29
9月
2006
私は単一の孤独な女性に今日会った。 彼女は彼女に彼女の中心の重荷をと共有する誰もあったことを言った。 あなたのように余りになら孤独な単一の女性、でなければだけ感じれば。 デューク大学の調査に従って、米国の人口の25%は生命の苦痛を共有する誰との誰もあるように感じる。 大部分これらの人々は…推測したそれをである: 孤独な単一の女性および人。 私はなぜ驚かないか。
単一の孤独な女性はイエス・キリストに会う
女性私は最近無くなった彼女のボーイフレンドに会った。 彼女が彼女の家族または誰でもに近くなかったので、彼女は彼女全員を保っていた 心痛 そして lonliness 彼女自身に。 決して聞いたあらないことはイエス・キリストを彼女を信じることができないか。
私がイエス・キリストについてのこの孤独な女性に」彼女のための愛説明し、それを彼女がすべてとの彼に彼女傷および重荷行くことができるときに、彼女は容易に彼の単語の約束を受け入れた。
クリスチャンが選抜するので、私達は時々感じる1無しで隔離され、だけ、にそれに直面しよう 実際に 私達を世話しなさい。 単一の孤独な女性または人であるかどうか、私達が彼にいつでも行ってもいいという何でもについての神の約束を覚えなさい。 ただ信じれば、私達は彼の十字のフィートで救助を見つける。
日の聖書の詩:
私に来られて、すべてこと労働重い積まれて、私は残りを与える。
Matthew 11:26
単一の孤独な女性について共有することを何かのクリスチャンであるか。
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22
11月
2006
養育費支払を受け取ることは主要な心配のためのである Christian single parents, who often struggle to keep their kids well fed and clothed. It’s no wonder then that custodial single parents rank collecting child support payments ahead of concerns like single parent dating with kids. Of course, when it comes to child support payments, these single parents are not alone.
Skirting Child Support Payments: A Worldwide Problem
According to ACES (The Association for Children for Enforcement of Support) only half of US custodial single parents who are supposed to receive child support payments actually do so. Folks, that’s a lot of deadbeat dads and moms getting away without paying child support. And I suspect these numbers on child support payments in places like the UK, Australia and Canada are similar.
Child Support Payment Enforcement
Many non-custodial parents get away without worrying about having to make child support payments because the party who has residential custody simply gives up trying to collect in family court.
Family court can be a scary, stressful, frustrating , money wasting and time consuming proposition. I should know, because I have worked there for over two ( oh my Lord!) decades. But it’s the only system we have, and can be used for good if you know to do it.
Therefore, if you are a Christian single parent at your wit’s end over getting child support payments, please don’t give up to discouragement and depression Let me instead suggest a positive course of action:
Educate Yourself
Get to know your rights regarding child support payments and the family law in your area. The following sites offer some great resources:
In the UK: www.csa.gov.uk/
In the US: www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/index.html
In Canada: www.justice.gc.ca/en/ps/sup/
In Australia: www.csa.gov.au/
Take action by filing a child support enforcement complaint
If you don’t find satisfaction with child support payments through the courts alone, there are private companies who can help you and the court track down the deadbeat. Here are a few off the top of my head:
NationalChildSupport.com
SupportKids.com
SupportCollectors.com
While most of these do not charge up front fees, they will catch charge between 30 and 50% of the recouped child support payments. Pray about wether this makes sense for you.
Remember The Promises Of God’s Provision
Ultimately, human agencies are not the answer for your needs. Remember, your saviour, Jesus, will never leave you nor forsake you. Your Heavenly Father knows what you need, and promises to provide for you and the kids. So if the child support payments don’t come in, let’s believe Him together that he will provide what you and the kids need some other way. Okay?
Bible Verse of the Day
“I was young and now I am old,
yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread. They are always generous and lend freely; their children will be blessed.”
Psalm 37:25,36
Are you a Christian single parent with something to share about child support payments?
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23
November
2006
Thanksgiving Day is a time of thankfulness and being thankful for all our blessings. However, for many singles it’s simply another holiday to survive, and a reminder of how lonely and frustrating life can be without the emotional and physical intimacy of a mate. That’s why showing thankfulness is difficult for many of my Christian single friends, especially during this time of year. Do you feel the same way?
A Tradition of Thankfulness
In answer to this need, each year we usually have a big Thanksgiving Day feast at my house for unattached singles. One of the highlights is that in between stuffing our faces with turkey and anything else not walking off the table, we would share our thankfulness for what God has done in our live the past year.
Thankfulness is a hard thing to fake. But ever so slowly, trickles of thankfulness would pour out of hearts, some of which were heartbroken, and spirit of rejoicing would begin. The feeling would be the same one would get when the warm sun starts breaking through the clouds on a somber day.
Thankfulness Observations for Single Christians
Listen I haven’t figured out all this thankfulness stuff yet, but here are some things I have observed:
- We are commanded of the Lord to show thankfulness with a grateful heart.
- Thankfulness in our hearts unleashes the power of God in our lives, because it lets God and the Enemy know we trust and believe in His power and provision, come hell or high water.
- Thankfulness means we’ve made peace with our past, and are content in our present circumstances. Unthankful folks are constantly referring to past “what ifs and if onlys”. What a drag!
- People who show thankfulness spread a contagious spirit of faith and joy to others. I guess that’s why God wants us to show thankfulness. These thankful souls are able trust God for big things in the future.
We said earlier it’s hard to fake thankfulness. Yet God tells us to be thankful. Are you feeling unthankful this day because of your present circumstances of being single or any other issues going on in your life?
Here’s what we do at our yearly feast:
- Get out a piece of paper and begin listing everything (and we mean everything!) you can show thankfulness for in your life. You may feel this a lame idea and not likely to work. Don’t let those negative feelings to control you.
- As you list your blessings, think about what God has to bring about each one.
- Begin to thank and worship Him for who He is, and let Him minister to your heart.
Bible Verse of Day
And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
Colossians 3:17
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2
December
2006
Many singles have a hard time saving money, for the simple reason that they don’t have much money to save. This lack of money saving has caused many single worry over what they will do in their day of need.
Money Saving Problems for Christian Singles
Does money saving concerns of single people shock you? It shouldn’t because financial debt and being single goes hand in hand. Singles of all types (never married, divorced, widowed or single parents) collectively have accumulated more bills than their married counterparts. Why? It’s not easy staying out of financial debt when you have to provide everything for yourself. Just ask any Christian single parent you know, and they’ll tell you all about it. In fact, besides Christian singles dating issues, money saving worries top the list of anxieties for all singles, whether they be Christian or non-Christian.
Are you a single person struggling with saving money in order to provide for the needs you and the family? Are you wondering how you will ever be able to save money? Some practical money saving advice we we give here is to simply is to Googl the term, “money saving”, and you will find a a bunch of cool stuff. There is also an excellent website, Crown.org, which offers free online money saving tips from a Christian perspective.
Listen, I know it’s hard to believe when those bills start rolling in, or you start how wondering how you’re going to buy the kids those holiday gifts. But the Lord and Saviour who saved you from your sins, also promises to provide for all your earthly needs. So let’s cast our money saving burdens to Him and take him at His word. Are you not sure you are child of God? Don feel like you have to walk around with all these burdens. Read how to become a Christian, and be free today.
Bible Verse of the Day
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:33,34
Are you a single Christian with something to share about money saving?
Posted: Holiday Gifts, Money Saving Tips, Singles Ministry, Single Parents, Single Dads, Single Moms, Bible Verse of Day Tags: money saving, money, financial debt, bible verse of day, bible, singles, Christian singles
6
December
2006
Many singles seem to go from one rebound relationship to the next in search of that ultimate relationship. The only problem is that the vast majority of rebound relationships end as well, which makes daters feel worse then the previous relationship. As someone who works in the Family Court system, I see the sad effects of rebound relationships everyday.
The Thinking Behind a Rebound Relationship
The thinking behind rebound relationships goes like this: “Although my previous relationship failed, this one will be better. This one will last forever.” And so the person just lost one relationship goes blindly into another.
Of course, anyone who has lost love can understand and empathize with people who are rebound daters. Losing a relationship is always difficult, and leaves a great void that calls out for filling. Worse yet, relationship loss due to a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend or outright rejection will lessen an already low self-esteem.
Today, if you are going through pain associated with loss and rebound relationships, remember you have a Precious Saviour who understands where you are, even if freinds and family do not:
Bible Verse of the Day
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are―yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Hebrews 4:15,16
Related:
Dating After Divorce
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9
December
2006
Christian dating.com singles? Who are these people and where do they come from? Christian dating.com singles are Christian singles who have used or are using online Christian dating services.
Dating.com singles come from all areas and make up all kinds of people. They are Christian single parents, college students, 30-something, never married singles, divorcees and widows, etc.
Christian Dating.Com Singles and the Church
Most attend evangelical churches on Sundays and get involved involved in local ministries such as small groups. The only problem is many of the churches dating.com singles attend have few other singles attending them who are available for a dating relationship. On account of this fact, more and more Christian singles are becoming dating.com singles.
If you are a single Christian thinking about using one of the dating.com services that are scattered throughout the internet, I want to encourage you to have fun, and don’t be bothered by other people judging you for taking a faith filled risk with the Lord in this area of your life. The fact is, tens of thousands of single dating.com Christians are meeting and marrying by using services as ChristianMingle/Relationships.com, Christian Cafe or eHarmony.
Our only piece of Christian dating advice is to educate yourself on how to start using online Christian dating.com services, be patient as you wait on the Lord and to commit everything you do to Him.
Bible Verse of Day
“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.”
Psalms 37:4-6
Posted: Singles Ministry, Divorced, 30-Somethings, 40-Somethings, 50-Somethings, Single Parents, Single Moms, Bible Verse of Day, Christian Singles Dating, Lonely Woman, Christian Singles, 20-Somethings, Uncategorized Tags: Christian dating.com singles, Christian dating, Christian singles, evangelical, churches, divorcees, widows, college students, teens, Bible vere of day, psalm 37
16
December
2006
Many single women and men walk around with a lot of anger because they are still single long past the time they thought they would be married. Does being single at this time in your life make you angry?
Target of Anger in Relationships
One target of a single person’s anger is directed at God Himself because He has not brought that one true love into their lives. Frustration, jealousy and discouragement cuts deep into them as their closest friends and colleagues (even the ones we thought would nver find anyone!….I know, what a wretched, ungodly thought!) have found their dating match and have gotten married.
Secondly, many Christian singles have unresolved anger against a previous dating relationship partner. Perhaps they were in an abusive relationship, or got dumped for reasons they never understood. This kind of anger has caused a festering of bitterness and cynicism in their hearts, which has only fostered more anger.
Finally, many singles, including Christian singles, have directed anger against themselves for their dating failures and apparent inability to find a marriage partner. Anger turned inward often results in depression, anxiety and a host of other physical ills.
Bible Verse of the Day
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Ephesians 4:26.27
If you are a Christian single today struggling with anger over being single, or at having a failed dating relationship, remember the following practical tips that could help you:
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Admit your anger, and understand the reasons why you are feeling this emotion. Admitting you are ticked off means recognising the emotional and physical signs of anger. This admission is the first step toward resolving the issue. Many Christians suppress anger and feel guilty when they experiencel this powerful emotion because they believe it to be sinful in and of itself. This is simply not the case according to the above verse.
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Restrain your anger by setting ground rules on it. Anger becomes a problem when it becomes uncontrollable. By not letting the sun go down on our anger, we are consciously taking control of our anger. This may mean honestly addressing the person we are angry at, and having a heart to heart talk about our feelings before things get out of hand. At other times restraining our anger may mean taking a long walk to blow off steam, or having a good prayer session.
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Understand the consequences of uncontrolled anger. The Scripture states that unbridled anger (rage really) results in giving the devil, your mortal enemy, a stronghold in your life. We see the results of this kind of anger all over the world today in places like Iraq, our respective workplaces and even our own homes. When we truly understand what is at stake when we allow anger to rule us, we will be more motivated to practice good anger management.
Are you a single Christian who has an anger problem?
Related Article:
Singles Dating Tips: Learning How to Argue and Fight
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18
December
2006
According to a MSN single life survey, only 20% of single women and men are not looking to get married; However, more than 28% of singles expect to remain in their single life state. The results of this singles survey means that a substantial number of singles are walking around with unfulfilled desires and lack of contentment with their singlehood.
Where do you stand on this issue? If you are seeking to attract the right person to date and eventually marry, do you believe God will provide? Are you getting impatient waiting on God for a mate?
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I think too much over which I have little or no control. Our Christian dating advice that someone once gave me is this: Do all you can do by doing the right thing, and leave the rest in His loving hands. He won’t let you down.
Bible Verse of Day
“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.”
Psalms 37:4-6
Posted: Singles Ministry, Single Parents, Single Moms, Single Dads, Bible Verse of Day Tags: single women, single men, single life, married, singlehood, christian dating advice, Bible verse of day, Psalm 37:4
23
December
2006
As an employee in family court, I see a lot of single gals come through our doors. Not a few of these single gals are pregnant teen girls in great financial, spiritual and emotional need.
This thought about single gals got me thinking about Mary, the blessed mother of Jesus, our Saviour. Think about it. She too was a single gal, a pregnant teenager with some heavy needs of her own.
Single Gal Problems
First of all, she was a small town single gal who was having a baby. Can you imagine the scandal and hurtful gossip going on in Nazareth at this time? If you’re from a small town or village, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Secondly, besides this single gal having to deal with all the vicious rumours spreading around town, she also had to worry about her family. What do you think this single gal’s parents had to say about all of this? Suppose you had a teenage daughter. Would you believe her if she told you the Holy Spirit impregnated her? Would you think she was lying? Or Crazy? In the pressure of the moment, would you be tempted to get this single gal an abortion?
Finally, when our single gal left Nazareth for Bethlehem, she literally had nothing but the clothes on her back sans a couple extra rags she was to use as swaddling clothes. In grievous labour pains on the back of a donkey, she arrives at her destination: a smelly stable in the open air of the night. The single gal and Joseph coudn’t afford much else.
At just the right time, this single gal gave birth to a Precious Child without any assistance except for Joseph, who was probably just as clueless as most guys today are under similar circumstances.
I suppose most of us know the rest of this glorious story. This single gal ended up okay because God’s Grace was upon her, as witnessed by our Scripture of the day.
Bible Verse of Day
“My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my saviour, for He has been mindful of the humble state of his servant.”
Luke 1:46,47
Single Gal Promises
If you’re a single gal today with great burdens, and feel there is no hope for you, please know that the same God who blessed Mary in her humble circumstance, is willing and able to do the same for you.
Are you a single gal with something to share?
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What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy
Christian Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys
Christian Single Moms and Dating Tips
Christian Teens, Dating and Sex
Single Again Tips for the Recently Single Again Woman and Man
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24
December
2006
Are you a fitness single? What a strange term that is! But that’s the term somebody coined for a single person who’s into fitness. There are even dating sites dedicated entirely to fitness singles. Unbelievable!
Go to any work out club like Ballys or LA Fitness, and you will find a substantial majority of the people sweatin’ up a storm are fitness singles. While the married folks don’t have to worry about such things, these fitness singles are seeking to keep fit so they may attract a man or woman to date.
Spiritually Fit Fitness Singles
Yesterday I was at my local fitness club, trying to pump a little iron so I won’t feel as guilty about pigging out during the upcoming holiday season. As I observed dozens of fitness singles torturing themselves on treadmills to remain looking good, I wondered how many put as much effort into their spiritual fitness.
Before I got too far with such judgemental thinking, the Holy Spirit convicted me: “David, how often do you fellowship with me through My word? How often do you go the extra mile for some lost soul in need of My love?”
Like anything else in life, the key to joy in life is to have balance in the way of doing things. Is it okay to be a fitness single? Of course! Our bodies are the temple of the Spirit, and we should take good care of them as good stewards. On the other hand, being a Christian fitness single also means remembering to prioritize what’s eternally important over what lasts only for a while.
Bible Verse of Day
For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.
1 Timothy 4:8
Are a Christian single into fitness with something to share?
Posted: 30-Somethings, 40-Somethings, 50-Somethings, Fitness Singles, Singles Ministry, Single Parents, Christian Singles, 20-Somethings, Single Moms, Bible Verse of Day Tags: fitness singles, 1 Timothy, 1Timothy 4:8, physical training
3
January
2007
There are many single Christian women listed in the Bible, and they played a huge role in the spread of the gospel in the early Church. I never really thought about this myself until some single Christian woman during a Bible study asked about single Christian women role models in the Scriptures. So I ended up doing a little bit of digging and found the following single Christian women listed at the bottom of this page.*
An Amazing Single Christian Woman
One of my favorite single Christian women in the NT was Lydia. I wonder what this Christian single woman would have thought of the modern women’s liberation movement. Here is part of her bio:
This single Christian woman was an independent and succesful businesswoman, who was in charge of her own household.
This single Christian woman, the first Christian convert in Europe, also started Europe’s first church right out of her own home! In fact, many of the first antendees of this church were right out of her own household, because she exposed them to words of the Gospel. Had Lydia not taken a faith filled risk by inviting male strangers (Paul and co.) into her home, this may never have occurred.
This single Christian woman had a servant’s heart, helping to take care of the needs of Paul and other missionaries, which in turn helped spread the good news about Jesus even more.
Talk about a positive example of a single Christian woman! This one single Christian made such a difference in the world, and so can we!
Bible Verse of Day
And Mary said:
“My soul glorifies the Lord
and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has been mindful of the humble state of His servant” Luke 1:46-48
If you are a single Christian woman, or any Christian for that matter, struggling to balance personal desires (such as dating), job and ministry, remember you have a Lord who knows your name, and is intimately aware of your heart’s needs and burdens.
List of Probable Single Christian Women
Mary Magdalene (Matthew 27, Mark 16, and John 19)
Susanna (Luke 8:2,3)
Martha and Mary and Lazarus’ sisters, (Luke 10, John 11 and 12)
Dorcas (Acts 9:36-42)
Lydia (Acts 16:13-15, 40)
Damaris (Acts 17:34)
Mary (Romans 16:6)
Phoebe (Romans 16:1,2)
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January
2007
One of the most pressing concerns of a single parent, whether they be single moms or dads, is making ends meet. For those single moms and dads scraping and clawing week to week on a tight budget, this is no small feat!
Single Moms and the Budget
The responsibility to make out a budget for the family can sometimes cause us to worry over where we will get the money to pay the bills.
Recently, a single mom wrote the following to Christian Dating Service PLUS!:
“I am a single mom of a two year old child. I work a full time job and provide everything for my son. We have an order for child support payments but am not receiving the money from his father.
“As a single mom, I am currently paying for child care, medical expenses and all the expenses that come with raising a child. I have a mortgage and all the expenses of running a home. I do not qualify for help from the state because I work a full time job, even though I have no money left after I pay all my bills.
“Right now Congress (US) is working on legislation to change the Medicaid Laws. I have been working with NY State Senator Vincent Liebell’s office to try to get some help to ease the burden on working single parents. If you are in the same position as me and need help as well, please contact me at single.mommy@hotmail.com. I would like to hear from you so that we can finally get some positive changes!!!”
Boy, can you just feel the desperation in this poor single mom? If you are a struggling single parent reading this, you may be feeling just like this.It’s at times like these, that single moms and single dads need to remember the wonderful promises of our Saviour to meet our needs. In Psalm 37, King David wrote an encouraging song for His people to take heart during difficult testing. Here’s one of the promises he wrote:
Bible Verse of Day
-I was young and now I am old,
yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread- Psalm 37:25
Let’s claim God’s promises for His children today.
Are you a single Christian mom with a story to share about how God provided for you, or some other struggling single mom or dad?
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Posted: Single Parents, Single Moms, Bible Verse of Day Tags: single moms, single Christian mom, Psalm 37, Psalm 37:25, Bible verse of day, King David, child support
11
February
2008
Single mothers have a hard road to travel. In the US 4 in 10 babies are born out of wedlock, and 95% of the time it’s the single mother who has residential custody and the brunt of responsibility in raising the child. Talk about stress! Single parenthood is without a doubt the most challenging endeavor I can think of.
Whether due to divorce or having an out-of-wedlock child, there are many Christian single mothers who need our prayers. Toward this end several single mothers have sent us the following single mother survival pointers.
Single Mother Tips
Know that you’re not alone
Being a single mom and alone is scary, but just knowing that there are other single mothers out there who are not only surviving but thriving can give us the hope we need to press on.
Join a singles group
If you’re a single mom, Mutual support and encouragement found in Christian singles groups goes a long way
Know how to reduce stress and worry
Many single mothers wear so many different hats and have so many different responsibilities they get very littler time to think about their own needs.
Be a smart dater
Single mothers and their kids are especially vulnerable to unscrupulous guys, so understanding the dating game for single moms can help you avoid potential problems.
Related:
Christian Single Parents
Single Moms Podcast
Single Woman Seeking Man
Bible Verse of Day
~I can do everything through him who gives me strength~Phil 4:13
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