Christian Dating and Waiting on God
One of the most difficult things for Christian singles interested in dating is waiting on the Lord for that special soulmate. This is especially true as we see our single freinds meet their dream date, get married and move on. Loneliness and anxiety starts to creep in as we wonder when God will bless us.
Although King David did not have Christian dating in mind when he wrote Psalms 13, many single people waiting for a mate can certainly identify with his feelings in verse 1: ” How long O Lord? Will you forget me forever?”
Are you a single Christian girl or guy struggling with your faith in the area of “waiting on the Lord” for a husband or wife? Be encouraged and recall that David, whom God described as a man after His own heart, also struggled. Yet, it’s interesting that during the time he wrote Psalms 13, he also penned Psalms 62:1: “My soul waits in silence for God only.” If you read the rest of Psalms 62, you’ll see David could wait upon the Lord because he had a calm, confident expectation that God would do exactly what He promised: He would meet David’s needs.
Recently, I had a single woman come up to me quite confused over the Christian dating issue. Although she wanted so much to be married to a godly man, she was torn over whether using Christian dating services meant she was no longer waiting on God for His provision.
How about you? Are you confused over how you should approach Christian dating and waiting on God? If so, consider these questions to guide your actions and test your heart motives:
- Does God’s word and/or uncontrollable circumstances preclude you from taking action toward entering a dating relationship? If so, this may be the time to silently wait on Him, resting in His promises to provide.
- Have you done all that you could do in your particular situation? Remember, God wants us to take faith-filled risks as we ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7). Many times we claim to be “waiting on God” before making a move on a matter, but God has already given permission to simultaneously take action while honouring him as well.
- Do your attitude and actions show that your soul is submitted to God’s will and resting on His promises? Or are you hell bent on taking your Christian dating life into your own hands because you fear losing out on that single man or woman?
As you meander through the Christian singles dating scene, remember that waiting on God and taking proactive steps toward your dating goal need not be an either/or proposition. Just make sure as a Christian single, your heart is aligned with God’s each step of the way.
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Have you ever wanted to scream because you want things to work out and fear he and the rest of life has ran off and left you? Have you ever read so many things and listened to so many people that it felt like you were in one continuous re-run of the waiting game? Have you ever wanted to finally find that mirror-image reflection of you and to love honor and cherish him or her? If you are reading this…I’m 33 years old and a guy. Right now, I’m waiting on the door to open for a new job and searching for just “one” of God’s many loveliest creations- woman. I’ve screwed things up in the past and I’ve also done the right thing too and God saw all things. It’s great to know we don’t have to say “a single word” about what makes us tick when we talk to him.
though none go with me…I still will follow..
Mark,
just read your message above, it sounded heart felt and you are right God does see all things. I am sure that if you keep the faith, he will reward you, not only in your work life but your personal life also. Sometimes it is hard to just let go and let God. Good luck in your Personal Life and in your Job hunt, God can and does listen to us, we may not always get the answer we want but it is the best for us……Take Care
I agree with you Mark, and, Charlene. But I don’t think God wants us to suffer. It’s seems as though I’m suffering because I have this strong desire to not be lonley, but if feels like I’m being punished for something. I often wonder, “if I want a man after God’s own heart, then why does it seem like there’s nobody out there who is after God’s own heart?” I am 23 years old and I have never worried this hard about something or someone. So if God isn’t ready to bless me with someone, then why did he make the desire so strong? Why now?!
I KNOW THAT ONE SHOULD WAIT BUT SOMETIMES THE ENEMY WANTS US TO BELIEVE THAT GOD WILL NEVER COME THROUGH………I READ A BOOK BY TD JAKES WOMEN THOU ARET LOOS AND THERES A POSTION THAT I JUST HAPPEND TO OPEN ONE DAY WERE HE SAYS THAT ANOINT ME IM SINGLE I NEVER UNDERSTOOD WHY THINGS IN MY RELATIONSHIPS NEVER WORKED OUT UNTILL I READ THAT PART GOD WILL NOT GIVE U A RIGHT MAN IF U DONT FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM FIRST AND WHEN U DO HE WILL PERSONALY RELEASE ONE OF HIS ROYAL SONS TO BE A BLESSING SO SOMETIMES UR TORN BETWEEN UR FEELINGS BUT I GEUSS ONE SHOULD WAIT AND NOT FAINT
I know at times we feel so lonely and so depressed over the matter for we are only flesh and blood but there is one thing we should always keep in mind God said “lo, I am with you, even to the ends of the earth” which means when we feel lonely and depressed it is the devil who is giving us those false notions. God said he will never leave us nor forsake us and there is no way that we be alone. And from my experience when such feelings come to my mind, I ask God for strength and start praising and telling him that it is only him that I can’t live without in this world, and surrender my life to him and trust him that in his time he will make all things beautiful. He knows what we need and when we need it. and as the song goes he is never earlier and never late. He is right on time. He is GOD. And remember also if we let our mind stay on the thought God will not be pleased with that. To trust means to give everything to him, he operates with out us helping him in any way. Adam was at rest when God brought him a wife, he didn’t even know that there existed a thing called a wife. May God help each and everyone of us as we rest upon him.
a sister in Christ
im only 18 and ive recently got out of a bad relationship. i have just found god truly a year ago, even though ive went to church all my life. For some reason I cant seem to find the right guy, im not trying to sound boastful at all, but i have a lot of men after me but most of them just want one thing and i dont know how to find a christian guy who just wants me for me. I really want a good guy that i could be with and i dont know what i am doing wrong. i feel as if there is someone out there for me, i just dont know where he is.