Single Dads Dealing with Grief and Loss
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Hundreds of single dads who lost their wives during the 9/11 terrorist attacks are still dealing with grief. One particular single dad I interviewed relayed that he and his deceased wife had both worked in the World Trade Center. He survived that day only because he was late to work after taking his child to the school bus.
Single Dads Going Through Grief
The worst part of that day for this single dad was having to tell his five year old daughter that her mommy was never coming home. As he shared, you could just feel the grief, guilt and anger oozing out of his heart.
Most singles can’t identify with the way this single dad lost his lifelong soulmate. However, many Christian single parents, both single moms and single dads, can empathize with his his sense of loss because they have suffered a lost relationship as well.
Let’s face it, losing a relationship is always hard, and a loss of a relationship through a divorce or death of a mate is a source of deep grief. Because “Michael”, the single father mentioned above, had no where dump his feelings, he ended up having a nervous breakdown. Sadly, he still suffers anxiety attacks as part of a Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome.
Fortunately, this should not have to be the case for Christian single dads (or single moms) suffering in this way because we have a heavenly Dad who wants us share our pain with him. Not only that, He has the wherewithal to give us real relief.
Bible Verse of the Day
“Cast your burden upon the Lord , and He shall sustain you.”
Psalm 55:22
Thought of Day
Lay down the burden of your heart.
I know you’ll never miss it.
Show your Daddy where it hurts,
And let your Daddy lift it.
Amy Grant
Consider helping other singles by sharing your experiences as a single dad.
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Prince of Peace for Singles
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How we need the Prince of Peace today! Not only is there little peace in the world due to wars, but many walk around anxiously with little peace of mind and contentment in their hearts. Not a few of these folks are singles, who make up over 90 million people in the US alone.
Prince of Peace Promise
Recently, a dude took out a full page ad in the New York Times claiming he was the prince of peace, and would bring lasting peace to the world. Uh, I don’t think so. The true Prince of Peace is Jesus Christ Himself, God’s Son, and someday real soon He is coming back to restore perfect peace among the nations. Won’t that be wonderful? In the meantime He has left this comforting promise to His kids:
~Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid~ John 14:27
Prince of Peace Song
I guess the Lord really wanted me to write about the Prince of Peace today. I get to church, and guess what song the worship team was playing for the first time? You got it, Prince of Peace! Are you a single Christian or just some other person seeking deeper peace inside today? As Micheal W. Smith performs Prince of Peace below, let the words minister to your heart. As you acknowledge who He really is, the true Prince of Peace will speak peace to you. Peace out.
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Aging and Growing Old Being Single
Leave a CommentToday is my birthday. Yippee! Actually, I can’t stand aging and growing older by yet another year, but it sure beats the alternative. I have spoken to a number of Christian singles (and there are many out there) who are also having, shall we say, a difficult time aging gracefully as well. Why did I feel a tinge of comfort as they spoke of their own issues with aging?
Coping with Aging and Growing Older
Basically what we have found is that you can graph singles attitudes about aging as a bell curve. The good news here is that majority of both extremes, twenty-something singles and senior singles, are handling aging okay. The former rarely give it thought, and the latter group of older singles (surprisingly in my view) have adjusted to the idea that the body “just ain’t what it used to be.â€â€™ To these healthy singles “age is just a number.â€
However, the group of single Christians who do have trouble with aging and growing old are the 30-somethings and 40-somethings. Many in this group, whether single females or single males, feel the stress of clock ticking off time. Bulging bellies, sagging pectorals and breasts and dating disappointments wreak havoc on the minds of plenty of these singles. Throw in the fear of remaining single forever and single parenting problems, and it’s no wonder that anxiety and depression plagues this group more than any other.
How to Deal with Aging Without Whining
I recently had a great conversation with an 80 year old Christian guy who helped me get an attitude adjustment on my views on aging. He gave three suggestions, that I’ll pass on to you. He promised me that if I was successful at doing this I would conquer my phobia about aging and growing old. Oh well, here they are:
- Take Jesus’ advice and live one day at a time…really…really…savor it as if it was your last on earth.
- Take your mind off you (oops, he had me here!) and serve others with a sincere heart fulfilling the command in Romans to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.
- Take God at His word as you wait on Him for your needs and future blessing
Hey, I feel better already. Are you a single Christian with something to share about aging?
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