Sovereign Grace Singles
Did you know there is actually a “Sovereign Grace Singles” dating site for Christian singles? Oh, wait a minute, Sovereign Grace Singles (sovereigngracesingles.com) is not for all single Christians, but only for those who hold to a Reformed theological point of view. Sovereign Grace Singles even uses this Scripture from Amos 3:3 to back up their point of view: ‘Can two walk together except they be agreed?’ How outrageous, sad…and unbiblical! Check out this quote on the Sovereign Grace Singles chat room page:
“As Calvinists we worship, it seems, a different God, or at least, we have a much different God-concept. Have you ever become frustrated because it is hard to find someone Theologically/Philosophically like-minded?”
We Are All Sovereign Grace Singles
There is enough division in the world and hatred toward Christians, than to have Christian singles groups like Sovereign Grace Singles put up barriers against other single Christians like what I read on this site. Do Calvinists really worship a different God? Are other professing evangelical Christians so different as to be shunned as an unbeliever?
As a Reformed Christian myself, this is all news to me. The last time I checked my Bible being unequally yoked meant uniting with people who deny Jesus as Lord and Saviour. Jesus said they will know we are Christians by our love for each other. Can you imagine the impact if we actually practiced this?
Bible Verse of Day
~There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus~ Galations 3:28
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I don’t think Sovereign Grace Singles is trying in any way to say that dating/marrying someone who does not believed in Reformed Theology is a sin. But they are stating what I as a reformed Christian have found to be true, that dating someone that has a different view of God (i.e. a different theology) than I share is very frustrating. For those with no deep emotional/intellectual investment in theology these differences may be negligable — But for example, someone who is deeply comitted to the theological views of the Free Will Baptist Church would very poorly mesh with someone commited to Calvinist theology. Could we be great friends… sure… could we worship together… of course. Could we commit to marry and raise children teaching them diametrically opposing views of the Christian God - I think that would be hard. Almost as hard as trying to reconcile 2 different religions (althogh I am in no way implying either of these denominations are non-christian - just that they have very different views of God’s plan and actions) You are more than free to have your opinion. I mean no offence here, just hoping to explain where the other side is coming from.
Whitney
Whitney;
Thanks for your view of Sovereign Grace Singles. I am sorry to disagree with you, however. Is it our deep commitment to Calvinism or Arminianism that should bind believers together, or our love for Jesus Christ?
Whenever one is more deeply committed to a “theological point of view” rather than to Jesus, and allows this viewpoint to block fellowship with other believers, this in my opinion is cultic, divisive and sinful. Period.
David:
My dear brother, I think you failed to get Whitney’s point. She in no way stated that the different theological views would, as you said, “block fellowship with other believers.” Please read it carefully; she clearly affirmed that they would still be able to be “great friends” and “worship together” despite differing viewpoints.
This is clearly a very emotional issue for you, for in your opinion you stated that this commitment is “cultic, divisive and sinful.” We are called by Scripture to “examine all things” and be discerning. For someone to desire to marry someone (the ultimate goal of relationships) who shares their theological viewpoint is not putting theological viewpoints before Jesus, it is simply a desire to honor the Lord by marrying someone who would be able to peaceably walk alongside that person in holy agreement for the rest of their lives.
I would urge you not to trivialize the issue of God’s Sovereignty in salvation as a dispensable issue in order to accommodate for a convenient dating relationship.
Can a relationship between an Arminian and a Calvinist work? Yes, nothing is impossible for God. Is it wise to walk into such a relationship presumptuously expecting God to fix it in the future (or somehow hoping the issue will be completely ignored)? I wouldn’t want to tempt God. I would rather avoid the danger. Proverbs 27:12 “The prudent sees danger and avoids it, but the simple go on and suffer for it.”
In Christ’s love,
Nathaniel
Whitney,
No, it isn’t just a commitment to a deep school of thought. For example, what if someone told you they believed that Jesus never actually rose from the dead. There would be serious theological differences and I’m quite sure you would disagree.
As another simple example, suppose we look at politics. It is possible (although extremely difficult) for people with strong political affiliations to be married, especially if they like to talk about it. They may both be great Americans (similar to both being Christians) but the relationship is in danger. If someone came up with a “democrat dating site” would it upset you?
It’s the same thing here, Calvinists don’t consider others to not be Christians, I have some wonderful Arminian friends, but marriage, while not out of the question, would be extremely difficult. That’s why it’s great to have a site like sovereign grace singles.
I was getting to know this girl, and we both agreed that we wanted to pursue a relationship on a dating level. I made the mistake of bringing up the fact that I was a Calvinist, and that ended the relationship right there. Now I have nothing against Arminiests, as long as they have an open mind to verses that talk of God’s sovereingty in our salvation. However, this girl wanted to end our relationship after learning me views on this issue. Its not like we share different views about God that would prevent one of us from being saved. Any one else think its kind of peculiar that the Arminiest here is the closed minded one?