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Aging and Growing Old Being Single(share?)

Today is my birthday. Yippee! Actually, I can’t stand aging and growing older by yet another year, but it sure beats the alternative. I have spoken to a number of Christian singles (and there are many out there) who are also having, shall we say, a difficult time aging gracefully as well. Why did I feel a tinge of comfort as they spoke of their own issues with aging?

Coping with Aging and Growing Older

Basically what we have found is that you can graph singles’ attitudes about aging as a bell curve. The good news here is that majority of both extremes, twenty-something singles and senior singles, are handling aging okay. The former rarely give it thought, and the latter group of older singles (surprisingly in my view) have adjusted to the idea that the body “just ain’t what it used to be.”’ To these healthy singles “age is just a number.”

However, the group of single Christians who do have trouble with aging and growing old are the 30-somethings and 40-somethings. Many in this group, whether single females or single males, feel the stress of clock ticking off time. Bulging bellies, sagging pectorals and breasts and dating disappointments wreak havoc on the minds of plenty of these singles. Throw in the fear of remaining single forever and single parenting problems, and it’s no wonder that anxiety and depression plagues this group more than any other.

How to Deal with Agiing Without Whining

I recently had a great conversation with an 80 year old Christian guy who helped me get an attitude adjustment on my views on aging. He gave three suggestions, that I’ll pass on to you. He promised me that if I was successful at doing this I would conquer my phobia about aging and growing old. Oh well, here they are:

Take Jesus’ advice and live one day at a time…really…really…savor it as if it was your last on earth.
Take your mind off you (oops, he had me here!) and serve others with a sincere heart fulfilling the command in Romans to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.”
Take God at His word as you wait on Him for your needs and future blessing

Hey, I feel better already. Are you a single Christian with something to share about aging?

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Daily Devotional for Singles1

daily devotional

Each Lord’s day we will be bringing you a daily devotional for singles from Pastor David Gremban of Calvary Chapel Ann Arbor, located in Ann Arbor (MI) Michigan. Since many single Christians live such busy lives, daily devotional and Bible study guides as found on the web can save us time and be spiritually uplifting.

Even for those Christian singles who have a daily devotional, living a godly single life in Christ is a difficult, if not impossible thing to do. Our world, Satan and even our own flesh tempt us with sexual impurity, stress, anxiety and depression. Having problems with any of these can influence us toward making poor decisions in our lives, including our dating relationship choices.

Fortunately, the great news as believers is that we have the Holy Spirit who can help us with our thoughts, words and actions in order to live victoriously in Jesus. May you be encouraged through our daily devotional.

Daily Devotional for Today

In Ephesians 4:29-32, we’re instructed to “put off” old practices and to “put on” new practices. We are particularly challenged in the following three areas.

First, we are challenged in regard to our words (v. 29), to speak words of life, words that edify others, and words that impart grace to the hearer.

Second, we are challenged in regard to our spiritual sensitivity (v. 30), to not grieve the Holy Spirit, but to respond to His correction and to His promptings.

Third, we are challenged in regard to our attitudes (v. 31-32), to put away bitterness and festering anger, and to instead walk in forgiveness, following God’s example. A believer in Christ has been made into a new creation… let’s adopt practices that reflect the wonderful work of God’s grace in our lives.

Bible Verse of Day

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:29-32

If you’re part of a Christian singles group ministry or church, and would like to share a daily devotional with thousands of singles worldwide, please feel free to contact us.

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Christian Relationship Advice for Singles(share!)

Many singles contact us for Christian relationship advice, often asking questions like, “Should I get out of this relationship?” or “Should I leave this person?” Many times, however, Christian relationship advice is hard to give on issues like these because we don’t have all the information on the involved parties. Also, when dishing out Christian relationship advice, I’ve learned a long time ago to get both sides of the story before giving any advice on a topic.

Christian Relationship Advice in the Bible

Perhaps most important of all, specific Christian relationship advice on dating and issues related to singles is rarely found in the Scriptures. So what kind of Christian relationship advice do we offer?

First, if you are a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, you have the Holy Spirit, the counselor of truth, abiding in you. He promises to guide you and lead in all areas, including helping you make wise decisions regarding relationships. In our Bible verse of the day, James 1:5 reads:

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.”

Secondly, we have written a number of general Christian relationship advice articles dealing with the Christian singles life. These articles may be useful for Christians seeking general Chrisrtian relationship advice. For example: