Single Mothers Survival Tips
Leave a CommentSingle mothers have a hard road to travel. In the US 4 in 10 babies are born out of wedlock, and 95% of the time it’s the single mother who has residential custody and the brunt of responsibility in raising the child. Talk about stress! Single parenthood is without a doubt the most challenging endeavor I can think of.
Whether due to divorce or having an out-of-wedlock child, there are many Christian single mothers who need our prayers. Toward this end several single mothers have sent us the following single mother survival pointers.
Single Mother Tips
Know that you’re not alone
Being a single mom and alone is scary, but just knowing that there are other single mothers out there who are not only surviving but thriving can give us the hope we need to press on.
Join a singles group
If you’re a single mom, Mutual support and encouragement found in Christian singles groups goes a long way
Know how to reduce stress and worry
Many single mothers wear so many different hats and have so many different responsibilities they get very littler time to think about their own needs.
Be a smart dater
Single mothers and their kids are especially vulnerable to unscrupulous guys, so understanding the dating game for single moms can help you avoid potential problems.
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Bible Verse of Day
~I can do everything through him who gives me strength~Phil 4:13
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Aging and Growing Old Being Single
Leave a CommentToday is my birthday. Yippee! Actually, I can’t stand aging and growing older by yet another year, but it sure beats the alternative. I have spoken to a number of Christian singles (and there are many out there) who are also having, shall we say, a difficult time aging gracefully as well. Why did I feel a tinge of comfort as they spoke of their own issues with aging?
Coping with Aging and Growing Older
Basically what we have found is that you can graph singles attitudes about aging as a bell curve. The good news here is that majority of both extremes, twenty-something singles and senior singles, are handling aging okay. The former rarely give it thought, and the latter group of older singles (surprisingly in my view) have adjusted to the idea that the body “just ain’t what it used to be.â€â€™ To these healthy singles “age is just a number.â€
However, the group of single Christians who do have trouble with aging and growing old are the 30-somethings and 40-somethings. Many in this group, whether single females or single males, feel the stress of clock ticking off time. Bulging bellies, sagging pectorals and breasts and dating disappointments wreak havoc on the minds of plenty of these singles. Throw in the fear of remaining single forever and single parenting problems, and it’s no wonder that anxiety and depression plagues this group more than any other.
How to Deal with Aging Without Whining
I recently had a great conversation with an 80 year old Christian guy who helped me get an attitude adjustment on my views on aging. He gave three suggestions, that I’ll pass on to you. He promised me that if I was successful at doing this I would conquer my phobia about aging and growing old. Oh well, here they are:
- Take Jesus’ advice and live one day at a time…really…really…savor it as if it was your last on earth.
- Take your mind off you (oops, he had me here!) and serve others with a sincere heart fulfilling the command in Romans to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.
- Take God at His word as you wait on Him for your needs and future blessing
Hey, I feel better already. Are you a single Christian with something to share about aging?
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Single Mom Working and Struggling
2 CommentsOne of the most pressing concerns of a single parent, whether they be single moms or dads, is making ends meet. For those single moms and dads scraping and clawing week to week on a tight budget, this is no small feat!
Single Moms and the Budget
The responsibility to make out a budget for the family can sometimes cause us to worry over where we will get the money to pay the bills.
Recently, a single mom wrote the following to Christian Dating Service PLUS!:
“I am a single mom of a two year old child. I work a full time job and provide everything for my son. We have an order for child support payments but am not receiving the money from his father.
“As a single mom, I am currently paying for child care, medical expenses and all the expenses that come with raising a child. I have a mortgage and all the expenses of running a home. I do not qualify for help from the state because I work a full time job, even though I have no money left after I pay all my bills.
“Right now Congress (US) is working on legislation to change the Medicaid Laws. I have been working with NY State Senator Vincent Liebell’s office to try to get some help to ease the burden on working single parents. If you are in the same position as me and need help as well, please contact me at single.mommy@hotmail.com. I would like to hear from you so that we can finally get some positive changes!!!”
Boy, can you just feel the desperation in this poor single mom? If you are a struggling single parent reading this, you may be feeling just like this.It’s at times like these, that single moms and single dads need to remember the wonderful promises of our Saviour to meet our needs. In Psalm 37, King David wrote an encouraging song for His people to take heart during difficult testing. Here’s one of the promises he wrote:
Bible Verse of Day
-I was young and now I am old,
yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread- Psalm 37:25
Let’s claim God’s promises for His children today.
Are you a single Christian mom with a story to share about how God provided for you, or some other struggling single mom or dad?
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