Christian Single Men and Lust
All Christian single men battle lust of the flesh from time to time. In fact, let’s just make that ALL guys, whether they be single men or married men, Christian or non-Christian. One single man pal of mine said if his girlfriend ever knew his thoughts, she would never stop slapping him! Listen, men struggle with lust, and any single man who says otherwise is just lying out of fear, manipulative motives, embarrassment or a combination of the three.
The reaction of most single women reading the above about single men may vary:
- Some may feel disgusted or discouraged that all single men lust.
- Some may be thinking their single men is not like all the rest they’re dating them (um…dream on)
- Some may feel so uncomfortable discussing the single men and lust topic that they prefer to ignore it by invoking the Too Much Information (TMI) rule when the subject comes up.
Unfortunately, none of the above reactions will help a single gal really understand and connect with a single men, let alone help him in any way.
Single Men Need Help
What Christian single men really need is an environment of open communication and compassionate counsel that will help him nip lust in the bud. The following verse needs to be in practice for single men to have a chance at conquering lust in their lives:
Bible Verse of Day
“Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galations 6:1,2
Unfortunately, since many evangelical churches encourage a culture of denial and secrecy, many single men suffer silently, and receive no help at all. Is it any wonder then, that our churches produce a sad story like Ted Haggard’s?
Hope for the Christian Single Man
Fortunately, single men who are dedicated Christians have it way over all other single men. The first reason for this is that they have a real desire to please Jesus. The second reason for hope is that Christian single men have the Holy Spirit living in them, who also gives them the power to fulfill their godly intentions.
Are you a Christian man who has a problem with lust, but help for you is far and few between? Let’s talk about it.
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Single Christian Women in the Bible
There are many single Christian women listed in the Bible, and they played a huge role in the spread of the gospel in the early Church. I never really thought about this myself until some single Christian woman during a Bible study asked about single Christian women role models in the Scriptures. So I ended up doing a little bit of digging and found the following single Christian women listed at the bottom of this page.*
An Amazing Single Christian Woman
One of my favorite single Christian women in the NT was Lydia. I wonder what this Christian single woman would have thought of the modern women’s liberation movement. Here is part of her bio:
This single Christian woman was an independent and succesful businesswoman, who was in charge of her own household.
This single Christian woman, the first Christian convert in Europe, also started Europe’s first church right out of her own home! In fact, many of the first antendees of this church were right out of her own household, because she exposed them to words of the Gospel. Had Lydia not taken a faith filled risk by inviting male strangers (Paul and co.) into her home, this may never have occurred.
This single Christian woman had a servant’s heart, helping to take care of the needs of Paul and other missionaries, which in turn helped spread the good news about Jesus even more.
Talk about a positive example of a single Christian woman! This one single Christian made such a difference in the world, and so can we!
Bible Verse of Day
And Mary said:
“My soul glorifies the Lord
and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has been mindful of the humble state of His servant” Luke 1:46-48
If you are a single Christian woman, or any Christian for that matter, struggling to balance personal desires (such as dating), job and ministry, remember you have a Lord who knows your name, and is intimately aware of your heart’s needs and burdens.
List of Probable Single Christian Women
Mary Magdalene (Matthew 27, Mark 16, and John 19)
Susanna (Luke 8:2,3)
Martha and Mary and Lazarus’ sisters, (Luke 10, John 11 and 12)
Dorcas (Acts 9:36-42)
Lydia (Acts 16:13-15, 40)
Damaris (Acts 17:34)
Mary (Romans 16:6)
Phoebe (Romans 16:1,2)
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Romance Relationship Hope for Christian Singles
Spending New Years Eve minus a romance relationship usually spells loneliness and depression. I know many Christian singles reading this watched the Ball drop last night without a romance relationship in sight. Sigh. Under these circumstances it’s very easy to lull ourselves into a self-pity party, especially as we observe other couples enjoying their romance relationships.
Romance Relationship Hope for the Future
Last night as I watched the record crowd during the Times Square New Year’s Eve celebration, it dawned on me that many of the celebrants in romance relationships probably didn’t know Jesus as Lord and Saviour. The I sadly Thought, “what lasting hope for the future do they really have?” Yet, they sure seemed happy as they whooped it up.
Saint Paul tells us a wonderful thing about having Jesus in our lives: we are not like the world, who have no hope for the future. No, as Christians, we have a glorious future hope in Him!
So how does romantic relationships fit in all of this? Only in this way: The same God who has given you hope for eternity has also promised to meet our needs in this life as well.
My advice as you seek a romance relationship in 2007?
- Pray to God, expecting miraculous results in the area of romance relationships.
- Take faith filled risks as you do your part to fulfill your end of the bargain. This may mean joining a new Church singles group, or signing up at a Christian dating service
- Consider 2007 a new chance to claim anew His promises found in His Word.
Bible Verse of Day
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.Jeremiah 29:11
Are you a single Christian with something bad or good to share about romance relationships?
