Aging and Growing Old Being Single
Leave a CommentToday is my birthday. Yippee! Actually, I can’t stand aging and growing older by yet another year, but it sure beats the alternative. I have spoken to a number of Christian singles (and there are many out there) who are also having, shall we say, a difficult time aging gracefully as well. Why did I feel a tinge of comfort as they spoke of their own issues with aging?
Coping with Aging and Growing Older
Basically what we have found is that you can graph singles attitudes about aging as a bell curve. The good news here is that majority of both extremes, twenty-something singles and senior singles, are handling aging okay. The former rarely give it thought, and the latter group of older singles (surprisingly in my view) have adjusted to the idea that the body “just ain’t what it used to be.â€â€™ To these healthy singles “age is just a number.â€
However, the group of single Christians who do have trouble with aging and growing old are the 30-somethings and 40-somethings. Many in this group, whether single females or single males, feel the stress of clock ticking off time. Bulging bellies, sagging pectorals and breasts and dating disappointments wreak havoc on the minds of plenty of these singles. Throw in the fear of remaining single forever and single parenting problems, and it’s no wonder that anxiety and depression plagues this group more than any other.
How to Deal with Aging Without Whining
I recently had a great conversation with an 80 year old Christian guy who helped me get an attitude adjustment on my views on aging. He gave three suggestions, that I’ll pass on to you. He promised me that if I was successful at doing this I would conquer my phobia about aging and growing old. Oh well, here they are:
- Take Jesus’ advice and live one day at a time…really…really…savor it as if it was your last on earth.
- Take your mind off you (oops, he had me here!) and serve others with a sincere heart fulfilling the command in Romans to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.
- Take God at His word as you wait on Him for your needs and future blessing
Hey, I feel better already. Are you a single Christian with something to share about aging?
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Christian Single Men and Lust
1 CommentAll Christian single men battle lust of the flesh from time to time. In fact, let’s just make that ALL guys, whether they be single men or married men, Christian or non-Christian. One single man pal of mine said if his girlfriend ever knew his thoughts, she would never stop slapping him! Listen, men struggle with lust, and any single man who says otherwise is just lying out of fear, manipulative motives, embarrassment or a combination of the three.
The reaction of most single women reading the above about single men may vary:
- Some may feel disgusted or discouraged that all single men lust.
- Some may be thinking their single men is not like all the rest they’re dating them (um…dream on)
- Some may feel so uncomfortable discussing the single men and lust topic that they prefer to ignore it by invoking the Too Much Information (TMI) rule when the subject comes up.
Unfortunately, none of the above reactions will help a single gal really understand and connect with a single men, let alone help him in any way.
Single Men Need Help
What Christian single men really need is an environment of open communication and compassionate counsel that will help him nip lust in the bud. The following verse needs to be in practice for single men to have a chance at conquering lust in their lives:
Bible Verse of Day
“Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galations 6:1,2
Unfortunately, since many evangelical churches encourage a culture of denial and secrecy, many single men suffer silently, and receive no help at all. Is it any wonder then, that our churches produce a sad story like Ted Haggard’s?
Hope for the Christian Single Man
Fortunately, single men who are dedicated Christians have it way over all other single men. The first reason for this is that they have a real desire to please Jesus. The second reason for hope is that Christian single men have the Holy Spirit living in them, who also gives them the power to fulfill their godly intentions.
Are you a Christian man who has a problem with lust, but help for you is far and few between? Let’s talk about it.
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Romance Relationship Hope for Christian Singles
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Spending New Years Eve minus a romance relationship usually spells loneliness and depression. I know many Christian singles reading this watched the Ball drop last night without a romance relationship in sight. Sigh. Under these circumstances it’s very easy to lull ourselves into a self-pity party, especially as we observe other couples enjoying their romance relationships.
Romance Relationship Hope for the Future
Last night as I watched the record crowd during the Times Square New Year’s Eve celebration, it dawned on me that many of the celebrants in romance relationships probably didn’t know Jesus as Lord and Saviour. The I sadly Thought, “what lasting hope for the future do they really have?” Yet, they sure seemed happy as they whooped it up.
Saint Paul tells us a wonderful thing about having Jesus in our lives: we are not like the world, who have no hope for the future. No, as Christians, we have a glorious future hope in Him!
So how does romantic relationships fit in all of this? Only in this way: The same God who has given you hope for eternity has also promised to meet our needs in this life as well.
My advice as you seek a romance relationship in 2007?
- Pray to God, expecting miraculous results in the area of romance relationships.
- Take faith filled risks as you do your part to fulfill your end of the bargain. This may mean joining a new Church singles group, or signing up at a Christian dating service
- Consider 2007 a new chance to claim anew His promises found in His Word.
Bible Verse of Day
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.Jeremiah 29:11
Are you a single Christian with something bad or good to share about romance relationships?
