Sex Sin in Christian Singles
1 CommentSex sin is a huge issue for christian singles. Why? The simple answer is that most singles struggle with some form of sex sin, or at least tempted in this particular area.
What exactly is sexual sin? There are a number of words the Bible uses that would go under the umbrella of sexual sins:
- Fornication-Any unlawful sexual intercourse outside of marriage.
- Sexual Immorality-An other sexual activity outside of a God ordained union of man and wife, other than sexual intercourse, that would be considered defrauding your single brother or sister (1Thes. 4).
For example, oral sex outside of marriage would fall under this second category of sex sin. So, when a popular US president stated: “I did not have sex with that woman”, he was partially telling the truth in that he did not specifically commit fornication as biblically defined, but did partake in sexual immorality. Get it?
Phew! This is all a little confusing, and I’ll be the first to admit that there are a lot of gray areas. The point is though, I think most believers know when we are crossing a line into sex sin territory. If you’re one of the many single Christians struggling with sex sin, remember God’s wonderful provision of assistance:
Bible Verse of Day
“No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. and God is faithful: He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so you can stand up under it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13
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Christian Single Men and Lust
1 CommentAll Christian single men battle lust of the flesh from time to time. In fact, let’s just make that ALL guys, whether they be single men or married men, Christian or non-Christian. One single man pal of mine said if his girlfriend ever knew his thoughts, she would never stop slapping him! Listen, men struggle with lust, and any single man who says otherwise is just lying out of fear, manipulative motives, embarrassment or a combination of the three.
The reaction of most single women reading the above about single men may vary:
- Some may feel disgusted or discouraged that all single men lust.
- Some may be thinking their single men is not like all the rest they’re dating them (um…dream on)
- Some may feel so uncomfortable discussing the single men and lust topic that they prefer to ignore it by invoking the Too Much Information (TMI) rule when the subject comes up.
Unfortunately, none of the above reactions will help a single gal really understand and connect with a single men, let alone help him in any way.
Single Men Need Help
What Christian single men really need is an environment of open communication and compassionate counsel that will help him nip lust in the bud. The following verse needs to be in practice for single men to have a chance at conquering lust in their lives:
Bible Verse of Day
“Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galations 6:1,2
Unfortunately, since many evangelical churches encourage a culture of denial and secrecy, many single men suffer silently, and receive no help at all. Is it any wonder then, that our churches produce a sad story like Ted Haggard’s?
Hope for the Christian Single Man
Fortunately, single men who are dedicated Christians have it way over all other single men. The first reason for this is that they have a real desire to please Jesus. The second reason for hope is that Christian single men have the Holy Spirit living in them, who also gives them the power to fulfill their godly intentions.
Are you a Christian man who has a problem with lust, but help for you is far and few between? Let’s talk about it.
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Forgiveness and Dating Relationships
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There is an amazing connection between forgiveness and healing in the Bible. Forgiveness has amazing benefits. Forgiveness can heal broken relationships, broken hearts and even bring health to one’s body. Only recently have secular psychologists and doctors begun speaking of the healing power of forgiveness in one’s life.
The Forgiveness Problem
Many Christian singles have problems with their health and the relationships in their lives because they have a major issue with forgiveness. For example, some singles have had such sour dating relationships with cheaters and patholigical liars that they now find it hard to grant forgiveness. Others walk around gloomy and depressed because they they can’t forgive themselves for past sex sins that God has long forgiven.
Are you a single Christian today in need of forgiveness for how you treated someone in the past? Remember Jesus suffered for all your wrongdoing. If He says he has forgiven you (1 John 1:9), in faith you need to forgive yourself. Is there someone seeking your forgiveness, but you just can’t open up to that person? Jesus says forgive, and you shall be forgiven. (Luke 6:37).
I really hope you don’t think I’m preaching to you. Why? Because lately a whole bunch of people have been ticking off to the point where I have had a difficult time forgiving them. So I’ll make a deal with you. You pray for me and I’ll pray for you, okay?
Bible Verse of the Day
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13
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