Aging and Growing Old Being Single

Today is my birthday. Yippee! Actually, I can’t stand aging and growing older by yet another year, but it sure beats the alternative. I have spoken to a number of Christian singles (and there are many out there) who are also having, shall we say, a difficult time aging gracefully as well. Why did I feel a tinge of comfort as they spoke of their own issues with aging?

Coping with Aging and Growing Older

Basically what we have found is that you can graph singles attitudes about aging as a bell curve. The good news here is that majority of both extremes, twenty-something singles and senior singles, are handling aging okay. The former rarely give it thought, and the latter group of older singles (surprisingly in my view) have adjusted to the idea that the body “just ain’t what it used to be.”’ To these healthy singles “age is just a number.”

However, the group of single Christians who do have trouble with aging and growing old are the 30-somethings and 40-somethings. Many in this group, whether single females or single males, feel the stress of clock ticking off time. Bulging bellies, sagging pectorals and breasts and dating disappointments wreak havoc on the minds of plenty of these singles. Throw in the fear of remaining single forever and single parenting problems, and it’s no wonder that anxiety and depression plagues this group more than any other.

How to Deal with Aging Without Whining

I recently had a great conversation with an 80 year old Christian guy who helped me get an attitude adjustment on my views on aging. He gave three suggestions, that I’ll pass on to you. He promised me that if I was successful at doing this I would conquer my phobia about aging and growing old. Oh well, here they are:

• Take Jesus’ advice and live one day at a time…really…really…savor it as if it was your last on earth.
• Take your mind off you (oops, he had me here!) and serve others with a sincere heart fulfilling the command in Romans to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.
• Take God at His word as you wait on Him for your needs and future blessing

Hey, I feel better already. Are you a single Christian with something to share about aging?

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Sickness and Being Single

Dealing with sickness as a single person can be a scary and humbling experience. Married folks have their spouses to nurse them through sickness and hard times. However, many single Christians often have to rely on themselves or if they’re blessed, a few good friends from their Christian singles group.

Sick, Single and Alone?

Are you suffering alone with a sickness or disability today? Please let us know so we can pray for you. Remember, our Lord is the Great Physician, and nothing is too difficult for Him. Although our Jesus does not always physically heal us on earth, He always provides us His grace. Like St. Paul, another Christian single with a “thorn in the flesh”, we can trust His wonderful promise found in our Bible Verse of the Day:

-And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me-2 Corinthians 12:9

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Anger at Being Single-Dealing with Anger in Relationships

Many single women and men walk around with a lot of anger because they are still single long past the time they thought they would be married. Does being single at this time in your life make you angry?

Target of Anger in Relationships

One target of a single person’s anger is directed at God Himself because He has not brought that one true love into their lives. Frustration, jealousy and discouragement cuts deep into them as their closest friends and colleagues (even the ones we thought would nver find anyone!….I know, what a wretched, ungodly thought!) have found their dating match and have gotten married.

Secondly, many Christian singles have unresolved anger against a previous dating relationship partner. Perhaps they were in an abusive relationship, or got dumped for reasons they never understood. This kind of anger has caused a festering of bitterness and cynicism in their hearts, which has only fostered more anger.

Finally, many singles, including Christian singles, have directed anger against themselves for their dating failures and apparent inability to find a marriage partner. Anger turned inward often results in depression, anxiety and a host of other physical ills.

Bible Verse of the Day

In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Ephesians 4:26.27

If you are a Christian single today struggling with anger over being single, or at having a failed dating relationship, remember the following practical tips that could help you:

1. Admit your anger, and understand the reasons why you are feeling this emotion. Admitting you are ticked off means recognising the emotional and physical signs of anger. This admission is the first step toward resolving the issue. Many Christians suppress anger and feel guilty when they experiencel this powerful emotion because they believe it to be sinful in and of itself. This is simply not the case according to the above verse.

2. Restrain your anger by setting ground rules on it. Anger becomes a problem when it becomes uncontrollable. By not letting the sun go down on our anger, we are consciously taking control of our anger. This may mean honestly addressing the person we are angry at, and having a heart to heart talk about our feelings before things get out of hand. At other times restraining our anger may mean taking a long walk to blow off steam, or having a good prayer session.

3. Understand the consequences of uncontrolled anger. The Scripture states that unbridled anger (rage really) results in giving the devil, your mortal enemy, a stronghold in your life. We see the results of this kind of anger all over the world today in places like Iraq, our respective workplaces and even our own homes. When we truly understand what is at stake when we allow anger to rule us, we will be more motivated to practice good anger management.

Are you a single Christian who has an anger problem?

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