about unrequited love feelings, just because you don’t feel things as intensely as others does not mean that you are the correct standard and that others are wrong because they deviate from the way you react.

Different people and personality types differ greatly in the way they react to loss. For example, my mother committed suicide when I was five years old. Therefore, losses are harder for me than for many people. Yes, there are times I do feel like dying over my unrequited love. Because to me, a life without love is hardly worth living. It’s hard to keep going on doing things without a partner to share life with.

I am aware that others suffer greatly in other countries and here in the USA. However, that sometimes doesn’t help a lot when you live and work with mostly happily married people without those horrible circumstances!

I don’t think people’s feelings can be written off as “ridiculous”. To label them that way just adds to their pain. It’s like kicking a fellow soldier when they are down.

But Romans 7:21 has the answers to our struggles.
In my present FIGHT, i just came across a prostitute and was preaching to her. we became friends cos we always discuss personal issues together.

but we have started “falling” madly inlove! yet, she has nt given her to christ. she is so sexy and tempting that myheart is failingme cos i am dispointing God. we havent had sex but that wasnt my “mission” to her when i approached her in the corner of the street where she was standing.

i need help brethren, cos it is demoralizing me spiritually and emotionally especially when i am praying for a miracle of truelove in my life.

it has also caused me to return to masturbation! i fantasies about her body … i need help!

“I love you not just for who you are, but for who i am when i’m with you”

“Maybe i should pin my heart to my back, so you can watch it break as i walk away”

I want to relate to LP’s post above, same here, honey. I’m 26 and single and am waiting desperately for my husband! I’ve masturbated since being a very young child without really knowing what I was doing. My mum caught me masturbating a few times, and that was when I learnt it was ‘wrong’. I found it very hard to be ‘good’ with my boyfriends because of it, and found that in spite of their good intentions I would drive them crazy, even though I didn’t really understand what I was doing. I had sex with my last boyfriend. It was so easy because I felt just the same way when I masturbated and there’s always that feeling of ‘it’s so wrong, but it feels so good’.

I finished with him because I couldn’t live with myself. I realised I need God more than I need sex, and I can’t live even one day if God isn’t in my heart. But somehow, masturbating is still an issue with me. Sometimes I can go for weeks at a time not even thinking about it, but then other times it keeps me awake at night. I try to resist and hold onto God, but if I resist one night, it comes back again and again stronger and stronger every time until I give in. That is what tells me, personally, it is a sin. It is an evil that seems like will never let me go. I have to have faith and trust in the almighty power of the living God that his arm is around me - the same arm that flung stars into space holds me unconditionally close and tight. He is faithful, and we all are in His hand, He knows us everyone, how we struggle and fight this. We have to set our faces like flint and press into the truth that He saves us to the uttermost.

Have fun!