Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart

i had a relationship with a guy who was older than me 10 years gap. He cheated on me, we had one kid and I am raising her alone.and with my own support…

He got on his knees, and cried. He told me he loved me, and that he wanted to marry me. I’m tired and weak and sometimes feel like just dying. He just left me without saying good-bye. My heart is shattered into many pieces!!!!!!!!!!!

i was living with my boyfriend and all of a sudden , he said he sees me as a room mate so he can have relationships with other women. I am a Christian and I want to live holy in Gods sight, he just wants to live together and do whatever he wants. Please pray for me, that God will help me and change this situation, I love him a lot, but I love Jesus more. Brokenhearted and hurting in Houston, Texas

My boyfriend cheated on me. We were together for 1 year and 5 months. Now, i just knew that he had an affair with another girl when we’re 3 months in a relationship. the girl got pregnant and delivered her baby girl. I was betrayed and felt bad. I don’t know how to react I have mix emotions. i don’t know how to deal with this. This is the second time a man betrayed and fooled me. Don’t i deserve to be happy once and for all?

I’m a Christian and my is boyfriend is the son of a pastor. We have been together for 4 years but recently just this month he told me he got another girl pregnant, and I am hurting until now because he is my first bf and I thought he will be my last. What is the right thing for me to do? He said I am the one he really loves, and that he was just tempted. How can I forget him? Should I accept him again? I’m really confuse, please help. Do you think it’s better if I move on now?

My ex-fiance broke up with me and I found out just recently that after we broke up he slept with this girl whom I suspected before that he was cheating on me with but swears he stopped talking to after I found out about them talking and now got her pregnant. He still tells me I am his true love. Even calls me his wife. He says he never meant for this to happen and he was actually getting ready to move back with me when he found out this girl got pregnant. Now it feels that my world was crushed. I am devastated and very hurt. How do you deal with this??

((((Dear God, I Pray for Broken Hearts, To Be Healed. God I do not know how fix broken heart, But you do Jesus… In The Name Of jesus Christ I Pray. Amen)) Pray for a Revival. Please pray for my safety. Please pray for the USA. Please keep praying for my Families,Friends and Neighbors.

Please help me cause iI’m so broken hearted cause my girl friend and i broke up I love here so much, but iIdont know what to do please help me. Thanks. I hope God listens to my prayer.

Dear Kelly,
It is not easy to let things rest in God’s hands sometimes. In a book Experiencing the Depths of Jesus Christ I found something helpful for me. Jeanne Guyon, the author asks “If this were to be your lot for the rest of your life, what would you do?” Then she says, “Do this”. In another section of the book she says to “Accept the matter”. “Give yourself up to him as a sacrifice”. If you can do this, it helps make it easier to bear. Trust the Lord that he has your best interest at heart. He understands the “you” deep inside and knows what you need. Go to him in prayer and cry if you need to. I find that tears speak the words in my heart that I often can’t express. And I know he understands. Know that accepting this as If it were your lot for the rest of your life does not mean that it Will be that. I will pray for your acceptance of this, and for the ability to leave it in his hands. May God bless you in your surrendering.

I am 37 and have been unable to get over a relationship that ended almost a year ago. I’ve had lots of failed relationships before this one but I feel like the heartache from this one will never end. I’ve spent the last year trying to get closer to God and reading dozens of Christian books and praying about taking my desire for this person away but I don’t feel any closer to healing and the pain still hurts so bad I don’t know how to get over it and feel at peace. And I know Christ as my Lord and Savior so this makes me feel like I have no hope in Him. It took me 35 years to meet a man that I ever felt attracted to like that and love for and I fear I’ll never feel that way again. As I write this I feel like I must sound like a pathetic teenager and yet I can’t get past this as a grown woman. Please God help me.

My boyfriend of three years stopped loving me after I got very ill with pneumonia and I am broken hearted. I have been unemployed and unable to cope for 2 years now. I was beautiful, intelligent and precious. Now I am a wreck and my health is declining and I can’t cope…He said today that he didn’t love me. I can’t believe it he was my prince and angel! Virginia

is it wrong to pray to God for a 2nd chance with a person after you have split up

i have been dating my girlfriend for about 4 years and after we graduate i went to a different sch from her. about 8 months after i got into my new sch i found out that she had been seeing another guy. i never ever thought of that such things will happen though she got mentioned to me quite often that there is this guy and stuff they talk about, i never had suspect anything because i really trusted her completely. but after i found out that she cheated on me that was really a big big blow i don know what to do. that guy emailed me and said ‘since u love her so much i think u should know about this, i masturbated her and she did the same to me’ i m really shocked to know that. i qn her at first she said she didn even kiss him, but as it got longer i asked and asked and she said the most they got to was that guy touching her ‘there’ with a skirt on. though i still have that bit of trust on her but i keep dwell on the words of that guy. when i think of him masturbating her i really cant take it. i don know if its true. but we are still together. it really bothers me a lot. i put my prob to God but some how the imagine always flashes back to me during some part of the day and i will really feel very miserable. pls email me or reply me here.

It sounds like your fiance is gay. I mean bad enough that he cheated on you, but he did it with a guy. I understand if you want to forgive him because everyone makes mistakes…but are won’t you wonder in the future that he might not be into girls and is just using you. Common on he had sex with a guy get a clue you don’t belong in that relationship!!!!!

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 15 months. We broke up because my parents didn’t approve of and her family. Theres loads of other variables involved which I wont get into now, but what matters is that i wasn’t my choice. I was given the choice between staying with her and getting chucked out of my house and cutting all ties with my family or ending the relationship. I don’t know whether ill ever be able to tell her the reason why. It hurt so bad when i told her that I even fainted. We were sat out in the for nearly 3 hours sobbing in each others arms. My heart feels like its broken in two.

I just pray that God will be able to mend my broken heart and if its mean to be then its meant to be.

What does not kill us makes us stronger. Hang in there!

Dear Susan,
In regard to mending a broken heart, hope this doesn’t come across to you as a “pat answer”. Your letter about being broken hearted seems almost as if it could have come from me. For many years I prayed for someone to come into my life that I would be just right for, and they for me. I have gone through some things I honestly didn’t think I could live through. A couple of times I was past my ability to cope. Though this did make me stronger I sure could have done without all the stress. I was later led, repeatedly, to scripture verses and passages that made me to understand that God was going to send someone in my life, a man, and that he was the one I was to love. Never had I received anything even remotely like that before. So being about at my wits end, I sort of screamed/cried out to him. “Send him to me! Now!” (I was demanding by that time) By golly if he didn’t actually listen to me and give me what I asked for! I am still amazed. I cannot believe this relationship. Amazingly we had Both been praying for someone to come into our lives. Someone especially suited for us. There is a quality to our love that is beyond description and I am at a loss for words. In Song of Solomon there is a verse that I now understand more clearly. It’s 3:5 “I charge you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles, by the hinds of the field, not to stir my love, nor rouse it, until it please to awake.” It reminds me of an apple. If you pick and eat an apple when its unripe it is not at it’s best and in fact can be pretty awful in it’s tartness. But when you wait for it to fully ripen and have waited for so long for it… when you finally taste it you get the full effect. And it’s worth it, definitely worth it.
If it helps you, pour your heart out to God. I did, time after time. I couldn’t really do much else but pray and wait and work on waiting patiently. (I, like you, also prayed that, if I was meant to be single, he would take the desire away, or otherwise send me someone.)
I hope this is some help to you.

I need help with my broken heart and how to mend it. It has been about four months since my ex bf broke up with me. He broke my heart – but-I haven’t had a day go by when I haven’t thought of him. He can be such a cruel person, talking about girls he wants to be with and girls he has been with since me. I feel ill when I see him. I just wish I hadn’t fallen at all…. he has torn me down 🙁

But I really need to move on and get over this?

I need to pick up the pieces of my broken heart…

Somebody please help me with my brokenheart. Ive broken up multiple times. Thanks to this my heart is broken and aches and I feel like useless waste in this world. I do not know why but I can not seem to shake off the sadness, heartache pain and torment. Everyday I can only think about how I will be rejected again and again; I feel like there is no one out there for me… no one to love and be loved back…no girl who will want to have me for a bf… why? I dont understand, Im confused and alone please help me in this v_v Im slowly losing all hope in love and romance 🙁

Dear readers,

Its just a week he left me for a very valid reason. My guts keep telling me that he will change his mind, but the other part of me saying better to let go of him. God knows how much i deeply love him. We were so close until i cant face my days without him but i force myself to get rid of him. I busy myself, i meet alots of friend, i create hobbies, and i prayed alots until im not sure whether God is listening and feel the pain i gone through. im so weak i fall again. i feel like dying. im so empty…anyone please help me. im so helpless.

How to mend a broken heart? i met this guy..at first i tried myself not to fall for him. i knew he had a long time girlfriend for 7years but things keep going..we hanged out every week but it all ended one day when i found out that he still loves his girl friend in the other country…i was so hurt its like he just using me but he kept on telling me he’s not that kind of person. the pain is killing me..how did all of this happen..i’m so depressed…my heart is broken..i couldn’t even eat and sleep..i really had a hard time moving on..i used to talk to him every hour minutes but now no body i could lean on..im so lonely will you help me?? it hurt so much specially this my first..please help me with my brokenheart..i’m begging u all

to all broken hearted same as me…there is always a good reason behind all this things,let us move foreward to be a better person…continue to live..God is so good,He will not give us somthing we connot endure..live one at a time and lets us enjoy the pain..one we find ourselves happy and so inlove again…

My boyfriend of 4 years engaged me and cheated on me 2months into our engagament. I wanted to forgive him and let us continue. He told me we should move on. But I kept on reminding him of the hurt. He then decided to end the relationship without any reason. I am still hurt but would like to move on with my life.

Broken hearts are hard to deal with. Surrender your hurt and emotions to God and have faith that you’ll be fine. Continue to pray and keep busy in due you’ll feel better. This is my testiomy.

Hello–my heart was broken years ago, and more recently when I witnessed a friend’s heart break. I wish I could offer help, hope or healing. I grew up in an ultra-conservative religious setting and all I have ever prayed for is PEACE. Isn’t that what our Father offers, and freely? Why then has it illuded me for so long–and made it impossible for me to recommend Him to others? Why does he continue to treat me like a joke? Again, tonight, I will pray for healing for my friend, and peace and wisdom for me…

this is to all especially denise:

He heals the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds psalm 147:3
so trust in him and pour out your heart to him he is close to those with a contrite spirit.
As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us. psalm 103:12
you are forgiven once you asked and repented so forgive yourself he forgave you.

There’s no condemnation in Christ Romans 8:1
don’t let the past hold you from your future seek the lord and his love and it will be more than enough he loves you and knows every detail of you

Matthew 6:33 states,”But seek ye first the kingdom of God,and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
let him be the man in your life and once it is time he will give you what your heart desire. Have faith and don’t give up or impatient because it’s not right when you want it.

“A woman’s heart should be so close to God that a man has to seek God to find it.”

peace and blessings you are loved and worth much more to the lord than you’re current situations.

I was fell inlove with the guy whom I expected that he feel what I feel for him… then on the day that we had a revival, he told me that, we will be stay as friend only.. huhu, it really hurt, oh my God help me..

Hey, so, this isn’t about my breakup… No, I’m with my boyfriend and it’s more like he can’t heal his own heart no matter what.

My boyfriend’s last relationship was 13 months (he ended it about 7 months ago), and his ex-girlfriend cheated on him about 3 times, and now he’s convinced he’s worthless and what really tears me apart (and he knows it hurts me more than it hurts him) is that he cuts because of her and what she did to him.

I don’t know how to help him, besides praying for him and doing what I can to make him happy… Any ideas on what I can do to help him?

rosie,

I wish i can tell you things will get better,but they want for a guy to do this while you are pregnant means he does not love. I know how it feels I’m in the same boat as you and trust me it does not get any better. I hope your situation works out better than mines

Hi Alexis,

I can’t help but to comment after reading your heartfelt post. I’m so sorry you have gone through so much! I truly hope and pray you are in a better place today. And I hope it brings you comfort to know we all go through hardships in our Christian lives. Ultimately God uses these things to perfect us, and teach us. In Psalm 34 it says, “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him from them all!” If you get a second, please read all of this chapter! It will absolutely bless you!

As single ladies, we are in a unique dilemma. It is comforting to know that God’s love for us is better than anything. But we still hope and pray that a true gentleman will come our way whom we can begin a relationship with. It makes me feel not so alone to consider the hardships of others. Some are having financial difficulty, or health problems. Others have trouble with their children, their spouses, ex spouses, depression, addictions; the list goes on and on. We all encounter disappointments in life. But I believe that all can find through difficulty the blessed hope which is in the Lord Jesus. One of my favorite Scriptures says, “I count all things loss, compared to the excellency of knowing Christ.” When this Scripture becomes real in one’s life, other things simply cease to matter as much.

Alexis, I am SO glad you have good friends. In addition to this, I hope you are finding time to look into the Scriptures, have prayer time, and listen to several of the wonderful preachers we are so blessed to have on this earth with us, such as Joel Osteen, and Joyce Meyers. Please feel free to email me sometime. I am on staff with the church that hosts this site, and will soon have my own email. In the mean time, you are in my thoughts and prayers. We are in this together my sister.

Cadyb

Everyone who has left a message on this site should pray for one another as well as all of the other broken hearted people in the world. This epidemic is the cause of most situational depression. If left unattended it could lead to a serious chemical imbalance due to continued feelings of despondancy. Supporting each other at this time is critical. No one should have to bear this burden alone. try to think of ways to lift each others spirits. Use humor and love to reverse the feelings of sadness. Let this be a healing rather than hurting experience. “This too shall pass” and you’ll wonder how you ever got through it. But the Good News is that you will get through it. No matter what you feel like or what the situation looks like, KNOW that you will recover. This will make you a better person and lover of yourself and your new special perso in your life. i know you would never want to make anyone feel the way you’ve felt. So respond ot life in a very positive and happy manner. Love and Peace will prevail always

I was with my bf for 3 years. 5 months ago he broke up with me. He told me I’ll never make him happy. The Sunday befor the paster told us you find happiness in God alone. We haven’t talked in 5 months. I see him everyday of my life. I know this man loves me. We have had so many problems because of drugs. I know he left me to drink and get high. He lost so much weight I think he is back on coke too. This man was a youth paster. I can’t believe he picked that dark life over me. I don’t know if I should break the silence by telling him I love him and am praying for him or let him go? I just don’t want this for his life!

I’m going through a heart break right now that really hurts because the relationship ended abruptly, without an explanation and if anything, just a series of mixed messages. The thing that’s really hard to shake off – and that makes me wonder if it gets easier or harder the more time passes – is that it really felt orchestrated by God – how we met, everything. I don’t claim that for every dating relationship I’ve been in. Actually, this is the first time I’ve thought this and felt what I’ve felt for this man. I now know that it was for a season because I think the guy’s freewill just didn’t choose what God seemed to set up for us, but the thing I’m wondering is….

the reason I had faith in the relationship’s future, or at least prayed the most I have and trusted God to proceed at the risk of getting hurt (knowing he would heal me),… is simply the fact that it seemed God was directing the way we got to know each other. I felt more secure in this because everytime I asked God for guidance, He would show me His hand in various situations for His glory. I don’t have faith in and sometimes really just want to avoid going on dating sites or going online period to meet men because it does not seem organic enough for me. I want to rely on God in the same way He led me to meet this man. It was worth the wait. I just was not expecting it to end so soon and the way it did. I know with God all things are possible and although I am not setting my heart to believe it, if it’s God’s will God can put 2 people back together… BUT…. I can’t put my faith in that right now…. so right now, I’m convinced to go back to just waiting again. Go back to just focusing on Him rather than meeting other guys because I just hate casual dating, think it’s a waste of time and money and feel a pit in my stomach when I think about it.

In the process of healing, do you all think this attitude is healthy or unhealthy?

I just wanted to share me experience. I was single for many years. I was very devoted to God. I keep praying for God to send me someone. I did have different chances. I was very firm that they had to serve & be a believer in God. I got weary & ended up marry a man that I knew when I was 15 years old. This man was a real charmer & very good to me at first, but that was not his true colors. His true colors we he had no morals, no character, & no integrity. He said that he grew up Catholic so thought that he would start going to church with me, but that never happen. This man put me through a lot of pain & suffering. He got into drugs & cheated by having extramarital affairs. He had women over when I was not there. He had many demons that he was fighting: Porn, drugs, alcohol, & very mentally/verbally abusive. He even burnt all my clothes. he has kicked me & our baby out numerous time so that he could have his freedom. Please wait on God to bring you the right person! I know the pain that comes from being lonely/single hurts, but the pain of going through a bad marriage & divorce is far more serve. It is very painful. I don’t believe in divorce but I can’t keep going through this heartache with a man that keeps cheating. Plus not to mention there are too many diseases out there. I have a son to raise now as a single mother.

Im a 35 year old single mom who has been praying for the right man to come along since before my son was born more than 12 years ago. In the last 12+ years I have been involved with one man, and that lasted for just under a year. That was 5 years ago. We broke up on my 30th birthday. A month later I lost my job, had to pull my son out of private school, sell my home and file for bankruptcy. when it rains it pours, doesnt it? I spent about 2 months laying in bed crying. I found another job, but was very unhappy. I felt that God was leading me back to college, so my son and I moved back into my parents home, I left my job and went back to school. Not long ago, I fell in love with a professor. Of course, I did not let him or anyone else know and have not seen him since my class with him ended in December. It is possible for me to end up in one of his classes again. I would really just like to move on and am seeking guidance and friendly support. I also have to wonder why we sometimes fall for the wrong person. It is so painful and I feel so stupid all the time. Im in love with him.

I prayed and fasted for about 5 years for my future husband. When he finally did arrive, our relationship did not even last 6 months. I would like to know if I prayed wrong, wasn’t he the one I had prayed for or did I miss God. I was so shattered that I stopped going to church and wandered off into the world where I met a man with whom I had a child. I am disillusioned with God, I am hurt to the deepest part of my soul. Why did God send him if he wasn’t the one for me? Is it possible to pray for someone who doesn’t even know that he has been chosen for you? How do I recover? How do I start to believe God again when he took away the desires of my heart?

I just broke of with my boyfriend of 3 months, the reason we broke up is that I asked him about the plans of our relationship and he said that he doesn’t want to get married nor commit himself. What was I supposed to do? hang in that relationship for the fear of been lonely? or hope that someday he’ll come around? I am still confused and I feel as if I rushed him or asked many questions in a short period of time…… I mean if he doesn’t want to commit himself in our relationship, what am I still doing in the relationship? I am not in a rush to get married but I need to feel that I am in a stable relationship, where I will feel safe and secured.

I was seeing someone, and I really cared for him. even though many things were against our relationship (family, and age factor), but he promised me things would work… and I gave it a go. Then he cheated on me… and even after blamed me for it… saying I should have walked out if I knew something might happen… and still after pretendned to be with me, while at the same time tryin to win this other girl over. Now… Im so angry after finding out, and I really want to destroy him for what he’s done… and I hate feeling this way… Its like after everything I tried and prayed for… he’s getting what he wants… and Im left with nothing. I dont know what to do anymore… cant pray.. because I dont know what to say anymore and I really dont feel like God is listening or cares about me. People will say I should be glad to have an abusive and cheating man out of my life… but… even though he switched off easily from me… I cared about him and it hurts that after everything, he does this…

I’m a 30year old woman, I am getting confused now. Do i have to consider being with a man who loves me with all his heart and soul(and waited for the last 12years) but i still don’t ? Its scares me to think I would never find a love like his or lose a friend like him.
we are long time friends since childhood and we had kept distance after i learned he was in love. we recently started meeting again and he’s still completely in love and extremely vulnerable. I have no idea what to do. I’m gonna break his heart again. Will it help him if i be with him for awhile?

Dear Christian Sister,

I can hear from your comments that you care deeply for this person and do not want to see him hurt. Love is something you have to feel in order to be in a relationship. Otherwise you are not being fair to either of you. It is very tempting for you to want to try to reutrn his feelings. He is obviously a dear friend, you enjoy spending time together and there isn’t much more appealing than a man who loves us with all his heart.

Even if you were with him for a while, it would be more upsetting for both of you when things didn’t work out. I know you must feel like this may be your only opportunity to have a man that is so devoted to you. God has a perfect plan for you. Try to have faith. If you do not have feelings for this man and it just doesn’t feel right, that may be the Holy Spirit trying to guide you. Spend some time along with God where you can really quite your heart and your soul. Ask him to reveal to you His will in this situation. Open your heart and He will pour Himself into it and you will know what is right,

God Bless, Jodi
Christian Singles Blog Moderator

The short of it is that my wife of 17 years woke me up last spring and said she wanted a divorce, that she needed to find her happiness. I have tried to work things out, Marrage retreats, Counseling, “us time”, and lots of prayer. She has moved out and I have filed for divorce. No fighting or anger. Saddness: yes. Confussion: big YES. I have the boys and everything else, she just wants to be “free”. If I did not have a good relation with Jesus and a great men’s group at my church this could easily be un-bareable. I hurt bad, like when my father passed away and when a friend and Team mate of mine was murdered. With God’s help I’ll make it and raise my boys well. I have to failure is not an option. She’s a good woman and I pray she finds what she needs.

Just looking for some sound advice here. I am currently on deployment and am really in need of some help out here! I’ve been staying in the word and have been steadfast in prayer. Well recently I was engaged to a very great gal and have broken up. We both met each other before I started going to church and gave my life to Christ. We were living together and indulging in our flesh. After some time I realized that what I was doing was wrong and to try and make things “ok” I asked her to marry me. We decided to get married this last June. In May just before I left for a one month out to sea period she called me and asked me to come see her. When I got to her house she said she was leaving and I watched her drive away in this truck with these two guys. Well when I got back from my underway I went home on leave for a couple weeks and my little sister passed away. To top it off I found out through a friend that my ex-fiancée was pregnant. Well July came around and I gave into temptation and started talking to her again. We decided to work things out and I was going to slowly let her back in. She ended up having a miscarriage a week before I left for deployment. She kept telling me that she wanted to work things out and that she’d be there for me when I got back from deployment and how we were going to fix things and everything was going to be peachy! Well six days out to sea her sister sends me an email describing how my fiancée moved out and moved back in with the guy she cheated on me with. So I have just been totally confused. I know I need to move on I’m not completely naive. I know that this is the Lord’s will and if it is His will for me to be married He will send me a Godly righteous woman who will push me to do more for the Lord and not hold me back. I just keep thinking about her and I have heard from some of her friends that she is doing drugs again and living her old lifestyle. I care about her even though I know in my heart I need to let it go and move on. I am wondering if I should even be praying for her. A part of me hopes that one day she’ll turn away from her sins and realize what she is doing but until then I know that I need to focus on the Lord. I am in so much hurt right now especially because I am stuck on this ship and I don’t have too many people to talk to about this. I keep giving it to the Lord but I still find myself with many thoughts about her and I have cut every tie to her. Even if I wanted to talk to her I couldn’t. Somebody that knows her got my email somehow and started emailing me. I don’t know if it’s the enemy trying to confuse me or not but I asked her to please leave me alone because I really don’t know what to do. Thank you for your time. Pray for me!

For the last 5 and a half years, I have dated a married man. We fell in deep love with one another; however, he stayed married. I didn’t think that he was with his wife sexually nor planning a future with her; but, over the years, he had done things like giving her the same gifts that he gave me, taking her places we went, etc. We worked together for a while and I invested a lot ($200K+) into his business and lost it all. We still stayed together. He lied to me a lot, more than I could describe in 100 pages. I felt this supernatural forgiveness for him each time. I thought we were soul mates for real.
He is just now starting his divorce even though he told me time and again he was doing it and even told me a month ago that it was done. He wants to marry me as soon as it is finalized. What is going on now is that I am so angry with him for all of this deceit and lies over all the years. One night, I prayed really sincerely that God would shove me hard in the direction I should go with this man. I specifically asked that God make the event so ironic that I would recognize it as from him. The ironic event happened.
Now the pain of all the years and of the loss of the relationship is overwhelming. He begs and begs to stay together. Says he’s more sorry than he imagined anyone can be. He says that my unforgiving heart is ruining us. I have asked him to go away for a while and let me heal and be good to me from afar. He won’t. He wants us to be together now but I’m just so upset about how everything has happened that I cannot just be an item with him again. On top of all that, my best friend of 10+ years just declared that he loves me and wants to marry me.
I pray that God will heal my broken heart and show me what to do. I’m so confused about what God is telling me to do even though every one around me says that God is obviously telling me to get away from the man and be with my best friend.
—Please pray for me. I’m a new Christian and if I am involved in some kind of spiritual warfare that is creating this unforgiveness or confusion, pray that I can handle it and do God’s will for me and my 2 girls.

Allison, I have been in your shoes! My heart ached when I read your story. You cannot turn back the clock, and you cannot undo your mistakes, but you CAN learn from them! And you ARE worthy to go to church and seek comfort and guidence in this scary and stressful time. You are still loved by God! Your actions have not changed that fact one bit. What your actions did was cause a consequence that is painful. As I write this, I am feeling my very own consequence, and it hurts. I stayed in a relationship with a non-believer for over four years, knowing full well that it wasn’t right. I had absolutely no peace. My relationship with him has recently ended, and I feel lonely, sad and guilty. I also know that I am doing the right thing by letting him go. You did the right thing by getting out of a toxic and abusive relationship. Although you feel disappointed in yourself, but all you can do from this point is move ahead and forgive yourself. Remember to seek out people in your life that will support you, and to avoid people that will just want to condemn you and judge you. You are your own worst judge, and you do not need any more negativity in your life. Embrace the grace that God has for you and move ahead into a new life. Take one day at a time. I know that it is scary, but remember that you are not alone. I myself was seeking solace in my own pain tonight, and when I ran across your post…I was reminded that there are many others out there that have their own hurts as well. God bless you Allison. I pray for health for you and your baby, and healing from the pain of a toxic relationship. -Renee’

I’ve been broken hearted for a year and 4 months, so far. Depression is taking over, i’m 20 years old with a 2 year old daughter. My daughter father and i been together for four years. Well he cheated on me with a women he barely knew and got her pregnant, and married her. All this happened within a year. Words can’t describe how hurt i was.
A year past and i’m still reliving everything that happened. The spirit of depression is knocking me down. My heart still is in pain. I want to get out of it but it follows. Its effecting me in many ways. I worry because i have a beautiful little girl i have to take care of. I know that the blood of Jesus heals all. Brothers and Sisters may you pray for me, pray that God may heal me and rescue me from this spirit of depression.
I Know he Will heal me, i know he”ll work on me.
Thank You and God Bless You All

My story is a little different. I dated my childhood sweetheart for over 3 years and got pregnant by accident. We got engaged and I was so excited to get married. I asked the Lord for his help, and if this was the man he wanted for me. He opened my eyes and helped me realize that something was off. I pleaded with my fiance, telling him about how i felt. It was then he admitted his addiction to drugs which has been going on throughout the whole relationship. For the safety of my child, myself and in obedience to God, i ended everything. Im left alone, pregnant and with a shattered heart. Can someone tell me something that will help make sense as to why all this is happening in my life?!?!

Smiling couldn’t hide the pain I feel inside my heart so I try to search for help.

I loved someone who doesn’t love me at all…. she cheated on me, damp me without saying the truth about her boyfriend and now she got pregnant……

I don’t know how to forgive her after all she done to me… I loved her before but now I hate her so much… Don’t know how to overcome this pain and heal this broken heart of mine….

Please help….

Gosh… i went through something bad recently… i ignored God’s warnings and relied on my own understanding… and now i have a broken heart… i met and fell for a guy who turned out to be shady and living with another woman… He always came up with excuses as to why i cannot go to his place… he also used me for money… he made himself seem poorer so that i would borrow him money ( i come from a rich family)… I recently found out that he is living with this woman in a posh neighborhood… the house probably belongs to this woman… but anyways…. After i found out he disapeared without so much as an explanation… i am still so angry at him and myself because at one point i suspected something was wrong but i kept on with the relationship because i wanted to believe his lies that he loved me and would marry me… why didn’t i listern to God’s warnings… i let the devil decieve me…. he lets you believe that you are in control and yet… he is ploting against you… my spirit was weak then…. but i am getting stronger…. i am crying to the lord each and every day…. i ask the holy spirit to take away the pain and anger and fill my heart with the peace of God…. let there be peace in my heart…. I have my good and bad days…. i’ve cut him out of my life as hard as it was because the weakness of my flesh still longs for his hugs…etc…. But i have faith that eventually i will overcome and that there is a good reason as to why god finally revealed to me his lie… i believe that God is setting me up for something very God… right now he is preparing the man of my life and all we have to do is meet! Amen..

Here goes….I met this guy at my church in 06/2004 at the time he was 20 and I was 24, his birthday was coming up the next month. He chased me for about a month before I knew that he was even chasing me. to get to the point we started dating, sexing, we were so in LOVE, so I thought we were. One day we were hanging out and he phone rang, I asked who it was because the phone kept ringing but he didnt answer. He said oh its nobody well the nobody turned out to be his ex girlfriend, I couldnt believe that he had decided to lie to me about something so small anywho we stayed together until Jan of the next year. He broke up wih me… I was straight up devasated. I was literally sick every time I thought about him or when I saw him at church I would cry, this break up and make up session has been going on since then. the first two years of the break up He had been dating other girls and even brought them to church. I like my church, the Pastors have been awsome in teaching me. I can honestly say that I have grown spiritually there but there is also a lot of hurt there from some members. Recently, this month he has just all of a sudden decided to shut me out, I havent heard from him in three weeks, I seen him at church but he wont return any of my calls or text. I have left out a lot do to time but how do I move on …………………………..

im a single mom with two kids and there’s one coming up. im in a deep pain right now because the father of my kids or my so called boyfriend left me with another woman, he cheated on me while im pregnant with our 2nd child. That really breaks my heart, i had love him so much and i have devoted my entire life with him. and I think he never love me in return despite of all the goodness that i’ve shown him. Right now, he tried to go back with us, but i’ve heard that he was still with this woman’ and i can’t really say that his sincere enough, im really confused, that until now i still cant over with this pain that he created. please help me, how to mend this broken heart.

Dear Sandra,

I can feel the agony in your heart just reading your words. Aside from your hurt it sounds like you are experiencing some spiritual warfare. The apostle Peter tells us clearly that the enemy prowls around us like a hungry lion. (1 Peter 5:8) The more you try to immerse yourself in God’s word he is spinning a web of lies around you. Lies are Satan’s stock in trade. He is the ‘fathers” every deception (John 8:44)

When we are in our suffering and deep in the pit. All Satan has to do is watch and cheer us on. When the enemy sees us reaching toward God and immersing ourselves in prayer he enters a state of panic. He starts feeding us lies, preying on our hurts and using everything he can to keep us deceived.

God works all things together for good, (Romans 8:28) although it may not yet be revealed to us. It is not wrong to want to know the greater purpose in our sufferings. It our faith in God’s plan for us as His children that keep us on His path. The enemy is going to take advantage of this and keep telling you “if you just knew why, you would be better. Don’t I deserve to know why I am feeling this pain? Why is God allowing this and not giving a reason for it? A loving God would surely provide relief”

You need to out on the armor of God in order to beat the enemy at his own game(Ephesians 6:11) Then you can tell the enemy to get behind you and watch out! (Matthew 16:23)

God wants you to be at peace and fill you up with all of His love and mercy. He is omnipotent, and the enemy is no match for His power. Rely on His strength when you are so clearly being attacked. Shame, guilt, and fear are all of Satan’s tools.

God Bless,

Jodi

My husband of 5 years just blind sided me one day… he said “I just don’t feel it for you anymore”. I had no warning signs.. we never argued- he was my partner and best friend. I was deeply in love and so happy in my marriage.. I really thought it was going to last forever. It took about two months before I caught him with a horrible person who called herself my “best friend”. It has been 14 months.. the divorce has been final for 5 months and I am still in horrible pain. I pray constiantly, went through “Divorce Care” (13 week christian divorce recovery), have tried everything to feel better, be better, move on… I just don’t know how to stop loving him, stop missing him. Even after he betrayed me and is still involved with her.. I am lost with out him. I fear no man will ever compare to the love and connection I felt with him. I’m almost 40 years old.. how did I get here? I am so alone and lonley…. I can hardly type through my tears.

I met the most wonderful guy in church, after some months he asked me to be his girlfriend. 2 years later he broke up with me. I was devastated, i felt into a deppresion for months. During that time we were still talking but fighting a lot. But we still love each other, or at least i thought. I time i got very bad and I got into his email, and i discover he was having a “relationship” wit my ex-bestfriend, the one who tried to separate us for a long time. I got shocked, I couldn’t believe it. Then i started to get my life back in order, slowly. We go to the same school now, and we have talk and we told each other that we were still in love, but we decided to pray first. He got no answer, and i got a yes. We discussed this and decided to do it again. I got a yes but to wait, he got no answer. Instead he ask my ex-bestfriend to be his girlfriend. This girl is 7 years older than him, he tells me that God told him that it was ok to have a relationship with her. And we dont know what to do, he is very confused. But thanks to this i’ve been changing tons of things in my life, i’ve been praying, reading the bible and depending more on God. But im thinking that maybe it wasn’t God, i mean i want this so bad, because im only very happy with him, he is a great guy and if we get back together i want to change things, but since i want this so bad, i’m thinking that my mind tricked me. It’s not that i dont have faith in God, but the enemy just wants to attack me in anyway it can. I’ve been praying and i got answers, but sometimes i just want to quit, and when i quit, something just brings me to the same thing. God knows that this is the most important thing in my life.

hi, I am a single mom of a beautiful 18-month old girl. I went through a devestating break up with her father and I notice that you all give referrals to christian support groups for single parents. Please refer me, I currently live in Birmingham, Al and yes I am in a good word church that teaches the uncompromising word of God but currently there isnt a support group for single parents there so if you all could refer me I would greatly appreciate it, thks

Hello, I am in a friendship with this guy I have been knowning for 5 years. We were college puppy lovers…now that I am in my Senior yr of school, I am ready for a real relationship with this guy, I really love him. I feel he do not feel the same way but we talk and see each other all the time. He states, “I’m not ready for a girlfriend right now”. Ok, something is clearly wrong with this picture because he say’s I’m the only girl he is talking with. He just moved in a apartment, ever since then he do not answer my phone call at night. I am thinking he is with another girl. Should I continue to talk with this guy even tho he isn’t ready for a relationship? I have thought about leaving this guy but I feel as if I am in Love with him and don’t know how to tell him that I want to leave. I have ask him several times he needs to change his ways. I also feel like he is not into me at times. I can’t even ask him questions with out him saying smart comments or blowing his breath. The worse thing is I can’t even ask him how his day went without him getting mad!!! We have been arguring for several months now…I ask hiim on day if we could just get alone for one day. Well, not much luck…
Some one please help me figure out what to do!!
I went to God and asked him to send me the right person. I think some times I need to let this guy go, so I can move on and maybe the right guy would come along. I am confused on what to do.

Hello everyone,
My name is Tammie and this is my first time here. I’ve read alot of the responses and I must say I have also been where you guys are and I’m still there as we speak. I lost the man I loved so Much……. My best friend to his ex- girlfriend because I was not heavy enough or light enough. At first I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. Then I remembered I had to go back. Back to JESUS that is. No one is ever going to love me the ways Jesus does. So you know what I did? I prayed my way through it and I’m still praying. I’m still hurt. But when you think of the goodness of Jesus and all he has to offer. It just makes the situation so much easier. Don’t get me wrong the first 2months or so was bad for me. I didn’t know if I was coming or going. I just had to take it one day at a time. Remember that God has something better in store for us. thats why we are going through. part of it anyway, But my advice to you is pray seek God first and have faith. Don’t waver in your faith. Know that you know that you know God will supply all our needs according to his riches and glory. Until next time BE BLESSED>>>>>>>>>

Im happy that i found out my bf cheated on me……… let me explain I had a brief relationship with a young man from church we dated i really thought he was the one, we talked everyday shared many things together we loved each other. one day he said he was going on a trip for three days, for some reason i felt somewhat uncomfortable with it but nonetheless he still went. The day he came back he didnt call me he returned from his trip, I called him and he sounded strange, not loving as before. The next day he said he was going through a rough time and didnt want to talk with anybody, confused i respected his decision i didnt texted or called him. I found out later that he met someone else on his trip and that they had a long distance relationship. When i found out about his cheating i felt angry hatred yup i felt everything i even wanted to smash his car but then i realized what am i doing? these feelings go againts my beliefs. Im goinng to compromise my christianity and values for someone that did me wrong and was not for me?? at that point i got to my knees and asked God to mend my broken heart and asked for forgiveness and to forgive him too. Up to this day the only thing i feel is happiness and gratefulness i thank God every moment i can for opening my eyes, i know finding out that you have been cheated is very sad and hard but just think for a moment, couldnt it be that it was Gods will for you to find out to make you realize that that person is “not the one”

my prayer goes out to all of you and hope you guys find a way to forgive 🙂 and find your true love but keep in mind that God is our only Real true love

i was with my boyfriend four years, i thought everything was perfect . i love him so much . we were planning to get married this march on our 5th year aniversary .i took a trip to california to visit my family becuause i moved to new york with him . while i was visiting he ended up cheating on me .. he said we would be able to work it out that we would be fine an dthat he loved me .. then when i got back to new york he changed his mind he asked me to move back to cali . he is now dating the woman he cheated on me with and honestly it breaks my heart .. this thanksgiving i found out he bought her a ring and she is saying they are engaged . even though he told me they werent i do not belive that .. and it kills me to think he is going to marry her … it hurts to know he is with her and not me.. i gave this guy everything …and i was dumb it was my mistake i never had a realationship with god . so im trying to grow one as i work on my broken heart . i just cant help but ask all the time why did this happen to me i love him so much .

I really like this post, it makes me remember how I once dealt with a broken heart from an old girlfriend that really hurt me.

It is always painful but I have found that along with all the fantastic points already mentioned in this article about getting over a broken heart, time is also a very good healer.

A pain is most painful when it is fresh but with time the pain subsides and becomes barerable.

So give yourself time to heal and deal with what has happened. Dont jump into another relationship on the rebound!

Gosh where do I start…. I have been married almost 6yrs. 6months ago I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd child. I would of been happier if I hadnt found out the week before my husband was having an affair. I took him back and he got saved. Everything was good for about a month then he started acting distant and I found out he was talking to this girl again. He ended it with her again and he felt relieved we did good for about another month. Then over a month ago he was really distant and he quit wanting to go to church with me. So I told him I had had enough. And thats all he wanted was for me to say ur free to go. He moved out and started having an affair with this girl. Now he has an appartment and seems very happy! But I am miserable. He is all I think about! I have had every set of emotions u can have. Ive begged, pleaded, been angry, been the perfect wife. Every thing those great books say to do. And nothing worked. I can not get a divorce until I have this baby. And my biggest fear is he will hand me divorce papers right after I deliver our baby. I wish I would of read James Dobson tough love in the beginning. Then things might be diffrent. I pray that God would forgive me for putting all my focus on my husband and not on Him. But I feel that I am failing God bc I cant quit obsessing about my husband.

I have just read many of your posts, Theresa’s letter above inspired me, and I find a lot of my stories in yours. I too feel ‘too old’ to start over. I recently lost my mother -only immediate remaining family member – and therefore lost the only true person who loved me. The day before we lost her brother and a week later we lost my cousin. Work has been hard and now after 16 years I have been laid off as of Dec. 16. The car is broken and mom’s house sale fell through and now it needs repairs I can’t afford. The man I was dating for the last 5 or so years has cheated on me several times, boldly and brazenly. He would leave me a voice mail on his way to work daily but one day it was very early. Come to find out he went to the airport and flew to Phoenix to spend a sex weekend with his ex-wife. I had heard him tell someone he loved them on the phone but assumed it was one of his children. Another time I had asked him to take me on a weekend trip for my birthday. He said he could not afford it. That weekend he said he needed to go away alone and ‘think’. I respected it. He took another woman to a posh hotel where I’d asked him to take me. Another time, he and I had booked a suite with my cousin and his daughter for a bowling convention. At the last minute he humiliated me at the bowling alley in front of everyone and took another woman. There are tons more stories. And one he spent a lot on flowers for all for ‘small’ just because stuff. I have yet to receive any. He’d get her birthday cards and things but not for me. I dont’ understand why I don’t deserve the same things. Each time I took him back. This last time we talked a lot and I laid out the rules. His friends were telling me how sorry he was and how depressed he was over losing me. I took him back one last time. Upon my mother’s illness and passing he was by my side and I could not have asked for a better man. That was March – September. he even took me on a beach vacation to help relax me. Lately he’s been different to me, getting home later and later, and sneaking around with his cell, I’ve noticed other things too. I have that ‘sixth sense’ and am most always correct. One night he said he was at his mother’s visiting his grandson, I drove there he was not there. I called said he was out talking to a friend. Come to find out he was on the phone 58 minutes to another man’s wife. I confronted him, he moved out. We have been timidly going out some and he took me to his Christmas party last night introducing me to all his co-workers and bosses. he dropped me off at home at 9pm said he was going home to his parent’s house as he had lots to do there for them and wanted to turn in early. Instead he drove two hours away and stayed in a hotel, not sure if alone or not. Simply put – he lied to me. We blew up at each other and are now broken up. I think he is simply mad he got caught. This is the last thing I needed here at Christmas when I have no one else. I am lonely and devastated. I have routinely asked God what have I done to deserve all this hurt and loss, whilst being ignored. It seems as though he kicks me just as I am about to get up again. Is there really an end to the pain? I have been betrayed by everyone I have been with, this time I thought it would be right for us. At a time when I need someone the most, God has taken yet my only other support from me. Why? People tell me God does these things to bring his children closer but it’s having the opposite affect on me. Any suggestions?

I love you, I am so sorry about that pain. It is so horrible to feel that kind of devaluation, but PLEASE KNOW: it is NOT you, it is him.

Get out of it, don’t go back. If he was a Christian, is this a Christian site? He would love you because of the love of Christ.

If you are a believer, don’t date or be in a relationship with an unbeliever. At least there is hope in a christian (in theory) although I’ve had my heart broken as well.

Dealing with one right now, but I would say this: better to not know, then to go through the torture of catching him all the time.

Life is short and there are so many lonely people out there, single is a freak show

that is my opinion.

Wow… so many people with broken hearts. I pray God will find ways to help us all heal. I pray for freedom from thoughts of my lost love… it’s been a month and a half and I still think about him constantly. I try not to. I want to let go. I need to let go. I don’t know how or what to do. It still hurts so much and I miss him. Please Lord, see me and all these people through this pain. I beg you, Lord… give us freedom from this hurting. Please stop the tears. Please stop the thoughts. Please move me forward. Please give me these gifts of healing… and please give them to all these people with broken hearts. Please set us free.

Robert,

I too had a relationship with someone with deep rooted Christianity. I was not a believer but respected and yearned to learn with and from him through religion. We were both seperated and it happened unexpectedly. It was a whirlwind romance that went from infatuation to the discussion of marriage within a few short weeks. He talked about how proud he would have me as his wife someday. I could see my life with him so clearly and in everything he did and said I know at the time he felt the same. We made plans, we spent time with eachothers children. He told me that he never knew he could be so happy, and when he would tell me he loved me and needed me I could hear it in his voice. Then one day the pastor from the church where he and his estranged wife used to attend contacted him. Everything changed. He withdrew in every way. He said it was impossible to see our life as being “right” under God. Within days he came back to me saying he couldn’t see his life without me. He said he considered us being celebet until marriage but also couldn’t see himself not wanting to be intimate with me so he was struggling with that. I understood and vowed to be patient while he delt with his struggle. Within another week he decided he needed to obey God by returning to his wife and ask for forgivness. Through being rightous under God he would be able to find fulfillment and happiness with his wife. All fo this pained me greatly, I have never felt so lost, lonely, or sad in my entire life. How could it be in a matter of days that his entire attitude towards me changed. I started to read what the bible had to say about adultery (because eventhough he was seperated, he was still married) and divorce. I still struggle with sadness and I honestly keep myself open for him needlessly because I know he will never return, but I haven’t been able to completely let go. But in my thirst for understanding and knowledge I have come closer to having a relationship with God myself. It’s a catch 22 I think, I’m angry about his strong religious convictions because they took him away from me, yet I have gained some peace. I know if he didn’t follow God’s word so closely then we would still be together, but I can’t dwell on that, but it does make me warry of becoming involved with another strong Christian again, especially one who’s previously been married!!!! My advice is to gain knowledge through seeking Christ yourself and you will gain some comfort and releif from your sadness.

getting myself broken-hearted over and over again is cruel to my well-being as well as for my self-esteem. I’ve tried to find love, and every time, it ended up that the other person would just wants me as their friend…it hurts when you have truly love the person and all they want is friendship….i can handle friendship with them but to see them happy with the other person….i’d rather not see it, i’d rather not get close to any one of them….i know that i’m supposed to be happy for them….but i just can’t at this moment…i can’t…i’m considering giving up hope in finding soulmates…i know there is one, but i just can’t go through all the drama of fixing and picking up pieces of my heart everytime the relationship couldn’t work out.

um its been a month since me and my ex-boyfriend brokeup i didnt see it comin. we were together for a year and a half. i find it really hard to let him go. i still love and care about him and i miss him like crazy. right now im goin threw so many emotions and i dont kno how to deal im really lost and confused. i prayed about it but eeryday is still hard

I too need yours prayers. I got myself into a very complicated relationship with a man that I gave my heart to. There were signs in our relationship from the very beginning that made me feel like I could not completely trust him such as him having women coming over very late to his apartment and him having keys to his estranged wife’s house, and him susposedly going to spend every weekend at his daughter’s home. We both are Christians and we studied the Bible together. He introduced me hiking and other adventerous outings that I never dreamed of doing. He was good to my children. I allowed myself to fall in love with him. I gave all myself to this relationship. He eventually gave up the other women he was seeing and the I learn to accept him leaving every weekend but I could never find real peace in our relationship. 1 month ago he broke it off with me. He told me that because of our Bible studies; him and his wife reconcilled and since then he has become cold toward me. I have tried several times to contact him. He wants nothing to do with me. I am so heartbroken. I’m fasting and praying and asking the Lord to forgive me and to remove the desire of wanting to be with him from my heart. My emotions are seriously out of control. I want to ride by his apartment to see if he has someone else over. I am 44 yrs. old and this man is 49. Only once before have I been hurt this deep is when I was 24. I regret ever getting involved because the signs was there and I delibertly when against my convictions. I knew this day would eventually come but I allowed this to happen to myself which makes it even harder for me to cope with. Please that the Lord will forgive me for my hurting Him. I am so tired of crying and being sad. I have never kept a stable relationship. I have been married 3 times. My first husband was emotionally and physically abusive ( my oldest children witnessed me being beat often). My second husband almost killed me: stabbed me 5 times and my son who was 16 at the time ( he was trying to protect me). Third husband was alcholic and he tried to get back with his exwife. So you see, once again I have failed at a relationship. I keep asking myself what is wrong with me. I feel worse than the woman at the well that Jesus spoke with in the Bible.

Hey Evon, I really feel for where you are at right now. I identify with what you have been through as there are many similarities to my sad situation too. A friend told me in the midst of my heart break that although it felt then like I would never get over it, I would. She herself was evidence of that. She was right. I am working through the healing process. Decisions that I made which helped me to get through were: Delve into the Word of God (the Psalms and Proverbs really came alive and God ministered to me powerfully through them), to confide in true close christian friends who could comfort me and give me wise advice (not just want gossip or had loose lips), seek the regular help of a professional christian therapist, and allow myself to grieve – as long as it took. There is no rulebook. Sometimes we do wonder where God is in all this – but He is surely there. It is like the poem ‘Footprints in the Sand’ – its just that we don’t realize this until a lot later. You are suffering now with many levels of loss, but you would have suffered more were you in the relationship longer. God knows your shattered dreams and the desires of your heart. Let Him comfort and restore you. Praying for you!

I dont know how to begin. I m so broken hearted. I dated this man for almost 11years. and i feel that i invested so many years of my life for nothing. out of the 11 years that we were together he has another woman for 10 years. unitl this dated he is still with her and still want to continue seeing me. Im not sure if i love him anymore but is so hard to break up with him. im only 34yrs and i feel that i have wasted so many years of my life. I feel so lonely. why i can not be happy. why i can not find hapiness. the sad thing is that he tell me that what we have will get to no where but why is so hard for me to move on.. i need help serious help. this relationship is killing me inside, it get me depressed from one min to the other. Please God help me. I dont pray i dont know how to……my heart is broken into pieces….

I just wanted to share a happy story to the mix. I posted earlier of my situation, and it got worse, however prayer does work. I have often prayed that that the truth will come out to everyone, to my ex BF, as well as to his friends and family he badmouthed me to, as it bothered me what they might think of me. I also asked that in the process of all that truth revealing that some good might come of it all and that my ex BF be blessed with a conscience, some remorse and regret and thereby hopefully effecting a change within him. God picked up my cross and fought my battle for me. The ex BF came to my home, apologized to me in tears, said that he FINALLY understood what all he has put me through, mental abuse and the hurt from cheating and all that.

To everyone out there that’s confused and has felt heartbroken, first you all must know that God knew that this would happen, and that even though our natural response as humans is to point the finger and blame everyone else involved, including God you have to also understand that we have a part to play in this as well I fell in love at he young age of 15 and have been syllabut ever since, find you refuge in God not in your self because when we do things on our own we will fail and also study Gods word because the things we think we know so well are often the things that we do ourselves. For example when I was 15 I dated a non Christian was cheated on several times And I refused to let her go and I had the walls torn down on everyone involved. Throw all of that together and what do we have a re enactment of sampson. So pray, study, and let God be your strength. Give him the relationship he deserves, and he will help and love you in ways you’ve never known possible

it is so painful to hear that people are hurting. when you look at God’s plan for marriage and what we go through, there is a tendency of wanting to give up. l want to encourage people to be ask God to help them to forgive. The moment we forgive our spouses and our exs and begin to pray for them we find that it is a whole lot easier to heal. please evryone one let us know we remain precious in God’s eyes nomatter what we go through

My 1st girlfriend (of 16 months) broke up with me on Valentine’s Day through a text message. We had quite a few fights but most of them were centered around God. She is part of a very radical and judgmental church that condemns and tells people they are going to hell. I never agreed with that mentality. I always have believed that God loves us and is never angry with us, he is just disappointed.

But during the relationship, we messed up and had sex. She became very attached to me as I was already very attached to her. We prayed on the phone every night and we had already picked out kids names and honeymoon spots and everything.

On Valentine’s Day she was at Mardi Gras with her church street preaching. She said that she truly repented when she was there and that God told her I wasn’t meant for her and that dating is wrong.

Then she posted a testimony that basically said that I was the main reason she was “going through the motions”. It hurts so much because I tried so hard during the relationship to show her true love. No I wasn’t perfect, but I did my best! I was faithful and never once tried to leave her, which I can’t say the same about her.

But through all of this, I still love her so much. I miss my best friend and all our memories. But whenever I try to talk to her she either ignores me or tells me I need Jesus. I pray for her, that she will figure out how God really wants us to live, but it seems so unlikely that she’s gonna realize it. She’s grown up in this lifestyle and her parents don’t really give her much freedom. I always felt like they didn’t like me because I wouldn’t join the church and was very against it. But we always worked things out, I love her so much. What do I do? Valentine’s Day was over a month ago and last Valentine’s Day was the last time we had sex (I promised her we wouldn’t again until we were married and we didn’t, it was up to a year exactly), but the fact that it’s been a month and half and things are getting worse is maddening.

Plus, I can’t stop texting her and she said she was gonna get a restraining order. I’m not threatening her or anything, normally I just tell her I love her or I remember a memory so I tell her. But today I found out some things in her past that may or may not be true sexually and it hurts me so much. She denied it, and she was offended that I believed it…but how am I suppose to trust she isn’t lying? Everything she ever said to me was a lie 🙁

I am a forty year old mother of 5 children.. four at home.. who is going through separation of a 19 year marriage.. I believed and prayed for my husband for many many years.. we have had troubles all the way through but I stuck at it.. Now he has gone and it is devastating to say the least.. I am slowly healing.. very slowly but so much want to have hope for my future.. I thought and prayed it would be with the one man.. I can see now that I am losing myself by trying to hold on to someone who does not want me… I just pray for the future that GOD has for me.. I have dreamed of a happy relationship for a long time.. Perhaps one day that will happen.. just need to let go of the past and heal..

My girlfriend of 10 years began cheating on me with another woman last year, yet continued to tell me she wanted me in her life. Then skip ahed to this year, she married her girlfriend in March, and it has been the most devastating pain I have ever experienced, nothing has ever compared. What makes it so much harder is she keeps telling me she loves me and always will and doesn’t want me to disappear and needs me in her life, and misses me, etc. I’ve asked her to stop saying that, because it kills me, just kills me. She begs me not to move away, but I told her I can’t be friends, it’s too much for me to take to know she chose someone else over me after loving her so passionately, and I still do love her. I feel shame for yelling at her when I found this out, and I don’t want bad things to happen to her. This whole thing is a big secret because she doesn’t want her family to know and she says she isn’t gay & doesn’t know what’s going on with her. I just know how much it hurts me.

im so broken hearted my husband left me about 2 and a half weeks ago i love him with all my heart and soul if he would just call me and talk about it with me maybe we can work this out

There was this boy whom i had a crush on since 7th grade.I iused to like him so much that i write him love letters and everything. Then during the summer before 8th grade i decided to forget about him, it wasnt ment to be. But then when we got back to school in 8th grade he started liking me so i liked him back, he got me hooked. So now i guess he’s been playing this game with me and to make a long story short. He broke my heart numerouse numbers of times and it even got to the point where in eleven grade he made this rumor up about me and spread it around school. So now he’s in a new relationship and i don’t know what to do. Yet God has revealed to me he isn’t the one…What to do.?

My girlfriend and I just broke up. It was mutual but not because we lost feelings or love for each other. A few months back she moved temporarily to another state. This was only supposed to be a month but she got a full time job offer for a career that she is passionate about and she took it. I myself am very passionate about what I do for a living and I understood why she took it. I am very proud of her but ultimately our lives are too crazy right now to be together. Plus, the 1,000 mile distance doesn’t make it any easier. She is supposed to return to where I am in a year, being that her job position was only offered for that amount of time. My only hope is that when she returns, God will see fit to reunite us. We are great together when we are both in the same state and can actually see each other often. I have no idea why this had to happen or what God is doing in my life or hers but I’ve got to trust Him. It’s the hardest thing a Christian can do. I love her very much and it is really breaking my heart right now to be without her in my life. If anyone out there cares, please pray for me and her. Thanks and God bless!

i have been through so much with this one man that I love so much. I have been with him since i was 16 years old and i am now 27. We have been together on and off and i did have other relationships in between but I always went back to him even though he cheated, lied and betrayed me several times in all these years. He has a drug addiction to meth and that has been the core of all the problems all these years. when he is sober we have the best times together but eventually he back slides and I am there to pick up all the pieces again. We started going to church regurlarly together for the past 7 years. We become involved and as soon as God makes a breakthrough with him he falls again. I have backslid twice in all these years because of becoming lonely and seeking support from the wrong people. I prayed while I was living on my own with our daughter before we got back together this last time … he seemed to have made a turn for the better and then a fellow member of our church who is also his boss started taking him out to bars when he himself had a wife and 2 kids at home. i became resentful. I really wanted to get married this year like we planned but the fights began late january and shortly there after I found pictures of other women on his phone. I left him and now he is back on drugs. His brother recently emailed me to let me know that he is worried about him and he IS on drugs again. I am hurt and dont know how to recover. I love my church but i felt like i had to leave because his boss and his boss’ family are members and I didn’t want them to see me going through all this mess. i did blame him for a while but not anymore. I know it was all my ex and influence or not he is a grown man and makes his own choices. I want to go back but I feel ashamed. I feel like a fool to think my ex was going to be diffferent this time around. i don’t know what to do. Were do I go from here?…. my daughter has been what has kept me going … I know God loves me and wants the best for me and maybe he wasn’t it but I feel bondage to this man. I don’t know if I will ever love someone else again. he is my first everything. I want him to sober up and become the man I know he can be. i don’t want to be with him anymore. Im way to scared now to ever try again. i still love him but why? Please pray for me and my situation. I will keep all of you in my prayers…

i broke up with my ex almost a year ago…and now he has moved on with one of his best friend. And the best part is that all of us are in the same cell group. I just don’t know how to face them, in cell n church. i know i should forgive n move on myself, but every time i thought i’ve moved on, i will end up crying again. i know my experience may not be so bad…but i think all broken hearts feels the same…painful, no matter how it was broken.

Hey Cookie and Jerry…hang in there.

I don’t have an answer for either one of you, but it has been several months since my situation has passed and I am at peace.

After the initial shock, and several months of crying, I just had to let go. I was living in the past. God gave us the gift of life, so why waste it?

I have since learned how to forgive, and I don’t know what the future holds, but I had to stop living with the guilt and pain of what I could have done.

Jesus forgives us, so we have to forgive ourselves and remain faithful servants to Him. God is with you both. NEVER LEAVE JESUS.

i need prayers. please. i can’t imagine He wants to hear about my broken heart. it is entirely my own fault. please someone ask Him to heal me.

Hello All,
I don’t know if this correct for me to write here I’ve never have done this but I didn’t know what or how to cope this. I not sure if I’m making myself a fool out of myself writing on the page. It’s hard to explain when someone decide to make a quite after almost seven years. Yes we had our issues but he has an awful angry that I’m don’t know why or to understand it. We had been off again relationship once again that has been unstable since the beginning, which was almost years ago. Even though I only had my heart and eyes for him, I am truly faithful to us and respect our relationship all this long years I know him. He has never moved on and had any other special person in his life. I accepted his life style and his job of being very stressful all I wanted to help him out but he wouldn’t let me. I know his job takes a lot of his time, but I tell him also need to appreciated to people that love him and that he has around him because at the end that all we have, to take every moment of life because as a blink of eyes you can lose it. He walked out on me so many times! We exchange words about why our relationship didn’t work out. But I always need to reach to him since you won’t ever communicated or exchanges much and leave things hanging, undone or finish. But his actions caused me to blow up at times. But what’s heartbreaking about is that he promised me this last time around that you would never walk out on me again and that you would stick by my side and we would get through anything because you wanted to spend the a better happy life with me and you wasn’t willing to lose me again. He let me down and gave up on us. Why feel the need to walk out on me again and not want to fix this. Isn’t fed up? If so, why does keep coming in and out of my life and back for more? Obviously he’s unhappy. Why does he feel you can come and go as you please? I am trying to take an advice to forgive him. I am trying to tell myself that he gave his best and now it’s time to move on. But I can’t seem to do that because I don’t feel like he gave it all his best. I love him dearly … But all of those years together may mean different things to me, than to him probably. The more personal, the more intimate things are, the deeper the pain, the deeper the argument. Relationships with more feeling mean arguments which hurt more. If you understand me, and are in my shoes, you would be in extraordinary pain, but you would also understand that there is hope. Hope is what you make of it, hope is not individual. I do not believe a lot of good from what I describe, but I do believe you should not give up hope. You place your hope in one person, and that one of them should be us. As I look more into it I’ve keep having faith he would change to a better man for me… Having less angry I don’t know why always talk to me on the worst and still I had some faith he will do well, that what my love I had for him. I only did was to love him more and want to share everything with him and I never had enough of us. I thought love is suppose be that way. I admired him and spoke well highly to family and friends and can say proud to say I was involved in a relationship with him. They ask why love this guy? He just a family guy who doesn’t have a lazy bones when it come to hard working. He just makes my heart sing, that I’m happy. We have struggles but we still standing strong.” But this all worthless to him now… His eyes and ear didn’t let him see that. He says it’s not the end of the world when we split but to me gosh it almost feels like my little world is split. When I frighten this far, cried, restless days, loved, talk endless calls with him to keep us and have an image of what kind of future we could have if we both put our two senses and love I just smile. Opened my eyes and saw us there, what a great feeling. I got many unknowns questions?? Why did he let me love him this far and now decide you’re done not just with the relationship but with me? Was my love I had for him was it so wrong? How do you know when the love you first shared is no longer burning deep within for him? I mean do you just figure it out, does it just hit you one day or does it take some sort of event to slap you in the face before you realize it? And if you do know, how do you just walk away? Can you tell me please? I want a relationship, I know what I want. I think he the opposite, since not nearly mature enough mentally to deal with because only cause him angry, negative attitude and walks way without dealing with it not bothering to know what you have cause or will cause to others. He has a person who thinks the world of him and decides to reject all they have for him. “They say he doesn’t love me enough, people don’t take many breaks from an individual relationship specially a one that only have a few quality times be with each other and let go like that.” Not sure why did he let me believe that he did love me all this time as often I ask him. He’s being a coward towards me off not facing me. Nothing makes sense I feel more like he just can’t commit and have responsibility as a relationship partner in my opinions. Or he just doesn’t love and these ways say no more I looking for another new person. How can all this memory, years we know each other close that book like nothing was written on it. Wish I didn’t have feeling not feel the hurting part and to be simply and erase. Is this a something I should say I need to let go or keeping fighting? Or isn’t his angry doesn’t let him think clear, how do I know it’s fair for my heart to wait or hope he change is mind. I’m very lost and emotionally hurt. Neither I’m not ready to end it but, I know were both hurting and neither knows how to stop the pain or fix a disagreement from blowing out of control. I feel hurtful while we are in bad terms but I’m cant suffer anymore it feels my heart is constantly ripped out too. We were such a on and off couple I know we look like the biggest failures and I don’t want it to end like that. He made this decision on his own. He acting like he doesnt care and the less he knows about me the better he is. Feels like I failed again! I gave it all I did my part to tell that he’s is the love of life and I stood by on the good and worst time and he just gave up on us. I did want I could do get give us a chance… but when the other doesn’t want no more what can I do. It is going to be very gray days for me… Loneliness will fall on me at time but I got to figure out to save myself out of that. Please send prayers my way…

Thank you all for taking time to read my story and any suggestions are welcome.

hey all, i dont know how to begin this or what to do so here we go. I am a freshman in college and had been dating my girlfriend the summer leading up to this semester. Within two weeks of arriving in college, my girlfriend broke it off. It totally blindsided me and i honestly had no idea it was coming. I feel pathetic considering that we were only together for a few months, but that doesn’t stop the pain. She was my first girlfriend so i shared alot of my firsts with her. She owns my first kiss, which i had previously planned to hold onto for my wife. There is not a minute that goes by that i dont think of her. I go to bed, wake up, and spend my entire day thinking of her. I feel like i am in a nightmare that i cant seem to get out of. I really like her and wanted to pursue our relationship in college. She possesses all of the attributes that i would want in my wife and wanted to see how far we could go. I know that there are “other fish in the pond” but all the clishes that people say dont help. All i wish is that i can be back together with her, but i know that God is ultimately in control of those things. I constantly think how she is probably with other guys and the pain that causes is so intense that i want to throw up. I just need some help and encouragement to get me through this awful time in my short life so far.

Hi guys I truly believe that God has led me to this website, reading some of the stories here made me feel that I’m not alone. I’ve broke up with my ex one year and five months ago, yet the pain is still the same as if we just broke up yesterday. I still care and deeply love him. I was with him for four years, he was my first love, the only guy I’ve ever been with. We both accepted Christ but I guess you can say I was more mature spiritually. The time we were together was the happiest times of my life, I honestly thought he was the one. We both went to church together, we attended youth together, we were both active in church. But then we also were sinning, and both fell into temptation. Just like many of you guys story, there were times that we stop what we were doing, but then we always end up falling into the trap, and this went on all through out our relationship. Then one day, at the toughest times of my life, where everything was going wrong, where I needed him the most, he decided to leave me, his excuse was he wanted me to go back to God, that that was the only way he could think of that we both can stop was if we broke up. I was extremely hurt by that, I felt that he abounded me, he gave up on us, I wanted to work it out, my pastor even offer to counsel us, but he refused. So that whole time, I felt that he just used that as an excuse, as an escape goat, because he didn’t want to tell me that he fell out of love for me. He said he wanted us to stay friends, but that didn’t work out b/c how can u be friends with someone u don’t see as a friend? So, I decided to stop trying to communicate with him. We haven’t talked for 5 months now, and just recently I emailed him apologizing for how I reacted to the whole break up. It doesn’t seem like I was all that important to him, b/c he just left me, I was extremely hurt and until now is still hurting b/c i felt so unappreciated by him when I gave him my best during those four years. Now I think he is happy with someone else, he is happy with his life with out me, completely move on, with new friends and I’m here stuck, still hurting, still trying to forget him. I asked God so many times to take the pain away, to remove the love for him, but it just doesn’t seem to go away. Pls pray for me that I will one day receive the complete healing and my heart will be restore once again.

It’s 2:12 am and I am up reading your site for advice on mending my broken heart. I was dating a pastor for about 4 1/2 months. He said he was pursuing me for marriage and our relationship was fulfilling mentally, emotionally, spiritually etc. I had never met anyone like him and fell in love with him. Near the end of the 4 1/2 months, I broke off the relationship because I found out about another woman. He denied his interest initially and said his visits to relationship with her was only tied to his ministering at her church. Later he admitted that he was pursuing us both. I broke it off immediately, but spoke to him a month later when he criticized my involvment in the singles ministry and a fast I decided to take. It hurt me that he was in the ministry and so critical of my walk. I felt wounded but assured that I had made the right decision to end the relationship and block all contact. Today, was the heartbreaker, I found out that just 3 weeks shy of our disconnect, he is now married to the female pastor and has moved in to live with her. He has also been installed as the head pastor of her church. It’s disturbing that people can lie and cheat and just move on with their lives as if you never existed. I know my identity in Christ and how much I am loved but I have to say my flesh is hurting…my heart is broken and I want to put up a wall as high as the sky to make sure this never happens again…I was kind and good to this man and he betrayed me, and worse feels absolutely no remorse…God please heal my heart and mind…any advise or words of encouragement are appreciated…I am struggling tonight and my heart is heavy

We were “together” for almsot 2 years. In my whole life no guy had ever liked me, but he was crazy enough too. We really wanted to date but we couldnt because his parents wouldnt let us, he wasnt alowed to date untill junior year and we had liked each other and wanted to date freshman and sophomore year, i fell in love with him. and so the summer comming into our sophmore year we were great and everything and at our church camp he met this girl and started hanging out with her alot. after camp he told me he realized God wasnt calling him to pursue a relationship with me. and that he didnt feel God in our relationship. he then stoped liking me. and said because he knew God wasnt in this that it made our relationship be for wrong intentions and knowing that it wasnt hard to leave. he then started really liking this other girl hed barley known for a week and after junior year started and he was alowed to date he started dating her. and she was one of my good freinds too. i and hurting so much and have a broken heart and i dont know what to do,

Hey, I posted on here a couple months ago about a girl who was 18 and going into college and gave up on me mostly because of that reason (i’m 21, and gonna graduate in a year). I first want to say thank you so much for the prayers. We only dated 2 months, but for some reason i was in love with her from the day we started dating (i never told her, i was wanting to give it a lot more time so I wouldn’t freak her out). I should also state that I don’t date much, I just wait patiently for the next girl who will take my mind off the last, that’s when I know shes a good one. I’m sort of against rebounds, it usually ends up hurting someone else. I told you about how she kept a lot of the relationship alive in terms of texting, talking, sitting together at church, and she even wanted to hang out. She obviously wanted me in her life, and I wasn’t stupid enough to think I could get her back. We eventually went out for pizza together when she told me about another guy she was interested in as if it was just regular conversation (she didn’t end up with this guy). That hurt, although I said nothing at first. I talked to a female friend of mine who was very encouraging and told me I was too good to be dragged along like that. I then talked to my 39 year old, married with 5 children sister who told me that my ex really wanted my presence, just not my intimacy, and both said that I needed to tell her how I felt, and that my ex would respect that and things would get better. I did just that, I wrote my ex a letter explaining how much I still cared for her, missed her, and liked her, but I also told her how talking about other guys around me hurt me, and how I was incredibly confused on the status of our relationship and it hurts. After a week of no communication, she finally texted me wanting to meet up and talk. I expected her to tell me that we shouldn’t speak anymore, and I was obviously (knowing it was unrealistic and not expecting it) hoping she would somehow take me back. The first thing she told me was that she thought i was so great but she just didn’t have those feelings for me and there were tears in her eyes. I proceeded to ask her her real reasons for breaking up with me and she basically told me I was too good for her and I deserved better, and that my age and maturity was disheartening to her because she felt I have experienced so much more than her as if college is actually this wonderfully liberating time of life. I proceeded to tell her that as honestly as I could that she was the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met just to get it off my chest and she then said I was the nicest person she’s ever met and that I was adorable. We then just laughed and talked till I dropped her back off at her dorm. Essentially nothing happened during the talk, she basically said she loved my friendship even though she knows I could never see her just that way even though I love her friendship too. 2 weeks later i saw on facebook she had a new boyfriend, and a few weeks have passed since then and it is killing me to think about. She hasn’t been to church at all since we talked, and she was telling me how her college friends really don’t go to church because they party pretty late on Saturdays. Not only is thinking about her new guy really hurting, I’m also starting to think college life is keeping her from her God life, and I really care about her and want her to improve in her faith. She goes to one of those tiny colleges with a wet campus where everyone is greek & all they do is drink and party and i know she is very involved in it, even though I know it’s empty, because I have been around it for 3 and 1/2 years, and even admittedly taken part a sometimes. I hate this, I met her on a mission trip and things were just incredible, and we basically committed ourselves to trying our best to make it a work about a month into our relationship. My letter and honesty has only lead to more hurt for me, and she seems to be having the time of her life with a new good looking guy. Why can’t I be happy she is happy? I read 1 Corinthians 13 everyday to remind me of what love is, and not be be jealous and be patient. I pray daily for contentment, patience, a spouse, to get over her and also for my ex’s safety. I love her so much and have a desire to protect and care for her, but at the same time I want nothing more than to be over her so I can find someone new. She was my first girlfriend in 3 years, and even after treating her great, it still blew up in my face. I hate everything so far that has become of this. I promise I do put all my hope in Jesus, but I am having the hardest time getting over this girl. I’ve never had to totally cut off communication with someone I cared so much about, but I feel like that is naturally what is happening (we have talked briefly twice since our talk). I know I will see her again, and I don’t know what to do when I do. I need prayers bad. I hate losing this relationship, she was so amazing, please pray that I will keep my hope in Jesus, an not in our now almost non-existent relationship. It takes me so long to get over girls, I don’t know why I am this way. It hurts, and I feel like it holds me back.

I’m sorry I ramble so much.

I just wanted to come back again to say thanks for anyone who has prayed for me. I last posted in Aug 09 and was three months pregnant and had just escaped from a toxic relationship abroad. My heart has a lot more peace, time has helped and God has started the healing process. My beautiful baby daughter is 9 months old and is the absolute love of my life. I can’t say that my heart is 100% healed yet and for sure life as a single mother is hard, but I can say that God has got me in His hand and He is giving me the strength that I need. He will do the same for you. I still haven’t been able to show my face back at church, but I’m still praying about it and asking God to help me to face those Christians that I knew before. They will be shocked to see me now as a single mother and some may judge, who knows, but I ask for the strength to face it nevertheless. God bless everyone who is hurting and I pray that you will see the light at the end of your tunnel very soon.

I’ve had a very troubled year, when I 16 I met a guy, before this I had no experience what so ever with any guy and this guy made me feel special and I was niave he told me everything I wanted to hear, I fell for everything he said we met through a mutual friends friend, at the time I had a low confidence and with his influence we had sex not long after he told me he never cared he just wanted that from me I felt foolish and became very saddened by this, I did not speak to guys for quite some time and made another bad choice and was put in a situation where I got rapped,I was heart broken…I found Christ through this process took me time. And yrs passed and found a Godly man who prayed with me and he helped me heal my heart, then somehow it ended things changed and he didn’t feel the same way he once did.I was devasated.It took me a while but I eventualy believed to be over him.As I grew I met a few Guys on the way and no one ever topped him of how I felt the joy when I was with him.I then talked to a guy of a different faith went on a wrong path and felt like I lost God.I ended up seeing another guy and during the time my mom became ill and passed the guy was not supportive and became very mean during that time I found out my first love the one who brought me joy at one point I discovered he was married another devestation…I am now alone and thinking of all the losts that have broken my heart that it hurts so much I cannot sleep what can I do to mend this brokenness I pray and pray to overcome the loss of a mother,the need to accept the past and move on what can I do?

Good morning:
It is with saddness that I make this post. This morning I found out that my friend was cheating on me. I gave this man my heart, my love, and all of me only to be betrayed. My heart is aching and I feel numb. I have had so many bad relationships and I really tought he was different. Please pray for my strength and that I can move on with my pride and dignity….

Hello.i went into a relationship with a man that claimed he was Christian.He played the ‘Christian’ life style so well i didnt have a reason to suspect he wasn’t one.He was subtly possessive and manipulative.I truly loved him and prayed a lot for us.5 months into the relationship,i discovered he had multiple girl freinds and was sleeping with a lot of them.He was not saved at all and was engaging in a lot of ungodly acts.He was my very first love and it really broke my heart to find out that i’d fallen in love with a wolf in sheep’s clothing…Will i ever trust another man? I pray that God will heal my broken heart.

Hi Adam.

I feel your pain. Sometimes one has to ask if the so called reward in finding that special someone is worth the risk and aggravation. I don’t see how it is.

my husband left me after 26 years for a younger woman 36 I pray against that jazabelle spirit and comand all soul ties to leave it takes a long time to heal a broken heart but oly god can do this i want my marriage healed and eva ack to mexico where she belongs amen

Well for me I just got out of a relationship where the girl I thought was my girlfriend actually had a boyfriend before she met me and to add the icing on the cake she was engaged to him…now this girl pushed for her and I to have a relationship and things were going along fine till we had a huge argument on V’tines day and I mentioned to her that I felt something was up that she wasn’t telling me, I was right, when she told me I was distraught….she allowed me to develop feelings for her & encouraged me to invest into this relationship over 4 months when she knew that it may not last, I mean I even told her I had gotten out of a relationship earlier in the year where I was hurt and I found it ridiculous that knowing that she still proceeded to set me up to be hurt, added also she claimed to be a victim of cheating in a previous relationship, so I am lost, if she knew all that why make a move at me? insist on meeting my family, being almost like a big sister to my brother amongst other things and then drop the bomb-shell…..”I am engaged to someone else”.

Now her fiance visited my country(both he and her are from another country-he works overseas, she studies in my country) and I guess that also prompted her to tell me and now it seems they either are getting back together/ have gotten back together. I know I should be happy that they have been given a 2nd chance to mend their relationship but I felt I came out worse-off in the end seeing that I was dragged into this situation innocently and now I am left to deal with the mess she created for me….added to the fact that she has restricted/removed all communication with me, I am left feeling hurt/angry and disgusted….I said I forgive her and she apologized, but to be quite honest I still feel that I want her to pay for the pain she caused for me, I mean the damage is done and I felt that ‘sorry’ came a bit too late…I pray every day for strength and courage to soldier on through this pain and focus on my studies(at University) but sometimes it comes back like a stab in my heart….*sigh*

I have had several relationships with Men, but none seem to work out. Sometimes I feel that I rush and dont wait on God to give me the right person. I recently tried online dating and met a wonderful Man, with whom we have broken up with, Iam so heartbroken, I regret having started the relationship, but am praying that God will bring the right person.

Please, someone, anyone, please God heal my broken heart. I am crying out to God for healing (crying)….I have been in a relationship for 6yrs with a person that has taken my life on a rollercoaster ride from hell. From the time I met them, there were lies told to me by them. I have been lied too so much in the 6yrs we have been together it is rediculous. I have been walked out on by them 6 times while we have been together. I have been cheated on while we have been together. I stayed with them for 6yrs through all the deception, betrayl, the lies, the manipualtion, the cheating. I stayed with this person through thick and thin. One day this month…i decided to stand up for my self and not accept another heartbreak when my mate decided to tell me they have accepted a job out of towm, and they would be gone 4 days and back for 3. I could not accept another lie, another heartbreak, cheating…so I told my mate to “get out”…. 2 days later they left. My heart is devestated because I STAYED for all the previous hurt they dealt my life for 6 yrs. I decided to stand up for myself and to no longer be a doormat, and they walkout on me again???????

I stayed true to this person like no other, and they turn their back on me….AGAIN!??? PLEASE HELP ME GOD. My heart litteraly is shattered into a million pieces…… I want to die!

I’m hurting right now to. But as I read these hurts and pains of our hearts I am reminded how all too often we place OUR wants and desires ahead of our love and desire for God. Seemingly, many of us have forgotten what God has asked us to do. (Deuteronomy 6:4-5 and Leviticus 19:18).
And you shall love the Lord your God:

with all your heart,
with all your soul,
with all you mind,
with all your strength, …
and … love your neighbor as yourself.

I will be honest with you. I was placing my relationship ahead of the Lord. I was placing my needs ahead of the Lord, I even can say I wasn’t very obedient as a child of God during my relationship. If we LOVE God as HE asks us to as well love others as HE asks us to, that means to do so as JESUS loves others. If someone is not respecting and loving you as Jesus would. You have to step out of a relationship and allow yourself to heal from the destructiveness and lack of love. God desires the best for each of our hearts. He wants you to see Him in your relationships. If you begin to see the deterioration of the relationship you have with God while in a relationship. You must rethink the motives for the relationship you have with the other person. Both pair of eyes must be set on HIM in order for a growing loving and respectful relationship to flourish. Otherwise, even just one little hint of sin can poison the start of something that could have been wonderful. That is how the enemy will enter Christians hearts and destroy Christian relationships. Sigh…friends… guard your hearts, repents of your sinful ways, give it to God and let Him know all that’s happening in your heart right now. Do not allow your feelings to get the best of you. Understand one thing. GOD has plans for you, “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'” – Jeremiah 29:11
BELIEVE and APPLY God’s word to your hearts.
The Healing will begin. IF YOU ALLOW IT.

I am engaged to an alcoholic man I am not in love with. I had a brief fling with another man who was also engaged. She cheated on him many times and he was such a nice guy and he was so amazing in bed. He broke up with her for awhile, but then got back with her because he was afraid to leave behind the good memories and he wanted to try and love her like he use to. Plus he has been raising her kid as his and wanted to give it one last shot for the child. It has been very hard for me because it was love at first sight for me. I never believed in it until it happened. Obviously it wasn’t that way for him. I feel like a fool. I cry myself to sleep I miss him, I want to talk to him, but I can’t because she will find out and I don’t want to look like a crazy person.

I will eventually leave my fiance, we don’t even sleep in the same room anymore, plus I know he has been cheating on me too. I’m just waiting for my pain to subside before I enter into another stressful situation, leaving him and breaking the news to our families, moving out. I want to move far far away where I’ll never see the guy I love again. I’ve never felt like this about any of my ex’s. WTF is wrong with me? I knew him for all of 2 months and most of that was just spent talking on the phone. I feel so stupid, and pathetic… but the pain won’t go away.

Me and my girlfriend was really happy together, we went out if we had the money and stayed in and enjoyed each others company if money was tight. We have both been in really bad relationships in the past whichc made it hard for both of us to open up to each other and trust each other as a couple fearing things will happen all over again from what we have experienced in the past. We was goin so well we went on holiday together, planned to live together, get married and have children. I loved her so much I couldn’t go a day without telling her how much I love her. Then for a week she had started becoming distant with me. She never replied to my text messages or even told me she loved me when I text her. She was showing the tell tale signs of cheating that I have experienced with previous girlfreinds but when I asked she said there was no one else. Then out the blue she ends it and couldn’t even give me an reason why. I am devastated and heartbroken. I feel like no matter who I meet it always ends the same way and feel like there is either something wrong with me or women just enjoy playing with people’s emotions. I feel completely lost and don’t know what to do anymore. I would give anything to have her back but deep down I know it will never happen and I don’t want to go through another year of being single and closed off from people again.

I’ve been married for a year and my husband filed for divorce – because of he has got this idea (from his family) that I’m after his money even though I haven’t asked him for anything during our marriage. We have two small children together. I’ve been going through a really hard time because my marriage and our lifes have been destroyed because of a lie. I really need God in my life and I’ve been praying etc and it just feels that I’m praying against the ceiling. How do you hear Gods voice??? Please if anyone has got advice or scripture to help me to pick up the pieces of my life and be strong again for myself and my children and to help me to move on – on the path that God has set out for us please help!!!! I just need to hear Gods voice, I need to know that He is there, I really need His peace and love in our life… Please help!!!!!

In regard to healing a broken heart. To those who have been hurt because there are relationship that came along in your life and in just a moment that relationship is over. Im also a single believer and a committed follower of Jesus. As ive learned from my walk with God, ive been also hurt but it never control me rather Ive learned to trust God. Especially if the person you like doesn’t like or your bf or gf leave. All I can is that God has a plan for you.

If you want to ask more of ideas and advice just email me
tim7servant@yahoo.com…

In regard to a broken heart, I was in a relationship for almost 7 years. We had two children together but never ended up getting married. He is.from Mexico and ended up getting deported 3 years ago in December. After his deportation I started drinking A LOT I neglected my children and needed a guy in my life I even got two duii’s. I knew the Lord, but I didn’t love Him. I was living life for me. Well about a year after He got deported this guy requested my friendship on myspace. I accepted and we talked almost everyday for 5 months until he came to Oregon to meet me. The day we met we never spent a day apart for almost a year and a half. I ended up having to spend some time in jail during our relationship due to the past years duii’s. He stayed with my children and while I was in jail I surrendered my life over to God. About 6 days after I got out of jail I was baptized. About 5 months later he was baptized. My relationship with God was getting very close I stopped being intimate with him and I told him that he needed to get his own place because it was not right that we lived together. He wasn’t taking it serious and we ended up commuting adultery once more after he finally got the point that I was serious with my relationship with God. I broke up with him and he finally got his own place and not a week later I found out I was pregnant. Not a week after that I found out he was with someone else intimately. I was crushed. We talked about making things right and getting married. It has been almost 7 months and the Lord has told me that he is just not the guy for me. It’s so hard because I love him so much, but I want to do the will of my Father. I’m so scared that I’m going to be alone because Satan puts lies into my mind that nobody is going to want a woman with three children, but I know that God will have someone for me who loves children and loves God just as much as I do. Being heartbroken while being pregnant is extremely hard, but God is my strength and He is giving me so much peace. His word is living and is wonderful medicine that works well with A LOT of prayer. I pray for the father of this child everyday that he will one day love the Lord with all his heart. I have forgiven him for all he has put me through and that alone has been a huge part in my healing. Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

Separated from the love of my life now for 4 months. Beyond broken. Anxiety and depression is a daily battle for me. I’ve been saved since 1996. We’ve been married since 1999. We had a lot of challenges many don’t face in their marriages…at least not all clumped together. Infertility for 8 years never resulting in a child. That was our biggest dream together. Wife has chronic disability and can’t work. Lost brother in plane accident. Lost Dad to early adult alzhemiers at 61. Job losses. Bankruptcy. Lost home. Affair lasting less than 5 minutes 2004, from me. Repented. Forgiven by God. Didn’t tell wife until I found out she was having an affair going on over 5 weeks in 2010. We both got busy on repairing out marriage and giving it to God for His glory. It was going better until this July when out of the blue she wanted me out of the house. She said she needed to be alone. There was no new betrayals. Completely caught me off guard. Our betrayals prior came from all the stresses in life we failed to bring before the cross the right way. I forgave my wife. We still have a huge love for each other. But I found out 2 weeks ago she has a new man in her life. Which brought me to a new low. She doesn’t know what to do. She doesn’t want to give her new interest up but also told me she doesn’t think of me as her husband anymore and isn’t divorcing me…yet. I believe in the power of the cross to redeem any marriage. I do not believe scripture support divorce even in adultry, UNLESS the person is not repentent. If the person repents, believers are supposed to allow the spouse back into the marriage. Its a reflection of faith in how God can redeem any relationship. I want my marriage. I have gone above and beyond what most spouses would do in attempting to redeem anothers heart. But my wife just continues to drift away. I am at a complete loss. My wife was everything to me. Everything. To say there is a gaping hole in my heart…my life is an understatement. As the separation continues the pain increases even as I bring it before the cross. Even as I do more self care. Wife has me in limbo. Feel free to share advice. Love to my brothers and sisters in christ.

I have lived with my partner for 9 years in which we’ve had 4 kids. The problem started when I was without a job and had to stay home to look after our first born daughter just after 3 years when we got together. When I was at home, my wife went for work and got herself flirting with a co-worker and never had the courage to tell me. I used to confront her about her lateness from work only to tell me that she was busy and had alot of things to complete. she kept silent about it. two years late she got pregnant and I only found out that the baby was not mine when the baby was born. when my wife was pregnant I found out about the relationships and confronted her. she admitted it. I forgived her at that time because we had kids in which she promised to stop and even to talk to that person. lately she has been going out late into the night and I was told that she was seen with her-ex again and he would call her and talk to her. we now have a nother baby son and because I have confronted her and with her still determined not tell me anything, she has moved out of our home and is living with her relatives. I take care of our first born daughter. She can’t about anything and keeps silent if I tell her that we need to talk and will keep silent and only listens to me even it takes an hour of me talking to her and begging her to speak her mind and admit the truth.

I am willing to move on with my life but I am worried that because we have kids that our separation will greatly impact their future and that someone coming intop her life will not take good care my children. that other partner of her is a great womaniser and had divorced 3 wives and is leaving with another wife now.

Can anyone help me out during this difficult times?

ok well i’m only 14 ok well my boyfriend is dating my bff now after we broke up for no reason he just said me and him needed to end the relationship since he loved someone else but it’s so hard for me bc i see him with my friend and i love him so much i know i’m just a kid but this is more then just kid love i mean i really really love him and still haven’t got over him for a long time and i just feel like crying when i see them together i’ve tried so hard to get him back even though i know if i truely loved him i would want him to be happy but i just want him back so bad.here is a quot i found “YOU KNOW YOUR IN LOVE IF HE MAKES YOU CRY AND YOU STILL WANT HIM, YOU KNOW YOUR IN LOVE IF HE IGNORES YOU BUT YOU STILL LOVE HIM, IF HE MOVES ON AND YOU TELL HIM YOUR HAPPY FOR HIM EVEN IF YOU JUST WANT TO CRY”

Women like to be deceivd by men who are chronic liars

Michael Cordima:

Your comment was from a year ago so I don’t know if this is too late of a response to post.

I would agree with you that there are too much sexual immorality in our church. But the basic needs of a woman that requires the attention and the emotional connection is just like a male’s need for sex. It’s built in and it prevents us from looking. If a man is married to his wife but she denies him sex, that is unfair because his needs are unfulfilled and when temptation comes it just makes him all the more weaker. In the same way, a girl is built-in to have that emotional connection. It’s not that we just want lying men. We need that attention, it is a built in need and no matter how hard we try, we subconsciously need it. Just like males with sex, its a built in need. Of course, it needs to be controlled and it needs to be exercised within boundaries so that it’s operating healthily – both the emotional needs for women and sexual needs for men (of course both gender has both needs but I am speaking of the major needs of their being.

I engaged my self in a relationship when I was 19 years with a man I thought he love for 2years and some months.On one faithful evening he sent a text to tell me that we are done.I was really wounded heartbroken and a two weeks he started going out with my best friend.its been a year now I feel as if it was yesterday always in pain whenever I see them together.What should I do to let go coz its hurting I need your help to is