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Comment on Christian Views on Abortion by Steve

Steve — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:04:59 +0000

My sister u don’t need to pray repeatedly for forgiveness of sins. The blood of Jesus is so powerful that just a single touch in the holy of hloies was enough for the atonement of sins. God is not like man who forgives u but still keeps record of ur offence, for he says that i will remember their sins no more.Once u v repented and sought 4 4giveness u’r a free woman. As for ur ex b frank abt ur feelings abt him and discuss it w God sincrely. I’m sure God will definately give u a helping hand so that u can also 4give him d same way He 4gave u. Finally give no room 4 the devil 2 accuse u once God has set u free and enjoy ur sweet fellowship in Christ and God will bring the right person to u in due season
Hoping 2 hear ur testimoney soon. Ps 51

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by giovanni

giovanni — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:26:44 +0000

Again, 1 cor 7:2, appears to acknowledge on some level that people have sexual needs, and seems to understand if you fall into sexual sins if you are not married if it is proposing marriage as a solution for sexual sins.

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by giovanni

giovanni — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:22:34 +0000

I’ve always believed that masturbation is an unsettled issue with me as a single male guy that’s 33 years old, but have as of recently felt a sort of conviction about it, in particularly when used with softcore porn. I have purchased a fleshlight and masturbate on that to images of porn, or inside the shower in the past. The premise of masturbation or porn is usually a hidden rebellion based on the perceived mis-treatment by women and essentially blaming them collectively that I have to resort to masturbation or viewing porn. The Bible, 1 Corinthians 7:2, was often used to show such unfairness in life. That is, if I had a gf, or a “normal life” where there were no issues connecting with women, then simply, this would not exist.

This week, I have been convicted about this on the issue and have just volunteered into music ministry at the church. I feel very strongly that if I’m a music minister, then my life has to be clean, or the annointing will not come through when I blow into that instrument.

My new position about it, right now, is that if I’m involved in a public ministry, especially a music worship ministry, then I will quit that post if I continue masturbating or looking at porn. Because, the type of masturbating (i.e. fleshlight and porn) seems too much like fornication and I’m uncomfortable with it. Also, if I’m worshipping God with a Trombone, then how can I worship God in total purity if I’m doing stuff on the side like that? How can the Spirit flow through my music and bless people if this is what I do? Then the whole thing is just vain.

God could also have a wife/woman just for me too, even if everyone else does not want me, since you only need one person to marry anyway. It’s just 1 Cor 7:2 plays with my head sometimes, because it seems to say that it’s okay to masturbate if you are not married to anyone and it’s confusing.

Comment on Christian Singles and Sexual Impurity by Ann

Ann — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:27:18 +0000

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 8-9 months. I have been a strong Christian for years, but Christianity is a lot newer to him, so he is maturing in his faith. However, lately we have been struggling with sexual sin. We haven’t been having intercourse, but we still know that the things we are doing are not pleasing to God and we feel guilt afterwards. We have committed to not having a physical relationship, but is this enough? I have read elsewhere that you should break off the relationship for a period of 6 months and then consider whether this relationship is in God’s will. I think what makes it so hard is that we have talked about marriage a lot and that kinda threw things out of control. I care about my boyfriend very much, but is it possible for this relationship to still be a part of God’s will if we have been struggling with sin? We have now committed to stop all physical relations, but only time will tell if that will last. I feel like it will, because we truly want to please God. Also, though, I feel like I don’t know if we should take the risk because we should flee from temptation to protect ourselves. Right now the best thing I think would be for us to take time apart to work on our personal relationships with God and then decide if it is God’s will for us to be together. It’s really hard to be apart, though… Please let me know if you have any advice.
Thanks!

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by DENNIS TEEL

DENNIS TEEL — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 04:39:01 +0000

we could all talk legalism..personally,i don’t understand how legalsitic christians live happily.i grew up listening to rock music,i still listen to it.i watch horror movies and i occasionally masturbate…Jesus is concerened that we spread the good news of him and his salvation and his crucifixion and resurrection..he’s not concerened with whether you listen to led zeppelin,wath friday 13th or whether you masturbate.legalists who prefer to believe otherwise,please continue your half pleasurable christian life that you live and live it legalisically as you have been….after all..you wouldn’t want to risk missing the rapture because you’re watching a bruce willis movie..heaven forbid!!!

Comment on Tear Jerker Lost Love Quotes by Amy

Amy — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 07:11:43 +0000

If you miss me, tell me.
If you love me, show me.
And if you leave me, remember me.

Comment on Looking to Find a Christian Wife by mark

mark — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 01:29:53 +0000

hi, i’m a 51 yr old man, looking for a good christian woman. i’m totally sick and tired of the people of this world. i too want a good woman that i can trust to the end and love. the lord will provide. mark

Comment on Prayer for Christian Singles by zenitsa tsoneva

zenitsa tsoneva — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:44:06 +0000

please,pray for me-I want to know what love is

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by This Is My Testimony

This Is My Testimony — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:33:56 +0000

I am a teen. I am a good girl. I make good grades. But, about 2-3 years ago, I started to begin to have raging hormones. I had a friend who showed me what sex was, on the internet. After that, I started to watch porn, because it made me feel something that I had never felt before. I didnt realize what I was doing at the time. My parents are big Christians, so they never discuss porn or the consequences. As I watched the porn, I would masturbate. It left me feeling dirty and gross. It lasted for about a year. I didnt tell anyone and I was not close to God in this dark time. I stopped watching porn and I fought my urges and resisted masturbation. It has been 2 years since I have watched porn and yes, it is a daily battle. But, my life is much happier without it.
I was not raised in a bad home, I just made a few bad choices.

But, in conclusion, my Savior, Jesus, forgave me for my sins. I realized that you can live without fufilling your sexual desires and I am so happy that I turned away from my sin. He forgave me and showed me the light. It was not all easy. I dont know if masturbation is a sin, but I know that I can live without it, and I can wait until marriage. Anything is possible with the help of God.
Bless you all
My Savior lives, My Savior loves

Comment on Child Support Payments and Christian Single Parents by clarissa

clarissa — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 03:28:47 +0000

this is a tough issue -one that I am struggling with as well -it seems unGodly to pursue child support -you can’t get blood from a stone -but yet it is disgusting that someone would be more concerned with their own extravagant needs than meeting the basic needs of a child -listen for the prompting of the Holy Spirit and God -I believe the answer is there

Comment on Soul Mate Indicators for Single Christians by Monika

Monika — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 12:02:21 +0000

hello,

what I often find when it comes to people looking for their soul mate is that they keep thinking a soul mate is a person of their own age group - and of the opposite sex. often, looking for a soul mate seems to be confused with looking for the perfect lover … however, a soul mate can be of the same sex and can also be considerably older or younger ….. sometimes several decades. a soul mate is not necessarily the one you are going to marry ….

as for the above mentioned indicators: love, respect, friendship and accepting the person for who he/she is comes so naturally when you interact with your soul mate. this is not something you even have to think about. it’s given. if you have to make an effort to act that way then it’s probably not your soulmate.

and another myth - finding your soul mate doesn’t mean the end of all your (love) problems. often times such a relationship can mean that we have to deal with circumstances in our lives that are quite challenging - but nevertheless help us further down the path and towards personal maturity…

also, keep in mind that soul mates can come from all walks of life.

hope this helps
Monika

Comment on Masturbation and Christian Singles by Acod

Acod — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:25:50 +0000

Dear Shannon,
I cant say i know what it feels like to lose ur soulmate but ive “lost” someone that i loved b4. Though we never actually had sex, we came close more than once and when we broke up it was hard for me to cope with my sexual desires. I found myself masturbating whenever i thot of the times we were together, but each time i did it, it left me feelin emptier than ever and alienated from God.

I have given myself standards for testing sin. ask urself, How do u feel afterwards? Can u talk with God or do u feel far away from Him? Can u tell ur friends or family what u do? I answered no to all of these and i have my answer. Masturbation only takes from me, it gives nothing back. it leaves me empty.

Comment on Unrequited Love Quotes by Ellie

Ellie — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 18:57:44 +0000

If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you,
it was meant to be. If they don’t, their love was never
yours to begin with.

Comment on Child Support Payments and Christian Single Parents by Mayrae

Mayrae — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 23:43:45 +0000

Diane I made that mistake 10 years ago, I dropped the Child Support case just cause i did not want to deal with him. Sweety don’t close the case save the money for your child’s college for your present needs, don’t close it because if he does move out of state or far away it’s going to be a headache to open it, You don’t feel the heavy financial burden too much now, but think about your child’s future. Be blessed and be strong, take up your cross and serve HIM in spirit and in truth!

Comment on Child Support Payments and Christian Single Parents by Jodi

Jodi — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:25:30 +0000

Dear Diane, you were so faithful to God in having your daughter. It couldn’t have been an easy decision for you. Your daughter’s biological father has a responsibility to her. Emotionally, spirutually and (YES) financially. Just because she was conceived out of wedlock doesn’t make her any less a gift, or any less deserving. I can understand the temptation to run the other direction and avoid the possibility of being bullied. I remember when my EX used to get me on the phone and rip me apart. It would cut to my soul and I would end up in tears. We have 2 children together so I couldn’t sever all communication. With God’s strength we can face anyone. One day I prayed for the Holy spirit to give me the right words. When he started in on me, I calmly said “I am not your wife, you have no authority over me and you are not allowed to speak to me that way” and I hung up. Anytime he would start I would politely end the conversation. He doesn’t even bother trying those tactics anymore. That isn’t to say that in your situation he may try MANY times to intimidate you. God is always at our side with us in our battles.

Read Psalm 59. It is all about God’s promise to help us be victorious over anyone who comes again God’s children. In times of trouble HE is our refuge!

God Bless,
Jodi