Born-Again Christian Singles and Sex Struggles
The following was written by one of the many born-again Christian singles who write us weekly dealing with struggles over sex. Some people have complained that this “type of stuff” should not be on a Born-Again Christian singles blog. Our answer to these good folks is that if singles had local churches they could go to to share their burdens, they wouldn’t have to come here:
I am a 23 year old born-again Christian woman. I have never been in a relationship with another person because I wish to wait for God to lead me to the right man. I have been masturbating since I was 18. I’ve never used pornography. I rarely use anything other than my hands to masturbate. I always masturbate to orgasm. I masturbate for two reasons:
1) to relieve my sexual desires. If I go for more than a month without masturbating, I start fantasizing about people I am not attracted to and sometimes, (this is even worse), I get dirty dreams.
2) to fall asleep! Believe it or not, an orgasm puts me to sleep right away! If I’m tossing and turning in bed and I know that I need a good night’s sleep in order to be functional the next day, then I will masturbate even though I don’t particularly want to.
Whatever the reason, I always struggle with guilt when I wake up the next morning. I know that my body is a temple of God. I want to reserve my sexual feelings for the person I marry (If God wants me to marry). But my desires are too strong for my will power. I have tried to ‘quit’ several times, but eventually the need always returns. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. I know that I can only free myself from masturbation if I completely surrender to the power of the Holy Spirit. Please pray for me.
Thoughts?
Bible Verse of Day
~Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ~ Galatians 6:2
I haven’t been in a relationship in4 yrs.I found GOD thru my cousin,who was a wild woman in her youth.Now she has M.S.and has gotten even closer to GOD than ever. I talk with her openly ,about my sexual urges. They’re very strong because I am also disabled-and it’s very easy to fall into negative thinking.Porn on-line is a problem for me,I t’s very hard to fight it.I need a good Christian woman who understands.
We need to pray for this young woman’s deliverance from her masturbation addiction. Demonic influence and torment creates addictions like this and makes them hard walk away from.
She will get free by understanding that Jesus already freed us from every kind of bondage and oppression, including sexual addiction and sin. Once she accepts this deliverance in the name of Jesus, she needs to pray and ask the Lord to work in her mind and soul, healing the emotional wounds that opened the door to this habit in the first place.
There are many great spiritual warfare websites that help people deal with demonic oppression. The following have helped me:
Keyministries.org (the audio & video messages on deliverance basics are helpful)
Porn-free.org (this site includes spiritual warfare courses on quitting masturbation and pornography).
Demonbuster.com
HELLO 23 YEAR OLD CHRISTIAN THE REASON WHY IT IS SO HARD TO STOP IS BECAUSE IT HAS BECOME A STRONGHOLD IN YOUR LIFE. IF SATAN CAN GET US TO SIN IN OUR MIND THEN HE HAS OUR BODY TO AND HE HAS CONTROL OVER US. THE REASON WHY U ARE SO EXHAUSTED AFTERWARDS IS BECAUSE U ARE BEING SPIRITUALLY DRAINED. THE ENEMEY WANT US TO THE WE ARE TIRED BECAUSE OF THE ORGANSM BUT REALLY WE HAVE GIVEN A PIECE OF OURSELVES TO SATAN AND SATAN IS OUT TO KILL STEAL AND DESTROY.WE OPEN THE DOOR TO DEMON TO COME IN AND ATTACK US,BECAUSE OF OUR SINS. NOTHING CAN SEPARATE US FROM GOD BUT SIN AND MASTURBATION IS A SIN,BECAUSE WE FIRST SIN IN OUR MIND AND THE BIBLE SAYS THAT IF WE THINK(PROVERBS 23;7) SISTA BIBLE SAYS WE CAN DO ALL THING THROUGH CHRIST. SIN (SATAN)HAS US THINKING THAT WE NEEDTO MASTURBATE IN ORDER TO GET TO SLEEP I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THERE.(A LIE FROM THE PIT OF HELL). GOD WANTS US TO BE FREE. EVERYTIME U FALL TO YOUR FLESH AND MASTURBATE U FEEL VERY BAD ABOUT YOURSELF AND U CAN NOT DO THE WILL OF GOD BECAUSE U FEEL BAD ABOUT MASTURBATING. SISTA IF SATAN CAN KEEP U FROM DOING GOD’S WILL HE WILL. SISTA U CAN GO TO CHURCH AND WORK IN THE CHURCH AND STILL GO TO HELL FOR THAT ONE SIN.SATAN JUST WANTS TO KEEP US DISTRACTED SO WE CAN BELONG TO HIM. SISTA I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN THERE. TALK TO ABOUT YOUR MASTURBATION AND TALK AND TALK AND TALK AND LISTEN TO GOD AND READ YOUR WORD AS MUCH AS U CAN. WATCH YOUR MOVIES AND TV SHOWS U WATCH THAT CAN TRIGGER THOSE FEELING AND BOOKS THEY JUST REMIND U OF WHO OR WHAT U DO NOT HAVE. GOD BLESS U SISTA AND BE ENCOURAGE