31
October
2006
A dating chat with God? Yeah, I know that sounds strange. Usually when we think of dating chats, we think of online dating chat rooms where flirting and speaking with the oppositie sex takes place.
Recently, however, several Christian singles mentioned how they were struggling with their faith, and wish they could have a “dating chat” with God on few issues. Like Job, they figured if they could, they would ask the Lord a few questions on some things they just don’t understand.
How about you? When it comes to your dating life, do you find yourself wishing you could have some dating chats with your Lord?
Top Dating Chat Questions for God
The following is a list of their top dating chat questions. See how many yoiu identify with, or simply add your own dating chat questions in our comments section:
Dating Chat 1:
Dear Lord, what’s taking so long for you to bring my true love into my life?
Dating Chat 2:
Dear Jesus, why did you allow this person to come into my life, only to take them away again?
Dating Chat 3:
Heavenly Father, why did you put such strong sex drives in us, and then tell us we’re not suppose to act on them until marriage?
Dating Chat 4:
Dear God, why were some singles created physically beautiful and others (like myself) not?
Dating Chat 5:
Dear Lord, why do I have to be so love shy with the opposite sex?
Dating Chat 6:
Dear God, why do you still allow broken hearts?
Dating Chat 7:
Dear Saviour, why am I attracted to the same sex?
Dating Chat 8:
Dear Spirit, how can I feel pure again after willfully commiting sexual sins?
Dating Chat 9:
Dear Lord, why do girls seem to go for all the jerks?
Dating Chat 10:
Dear Father, am I not trusting and waiting on you if I use an online Christian dating service?
Dating Chat Questions and Our Faith
Wow! Talk about some heavy dating chat questions! But the most beautiful thing about our God is that He allows us to ask questions. The bottom line is although we may get all the answers this side of heaven, we have someone who loves us unconditionally, ans is always seeking our good. Do you believe that today?
We mentioned Job earlier above. Here’s a dude who was blamesless and upright before God. He seemed to have it all, until one dayhe lost everything. He NEVER found out the “whys” of it all. However, knowing and trusting in the character of God allowed him to exclaim the words found in our Bible Verse of the Day:
Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him
Job 13:15
As Christian singleswe may have lots of “dating chat” questions. That’s okay. The issue is whether we can still abandon ourselves and our future into the hands of God like Job did?
Are you a single Christian with dating chat questions?
Posted: 20-Somethings, Dating Chat, Christian Singles, Lonely Woman, Single Dads, Christian Teens, Bible Verse of Day Tags: dating chat, dating, Job, dating chat rooms, online dating, Christian dating, Bible verse, Bible verse of day, Job 13:15
19
October
2006
As any 20-something Christian single could tell you, the vast majority of 20-something singles do not attend church. Paradoxically, 20-something single adults are also one of the most receptive age groups to evangelize. How can both of these statements about 20-something singles be true? The answer is that many Christian churches are simply missing huge opportunities by not communicating the Gospel to 20-something singles in ways that make sense to them.
In fact most 20-something singles look at church as being:
- An institution built primarily for married couples with children
- A boring and irrelevant place to be on their day off from work.
Since single adults (20-somethings, 30-somethings, 40-somethings, 50-somethings, etc.) make up the majority of the US population, it’s imperative for the church to share the love of Jesus with them in ways that makes an impact in their lives.
How to Evangelize 20-Somethings
How do we as Christians reach 20-somethings for Christ? By understanding what drives 20-somethings.
20-Something Singles Yearn for Intimate Relationships
20-somethings have grown up in a materialistic, superficial world, and they’re tired of it. Although 20-somethings are not into traditional church services, they are looking for meaningful and deep relationships where real heart-sharing occurs. This type of dynamic occurs most easily in small groups with people their own age. That’s one important reason why programs like the Alpha course have been wildly popular among 20-someting singles.
Relationship building and evangelization through small groups also plays well to the heart of 20-something Christian singles. For example, to paraphrase George Barna, 20-something Christian singles are about to launch the Third Great Awakening. They are not into “playing church”, which they perceive to be superficial. They are, however, passionate about “being the church” to others around them. Sure, the vast majority 20-something Christian singles are interested in meeting other singles for dating relationships, but this is not their central focus.
20-Something Singles Prefer Informal
20-something singles tend to thrive in laid-back, non-threatenting environments that don’t come across as “too churchy”. Instead of having someone preach to them, they would prefer a comfortable setting where give and take sharing can occur.
20-Something Singles are Looking for an Experience
Sharing your head knowledge will only get you so far with 20-somethings. Don’t get excited; there’s a place for Bible teaching and Josh McDowell apologetics. What we are saying is 20-somethings want to experience realness. That’s why they are much more initially impressed by experiencing a genuine, open and loving Christian, than by being handed a Bible tract.
If you are a 20-something Christian single, you have a great challenge and opportunity to reach this most important generation for Jesus. Are you up to the challenge?
Bible Verse of the Day
“We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us.”
2Corinithians 5:20
Related Article:
Emerging Church Movement and Single Adults who Think Church Sucks
Posted: 20-Somethings, Bible Verse of Day Tags: 20-somethings, evanglize, church, singles, dating, christian singles, 2 corinthians 5:20
13
October
2006
Many Christian singles can’t get over the past. Several years back, I went on a Christian singles retreat, where the topic at hand was making peace with your past. Christian single after Christian single shared their sad stories of how a bad past experience, a soured relationship or a sexual sin had held them back from living victoriously in the present.
Although many Christian singles there that weekend desired a serious dating relationship leading toward a Christian marriage, few were even in a relationship, unable to get over the pain and fears that were actually keeping them single.
God’s Plan for Christian Singles
God’s plan for His dear children (Christian singles included) is that they lead abundant and joyful lives. In truth, however, some Christian singles walk defeated, unfulfilled lives. If you are one of those Christian singles today who is having a difficult time making peace with your past, take cheer! There IS hope for you.
The steps I learned on that retreat about “getting over” my past issues, I share with you:
Face Your Past and Leave it There
As Christian singles, this often means asking forgiveness if you’ve hurt someone, including God, or granting forgiveness if you’ve been the victim. Forgiveness is a wonderful healing salve that not only allows us to face our past honestly, but help us bring emotional closure, and move on. They key is Forgiveness and Forgiving are choices Christian singles have to make. No one can force it on you. That’s a hard lesson, ain’t it?
Share With Others
That was the whole purpose of our Christian singles weekend. Sharing with others in a safe setting like a Christian singles group helps you keep perspective and can be very encouraging at the same time.
Believe God’s Promises
The Bible tells us that we can do all things through Christ, our risen Saviour. He wants to renew our spirits with His precious Holy Spirit, and helps us leave the past behind. The issue is whether or not we believe Him. Our Bible Verse of the day is found in Phillipians 3:13,14:
“Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God has called me heavenward, through Christ Jesus.”
Related Christian Singles Articles:
Love Shy Singles: How to Overcome Shyness
Lonely Women Who Are Single
Single Dads Dealing with Grief and Loss
Posted: Christian Singles, Lonely Woman, Single Dads, Bible Verse of Day Tags: Christian singles, Christian single, single Christian, making peace, dating
