Christian Views on Abortion
2 CommentsThere are a number of Christian views on abortion. Do oyu have a Christian view on abortion? As a Christian single, have you, or would you ever consider an abortion? Do you even have a well thought out Christian view on abortion? Having own biblical view on abortion, dating and pre-marital sex can help save you from making some very bad and painful decisions in your dating life, as the following email we received from a sister in the Lord shows.
The following is a personal story of a Christian single girl who ended up getting an abortion. Instead of judging her, I ask that you pray for her, and write her with your encouragement and advice. I am not compromising her identity, but only sharing an email address because she is seeking help form other single Christians:
“I dated this guy for almost two years. Everything was almost perfect throughout. We even prayed and went to church together. However we knew we were still struggling with premarital sex and tried to abstain from this. Well, it wasn’t to long before I became pregnant this spring and did the unthinkable as a Christian women.
I am still struggling trying to forgive myself and was hoping that the guy would comfort me through my personal struggle. He only neglected me and started cheating on me (of which he was doing the entire time in our relationship without me knowing). I felt betrayed and angry. I tried to be the best woman I could be throughout our relationship but he still hurt me and cheated on me behind my back.
He eventually told me he didn’t love me anymore and broke up with me in April. I thought real true love sticks by you whether you are right or wrong. I know that I was wrong in having an abortion and I pray every day that God forgives me. But how can someone that told me they would marry me and would stick by me always, leave me in the worst state of my entire life? How can God let me still be in love with him when I continue to “pray without ceasing” that He destroy my feelings for this guy?
The guy is is out dating someone else and is happy not thinking about what I am going through, BUT I am trying to stay single to work on my relationship with God and to practice abstinence to prevent history from repeating itself. Why do I have to still hurt especially when I am trying to be a doer of the work instead of a hearer? I am so depressed right now that I can’t even think. My Christian brothers and sisters, someone, please explain this!
Bible Verse of Day:7.30.09
~And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God~1 Corinthians 6:11
Masturbation and Christian Singles
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Let’s talk about the M word and Christian singles. Male masturbation. Female masturbation. Adolescent masturbation. Chronic masturbation. Is it a sin to masturbate? Are you feeling uncomfortable yet? Most churches apparently are because they avoid the masturbation topic as well as Osama bin Laden evades captivity. This is a little ironic, to say the least, when survey after survey reveals a majority of single Christians of all different ages (guys and gals) have masturbated.
As a Christian single, just what are your feelings about masturbation? Are you a masturbator? Do you struggle with your Christian Lifestyle because you feel it is morally wrong? Do you live in guilt and confusion over the whole issue?
Personally, I can’t stand it when Christian teachers are so dogmatic on the “rights” and “wrongs” of masturbatory activities because it’s such a complex issue, with many different contingencies connected to the practice. So I’ll try to leave my preaching in the pulpit as I share from my heart some observations and Scriptures to help guide you through this sensitive issue.
Masturbation Observations
- The Bible is silent on the issue of masturbation even though the vast majority of humankind is preoccupied with it.
- The Roman Catholic Church, some Protestant denominations and even Webster’s Dictionary have attempted to equate the sin of Onan (Genesis 38:6-10) with masturbation, but a simple exegesis of these passages precludes this possibility. You see, under Jewish law, a person was required to procreate with his brother’s widow. When Onan refused out of selfishness, the Lord killed him. The bottom line here? God did not whack Onan for whacking off, but rather for “spilling his seed” by ejaculating outside of his dead brother’s wife during sexual intercourse.
- Many Christian singles and not a few Christian pastors feel masturbation to orgasm is acceptable in order to: 1) relieve unabated sexual tension, and/or 2) to avoid sexual immorality. The catch is that there should be no lustful thoughts connected to the act.
- The vast majority of single Christians feel that compulsive masturbation, simply for the purpose of self gratification, is always wrong. Most would also agree that habitual masturbation while single will make it harder for any future spouse to please them sexually.
Notwithstanding the above points, let the following paraphrased verses guide you as you pray and seek the Lord over whether masturbating should have any room in your life as a single person:
- Matthew 5:28- Looking lustily at a woman (or a man if you’re a woman) means you are commiting adultery in your heart.
- 1 Corinthians 6:12- All things are lawful for you, but not all things are profitable.
- 1Corinthians 6:19,20- Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and so you should glorify God with it.
- 1 Thessalonians 4:4,5- You should learn to control your body in a holy and honourable way, not in passionate lust like the heathens.
- 2 Peter 2:19- You are a slave to whatever has mastered you.
- James 4:17- If you know you should do something, but fail to do it, it’s sin.
Finally, if you are a Christian who is really beating yourself up over the issue of masturbation, or are struggling with sexual impurity, remember that Jesus offers forgiveness (1 John 1:9) you and loves you where you are. Also consider the words of James Dobson of Focus on the Family:
“It is my opinion that masturbation is not much of an issue with God. It does not cause disease. It does not produce babies, and Jesus did not mention it in the Bible. I’m not telling you to masturbate, and I hope you won’t feel the need for it. But if you do, it is my opinion that you should not struggle with guilt over it.”
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Sexual Purity and Abstinence
Leave a CommentThe following article was written by Jesse Butler, an 18 year old Christian Teen:
Many people feel uncomfortable when the topic of sexual purity or abstinence comes up mainly due to their own temptations, or past sins. As Christians, we are commanded by God to live a sexually pure life. Now I’m sure that all of you have heard all this before: “Save sex for marriage, blah blah blah…”
But the problem is not knowing what is right. The real struggle is doing what is right and saving sex for the right place and time. (which is marriage) Today;s society is screaming at us to engage in sexual activities in any way, and as often as we would like with whoever we want. So how are we as Christians supposed to stay pure and live up to Gods standards.
Sexual Purity Tips
- A good thing that we can to avoid sexual sins is to make sure that we don’t put ourselves in situations where there is temptation. If you are in a dating relationship, and things are getting very serious, then it would be a bad idea to be together alone in a house because it may cause temptation which can lead to sexual sin. Instead go out somewhere where it would be difficult to take things too far.
- Try not to engage in activities that may tempt you to sin sexually. There many fun and creative dating ideas that you can choose from that will help you get brainstorming.
Overall, staying pure is a day by day commitment. Remember that God already has that special someone for you, and if you have sex before marriage, then you will be cheating yourself and your future soul mate of untold great sex.
Bible Verse of Day
We should not commit sexual immorality
1 Cor. 10:8
