Comments on: Anger at Being Single-Dealing with Anger in Relationships

By: scriptum

scriptum — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 15:42:40 +0000

Hi,
I would have to agree with Niki, Corina and Jake….I am 37 single..and i have been cheerful about it so far….but of late I have been unable to “pretend” to be happy.
I do feel God is sleeping too. i wonder if there needs to be blog for singles like us !!

By: Jake of heart

Jake of heart — Tue, 06 May 2008 05:38:18 +0000

Anger at being single? Yup! Been there too. I’m a 33 yrs old male Christian. I’ve walked with the Lord for more than 17 years now. I’ve had comments that I might be “too picky”, but those comments generally came from acquaintances or Christians not involved in any ministry. So I took these comments for what they were worth and discarted them. My last relationship did’nt work precisely because I had too low standards. I have learned from the lesson an am now trying to apply more wisdom in my relationships with the other gender. It does not always come natural,but I try and have healthy and un-interested friendships with the other gender. Also, since I don’t know exactly for how long I will still be single, I try to put the spare time to some use. Besides tutoring youth at Christian camps, my target is to learn a new skill every year. Last year I took evening classes and became a goldsmith, this year I am training for a windsail license.

By: Corina

Corina — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 07:20:58 +0000

I am with you Nicky! I feel the same way, but I am a bit angry at God. I am dealing with that though. I have been saved since 15 yrs old and I have kept myself pure. I am now entering perimenopause in my mid 30s sooooo yeah, I am a little upset. What is going on? Is God asleep up there? lol j/k Funny thing is it wasn’t a real concern until I started getting older and my biological clock started ticking. I can understand when you’ve only been saved a few years but it is going on 19 years! Hellloo! I am not content with being single anymore. It is also difficult because I am in a church of 3, one of which is me! So, no single people there and I am finding it difficult b/c I feel left out of all their mens and marriage couples’ seminars. I either need to be a man or a couple…I am neither so I am left w/o fellowship. I am trying to find a singles group to fellowship with but it is difficult. If God wants me alone forever I wish he would take this cup from me and let it pass already. This is torture!

By: David Butler

David Butler — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 19:48:06 +0000

Nicky, thanks for the post. We are praying for you..May I humbly suggest 2 articles found here:
http://christian-dating-service-plus.com/singles-and-loneliness.htm
and also here:
http://christian-dating-service-plus.com/blog/christian-dating-and-waiting-on-god.html

By: Nicki

Nicki — Sat, 21 Apr 2007 03:07:33 +0000

I appreciate that someone is writing about all this - I found this blog through one that talked about how Christian singles avoid activties and such at the church because it is all married couples and everyone is fascinated at why you are still single and that it must be something wrong with me and that they have no answers. Seriously, like I haven’t tried dating and praying about all this - they could maybe rack their brains of possible matches for me, right? Of course not, they have to worry about themselves. (Wow, maybe I do have a bit of anger..or bitterness or something about all this).
Anyway, I appreciate you writing this, and I dont think it is anger that I necessarily deal with, but loneliness and exhaustion from this journey. The verses of God’s plan and perseverance I believe, but are not really comforting anymore. Any suggestions on how to deal with loneliness while being single and waiting?