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Comment on Anger at Being Single-Dealing with Anger in Relationships by Aaron

Aaron — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 19:27:27 +0000

I feel extreme pressure to marry and have a quiverful of children. I have a hard time worshiping God because he is angry all the time and scary. I feel like I have too marry because that is what Biblical Manhood is based on and a man must be able to lead his family or God will condem you.

Comment on Looking to Find a Christian Wife by Osabuohien

Osabuohien — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 10:17:53 +0000

I am a real christian man, I am looking for a real good christian woman who will be willing to serve the Lord with me all over the world

Comment on Child Support Payments and Christian Single Parents by Diane

Diane — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 03:51:13 +0000

I am a mother of one.I had my daughter out of wedlock with a married man.We had a short fling.When I was 3months preganant I met a wonderful man.He has been with my daughter and me since she was born he was with me at delivery.Her biological Father kept bullying me and said he was going to get custody odf my daughter.Finally I saw a lawywer and he sees her one overnight per week.He hasn’t tried for more which is okay.I am a believer and I turned him in because he is so far behind on child support,but I have given him chances to negotiate but he refuses to meet with me.Well now he is furious because he just found out I turned him in.I don’t know if it was the right thing to do.I am so nervius because he likes to bully me,so far just with words.Should I drop the case or pursue.Please God talk to me through someone because I don’t know the right thing to do. I have only been a believer since I became pregnant and I know it was wrong having a child out of wedlock.Does somebody have an answer or suggestions.Thankyou Diane

Comment on Dating a Snuggie? by David

David — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:58:22 +0000

Forget the snuggie and get a pooch.

During the times I’ve been alone, my little 18-pound Bichon, Eddie has been a great companion…and now that I have Nancy in my life, he’s got two people who he can give his unconditional love to.

He is not a blanket, he’s a life. I take him everywhere and he has more personality than most people I’ve met.

A dog can teach you a great deal about what is important in the world and they will be the most loyal friend you have.

Guess I could get a snuggie to wrap the three of us up in.

Go with God

Comment on Dating Advice for Cell Phone Relationship by David

David — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:45:00 +0000

Cell-phone dating?

What is the world coming to?

I text my sweetheart, Nancy when I’m not with her and we have fun with that. But I sure wouldn’t call it dating.

The cell-phone is one sorry substitute for being able to hold Nancy’s hand and give her a hug and a smooch several times a day.

Take that away from me and no cell-phone in the world would make a difference!

Go with God

Comment on Why Christian Single Men Need a Proverbs 31 Wife by David

David — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:37:23 +0000

Sounds to men that a lot of you men have some kind of shopping list for a woman.

When I buy a car, I look for features. When I buy a computer, I look for capability. When I hire someone for a task, I check their resume.

Haven’t yet figured out how to reduce finding a mate to any one of these criteria.

I would suggest you look for love. Someone who creates that sizzle in your gut. Someone who you can laugh and cry with. Someone who will accept you unconditionally, and you do the same.

I adore my partner. She is the absolute woman of my dreams. She is beautiful in every way and I go out of my way to love her every day in every way possible.

I wake up every day thinking about how what I can do to love her more today than I did yesterday…and the rewards are awesome.

Forget about your checklist and follow your heart. It will tell you all you need to know when you’ve found the right one.

Go with God

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by Shannon

Shannon — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 23:37:50 +0000

I have been tossing this thought around for a little while now. I was married to the most wonderful man and He passed away on September 23, 2009. We were utterly devoted to one another and we had an amazing sex life…together.

I had enjoyed self pleasure since I was a teenager and it did not as it was said previously….”"”This inturn makes it harder to bond to your future spouse. God made us to bond to one person, our future spouse! “”" I was so open to Stephen and we shared many glorious moments together.

Now..at age 36 I am the widowed mother of 4 children….I do not want another husband, I do not want to go out and ease this ache with some stranger…I want my husband..the One Man God made for me to completely bond with. I do believe with all my heart that Stephen was my soulmate.

So now that I am without Him..I am to deny the urges that overtake me when laying in our bed smelling His cologne on the pillow case I have yet to wash? Telling me that I am weak to want to feel that pleasure…they yes, I am weak…I love Him….The good Lord above knows my heart and hears from me somany times a day praying for strength to be strong for my kids..to keep my chin up as He was so fond of saying.

I am human…I am also a woman..I am also a Christian… am I sinning een if I am thinking of Him? Am I goign agaisnt God’s Holy words by finding a release that manifests itself in a sexual desire?

Yes, it does say in the bible to look upon and lust after is a sin, but is it still a sin to want the One You were devoted too, commited too till death you do part…which death has clearly parted us…

So tell me now…Now what do I do?

Comment on Christian Tatoos and Christian Singles by Jodi

Jodi — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:03:36 +0000

dear onewayjesus77,

Anyone who objects to your tatoos, you should question them WHY? God does tell us to protect our bodies as holy vessels (1Corinthians 3:16-17) However, your tatoos are being used to Glorify God and evangelize to others, We are told not to be ashamed in Glofying God. (1 Peter 4:16) It seems to me that you are living that out every day.

God Bless!

Comment on Anger at Being Single-Dealing with Anger in Relationships by Jodi

Jodi — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 14:48:25 +0000

Dear Linda,

Your love of the Lord shines through in your words. Sometimes it feels like our lives are slipping away, like watching sand fall through the hourglass, it tests our faith and we wonder if God really has a plan for us. When we give our lives over to Jesus we expect things to be different. From a worldly view, often they are not. That perfect job isn’t waiting for us, we are overburdened with responsibilities, and where is the Godly Christian man to be by our side?

God has a definite plan for you (Jeremiah 29:10-12) all be it difficult, we must be joyful in our hope and patient during the process. (Romans 12:12) Open your heart up to hear God’s will for you. He is preparing you for His purpose and in His perfect timing your Ezer (soul mate, helper) will be revealed. We must stay in the faith and keep our eyes focused on Jesus or we can miss some of the most beautiful gifts He has for us.

You have missed a part of your childhood during your journey and those years cannot be retrieved. You can rest on the truth that you are still a little girl to Abba (your heavenly Father). When the love of God tears down the walls your worldly experiences have built up, it reveals a little girl that didn’t experience the natural maturation process. Instead you were catapulted right into an adult life and role. God can fill that emptiness completely. When you close your eyes and pray, picture laying your head on Jesus lap. He will comfort you and never leave your side.

God Bless,

Jodi

Comment on Equestrian Singles-What Will They Think Of Next? by Janis

Janis — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 18:07:14 +0000

“I don’t think here are many Christian singles out there who are lovers of horses”

You really might want to do some research before making a blanket statement such as this. There are many, many Christian singles who love horses. We are not a minority, nor are we unique in the “Christian” world.

Comment on Anger at Being Single-Dealing with Anger in Relationships by linda

linda — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 04:39:14 +0000

jake yu are a very handsome guy, if thts yu there, I wonder why yu ca’t find a nice girl to marry? I am a 30 yr old very attractive girl and I know I have missed so many oppotunities whilst in my twenties, I always wanted to sort out my life b4 getting married, i had a huge responsibility to take care of my siblings, since my parents died, so it was fo tht reason why i broke up with my last BF, cuz he thot i was wasting his time. I regret and blame myself on tht. Anyway, I was fine with single life until when I turned 27 thts 3yrs ago, I started worrying about my future and thinking of not having kids yet at this age, I am now 30 and still single, I must admit tht I am getting so grumpy each day, cuz I needs answers, Sometimes I think what am I going to teach my children about girl life when I haven’t enjoyed mine. I gave my life to christ at the age of 15, and I expected to graduate and celebrate my girl life thru a wonderful wedding. but here I go 30 and still single, I feel not only angry, but also embarrassed, its now affecting my social life, cuz all my friends are now parents even though most of them aren’t married but at least they have kids. I don’t think there will be any comforting enough WORDS for this particular issue, as long as we are living on earth, I am sure most of yu will agree that in most cases we are the ones who just pretend to be happy, but there is a constant pain and a sense of emptyness inside. However I tell myself nomatter wht happens here on earth we shall find answers when we meet our LORD, cuz problems of many kinds are always here whether yu r a christian, Married or Single there is always some battles to be fought in life journey, even tho they are all different.

My prayer for us all is to find happiness even tho things wont go the way we wish, some may end up single fo good, some may find their loved one eventualy, but all the same let JEHOVAH SHALOM be our PEACE..xx

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by Shrnte

Shrnte — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 05:04:47 +0000

I just want to thank the Lord for his many blessings of this website. Until now I wasn’t really sure if masturbating was a sin or not. I know now and I just love what all of you had to input on this issue. I really feel like though that everyone should look at what teichieperson had to say on this matter. They really summed it up beautifully!!! God bless and love each and everyone of you!!!!

Comment on Why Christian Single Men Need a Proverbs 31 Wife by RDH

RDH — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:47:58 +0000

Aren’t these qualities (and the person possessing them) relative to the person who is judging them? I mean, if GUY B thinks Girl A doesn’t have all of the Proverbs 31 qualities, then isn’t it possible that GUY C thinks GIRL A has those qualities? Whereas the criteria is good, isn’t it still left up to the individual person whether or not the woman meets the Proverbs 31 criteria?

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by maria

maria — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:13:05 +0000

Lady on September 9th I understand you.When I accepted Christ my boyfriend of 3 yrs would not speak to me as I told him our relationship would have to have some changes(no sex..lol).He was not supportive and so we eventually parted.You have had a tough life and I pray that you will stay focused on God. Get some friends who love God who will help you go through this difficult period.Let the devil know he is a liar and you will not go back to your past life.You are a Child of God and if it means you may need to leave your present boyfriend so be it.Let God guide you in the way you should go. It is time to truly LET GO AND LET GOD do what he wants to do in your life. Jer 29 verse 11 read it.

Comment on Why Christian Single Men Need a Proverbs 31 Wife by ea wg

ea wg — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:32:32 +0000

well… i subscribe to a combination of dr. laura, dr phil and dr dobson philosophies…(Biblical takes precedence over all thoughts)
though i am not about to date…my husband just left me, so i have a lot to deal with, aside from the devastation of my dear man walking, or i should say, running out on me…& sent a text message to inform me of this….
but, point is..l. i told him i wanted to be a biblical wife to him, to be worth more then rubies & pearls… but… he lost his job in the spring, i had just lost my mom, we moved east, he hasnt had any job luck… i was depressed,,,,blah blah..& poof…he was gone…. so..all i can do ..is pray that he will allow God to work in his heart…. and i get outta this depression/sorrow.
But, dr. laura - she said the current generation of women have a large entitlement attitude…and we women expect men to fullfill a litany of things..w/o reciprocating…. and as a wife, we are supposed to care for our husbands. In my marriage.. i had stopped careing for him this summer. I was mad that he wouldnt look for work etc.
So.. it didnt take him too long to quit on my. On his side… he wouldnt communicate, or when he did..i wouldnt listen. I am praying that God will help me heal… & i am so terrified right now… I dont want to be alone, I want my husband back.,..and i dont want to be old and alone. So, this is my blab…You truly spiritual folks out there…. pray for me, and my GI husband. That we both allow the Lord to work in our lives.