givng him a mission to accomplish. Why? The best medicine for undoing depression and discouragement is to force yourself to be “outward focused” by helping others.
Joshua had a people to lead across the Jordan. What ministry or mission has God given you?
Are you a single woman or man who has had success in undoing depression and discouragement in your life? Please help others by sharing.
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8
August
2006
Commitment phobia is the fear of commitment. When we speak of commitment phobia among singles, we are referring to folks who avoid commiting to long term relationships such as marriage. People who suffer from committment phobia come in all varieties. Commitment phobes (no, I didn’t make this term up!) can be both male and female, Christian and non-Christian, teens, single parents or seniors.
Commitment phobia among singles can occur for several reasons. However, most commitment phobic men and women truly yearn for a deep and intimate relationship leading toward marriage, but fright causes them to butcher every dating opportunity they may get. This is a sad catch-22 situation.
Afterwards, these singles loathe themselves for acting so stupidly. Previous abusive relationships, intimacy issues or traumatic childhood experiences could be causes for this kind of commitment avoidance. Many of these singles, Christian or not, are incapable of making a commitment without therapeutic help, patience and lots of prayer.
Unfortunately, it is not just the person with commitment phobia who suffers. Many times singles looking for love get hooked in by the charm and manipulation of commitment phobic singles, who may or may not know what pain they are about to unload on the unsuspecting person.
The pain cycle of someone who gets stuck on a person with committment phobia:
- The Allurement-This is the place where manipulation and romance occurs.
- The Abandonment-Just as the single who is not afraid of commitment thinks the “relationship” is going somewhere, the commitment phobe inexplicably withdraws from the friendship. Needless to say, this leaves the other single devestatingly heartbroken, confused and feeling rejected. Can we get a few amens out there from some people who have suffered through this?
Avoiding Singles With Commitment Phobia
The best way to avoid a heartbreak with this kind of person is to spot the tell tale signs of a commitment phobic person. I guess I should be honest at this point and tell you that most singles who suffer from commitment phobia are, you guessed it, men. Anyway, here are some signs, and if you find most of them in the person you are really into…run for the hills before it’s too late:
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He comes on real strong, making you think he is really smitten by your charms.
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Pulls out everything but the “kitchen sink” in making you believe he is your perfect match. For example, if you like something, he will say he likes the same thing.
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Indicates you are that “long lost soulmate” he has been waiting and praying for all of his life.
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In the beginning he tries to spend every moment he can with you. Often, he will call you just to say what he knows you want to hear, like “I miss you.”
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Talks about a life together in the future. For example, “When we have our kids I would love to live here.” This gives the impression that he is planning on staying with you forever.
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He has a horrible past relationship history, but makes you believe this time it will finally work.
If you are a single Christian who has commitment phobia, but knows it is destroying your life and those around you, know that there is hope. Our recommendation is to contact a church in your local area, and ask for a counseling referral. If you don’t have a local church, New Life Ministries offers a 24 hour international counseling hotline. You can call toll free at 1-800-NEW-LIFE.
Finally, consider helping other singles by sharing your experiences commitment phobia.
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