Anger at Being Single-Dealing with Anger in Relationships
December 16, 2006
Many single women and men walk around with a lot of anger because they are still single long past the time they thought they would be married. Does being single at this time in your life make you angry?
Target of Anger in Relationships
One target of a single person’s anger is directed at God Himself because He has not brought that one true love into their lives. Frustration, jealousy and discouragement cuts deep into them as their closest friends and colleagues (even the ones we thought would nver find anyone!….I know, what a wretched, ungodly thought!) have found their dating match and have gotten married.
Secondly, many Christian singles have unresolved anger against a previous dating relationship partner. Perhaps they were in an abusive relationship, or got dumped for reasons they never understood. This kind of anger has caused a festering of bitterness and cynicism in their hearts, which has only fostered more anger.
Finally, many singles, including Christian singles, have directed anger against themselves for their dating failures and apparent inability to find a marriage partner. Anger turned inward often results in depression, anxiety and a host of other physical ills.
Bible Verse of the Day
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Ephesians 4:26.27
If you are a Christian single today struggling with anger over being single, or at having a failed dating relationship, remember the following practical tips that could help you:
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Admit your anger, and understand the reasons why you are feeling this emotion. Admitting you are ticked off means recognising the emotional and physical signs of anger. This admission is the first step toward resolving the issue. Many Christians suppress anger and feel guilty when they experiencel this powerful emotion because they believe it to be sinful in and of itself. This is simply not the case according to the above verse.
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Restrain your anger by setting ground rules on it. Anger becomes a problem when it becomes uncontrollable. By not letting the sun go down on our anger, we are consciously taking control of our anger. This may mean honestly addressing the person we are angry at, and having a heart to heart talk about our feelings before things get out of hand. At other times restraining our anger may mean taking a long walk to blow off steam, or having a good prayer session.
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Understand the consequences of uncontrolled anger. The Scripture states that unbridled anger (rage really) results in giving the devil, your mortal enemy, a stronghold in your life. We see the results of this kind of anger all over the world today in places like Iraq, our respective workplaces and even our own homes. When we truly understand what is at stake when we allow anger to rule us, we will be more motivated to practice good anger management.
Are you a single Christian who has an anger problem?
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