Aging and Growing Old Being Single
Leave a CommentToday is my birthday. Yippee! Actually, I can’t stand aging and growing older by yet another year, but it sure beats the alternative. I have spoken to a number of Christian singles (and there are many out there) who are also having, shall we say, a difficult time aging gracefully as well. Why did I feel a tinge of comfort as they spoke of their own issues with aging?
Coping with Aging and Growing Older
Basically what we have found is that you can graph singles attitudes about aging as a bell curve. The good news here is that majority of both extremes, twenty-something singles and senior singles, are handling aging okay. The former rarely give it thought, and the latter group of older singles (surprisingly in my view) have adjusted to the idea that the body “just ain’t what it used to be.â€â€™ To these healthy singles “age is just a number.â€
However, the group of single Christians who do have trouble with aging and growing old are the 30-somethings and 40-somethings. Many in this group, whether single females or single males, feel the stress of clock ticking off time. Bulging bellies, sagging pectorals and breasts and dating disappointments wreak havoc on the minds of plenty of these singles. Throw in the fear of remaining single forever and single parenting problems, and it’s no wonder that anxiety and depression plagues this group more than any other.
How to Deal with Aging Without Whining
I recently had a great conversation with an 80 year old Christian guy who helped me get an attitude adjustment on my views on aging. He gave three suggestions, that I’ll pass on to you. He promised me that if I was successful at doing this I would conquer my phobia about aging and growing old. Oh well, here they are:
- Take Jesus’ advice and live one day at a time…really…really…savor it as if it was your last on earth.
- Take your mind off you (oops, he had me here!) and serve others with a sincere heart fulfilling the command in Romans to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.
- Take God at His word as you wait on Him for your needs and future blessing
Hey, I feel better already. Are you a single Christian with something to share about aging?
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Single Mom Working and Struggling
2 CommentsOne of the most pressing concerns of a single parent, whether they be single moms or dads, is making ends meet. For those single moms and dads scraping and clawing week to week on a tight budget, this is no small feat!
Single Moms and the Budget
The responsibility to make out a budget for the family can sometimes cause us to worry over where we will get the money to pay the bills.
Recently, a single mom wrote the following to Christian Dating Service PLUS!:
“I am a single mom of a two year old child. I work a full time job and provide everything for my son. We have an order for child support payments but am not receiving the money from his father.
“As a single mom, I am currently paying for child care, medical expenses and all the expenses that come with raising a child. I have a mortgage and all the expenses of running a home. I do not qualify for help from the state because I work a full time job, even though I have no money left after I pay all my bills.
“Right now Congress (US) is working on legislation to change the Medicaid Laws. I have been working with NY State Senator Vincent Liebell’s office to try to get some help to ease the burden on working single parents. If you are in the same position as me and need help as well, please contact me at single.mommy@hotmail.com. I would like to hear from you so that we can finally get some positive changes!!!”
Boy, can you just feel the desperation in this poor single mom? If you are a struggling single parent reading this, you may be feeling just like this.It’s at times like these, that single moms and single dads need to remember the wonderful promises of our Saviour to meet our needs. In Psalm 37, King David wrote an encouraging song for His people to take heart during difficult testing. Here’s one of the promises he wrote:
Bible Verse of Day
-I was young and now I am old,
yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread- Psalm 37:25
Let’s claim God’s promises for His children today.
Are you a single Christian mom with a story to share about how God provided for you, or some other struggling single mom or dad?
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Fitness Singles-Are You Single and Into Fitness?
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Are you a fitness single? What a strange term that is! But that’s the term somebody coined for a single person who’s into fitness. There are even dating sites dedicated entirely to fitness singles. Unbelievable!
Go to any work out club like Ballys or LA Fitness, and you will find a substantial majority of the people sweatin’ up a storm are fitness singles. While the married folks don’t have to worry about such things, these fitness singles are seeking to keep fit so they may attract a man or woman to date.
Spiritually Fit Fitness Singles
Yesterday I was at my local fitness club, trying to pump a little iron so I won’t feel as guilty about pigging out during the upcoming holiday season. As I observed dozens of fitness singles torturing themselves on treadmills to remain looking good, I wondered how many put as much effort into their spiritual fitness.
Before I got too far with such judgemental thinking, the Holy Spirit convicted me: “David, how often do you fellowship with me through My word? How often do you go the extra mile for some lost soul in need of My love?”
Like anything else in life, the key to joy in life is to have balance in the way of doing things. Is it okay to be a fitness single? Of course! Our bodies are the temple of the Spirit, and we should take good care of them as good stewards. On the other hand, being a Christian fitness single also means remembering to prioritize what’s eternally important over what lasts only for a while.
Bible Verse of Day
For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.
1 Timothy 4:8
Are a Christian single into fitness with something to share?
