Masturbation and Christian Singles
Let’s talk about the M word and Christian singles. Male masturbation. Female masturbation. Adolescent masturbation. Chronic masturbation. Is it a sin to masturbate? Are you feeling uncomfortable yet? Most churches apparently are because they avoid the masturbation topic as well as Osama bin Laden evades captivity. This is a little ironic, to say the least, when survey after survey reveals a majority of single Christians of all different ages (guys and gals) have masturbated.
As a Christian single, just what are your feelings about masturbation? Are you a masturbator? Do you struggle with your Christian Lifestyle because you feel it is morally wrong? Do you live in guilt and confusion over the whole issue?
Personally, I can’t stand it when Christian teachers are so dogmatic on the “rights” and “wrongs” of masturbatory activities because it’s such a complex issue, with many different contingencies connected to the practice. So I’ll try to leave my preaching in the pulpit as I share from my heart some observations and Scriptures to help guide you through this sensitive issue.
Masturbation Observations
- The Bible is silent on the issue of masturbation even though the vast majority of humankind is preoccupied with it.
- The Roman Catholic Church, some Protestant denominations and even Webster’s Dictionary have attempted to equate the sin of Onan (Genesis 38:6-10) with masturbation, but a simple exegesis of these passages precludes this possibility. You see, under Jewish law, a person was required to procreate with his brother’s widow. When Onan refused out of selfishness, the Lord killed him. The bottom line here? God did not whack Onan for whacking off, but rather for “spilling his seed” by ejaculating outside of his dead brother’s wife during sexual intercourse.
- Many Christian singles and not a few Christian pastors feel masturbation to orgasm is acceptable in order to: 1) relieve unabated sexual tension, and/or 2) to avoid sexual immorality. The catch is that there should be no lustful thoughts connected to the act.
- The vast majority of single Christians feel that compulsive masturbation, simply for the purpose of self gratification, is always wrong. Most would also agree that habitual masturbation while single will make it harder for any future spouse to please them sexually.
Notwithstanding the above points, let the following paraphrased verses guide you as you pray and seek the Lord over whether masturbating should have any room in your life as a single person:
- Matthew 5:28- Looking lustily at a woman (or a man if you’re a woman) means you are commiting adultery in your heart.
- 1 Corinthians 6:12- All things are lawful for you, but not all things are profitable.
- 1Corinthians 6:19,20- Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and so you should glorify God with it.
- 1 Thessalonians 4:4,5- You should learn to control your body in a holy and honourable way, not in passionate lust like the heathens.
- 2 Peter 2:19- You are a slave to whatever has mastered you.
- James 4:17- If you know you should do something, but fail to do it, it’s sin.
Finally, if you are a Christian who is really beating yourself up over the issue of masturbation, or are struggling with sexual impurity, remember that Jesus offers forgiveness (1 John 1:9) you and loves you where you are. Also consider the words of James Dobson of Focus on the Family:
“It is my opinion that masturbation is not much of an issue with God. It does not cause disease. It does not produce babies, and Jesus did not mention it in the Bible. I’m not telling you to masturbate, and I hope you won’t feel the need for it. But if you do, it is my opinion that you should not struggle with guilt over it.”
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pls can i know more about masturbation?
What if masturbating leads a person to later on become more unlikely to say no in a dating relationship? They’ve already “felt” something that they think is similar to the real thing and decide that they want to feel it for real. Aren’t it the little weeds that ruin a beautiful garden?
And doesn’t it mean that you are technically not really a virgin for the sake of marraige!? Isn’t that the point of abstinence! To save that beautiful possession for the marraige bed and the marraige bed only!?
Take it from someone who knows…the guilt IS there. I’m not perfect and I have committed acts of masturbation in the past. And afterwards I felt completely guilty…the same way I would if I had lied…and lying is a sin is it not? I felt like God was displeased! And that’s a horrible and dangerous feeling.
Read Psalm 101 if you need further help. David said that he would be careful to lead a blameless life and reject perverse ideas. Sex outside of marriage is perverse so the very idea of sex with self should be just as perverse I think.
I’m not trying to condemn. I’m just seriously trying to make sense of why masturbation wouldn’t be considered a type of sexual sin??
The bad thing about masturbation is that an orgasm was meant to be shared in marriage as a culmination of two people coming together(no pun intended)and masturbation actually twists that by isolating a person sexually. And as far as masturbating without thinking lustful thoughts–good luck!
I am glad that I found this website that deals with the whole area of masturbation and Christian singles. I thank the author that understands Christian singles’ struggles as a single but yet have to cope with the natural biological sexual desire feelings that will come every month especially after menstrual period or when you are relaxed (which sexual desire is given by God to us human beings), that masturbation seems to be one effective way to relieve unabated sexual tension.
thanks so much!
ugh, I just wish I could have all of my hormones AND sexual organs removed. then I would just go to work and church, spend my money on bare necessities and give every cent that’s left to the church, then die and go to heaven.
For the past fifteen years of marriage I never thought of masturbation. Its now almost two years since I,m started practicing again without the knowledge of my wife. Of course sometimes my wife refuse to have sexual intercourse that leads me to practiced it more frequently. And also I’m finding pleasure in masturbation. Is it okay to continue, I need your advise please.
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I love to masturbate! I do it almost everyday. The problem is, it is almost like an addiction. I wonder if I should stop. Also, I wonder if it makes one gay. I would very much appreciate any insight as to whether masturbation is bad, and if it can cause you to be gay.
About masturbation: I don’t think masturbation is bad as long as you do not commit adultery by it, don’t obsess over it, and don’t watch porn. Porn is bad.
Umm, too confused: No, masturbation cannot make you gay. There is absolutely no evidence of a connection between the two, and probably never will be. I encourage you to look at the medical community’s standpoint on this issue as well; you can get information from the anatomical standpoint as well as the spiritual.
IMO, what makes a sin a sin? how about masturbation?
What’s the difference between habitually and once in a blue moon masturbation?
I believe the root cause of masturbation is due to the lack of faith as well as allowing the mind to idle and thus become perverse in thoughts then leads to masturbation.
Even for my unbelieving friends, they confessed that when they are busy with purposes to fulfill, job objectives to meet, they will not think the least of masturbation or anything about sex.
The fact that naturally we have all these hormones doesn’t negate masturbation from becoming not a sin. *aren’t we born naturally in sin? read Psalm 51 “in sin did my mother conceive me”
Although in the bible, there isn’t any explicit Thus saith the LORD with regards to the issue of masturbation. consider the case of if this act being revealed publicly, will it bring shame to Jesus Christ or will it glorify him? more of the shame than glory. Which is why i cannot accept the fact that it isn’t any less than a sin.
regarding masturbation: Christians can be very contradictory.
Sex is not a sin, but don’t think on sex.
And yes i’m a christian.
PD: sorry for the english, i dont’t speak english.
PD2: Jami: You see guilt when some one tells you there is guilt. It’s the FIRST time in +8 years of being Christian i hear about this, never in my life have i felt guilty about masturbation, but now i have doubt about masturbation and masturbating
The Bible does not help me here.
Try to be asexual? it’s impossible, hormones, desire, lust (in some ways) is there. The problem begins when you lose respect for other persons and for yourself.
masturbation in my opinion is a very tricky issue because there is a thin line between right and wrong and so you need the holy spirit to minister unto you so you know when your right and when your wrong .i believe that if you feel the urge to masturbate do so if you know you are going to fall into further sin .Do not look at porn and then go and masturbate that simply means you are submitting to porn and God says we are over comers we are not honouring God with our eyes . GOOD LUCK GUYS I NEEDED HELP ALSO
I have struggled with masturbation for many years. My view is I don`t believe God wants us to greatly suppress the yearnings he has instilled in us. And masturbation is a way of release without giving into the burnings over someone and then winding up getting married to the wrong person, or worse yet compromising our values, self respect.
That’s why I have come to the conclusion that masturbation is OK as long as it does not become a habit and, (this being the hardest part) if you can (excuse the pun) pull it off without lustful thoughts. I don`t think we can and therefore, to me the lustful thoughts make masterbation a SIN. “FORGIVE MY LORD A SINNER”!
so how exactly could one go about even getting errect without a lustfull thought???
I am a 25 year old single girl who is following Christ. I have practiced masturbation since high school and have struggled with lust and sexual fantasies since early puppetry around age 9. I was raised in a solid Christian home with a near perfect childhood. There is nothing negative in my past or family history that explains why I was (and still am) so sexually aware or even somewhat obsessed. Absolutely no one knows that I struggle so much with this issue. Sometimes I get frustrated and wonder why God allows me to have such pent up sexual tension when He has given me no outlet (marriage) to expend that energy and passion. I do have mixed feelings about the whole subject, but I try not to beat myself up with guilt about it. It’s really hard to be single and guard your purity today. I’m not advising masturbation at all and I wish it was not in my life.
The biggest problem I have is in the fact that the more I masturbate the greater my sexual appetite seems to grow. Recently, I found myself in a relationship that was based primarily on chemistry. Though I did not have actual intercourse with him, we did stimulate each other to orgasm and shared in mutual masturbation. I blame my vast experience with masturbating for why I fell so quickly. I knew what to do to pleasure myself and him. Sadly, I admit that I was tired of always being a “good girl†and I wanted to prove to myself that I could be sexy. By technical standards I guess you would say I’m still a virgin, but by God’s standards I have sinned. I now regret every minute I spent in my ex’s bed. I broke off the relationship and repented. God has restored my spirit and renewed my purity, yet there are still consequences to my sin and memories I can’t seem to erase…. My advice to anyone reading this is simply to do whatever you can to get control over this whole issue before it’s leads you too far down a very slippery slope. I pray Christ will give us all the strength to overcome the sin in each of our lives. God bless
wow in regard to masturbation, this is what i call being real guys. there is no greater way to dealing with an issue than talking about it and admitting its an issue.
truelly for most christians the “M” word is taboo. but i know we all have problems with it that why God’s grace is sufficient enough to save us all . And His love abounds forever.
Christ faced all the possible temptations any man could have faced and He overcame. to show us all that it is possible. and i know if any of us want to give up this act becuase it cost us. then we can do it. the holy spirit is our freind and present help. and all of us will have a testimony to share that will change peoples perceptions and views on this Topic.
WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUERORS……
In regard to masturbation, this was so awesome to see so many people discussing this Taboo issue of masturbation. I am in the ministry a single 37 year old never been married man and i struggle with this issue. Masturbation brings me guilt and condemnation but I repent and i know that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Wow. this is very difficult but I know that the lord has a great wife in store for me and I have to trust and hold on. I don’t know many men, married or single who do not masturbate. We talk about it and we pray for one another. God is so much greater than this and i know that he will help us overcome. In the mean time. I will not guilt myself to death but go boldly to the throne of grace to ask for his forgiveness if by chance i mess up. We cannot allow Satan to have a foothold in our lives by !) getting us to masturbate and 2) making us feel like crap after we fall on or face. I am learning more and more that WE serve an awesome God. He will forgive us. we just have to ask amen. His love is unconditional.
Signed
a sinner who struggles too.
Hi
I am 29 going on 30, female,single and sexually frustrated to the point where i am going to pull my hair out. I can barely handle it. Usually It would happen now and again, but I have suffered this month..terribly. I dont know how to ‘live’ with this. i wish I felt nothing instead of this torture.
I have read all of the above posts, and the message I am getting is that masturbation is something that we will continue to struggle with. I’m sure it is possible to overcome, but I have been struggling with it and am tired of feeling guilty. I keep asking God each night how many more times he weill forgive me before he turns his face away form me. I’m tird of masturbating and feeling guilty. Is it possible to stop overall, and for God to forgive me even a hundredth time?
Wow, there are so many people who struggle with masturbation - and yes, because of how I feel and what masturbation does to me emotionally and spiritually I think it is indeed a sin. There are plenty of other sins that are not faced head on in the bible, and so my thinking is it’s an obvious sin and its also not too big an issue for God to handle.
I want to relate to LP’s post above, same here, honey. I’m 26 and single and am waiting desperately for my husband! I’ve masturbated since being a very young child without really knowing what I was doing. My mum caught me masturbating a few times, and that was when I learnt it was ‘wrong’. I found it very hard to be ‘good’ with my boyfriends because of it, and found that in spite of their good intentions I would drive them crazy, even though I didn’t really understand what I was doing. I had sex with my last boyfriend. It was so easy because I felt just the same way when I masturbated and there’s always that feeling of ‘it’s so wrong, but it feels so good’.
I finished with him because I couldn’t live with myself. I realised I need God more than I need sex, and I can’t live even one day if God isn’t in my heart. But somehow, masturbating is still an issue with me. Sometimes I can go for weeks at a time not even thinking about it, but then other times it keeps me awake at night. I try to resist and hold onto God, but if I resist one night, it comes back again and again stronger and stronger every time until I give in. That is what tells me, personally, it is a sin. It is an evil that seems like will never let me go. I have to have faith and trust in the almighty power of the living God that his arm is around me - the same arm that flung stars into space holds me unconditionally close and tight. He is faithful, and we all are in His hand, He knows us everyone, how we struggle and fight this. We have to set our faces like flint and press into the truth that He saves us to the uttermost.
About masturbation, I’m a female, single, and 19 years old. I have never had a boyfriend, but ever since I became interested in boys during my first year of high school I realized that I was also very interested in sex and masturbation. I’m still a virgin, but struggle with a desire for sex daily. I was 14 when I started masturbating. I felt guilty about it, but when I tried to find it condemned in the Bible, there was no place where it was specifically mentioned. Its been a hard struggle for me not knowing whether masturbation was ok or not, yet I was always able to rationalize what I was doing. I want to live my life to please God and that becomes ever difficult when I allow anything else to be the master of me. Masturbation had become my other master I was unable to resist… or thought myself as such. However I believe what the bible says about not being able to serve two masters, and I’ve come to the conclusion that masturbation may not be a sin for all people, but for me it is. I liken myself to the man with a weaker faith in romans 14 although the situation is different. It is because know I will never be fully convinced in my mind that masturbation brings glory to God. I decided I must abstain from it to the Lord giving thanks to God. I failed in abstaining yesterday… but for the first time in a long time I was broken enough that I was able to tell my friend about my struggle against masturbation. She assured me that she thought no less of me for what I had done and still loved me and accepted me. I have realized that I let masturbation be a secret because of another sin: Pride. I didn’t want anyone to know because it would ruin their opinions of me. If anyone reading this is struggling with the issue of masturbation… you might want to see if it is causing you to sin in other areas of your life, such as pride or idolatry. It was for me, and one of the worst things about my situation is how isolated I’ve felt from friends and family… because I wouldn’t tell anyone. I may never feel able to tell my parents…. but I don’t want to keep it to myself anymore. 8/11/08
LP in regard to masturbation, if you confess your sin, He is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you of all unrighteousness. Don’t condemn yourself for something God doesn’t even know about anymore! You probably need to have a talk with your boyfriends, how far you think is alright during dating before things get that heated again. Work on the spiritual compatibility,first; then the mental/emotional compatibility. Wait on the marriage vows to explore sexual compatibility.
If you read what “same old same old” wrote and what I wrote to Claire, I would suggest the same thing. The more you know about your sexual feelings before marriage, the more you’ll be able to share with your spouse. The more uninhibited and enjoyable will be your experiences together.
If any of you are struggling with masturbation, check out settingcaptivesfree.com It is truly a helpful website that helps people break free of the addiction. You can be set free through Jesus and his glory can transform you.
saludos a todos con relacion a todo esto que hablaron es muy cierto en mi caso yo me masturbo pero no con mucha frecuencia. y cuando me masturbo es para sastifacer ese deseo enorme que llevo dentro mi no pienso en mujer no pienso en nada solo en masturbarme
no se si estoy pegando contra Dios pero yo creo que en uno no pensando en mujeres o viceversa uno se puede masturbar porque habemos persona que usamos este medio para sastifacer la necesidad pero hay otro que lo usan para corromperse y caer en el pecado.
For those who feel guilty about masturbation: There is such a thing about fake guilt. satan can twist our emotions to bring us farther from God, so we feel hopeless and turn away from God even if we didn’t do anything wrong.
In regard to masturbation: There are so many unanswered questions and from the begining The evil one has twisted the truth starting with Eve who was not present at the time when God instructed Adam to his responsibilities to the rest of the creation. To make this simple it is like this: The evil one told Eve a twisted truth; You will be like God; “Knowing the difference from right and wrong”. The wrong: Masturbation; The right: Confess our sins; James 4:17. The wrong thing to do is to deny our sin, the right thing to do is to confess our sin. Knowing that confessing our sins brings forgiveness is knowing to do good.
As we can see here, masturbation is a hot topic among Christian Singles, even tho churches are in large part avoiding such issues.
I am a 22 years old male. I have not a girl friend. But I wish I had my first and last, i,e a wife. I am tempted by masturbation most of the time. Sometimes my sexual zeal and passion makes me crazy. I pray to live a life so much far from this but I can’t stay more than a month. Please give me your precious advice?
I am a 32 year old single male virgin who has had an off and on struggle with masturbation for many years now. When I was a teenager I would look at women in catalogs and magazines that my mom would keep in the bathroom and then rub myself through my underwear. Now at that time I didnt really understand what I was doing, other then it feeling good, because a subject like that was not mentioned in my Christian home or my strict Christian schooling. I stopped doing it for a long time after finding out what it was I was doing. (especially the lusting after the women part).
When I got into my 20s I would masturbate from time to time…but not that often because I wasnt sure if it was really a sin or not. But now I have really been wondering even more because the last year or two has been very difficult for me. Its like since I hit my early thirties my sex drive has jumped into overdrive and I have really had more of a need (and at times urge) to masturbate. At times I have had guilt for doing so and other times I have not, which has further complicated my thoughts on the issue. Plus the recent scientific studies by doctors that show that regular masturbation is a stress reducer (sexual, physical, and mental) and can help the prostate remain healthy and at less risk for prostate cancer.
Now I know that using lustful thoughts is wrong, but at times I have used them when masturbating, especially when I sex drive seems to be way out of control (which happens periodically) . But, believe it or not, I actually can masturbate without having lustful thoughts. In fact most of the times that I masturbate I have no lustful thoughts whatsoever, I focus solely on how Im doing it and the feeling it is giving me.
I also have a very good understanding of the Bible and I know that the Onan passage, which most bring up, was not about masturbation and that the Bible doesn’t specifically mention it. I also know that God has that someone special out there for me to spend the rest of my life, both sexual and otherwise, but I have yet to find her. In fact, Ive had a very difficult time finding any women…that aren’t already in a relationship…which further complicates my desires (both to be married and the sexual aspect it entails).
After reading this message, and people’s comments, and with my knowledge of the Bible and the scientific evidence, I am beginning to believe that as long as lust is taken out of the picture and you do not let the act of masturbation control you or your life then masturbation is not a sin.
I understand where you are coming from, i had the same view untill recently.. i actually had accidentally discovered i could.. orgasm by doing pull ups… and hey.. its not lust right? Well, it wasnt lust, but it was sexual sin, and after i realized it, i stopped.. but then i fell into masturbation.. still without lusting.. but let me tell you something… i have never felt so separated from God then when i masturbated… God didnt design us with our own pleasure in mind, he designed us to give our bodies to our spouses, and he never meant for us to enjoy sex.. with ourselves, that’s hedonism..
-thanks.. Greg
Hey everyone,
lol…. not a good start 
…. honestly life would be so much easier if God hadnt given us these feelings till after we were married… Sometimes i hate every part about me that wants to break my self control…. and unfortunatly it manages to break alot…. can somone please give me an awnser…. im sick and tired of having no way out of this…
Look im not trying to say one way or another, but im just fed up with my freaking issues about it…. i looked it up on the interent and everyone seems to be speaking 2 different things, Either “God gave us arms long enough” or ITS EVIL AND YOUR GOING TO HELL….. personally i feel very guilty about it after i do it… and im not perfect and im a 20 year old male who is a returning to christ backsliden chrstian who isnt a virgin anymore, and im on the road to recovery, its not easy to deal with matters like this…. i seriously just want help to know what to do…. people say its ok … however i dont believe it… and other people say its wrong… and to trust God completely… but its rediculas…. its a constant struggle… and i dont have much willpower…..
Elijah
To Elijah,
I’ve been reading The Game Plan by Joe Dallas that may offer some help. You might want to get your hands on it for some advice/guidance.
I’m Emmanuel, and am almost 30, I have taken time to read what everybody have written so far. Masturbation”
Masturbation can not be Over Ruled, Talking from its two view, the Biblical view and the Scientific View. It is True the Bible in Matthew 5:28 say’s anybody who look at a woman Lustfully have committed sex with her and is Guilty of Adultery, and that is a Sin. from my Idea, Masturbation is a Sin, because you most picture having sex with somebody while Masturbating, which is “Lustfully”.
Then, the Scientist have taken time to study the Effects of Masturbation, they have Argued , that is has no Side Effect, and it prevent you from Embarrassment. This Might be true but the Question is what view are you Interested to follow, but whatever view you follow, remember…..”If your Conscience did not condemn you, then you are not Condemned”.
I am also using this Opportunity to ask for friendship, I am deeply in need of a Christian Single Lady from Middle East Especially; Please if you are Interested, do write me through ezenwaohizu@yahoo.co.uk
Thanks
Emmanuel
First I would love to thank the Author of this great passage; You and what you’ve posted means alot. Bless your heart.
As a Christian, I would understand that masturbation is wrong, simply because it’s an act of sin. Prior to masturbation are sexual cravings which should be kept under subjection with the power and authority that God has given us over our minds and bodies.
As Christians, it is only foolish to perform and try to justify acts of sin. But rather let us strive to stay Kingdom minded, not so attatched to fleshly desires.
I love you all
we all are sinners and need to realize that this masterbation issue is all because of that serpent SATAN who disgust me . we need to call on the Lord every time we get these urges or get ocupied with some sporting activity like kicking a ball or playing basket ball, running around etc. THANK GOD FOR BEING IN MY LIFE THAT I CAN CONTROL MYSELF AND COME TO HIM WHEN I NEED HELP AND GUIDANCE IN TROUBLE TIMES. I’m 17 years old and i’m very much experienced in many ways exsept sexually. OUR GOD IS AN AWESOME GOD!
Love always,
Mc carson Bledman
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Christian friend
Hey what up, I’m 18 in college and just left home, now i do feel sexually tempted but i’m still a virgin, but on the rare occasions that I tried to masturbate, I always felt ashamed or guilty afterwards and I was raied in a christian home. I think therefore that it must be wrong and that everytime we do so we are defiling our bodies with lust and impurity. However this doesn’t stop us from wanting 2 do it
I have had a hard time trying to come to terms with this. Ihave come across websites where itsaid masturbation was wrong and others where masturbation was okay but it was interesting how none of them have said,” Masturbation is right! Feel free to do it,” as the authors of the articles themselves feel guilty if they were to claim it as being right to do…There are times when I have fallen into the habit of masturbation and other times when I haven’t had a thought on my mind in months. But since I have moved to away and am living alone I began to do it more frequently. I think masturbation is a sin, but I also believe that it is only a sin when self-gratification and lustful thoughts are in mind. I have sinned through masturbating plenty of times and I know God has forgiven me for each encounter. I can say I am getting better.
After reading the blogs I have noticed that through the years I have experienced most of what many of you have. I have masturbated because I lusted, I masturbated because I wanted to feel self graticifcation, and I have masturbated without either.
I started to masturbate at the age of 9-10. I am now 20 years old, single and female. I recall waking up in the middle fo the night feeling really warm and moist in my genital area, wanting to find some sort of satisfaction, yet, I didn’t know what. It was like a self-discovery. It was like this part of me that was feeling different than what I remembered and I did not know why. I thought there was something wrong at first but figured my body must have done this on its own and I hadn’t done anything to provoke this so I figured it was okay. I can remember feeling myself and experimented with the touching and how things felt. I recall even smiling at what I was feeling and progressed to orgasm. And from then I told myself that I was for my husband and only he was the person responsible for satisfying me in this way. And mind you I had not come across any information about marriage of leaving and cleaving, or I hadn’t even known about what God said the resposiblities for a man and woman were in marriage. Come to think of it, the pastor of my church had never, to this day, spoken on the man and woman’s role in marriage and what type of relations were implied. My parents nor siblings had spoken of such things. But I can say that I was raised in a Christian home.
I did this until almost high school when I found out that it may indeed be wrong. In my passport to purity class the topic of masturbation was not mentioned so I continued to wonder about the sin it may entail. But with my confusion I continued to do it. Feelings of guilt did rise and confusion continued to take its residence within me. I kept this a secret from everyone and still remain to. But I don’t believe I am the only one in my family to do so. I think it is just one thing that my parents believed it to be better left unsaid. I do think that it is a sin when done for selfish reasons which the majority of the reasons would be due to selfishness. I don’t believe I was being intentionally selfish when I first did it but a number of times after I would say I was being selfish. This is still a complicated subject in my mind. I still submit to masturbation when it is completely overwhelming to the piont where I lose sleep and focus. There are times when I masturbated so the I could simply carry on with my day.
I have prayed to God about it and He says that for me it would be best to obstain from it and I have done well so far this past week or so. I have been talking to God about how anxious I am to get married and have someone to give myself to. Having sex with my husband and giving to him what he needs is something I would like to prepare myself for. I have told God about this problem and what I am aiming for. I asked God to help me in preparing myself for MY marriage. In my case, masturbation is a sin. I am prone to becoming enraptured in it.
My Advice to yo would be to: Ask God what would be best for you to do. He’ll give you an aswer. If you would like me to pray for you in seeking an answer to this question I will be happy to.
Go with God and He will guide you. Let us keep one another in our prayers! I love you all and come to God with your goals and aspirations for a life partner. He’ll stir you in the right direction. Trust Him to.
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I too have struggled with masturbation for many years but it was only a year ago that I had lustful thoughts accompany the act. I feel certain that masturbation because of/during lustful thinking is a sin because in that way a person is taking and using the body of another that is not theirs.
But masturbation without lustful thoughts (I have done that repeatedly)? Even after reading all these responses (bless you all) and others I still am at an impasse: can masturbation be used to glorify God, extolling Him with the pleasures of this Temple He has given me and providing me with release? Or is it a singular, selfish act, a feeling that is only meant to be shared between a man and wife?
Human opinion will only serve to confuse me more, so I ask of anyone who reads this to please pray for me. Even if it is only once it will certainly help me. Thank you all.
Hey everyone!
Ive read the majority if everyone’s opinions and suggestions and I still cant find the answer I’m looking for… I’m a 20yr old female virgin, soon to be wed and struggling with lustful sexual feelings/appetites. I dont know what to feel anymore. My fiance and I have recently accepted the Lord as our savior again, reconciled, and before this we used to masturbate each other. We’ve struggled a lot and I have noticed that I’m the passionate one. I want to stop any feelings or desires. But this week has been so hard. And I don’t feel anything, that’s what worries me. Sometimes I feel guilty but then there are times (like now) that I honestly don’t feel that masturbation is a sin. When I used to rub myself I wouldn’t think of no one it would just be done to satisfy nothing else. I really want to worship the Lord with all my heart and soul but Its hard to ignore these feelings. I want to give myself completely to God and sing to him with liberty not with guilty thoughts. Sometimes I feel distant and other times I just feel numb. I dont know what to feel anymore and I dont know how to react and what to do because I cant keep on asking and waiting for God to keep on forgiving me for the same thing. Sometimes I believe one day God will tell me he wont forgive me anymore. I ask that whoever reads this to plz pray for me and hopefully December will come soon so I can be happily married and forget about all of this. GODD BLESS!