One of the hardest things for Christian singles is remaining sexually pure. It doesn’t matter if you are a single woman or man, or whether you believe in courtship or traditional dating.
Yes, remaining sexually pure as a single Christian is a real battle, a tug-o-war between our raging hormones and desires, and our Lord’s plan for our lives in this area: “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified, that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable.” (1Thes 4:3)
If you are a Christian single struggling with sexual impurity, you are probably doing so in one or more of these areas:
- Pornography addiction
- A Christian dating relationship that started off well, but has now devolved into an out-of-control sexual one
- Habitual masturbation
- An adulterous relationship with someone else’s mate
Christain Singles’ Sexual Sins and Isolation
More than most any other sin, sexual sins tend to be be hidden, secret sins that few close to us will know we are commiting. Also, due to the perceived embarrassing nature of sexual impurity, many Christain singles feel they have no where to turn for help with their sexual problems. Additionally, many churches lack mechanisms to deal with such issues.
Help for Christian Singles with Sexual Impurity in Their Lives
Dear single brothers and sisters, if you are feeling lost and alone in sexual impurity, and see no way out, let me make the following suggestions:
Remember how much God loves you.
Although sexual impurity may take you out of fellowship with your Heavenly Father, His love for you remains unchanged. If you are now living in sexual sin, you are one prayer away from forgiveness and complete cleansing (1John 1:9). His heart’s desire for you is complete restoration, and the rebuilding of your intimate relationship with Him.
Understand God’s perspective on sex.
Hey, I love sex, and I hope you do too. But the fact of the matter is God loves sex even more than we do. Afterall, he thought of it, right?
Most of us have heard that God is not a kill-joy when it comes to sex (See Song of Solomon). Yet as it’s inventor, He wants us to enjoy the full purpose for which he created it. It’s a wonderful and exciting expression of love within the bonds of marraige between a man and a woman. When we settle for anything less than this, we cheat ourselves.
Find a Christian singles support group for sharing and accountability.
The Scriptures tell us we should confess our faults to one another (James 5:16). Why? Sharing our sins and struggles in a safe group setting helps the healing process and causes spiritual growth.
If your church does not have such a group, do a Google search for one in your area. It’s easy.
Avoid situations which bring added temptation.
Paul told Timothy to flee youthful lusts. Only you know the situations that cause you temptation. We know that good intentions can only go so far, but with Jesus’ help you can have victory over sexual impurity in your life.
Are you a Christian single who has struggled with sexual impurity? Help other singles by sharing your thoughts and comments.