BigChurch is a dating web site used by some single Christians, but it is not a Christian Dating Service or even a good one. In fact, Big Church is associated with Adult Friend Finder, one of the largest distributors of porn on the web today. Why then would Christians want to use BigChurch? BigChurch has a great media campaign that portrays itself as wholesome and Christian. Additionally, many Christians simply don’t realize who owns BigChurch.
The bottom line here: If you’re serious about your faith, our opinion is you would be better off checking out Christian Mingle 
or some of the more reputable sites listed below:
EHarmony
AmericanSingles
Christian Cafe
Christian Cupid
Yahoo Personals for Christian Singles
We reviewed BigChurch only because some believers have used it. Again we recommend another service like Christian Mingle. Therefore, here are some of the BigChurch particulars:
BigChurch allows guests to sign up for a Standard Free Membership which includes:
- The use of BigChurch Christian Chat Rooms
- Use of BigChurch Instant Messenger
- Being able to form a BigChurch prayer group
- Access to online BigChurch Bible Studies and Scripture sharing
- Finding a Christian Penpal
BigChurch Costs
If you decide you want to enhance your BigChurch search capability with additional features, the online matchmaker service offers a Premium Membership that includes:
- Exact “super searches” by keywords (like born-again, town, denomination, etc)
- Regular e-mail notifications when BigChurch locates a new match for you
- Unlimited e-mail, chat, and BigChurch’s new Video Introduction browsing and recording features
Before obtaining a BigChurch premium membership, you have to first get a Free Standard Membership. Here are the list costs of BigChurch:
BigChurch Silver:
$19.94 for 1 Month
$33.94 for 3 Months
$99.94 for 1 Year
BigChurch Gold:
$29.94 for 1 Month
$59.94 for 3 Months
$139.94 for 1 Year
BigChurch Kudos and Crowns
- Big Church has a large datatbase.
- The BigChurch features on the site are nifty
BigChurch Pitchforks
- It’s not an exclusive Christian dating service, and the company that owns BigChurch, also owns such sites as AdultFriend Finder, which has some unsavory things about it. It’s between you and the Lord whether you can live with this discrepancy. Some Christians can’t deal with BigChurch, others have no problem with it. Personally, I would have a problem using BigChurch.
If you have used the BigChurch dating site, please help other singles by making a comment or writing your own Big Church review.
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Other Free Trial Dating Sites Used by Christians in Addition to BigChurch:
EHarmony
PerfectMatch-PerferctMatch.com
Yahoo Personals
AmericanSingles
Christian Cafe
Christian Mingle
Christian Soulmates
Christian Cupid
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Writing your online dating profile is the first and most important step when using online Christian Dating Services. However, while almost all the top internet Christian matchmaking services offer free trial memberships where you can post an online dating profile, very few offer dating profile writing tips. The purpose of this article is to gve you some practical steps toward writing a successful dating profile.
Before beginning to write your dating profile, consider what your actual goals are. For most Christian singles, an online dating profile serves as a “resume” used not only to attract interested singles, but most importantly to attract the quality of person you desire in a soulmate.
Top Dating Profile Tips
Considering the following online dating profile tips when writing your own profile will help you find the dating relationship you are seeking.
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Start by being honest. Being honest when writing a dating profile means not exaggerating on topics like physical appearance, job or financial staus. As my one friend stated; “His profile stated he was 6′1″, but when we met it was more like meeting a Hobbit.” That’s funny but sad. The lesson here is that writing a truthful dating profile can save you time and embarrassment. Be yourself and remember that you are looking for the person who will accept you for who you are, not for what you think they want you to be.
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When describing yourself in your dating profile freely express your values and interests. This is your opportunity to separate yourself from other dating profiles by telling people not only what you like, but why you like what you do. For example, many profiles state that the person loves the beach, but most don’t expound on what they like about the beach. Writing your dating profile this way makes for much more interesting reading. and lets the reader see part of the real you.
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Write to your target audience. What do we mean by that? Write your dating profile as if you were addressing an actual person, that particular soul mate you have been praying about meeting. Writing this way will instill passion in your writing, and save time by weeding out those single people who you would have no interest in dating anyway.
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Practice using a sense of humor in your dating profile. Having a sense of humor breaks down barriers and lets those reading your dating profile sense that you are a real and fun person.
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Don’t make your dating profile too long, because that can be boring and tedious for a reader. They told me this in seminary, and we can apply this to a dating profile: Always leave them wanting more! Dating profile experts (yes, there are such things :)) suggest a profile no longer than 250 words. The breakdowen should as follows: 150 words should describe yourself; 100 words or so could describe the mate or spouse you are seeking.
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Use a nice photo of yourself in the dating profile. That usually means a close up with not much flesh revealed. Research shows that those folks who include a photo in their profile get 15 times the amount of readers than those who choose not to use them. A couple words of caution here. Do I need to remind you to make it a recent photo? Did you know pics with sunglasses are not cool, but make people think you are hiding something? Okay, I’m done preaching.
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Finally, make sure you use a spell checker (I should talk). By using a text editor you can also cut and paste your profile on different sites, saving lots of time and hassle in case you want to modify it.
If you are single, please consider helping others by leaving to leave your comments on writing a dating profile.
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Dear Christian singles, my beloved sisters and brothers in Jesus, here at Christian Dating Service PLUS!, we want to take time to thank you for being our special guests.
We take this singles ministry very seriously, and want you to know that we are praying for your unique needs as single Christians. True, we don’t know all your names, but God does, and He honors the heartfelt, faith-filled prayers of His children.
Christian Dating Service PLUS! News
Another reason for writing to you is to keep you updated on what’s going on, or about to be going on, at Christian Dating Service PLUS!:
You Can Now Read Christian Dating Service PLUS! in Your Own Language
Every week thousands of singles from over 100 countries of the world read our singles articles, dating tips and top Christian dating reviews. We’ve had singles from Europe, Asia, North America, South America, Australia, the Middle East and Africa (*please see bottom of page for a full list of countries).
Realizing that not all folks speak English, we’ve placed on Christian Dating Service PLUS! a language translator that allows people to see the site in Spanish, French, Chinese, German, Japanese, Portugese, Italian, Korean and English. You can find the translator on the lower portion of our sidebar. It’s not perfect (yet), but we hope this makes your reading more enjoyable!
Submit Your Own Singles Articles
The “whole idea” of Christian Dating Service PLUS! is to help singles grow spiritually while they connect with other singles of like-minded faith. Of course, it wouldn’t hurt to meet their mate along the way too!
Sharing topics (dating, sex, marriage,relationships, career, church, singles ministry, etc) related to the single Christian life experience is one way of connecting with others.
Therefore, if you are a single Christian of any sort, a Christian singles group or church group leader, pastor, college and career leader, a member of a college campus ministry, singles counselor or singles events coordinator, please consider helping other singles by submitting an article to this site.
Anyone who submits a singles related piece will be credited as the author (if they wish), and if they have a ministry or website, we will link back to you, which will bring more traffic and attention to your site, singles group, ministry or church.
In the very near future, writers will be able to log-in to Christian Dating Service PLUS! directly via their own password and post articles directly to the site. For now, articles may be submitted here.
Publicize Your Christian Singles Group, Coffehouse or Church Ministry
As mentioned previously, Christian Dating Service PLUS is in the process of making a directory of all known Christian singles groups, churches, Christian fellowships, Christian social networks, college ministries, para-church groups, singles support groups, small groups, podcasts and coffeehouses. Whatever country you live in, let us help you get the word out on your local singles outreach and events by placing your information on our website.
Finally, please pray for all the single people of the world, many of whom are facing dangerous and lonely times in war. Whether we be college students, single parents, divorced, widowed, 30 something, 40 something, 50 something or single seniors, we all need prayer. So. let’s reach out in believing faith that Jesus will help us in our time of need.
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Christian Cupid-Asia, South America, UK,US, Africa, Australia, Europe, Russia,Canada
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Christian Cafe
Christian Mingle
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*Pray for all single Christians in the churches, college campuses, para-church groups, Christian singles groups, fellowships, or church groups in these countries:
Azerbaidjan,Algeria,Angola,Antigua and Barbuda,Argentina,Armenia,Australia,Austria,Bahamas,Bahrain,Bangladesh,
Belgium,Bermuda,Bulgaria,Bolivia,Bosnia-Herzegovina,Brazil,Brunei Darussalam,Burkina Faso,Cameroon,Canada,Cape Verde,Chile,China,Colombia,Congo,Costa Rica,
Croatia,Cuba,Cyprus,Czech Republic,Denmark,
Dominican Republic,Egypt,El Salavador,Estonia,Ethiopia,European Union,Finland,France,Gambia,Georgia,Germany,Guinea Bissau,Great Britain,Greece,Greenland,Guam,Guyana,Guatemala,Honduras,Hong Kong,Hungary,Iceland,India,Indonesia,Iran,Iraq,Israel,Italy, Ireland,Japan,Jordan,Kazakhstan,Kenya,Kuwait,Kyrgyzstan, Latvia,Lebanon,Libya,Lithuania,Luxembourg,Macau,Malawi,Malaysia,Mali,
Malta,Maldives,Mauritius,Mexico,Moldova,Mongolia,Monaco,Morocco,
Myanmar,Namibia,Nigeria,Norway,Netherlands,Netherlands Antilles,Papua New Guinea, New Zealand,Nicaragua,Norway,Pakistan,Panama,Paraguay,
Peru,Philippines,Poland,Portugal,Qatar,Romania,Russian Federation, Saint Lucia,Saudi Arabia,Scotland,Senegal,Singapore,Slovak Republic,Slovenia,South Africa,
South Korea,Spain,Sudan,Sweden,Switzerland,Syria,Tanzania,Taiwan,Thailand,
Trinidad and Tobago,Togo,Turkey,Uganda,UK,Ukraine,United Arab Emirates,
United States,Uzbekistan,Venezuela,Vietnam,Wales,Yemen,Zimbabwe
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Some Christian singles are disappointed with online dating because they find it hard to meet other single Christians, especially in their own local area.
However, one of the keys to meeting more singles online is not only to search through Christian personals yourself, but to also maximize your chances of them seeking you out. And just how do you go about doing both well?
Whether you have already become a member of one of the online dating sites most Christians use, or are just beginning to think about it, putting the following simple dating tips into practice will help you get more dating singles knocking down your door. 
Tips On How To Meet More Online Singles
Restyle That Dating Profile
Okay, you’ve written a good dating profile, but you’re not meeting singles through it? Check over the following:
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If you don’t have an online dating photo in your profile, you are cheating yourself out of at least 10 times more singles looking at your ad. If you already have one, go over some tips on how to improve your online picture, and think about taking a new shot.
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Since location and age are the two most frequently used variables singles search for, make sure you include these somewhere in your profile.
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Just like a website seeking to have good search engine rankings, you’ll want your profile to be near the top of the search pile of any online dating site you are using. Many sites put the most recently active profiles first, so staying active (responding to all your e-mails, visiting your site often, participating in on-site Christian chatrooms, etc.) is the best way of remaining on top. Another tip that may help keep you on top is updating your profile from time to time. Changing your online screen name at this time would not be a bad idea either. Remember: the first and most seen profiles get the most clicks.
Make Proactive Contacts
Explore your online dating site, and don’t let fears that keep other women and men from meeting someone nice hold you back. Instead, take the following steps:
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Most online sites have chatrooms and in house e-mailing systems. Rub elbows with other singles here and build natural online relationships. It’s not only fun, but who knows where it will lead, right?
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Return all e-mails within 24 hours, as anything more than that is a huge turn off, and you will be perceived as a snob. You should also note that most singles looking to meet other singles move quickly, so you don’t want to miss out.
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Contact up to ten singles (but no more than that because it will be almost impossible to maintain meaningful relationships) and pray as you narrow your interest down to one potential soulmate.
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Don’t freak out if you experience several rejections. It happens to the best of us, and it just means that this is not the person God has in mind for you. Simply move on to the next single you would like to meet and get to know better.
Overall, if you keep Christ at the center of your dating life, learning how to meet more singles online should be fun and stress free. If you are a single Christian (college student, single parent, senior single) seeking to meet other singles, feel free to share your experiences.
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Jealousy is one of the most destructive and painful emotions in a dating relationship. A jealous dater can think and do some wacky things he or she would not normally think of doing. That’s why overcoming jealousy when it crops up is so important.
According to a North American survey of marriage counselors, 33% of all couples in marriage counseling have jealousy problems as a root issue. Since jealousy is a universal emotion, I suspect European, Asian, African, South American and Asian couples have similar dealings with jealousy.
Among Christian single couples, jealousy affects both traditional dating and courtship love relationships.
Just what does it mean to be jealous? Webster’s Dictionary rightly defines jealousy as a “fearfulness or wariness of being replaced by a rival.” In a dating or romantic relationship, this means the jealous girlfriend or jealous guy suspects there is a rival for the affection or attention of their partner. The object of the dater’s jealousy could be an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, (the most frequent complaint) or some other thing such as the person’s children, job or even the family dog. (Don’t laugh about the dog, I once had a Family Court case related to this issue)
The problem with jealousy is that there are several kinds, which can get a little confusing. For example, there is God’s jealousy (Exodus 20:5), which is always holy, just, and desirous of others’ wellbeing. Then there is human jealousy, which often ends with disasterous results. Solomon writes of this kind in Song of Songs: “Jealousy is as cruel as the grave” (Sgs 8:6).
As sinners, we all need to learn how to cope with the human kind of jealousy, whether we experience it in our own hearts, or have others being jealous of us.
Most singles are able to control acting out their jealous impulses. However for others, overcoming jealousy is almost impossible without God’s help. This form of jealousy is pathological, and could lead to the crimes of passion we often read about in the newspapers, or see in movies.
As a single Christian seeking true love in a relationship, it’s very important for your own dating safety to know some “red flag” signs of a pathologically jealous person.
Red Flags of Jealousy Out of Control
- The dating or courtship partner continually accuses the other of being unfaithful when there is no basis for him or her to think this way.
- The jealous person checks phone bills, emails or the cell phone directory to check the partner’s records of communication. They may even forbid their romantic partner to speak with certain members of the opposite sex.
- The jealous dating partner forbids (ie: orders) the other single dater to wear certain things in public.
- The person with jealousy issues may go through the personal belongings of the other party looking for “evidence” of unfaithfulness
- The person with out-of-control jealousy may follow, or have one of their friends follow the other person to make sure they are being faithful. In extreme cases they may even ‘bug” the home using electronic equipment.
- The jealous party will keep tabs on their date by calling them constantly throughout the day. They may give an excuse (”I just missed you”) as to why they are calling so frequently, but in fact are distrustful of them.
- The jealous person may want to be with the other person 24/7, and if the other single resists, there may be a physcial or emotional outburst.
- The jealous dating partner forces the other to give account of all their free time away from them.
- The person with pathological jealousy may threaten to do physical harm to themselves or to their dating partner.
If you are a single Christian in any kind dating relationship where one or more of the above jealousy red flags exist, we recommend:
- Lovingly communicating to your friend that they need professional help.
- Consider getting out of the relationship as soon as you can to ensure your own safety. While you may be tempted to stay in an effort to change them, or because the jealous partner may make an emotional promise of change, please don’t give in.
Overcoming Jealousy
Overcoming jealousy will be easier if you understand its origin. Ask yourself: “Do my feelings have a basis in fact (the behavior of the dating partner), or are they coming from my own insecurity?”
If there is actually something the other party is doing that is inciting you to be jealous, have a heart to heart discussion with them. Often, an honest exchange of feelings will solve the problem.
Understand that your jealous behavior may actually drive away your date, the very thing you feared might happen
Admit you have a problem and seek guidance from trusted freinds who know your situation, and/or an understanding Christian counselor or minister.
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Interracial dating is no longer taboo in today’s society, as witnessed by the many interracial dating service websites like eHarmony . However, dating across racial and ethnic lines still remains a controversial subject in some quarters.
While Christian single interracial dating or married couples can live peacefully in most urban societies of the world, they may still be stigmatized in rural areas, and sadly even within the confines of their own church and family.
Therefore, any single Christian thinking about interracial dating should prepare for success by asking themselves the following questions:
Interracial Dating Question Checklist
- What would your family and friends say if you told them you were dating someone from a different race or ethnicity?
- If family and friends react negatively to interracial dating, what would be your response?
- How will you and your interracial date respond to societal disapproval and outright racism? Prejudices could come in forms ranging from staring at a restaurant or church, to ostracizing and outright physical threats.
- Have you and your interracial dating partner openly discussed cultural differences, and their implications if the dating relationship were to culminate in marriage?
Openly and honestly go over the above questions first by yourself, and then together with your interracial dating interest. This exercise will give you an indication of whether or not this interracial dating relationship could be successful.
The longest lasting interracial dating relationships and marriages are those which are able to weave the best of both cultures into unison with each other.
Finally, despite the increase in the number of interracial dating singles, many find it difficult to meet others in their everyday walk of life.This one of the several reasons why online interracial dating sites like ChristianCafe
have become popular.
Just in case you were wondering, all of the dating services reviewed on Christian Dating Service PLUS! have large search databases that makes finding an interracial date in your local area an easier task.
If have dated or are dating someone from a different ethnic or cultural background, please consider helping other singles by sharing your experiences with interracial dating.
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How to Meet More Single Christians Online
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As single Christians, knowing marriage builder tips while dating will lay the foundation toward a healthy marriage relationship when you’re ready to make that commitment. Working in Family Court, I’ve seen lots of unhappy and unhealthy marriage relationships that sure could have used marriage builder tips.
Not surprisingly, a University of Wisconsin study revealed that over 90% of our future happiness is related to the kind of mate we choose to date or marry. Therefore, having a healthy marriage relationship means you have a greater chance at enhancing your happiness.
As Christian singles, we know our true joy, which is eternal, remains in the Lord. However, our happiness, based on transient circumstances, can definitely be affected by poor relationship choices. With divorce rates running between 40 to 50% in the USA, Australia, Europe and Asia, many are nodding their heads in agreement.
Most of us pray for healthy marriage relationships. The following marriage builder quick tips point toward that goal.
Marriage Builder Tips for a Healthy Marriage Relationship
Marriage Builder Tip #1: See Dating as a Means to an End
It all begins with dating, but it should not end there. For single Christians at least, the primary goal of dating should be a healthy relationship culminating in marriage. Otherwise, if you’re really serious about keeping yourself sexually pure before the Lord, why even enter a dating or courtship relationship?
Marriage Builder Tip #2: Know What Kind of Person Makes For A Healthy Relationship
Part of finding a person that makes for a healthy relationship, is knowing and avoiding the kind that doesn’t. For example, single Christians dating unbelievers, or good Christian girls who date bad guys would fall into this category.
Unfortunately, most churches don’t teach singles (teens to seniors) how to attract the right woman or man to date or court. In fact, several reasons we started Christian Dating Service PLUS! was not only to provide informative dating articles in this area, but also to show others how they can meet more single Christians online by expanding their search base.
Marriage Builder Tip #3: Know What it Takes to Have a Healthy Relationship
It sounds too simple, but it’s really true. The more one knows the signs of a healthy Christian dating or marriage relationship, the more likely the chance of creating one. Doesn’t that make sense?
Related Articles:
Online Christian Dating Advice on How to Start
Online Christian Dating Sites Christians Use
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Low self-esteem in some Christian singles is keeping them from finding a serious dating relationship. It’s really simple: If you don’t feel real good about yourself, you’re not going to think anyone else will either.
Sadly, problems with low self-esteem can not only effect our dating relationships, but all other areas of our life, including our emotional health. Single men and women with low self-esteem suffer more depression and discouragement, loneliness and anxiety in their lives than other people. These negative emotions feed a vicious cycle of withdrawal that only worsens low self-esteem. This makes me depressed just writing about this stuff!
To make matters worse, it seems many Christians feel confused when talking about self-esteem, somehow thinking it is “unspiritual” or self-centered to feel good about yourself. Of course, nothing could be further from the truth, as long as you understand from whence your strength comes.
Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem
If you are a single Christian suffering from a poor sense of self worth, and are looking for ways to build self-esteem, allowing the truth of the following points to sink into your soul will help put you on the path to recovery:
Know That God Accepts You As You Are
The beginning of healthy self-esteem and emotional well-being is self acceptance. Being able to accept yourself starts with accepting God’s view of your worth as a person, and then gladly receiving what He has to offer.
- Do you hate who you look like? You shouldn’t because God said you were fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139)
- Do you feel worthless and unlovable? God the Father says He loves you, and finds you so worthwhile that He chose His son to die on your behalf, even while you were far from Him (John 3:16, Romans 5:8).
- Do you feel guilty and unclean because of how you have lived your life? God offers complete forgiveness and cleansing from all past wrong.(1John 1:19), and a new beginning in life (2Cor 5:17).
Know That You Belong
Self-esteem suffers when we feel like there is no place we belong. A sense of belonging gives us a feeling that we are needed and wanted. This makes us feel good about ourselves, and loved at the same time..
God made us to experience this feeling of belonging and love through the forming of intimate relationships. The most important relationship you can have is with the Lord. In fact, Jesus’ prayer for His followers was that the same kind of wonderful relationship He had with His Father may be experienced by them too: “That they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us…” (John 17)
If you are a child of God, you belong in His family, and are dearly beloved (Col. 3:12). You are not orphans or paupers, but princes and princesses who will rule as co-heirs with Jesus. If you really believe this stuff, nothing will make you feel better.
Know That You Can Conquer Your Past
Many singles who suffer from low self-esteem have had past experiences (often in childhood) that have given them a tremendous sense of failure. This sense of “being a loser” is so agonizing that they fear taking risks in life. It’s fears like these that can keep women and men single.
However, part of understanding who we are in Christ is realizing that past failures and experiences no longer have a hold on us. We now have the power to conquer our past failures and fears through Him (Romans 8:37, 2 Timothy 1:7). The question that remains is whether or not you choose to change your negative pattern of thinking and acting. That power is all yours through Christ (Phil. 4:13).
If you are a Christian single whose low self-esteem has caused your dating aspirations to suffer, covenant with yourself and the Lord to start seeing yourself through His eyes.
Are you are a single person with something to share about low self-esteem?
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How to mend a broken heart for singles who are broken hearted?
Almost everyone has had their own “broken heart confession” of a lost relationship. A broken heart is a broken heart, whether that relationship was in a dating context or a marriage. All I can say is it’s one of the most painful things I’ve ever suffered.
While mending a broken heart takes different amounts of time for each person, the following points on how to mend a broken heart will be helpful to all single Christians.
How to Mend a Broken Heart Guide
Talk About Your Broken Heart With Those Who Care
One of the best ways to begin mending a broken heart is to talk about it. Talking about our pain helps us accept the reality of the situation, and guides us along in the healing process and dealing with guilt, if any
As Christian singles, the first person we should go to is the Lord. A beautiful promise is found in Psalms 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Tell your heavenly Dad where it hurts, and exactly how you feel. Don’t hold back anything because He is there for you, and can take whatever you throw at Him.
Beyond pouring out your broken heart to the Lord, getting involved in a Christian singles group, church fellowship, or support group will give you a safe place to share your painful experiences and receive love and support. Don’t feel that you can heal or mend your broken heart on your own. That’s just stupid pride, and will cause you to take longer to heal. We all need somebody from time to time.
Forgiveness Equals Healing
There is an amazing amount of healing power in being forgiven, or in granting forgiveness to someone who has wronged you. The power of forgiveness began at the cross of Christ, where He forgave us our sins. If you don’t understand what it means to be forgiven by God, please read how you can find peace with Him before continuing.
Forgiveness brings closure and cleansing, which speeds the healing of the broken hearted person. So if you wronged someone in a previous dating or marriage relationship, ask forgiveness. Whatever the other party does with that offer is not yours to worry about.
On the other hand, if someone has wronged you, don’t seek revenge (that’s the Lord’s to handle), but forgive from the heart. It doesn’t mean that you have now become a doormat for further abuse. Granting forgiveness to someone who has broken your heart does mean that you have decided to let go of the past and start a new beginning in your life.
Take Care of Your Body
Having a broken heart puts tremendous stress on your physical and emotional wellbeing. That’s why it’s important to eat right, drink plenty of fluids, exercise and find time for relaxation. Force yourself to do these things, even if you don’t feel like it, and it will help you overcome depression and feelings of low self-esteem. You’ll thank me later if you do.
Be Willing To Take Another Risk
Okay, your relationship didn’t work out, and you’ve been left with a broken heart. So take this time to evaluate where you can improve yourself for the future.
As a broken hearted single trying to mend, you are in a vulnerable state. That’s why you definitely want to avoid the dangers of a rebound relationship. This is especially true if you are a single parent dating with kids.
However, please don’t close yourself off to the possibility of romance. In the right time and place it’s a wonderful thing. In this regard, you may want to consider using an online Christian dating service because it’s a great way to ease back into dating on your terms, and at your own pace.
Are you a single woman or man with any additional advice on how to mend a broken heart?
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What exactly is a rebound relationship or dating on the rebound? It’s an intense dating relationship that begins very soon after a long-term relationship goes south. As one experienced single person described it: “A rebound relationship is kinda like jumping from one moving train to another. There’s no time for thinking about what you are about to do. Rebound dating is both exciting and dangerous at the same time.” Now that sounds intense!
The fact is, rebound relationships get bad marks from most single women and men who have tried them. The reason is that instead of being that perfect medicine for mending a broken heart, most rebound relationships fail, and consequently cause more pain for both dating partners.
If you are in a rebound dating relationship now, or just thinking about entering one, consider the following dating advice tips in order to protect yourself:
Rebound Relationship Advice for Those Dating on the Rebound
Rebound Relationships Tip 1: Only Fools Rush In
Ending one relationship and rebounding immediately into the next one, is not healthy for you, or fair to the other person. The reason for this is that you need time to grieve and heal before truly being emotionally ready for a new person.
While it’s natural to feel vulnerable and needy immediately after a breakup or divorce, fight the temptation to rebound so quickly into a new dating situation. It may dull your pain, but slow your healing.
Instead, take this time to evaluate what went wrong in the previous relationship, and think about how you can improve yourself for the next.
Rebound Relationships Tip 2: Get Counsel and Accountability
Before taking the plunge into a rebound relationship, get wise counsel from people who know and love you, and who can keep you accountable to making sound judgements.
Unfortunately, people involved in rebound relationships often seek a “quick fix” for their pain and damaged self-esteem. This leaves the rebound dater open for sexual and emotional manipulation by unsavory types who actually prey on the broken hearted.
Another problem with dating on the rebound is that people who do this tend to seek out the same type of person in the previous relationship, which predictably ends with the same results. That’s why it’s important to have several people who can help keep you centered during your healing process.
Rebound Relationship Advice for the Person Dating the Rebounder
Know the Odds
If you’re looking for a long-term commitment, dating in a rebound relationship is definitely not the thing to do. We counsel against entering a dating relationship with someone you know who:
If you are dating a rebounder as decribed above, the chances are great that you a just a “transitory” person. Once the rebounder in the rebound relationship emotionally heals, they usually end up leaving the other person.
Don’t Let your Guard Down
This is usually not good advice, especially if you are attempting to build an emotionally intimate friendship. However, for your own protection, take it very slow with the rebounder, honestly explaining to him or her that you do not want to be a rebound relationship statistic.
This will take lots of self-control because rebound daters are very needy people who will attempt to fill the void, and blunt the pain in their lives by getting real close, real soon. Don’t take the bait, and save yourself much pain.
If you are a single person, feel free to share your experiences with rebound relationships.
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40 something and 50 something Baby Boomers are currently using online dating services eHarmony like almost as much as the average 20 something singles, who was the group that brought internet dating into the mainstream seven years ago.
More telling is that 40 something and 50 something daters also make up the fastest growing demographic of those seeking seeking a date online. Amazingly, with a dating service like PerfectMatch.com, nearly 65% of the singles who sign up are 30 somethings, 40 somethings or 50 somethings. All I can say is, go grandma!
Top Reason Why 40 somethings and 50 somethings Like Online Dating
There are several benefits of finding a date on the web. But the top reason Baby Boomers give for using web-based dating is that it saves them precious time. 40 something and 50 something singles are notoriously busy and impatient folk, and they want what they want, when they want it. Hey, it’s not their fault. They were the first ones to grow up with fast foods, microwaves and ATMs.
Even though 40 somethings and 50 somethings are dating more and more, Baby Boomers have unique barriers that could make being with another person quite challenging:
- 31% of 40 somethings and 50 something singles have never been married. That means they are set in their particular way of living, which makes it very difficult for them to change for another person.
- 56% percent of forty-something and fifty-something singles are divorced, which can add emotional baggage on a dating relationship.
- Single Parents Dating with kids still in the home are in a particularly difficult spot.
- Age itself, with all its attending symptoms: wrinkles, baldness, extra poundage, etc., can make singles feel undesireable.
Overall, if you are a 40 something or 50 something Christian single, this article on where and how to start meeting other singles online will cover it all.
Feel free to share your experiences a a 40 something or 50 something single.
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Too much stress can be a killer. Studies also show that because of stress, single guys live on average five years less than their married counterparts. Does stress stink, or what?
Truth be told, dealing with the responsibilities and pressures of life alone is stressful. While I truly believe that being a Christian single parent (whether you are a single mom or single dad) can be one of the most difficult and stress filled jobs in the world, all singles face stress in many different forms.
Stress is unavoidable, but there are some things we can do to counteract or reduce the stress that comes into our lives. While a previous article dealt with stress reducers for single parents, here are our favorite stress reducers that single Christians have suggested to help us in our busy, stress-filled single lives:
Top 10 Stress Reducers for Singles
1) Meditate daily on God’s promises. This is a quick stress reducer, and free of cost. Five minutes a day will change your life, and reduce your stress in subtle way. I promise. Some great verses in His word includes 1 Peter 5:7: “Cast all your anxiety upon Him, for He cares about you.”
2) Surround yourself with caring friends and family, which is a great stress reducer. If you don’t have friends in your area, or dealing with your family stresses you out, do a Google search for the nearest Christian singles or church fellowship. Just being able to “blow off steam” is a stress reducer in itself. In these groups you can share burdens, and build a support system.
3) Setting realistic expectations for your dating life, children, finances and job is a practical stress reducer. Don’t distract yourself with perfection because there’s only one God, and you’re not Him. Okay?
4) Make your daily responsibilities easier, and reduce stress by breaking them down into smaller, doable tasks. Note: This is actually my favorite stress reducer idea since I tend to be a disorganized mess!
5) Delegate your household responsibilities. Hey, even Moses did this with the people of Israel, and it’s a refreshing stress reducer. If you don’t have any family members up to the job, partner with friends or neighbors to share house cleaning, child care, cooking or any other thing you find stressful. It will definitely relieve some burdens from your life.
6) This was mentioned this earlier, but getting your finances in check is a stress reducer we can all use. In this regard, Crown.org is an international ministry that offers free advice on all types of financial topics. Check it out. You’ll be glad you did.
7) Exercising, eating well and getting enough rest is the triple crown of stress reducers. No matter how busy you are, schedule time for these, cause once you lose your health, you won’t be able to do anything else. Am I nagging you enough?
Learning to say no is an important step in getting rid of stress in your life. You accomplish this by prioritizing what’s really important in your life, and cutting out the rest. As single Christians, that may sometimes mean saying no to a worthwhile ministry in your local church body. Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty about this ( like I used to do), but thank the Lord that you will be able to make more efficient use of your time.
9) All work plus no play equals stress! Reduce your stress by scheduling some fun activities just for you! Are you a Christian interested in online dating, but don’t know how to start?.
10) Thinking the best and expecting the best are biblical principles, and powerful stress reducers. It also reveals a strong faith in the Lord. “As a man thinks in his heart, so he is.” (Proverbs 23:7)
Are you a single Christian with stress in your life? Help others by sharing your own favorite stress reducer.
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Single moms have it rough. Christian single moms who are dating may have it even worse: Not only do they have to deal with all the responsibilities that go along with being a custodial single parent, they also have to battle the stigma of being a single mom in the church.
Whether we admit it not, more than a few women in the church look at single moms (especially if they’re hot looking) with subtle suspicion. Translation: Is this single mom aka hussie gonna steal my man?
Does the single mom receive this kind of “Christian” reception because she may be divorced? Or is it due to the possibility that she had a child out of wedlock? No one knows for sure, but this is exactly why dating for single Christian moms in the church can be one of the touchiest of issues.
The following single mom dating tips can not only help you emotionally and spiritually, but will also assist you in meeting the right soulmate for you.
5 Tips for Single Moms Before Dating
Surrender Your Dating Life to Christ
Many Christian single moms end up making horrible dating decisions because they exclude the Saviour from the equation. One single mother told me, “I would like to do this, but I’m afraid He may want me to be an old maid the rest of my life.”
Instead of doubting God’s provision, pour your heart, desires and dreams out to Him, and let him guide you in this area. He won’t let you down, mom. I promise.
Examine Your Own Heart
Before even thinking about dating again, take good long look at yourself and your situation as a single mom. Then ask yourself some difficult questions:
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions you may want to rethink your dating aspirations at this time.
Find Your Target
Huh? As a single mom, what are you looking for in a man? After you’ve prayed and thought about it, make a written list of qualities (spiritual, emotional, physical) you look for in Christian guy. Why? Once you know what it is you are looking for as single moms, you can prepare yourself to fulfill your goals.
Keep Your Kids Safe in the Process
Most single moms make this their natural priority. How do dating single moms do this?
- When we are single parents dating with kids, it’s very important not to rush a relationship when neither you nor your children are ready. Reading all you can on this topic will help you in this area.
- Get your kids in a good Christian youth group, and join a good Christian singles group for your own support and guidance.
- Find a Christian church that preaches the Gospel, but does not make the kids or single moms feel guilty for not being in what they feel is a “normal” family.
Make a Plan
Make a plan based on your goal to meet that special man. Study where Christian singles meet other singles, and get busy. Keep all your options open along the way, and stay optimistic. The Lord is for you, not against you.
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Are you single and looking for Christian Penpals? Amazingly, you can find Christian Penpals in nearly every country of the world, from the UK and the rest of Europe, to Australia, Africa, South America, North America and Asia. Not only can one find Christian penpals from anywhere (did I leave out Antartica?), a single Christian can also zero in on the kind of Christian penpal they are seeking.
For example, say you’re a Christian single guy looking for a Christian penpal who is a Russian pentacostal female? No problem! There are a large number of Christian penpal groups (we listed the top Christian pen pal sites below) that allow you the ability to search using a number of different variables like age, sex, denomination and location.
Benefits of Being a Christian Penpal
There are a lot of benefits to being one of the multiple thousands of Christian Penpals out there:
- Christian singles who are Christian penpals can find fellowship, encouragement and support though writing to others. Simply put, being a Christian penpal is a great and unique way to minister to others, and be ministered to as well.
- Many Christian Penpals have developed long distance dating relationships that have culminated in marriage. Anyway, whether you are looking for a mate or just friendship, many Christian penpals have grown deep, life-long relationships that have enriched their lives. What beats that?
- Being Christian penpals with others is a cool and exciting way to learn about other cultures, whether your penpal lives on the other side of your country, or half way around the globe.
- It’s an easy and quick process to become a Christian penpal. You simply click onto one of the Christian penpal sites, and search the Christian chatrooms for someone you find interesting. What took months the old fashioned (snail mail) way now takes place in minutes!
Choose a Christian Penpal Site That Fits You
Overall, we give a total “thumbs up” to becoming a Christian penpal because it’s a win-win situation all around. If you’re interested in starting out with online Christian dating services, you could do this as well. I say keep all the irons in the fire!
We suggest to take your time looking around for the Christian penpal site that is just right for you. Some are free, and some penpal services charge a minimal fee. Also some offer Christian dating services, some do not. So, you know what momma said. Shop around!
Finally, we listed some of the best Chrstian penpal services below for your convenience. They service Teen girls, teen guys, single parents, divorced, widows, seniors, etc. You get the picture! Have fun being a Christian penpal!
Christian Penpal Sites We Like:
www.Christianpenpals.com
www.soon.org.uk/penfriend/penfriends.htm
www.cpals.net/forums/index.php
www.christians-r-us.com/
Denominations with Christian Singles on these sites (not exhaustive):
Adventist
Anglican
African Methodist
Baptist
Calvary Chapel
Charismatic
Christian Missionary Alliance
Episcoplian
Greek Orthodox
Methodist
Non-denominational
Pentacostal
Presbyterian
Roman Catholic
Russian Orthodox
Southern Baptist
Vineyard Christian
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