Single, Solo, and Sad
1 CommentFrom the beginning of creation God intended for us to have a partner in life. Early on God tells us it is not good for us to be alone. (Genesis 2:18) He makes his intentions very clear that the form this will take is as man and wife. (Genesis 2:24)
Each time we meet our next prospect our hearts beat with anticipation. Is this going to be the one? Has God finally answered my prayers and sent my soul mate to me? Things seem perfect at first. The euphoria of new found love makes us feel like we are walking on a cloud. Maybe he/she is even a believer.
Then something goes wrong. This person is definitely not the same one you were just walking on the clouds with. You are left with a heart that is broken. Disappointed and disillusioned you wonder if you are doomed to a life of loneliness and frozen dinners.
It seems almost cruel that God would design our hearts, minds and bodies to be perfectly matched with another only to feel we have been sentenced to live out our days alone. We look around at our friends who all seem to have found their mate. They are having children, raising families and our biological time clock just keeps ticking louder. When will it be my turn?
Just as a batter warms up, practices and prepares before his turn to hit, we must prepare ourselves before we are up at the plate.
• Above all else we are to put God first in our lives. From that devotion, every great fruit will prosper. (Matthew 22:37) When we love God with everything we have, only then are we truly ready to share our lives and love another.
• Let God heal any past hurts in your life and fill up any holes in your heart. You don’t want to be up at bat with a sprained ankle.
• Be careful not to rush into any relationship too quickly. In our Godly heartfelt desire to be with someone, we may talk ourselves into thinking this is the right person. Let the Holy Spirit guide you along the way. Don’t dismiss red flags when you see them. (In other words, don’t swing at every pitch thrown your way!)
• Don’t compromise your beliefs and settle for less than God wants for you. Now we are not talking about someone’s silly habit of biting their fingernails. A strong relationship is based on a strong foundation. It is important that your core values on family, relationship to God, and your sexuality be aligned. Once you have these key elements all the little things will fall in line.
• Don’t look right past what may be your greatest blessing. Be open to what God is trying to do in your life. You may have always dated older people, or someone who didn’t have children already. You never know where love may be hiding (Keep an eye out for the perfect pitch!)
Especially in today’s world, it is not easy being a Christian single. The challenges we face are substantially different than ever before. Although being single and solo may bring us sadness, remain faithful that God wants to work wonders in your life. Walk with God in harmony and you will never be a solo.
Bible Verse of Day for 10.14.09
~He will never leave thee nor forsake thee~Hebrew 13:5
Single Parenting Seminar in NJ
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Single parenting is in my mind, especially for primary custodial parents, is one of the hardest jobs in the world. Now in several articles on this singles site, we have already discussed the rigors of Christian single parenting and theAlso although we have also discus landmines for single parents dating with kids in the home.
Single Parenting Help
Although we have discussed how single parenting can be stessful, and gave some advice on how to reduce stress as a single parent, and alsosome single parenting tips, we never really offered any additional advice on how to actually be a better parent. Until now that is.
On Saturday 9.26/09 at 6:30 PM, Oasis Church NJ, a contemporary Christian church start here in New Jersey, is sponsoring a single parenting seminar. The location of the parenting seminar is the Oasis coffeehouse located at 1180 Spruce Drive in Mountainside. For more details and door to door directions ro rhe single parenting seminar go here.
While I realize the the vast majority of our thousands of online reader will not be ble to attend, we will be putting our seminar on our online internet church campus siye in the following months.
By the way, if you are a single Christisn interested in getting involved in a NJ churcvh plant, we could sure use your help as we are reaching out to singles who are hurting and needy.
Bible Verse of Day-09.06.09
~Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it~ Proverbs 22:6
Tiny Single Women
2 CommentsBased on what we see from our readers, 70% of whom are female, a lot of single women out there think men are “into” tiny single women. Nothing could be further from the truth. Ib fat survey after survey has shown that while single women feel they need to be a size 4 or less to get and keep a man, men feel just the opposite. Looking at pictures of various women and choosing what they considered to be attractive, the vast majority of men prefer their women to be at least a size 8! In other words ladies, men like their women to have “some meat” around those bones of yours. So why the the discrepancy?
Tiny Single Women Theory
Our take on the matter is that Hollywood and the media have bamboozled us into believing that tiny single women have it all over those who are simply average (and healthy I might add) in size and shape. What about you? As a single Christian woman, do you feel you have to size down to have any chance for a meaningful, committed relationship with an attractive Christian single guy? Is your self esteem needlessly taking beating in this area because you are believing the lies? Comments are appreciated.
Bible Verse of Day-9.1.09
~Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something~Psalms 139:14,15
