Christian Singles Dating
Most Christian singles dating are seeking to meet other single Christians who complement them spiritually. However, as many Christian singles dating will also tell you, finding a date or potential mate with similar beliefs is not so easy.
As opposed to non-Christians who have a larger available pool to meet someone, Christian singles dating who are passionate about their faith are much more limited in their choices. These types of single Christians interested in dating will not be cruising the bars or be inclined to date unbelievers.
Christian Singles Dating Choices
In a previous article, we discussed where Christian singles dating meet other singles. By far, the number one way Christian singles dating meet matches is through family, colleagues or friends. Other ways of meeting people include attending events or activities that attract singles, like Christian singles groups.
Finally, there are numerous online Christian singles dating services, both free and paid, that give Christian singles dating an opportunity to meet their dating and spiritual matches. Many Christian singles dating have found online dating sites to be complementary to other traditional ways of meeting others.
The convenience of online Christian singles dating sites takes a lot of the legwork out of meeting an individual with a similar faith backgrounds and interests. There are also many other benefits to using an online Christian single dating service.
Overall, whichever route you take as a Christian single interested in dating, whether you use one or combine all of the above, remember that it’s the Lord who is leading you as you wait on Him to provide you with all that you need.
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Christian Black Singles
Many Christian Black Singles are using online dating to find that special date or soulmate. There are several reasons why Christian black singles are flocking to the internet for romance. And with over 70% of Christian black singles considering themselves evangelical Christians, Christian dating services have taken notice, by dedicating sub-sites specifically for single black Christians.
For example Christian Mingle has a very popular site Christian black singles use called, not surprisingly, Christian Black Singles
Christian Black Singles Online Dating Use
We were interested in finding out more about the black singles who use Christian black single dating services, Aren’t you? Our informal survey (through questionpro.com) plus information garnered from Pew Research on Christian black singles using Christian black dating services revealed the following:
- 55% of the users are single women. This slight edge in black Christian single woman users is not surprising considering that Christian black single women find it harder to meet single Christian black men in more traditional ways, like at church.
- The average median age of Christian black singles using a matchmaking service is 34.
- 13% of Christian black singles have tried online dating so far, with that number rising yearly
- 75% plus of black singles who use online dating have at least a high school diploma
- 65% percent of Christian Black Singles
who have gone to a black singles website consider themselves middle-class. Some of these Christian black singles may have grown up in the hood, but you wouldn’t know it by their economic status.
What Black Singles Want in a Date/Mate
In the future, we will be writing articles specifically about Christian single black women and single black men. For now, check out the top qualities both sexes can agree they want or need in the opposite sex:
- Strong Faith in God
- Honesty
- Respect
- Independence
- Sense of Humor
- Physically Attractive
- Compassionate
- Good with Kids
- Understanding
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Christian Dating Site Pros
Christian dating site use such as eHarmony is getting more popular each year, as many Christian singles have found success finding their Christian dating site online match. The first boon in Christian dating site use occurred in the USA in the mid 1990s, and has since spread to Australia, Asia, Russia, the UK and rest of the European Union. Presently, Europe and Asia are experiencing the great expansion of Christian dating site growth.
However, like most everything else in life, becoming a member of a Christian dating site has its pros and cons.
Christian Dating Site Pros
Christian Dating Site Use Expands The Dating Pool
Don’t laugh, but one person I know compares going to a Christian dating site to taking a trip to Haagen-Daz or Baskin Robbins: You have your choice of almost any flavor you wish. Yummy!
Seriously, though, due to the large number of single women and men using Christian dating sites, a single Christian has a much larger number of potential dates and mates from which to make a choice.
A Christian Dating Site Allows Highly Targeted Searches
Somewhat related to the ice cream analogy (by the way, Mint-Chocolate-Chip is my favourite; oh wait, or is it Chocolate-Chip-Mint?), the large search databases of some dating online sites like ChristianMingle allows Christians dating online to “put in their order” using such variables as age, denomination, vocation, race, appearance and the local area of where one wants to find potential soulmates. Best of all, your potential dating match is also looking for the same thing.
Joining a Christian Dating Site Saves Time
A Christian dating web site can save time for busy singles (like Christian single parents, etc) who don’t have the time or energy to find a date in more traditional ways. Single Christians who turn to a Christian dating site have the convenience of meeting someone out of the comfort of their own homes, 24/7. And let’s be real, with the average size of the typical evangelical church hovering at around 90 souls, the pickin’s are generally slim at best. And how much time have you spent primping yourself to go out to singles activities only to be disappointed at the close of the evening?
A Christian Dating Site Helps Develop Communication Skills
Speaking with other single people on a Christian dating site helps you hone your conversational skills. It’s also an excellent chance to express true thoughts via Christian chatrooms, email and instant messaging, without feeling awkward as one could in person. By the time the Christian dating site couple finally does meet, they will be much more comfortable with each other, having laid down a strong emotional foundation.
Recently, I read some of the romantic letters President John Adams wrote his wife, Abigail. when they were separated by 100s of miles. In those days there were no telephones, and pony-delivered mail took days to get to its destination. But oh, the beauty, passion and depth of those letters! Okay, we’re not in Colonial America, and I may be a romantic idealist, but communicating through an online Christian dating site can help singles experience a little of this magic.
Christian Dating Online Saves You Money
If you’re cheap like me, you’re gonna love this! Almost every Christian dating site on the web offers free trial memberships to to get a taste for what each offers. However, for full membership services most Christian dating site hubs charge between $15 and $30 US dollars per month.
That might seem like a lot of money until you figure how much time and money you may spend traveling to singles activities, paying entrance fees, buying food, and so forth. Overall, if you are using a good Christian dating site, it is much more economical in the long run than traditional ways of finding a date.
Tomorrow we’ll write about the cons (and there are some you may want to know about) of partnering with a Christian dating site.
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Conversation Starters to Avoid Using With Your Date
Conversation starter skills are a must if you don’t want to bore your date half to death. Almost every Christian single person has had that sinking feeling that they were losing their date’s interest while conversing with them.
Singles with good conversation starter and communication skills are successful at keeping their dates fascinated and involved because they do do two simple things very well:
- They avoid so called conversation starters that bore or annoy him or her
- They develop their own conversation starter skills with their date by determining what makes them perk up
Conversation Starter Tips: What To Avoid-Or at Least Go Easy On
One of the purposes of dating is to have conversations with the other person to determine whether or not the other person is your true love or dating match.
While it’s important to have easy flowing conversation starters, take care when speaking with your date about the following topics:
Health Issues
If you’re thinking this is a good conversation starter, forgettaboutit! While you may gain some sympathy in the short run, as a hypochondriac I can tell you from expereince that you will inevitably turn your date off as you rattle off your litany of ills.
Of course, serious health concerns can and should be shared at the proper time, but do we really need to know about the runs you had last night? You get the point.
Ex Anythings
Nothing bores a date quicker, but this failed “conversation starter” is a perrenial favourite of many, to their own demise. Not only is this a major turn off, if gives the impression they are dealing with a rebound dater. Bad. Very bad.
The Bible
I may get stoned for this, so if you don’t see this site tomorrow you know what happened. Look, incessant Bible quoting during a date is boring and obnoxious. Now I’m not talking about heart felt sharing about your faith, or deep and interesting theological discussions that bring up the Scriptures.
I am speaking about the stooges who have to pepper in Bible quotations during every conversation. Here’s an example:”Praise the Lord, this food tastes great. Hey, could you pass that salt? Speaking of salt, did you know in Matthew 5:13 Jesus states that you are the salt of the earth?” Please don’t…it’s not attractive.
Gossip
Ever been around someone who had negative things to say about someone else when they weren’t around? Human nature being what it is, you may be tempted to use gossip as a conversation starter with your date. Don’t do it. Besides being unpleasing to the Lord, your date may begin to wonder what kinds of things you tell others about her when she’s not around. Get it?
No single person, male or female, has it all together when it comes to conversation starters. If you don’t confident in this area, just remember learning how to start a conversation with the opposite sex in learning process.
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Christian Chatrooms for Christian Singles Chat
Christian Chatrooms are locations on the web where Christian singles can chat or converse with other singles. In a mood for a nice Christian chat? In a Christian chatroom, one can find a date, share prayer requests or just have some fellowship.
Many Christian dating services, including Christian Cafe and Christian Mingle have Christian chatrooms on their sites as a free service to both their free trial and paid members. Since there are literally hundreds of Christian chat rooms online (see some of our favorite Christian chatrooms below), we thought it important remind singles about how to make your chatroom experience more positive.
Christian Chatroom Tips for Singles
Christian Chatroom Tip 1: Diversify
This Christian chatroom tip is the same advice we give for those singles interested in using an online Christian dating service. Christian chatrooms are great places to find compatible singles for dating relationships. However, each Christian chatroom offers a different twist or benefit.
Therefore, our recommendation is to try out a number to try out a number of Christian chatrooms in order to see which ones fit your needs.
Christian Chatroom Tip 2: Know the Rules of the Chat Game
Every Christian chatroom operates differently, and each has their own form of online etiquette. Therefore, in order to increase your chance for a positve experience, try first reading each sites’s FAQs before using that particular Christian chatroom or forum.
For example, some Christian chatrooms offer only public discussion chats, while others allow for private one-on-one conversations. Additionally, some Christian chatrooms are moderated by the the chatroom owners, and have specified topics, while others are a free for all. Bottom line: Knowing how each Christian chatroom operates before diving in head first will help you get what you are seeking faster.
Christian Chatroom Tip 3: Enter with Something to Chat About
There are quite a few singles who feel Christian chatrooms are a total waste of time. However, many of these folks have had bad expereinces because they never learned how to converse in a Christian chatroom. While this article on good conversation starter tips does not totally apply to Christian chatrooms, you might find it quite helpful. As one single girl recently told me, “Nothing is quite as annoying, boring and depressing than people who pop in with nothing to say.”
Christian Chatroom Tip 4: Think Safety First.
We are referring to two different types of safety. The first has to do with maintaining your personal online safety while using online dating tools like a Christian chatroom.In this regard, knowing something about email etiquette and safety tips will also help you in Christian chatrooms.
The second has to do with protecting your computer. Beware of attachments that may contain viruses or spyware. If you feel a need to accept an attachment from someone in a Christian chatroom, run it through a virus scan. I can’t tell you the number of bugs I picked up in chatrooms.
Christian Chatroom Tip 5: Remember You have a Life Offline
Christian chatrooms, like much if the internet, can be highly addicting. If you find yourself shirking your real life responsibilities, limit your Christian chatroom time by scheduling set times for going online.
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Some of the Top Christian Chatrooms:
http://www.ablazenet.com/
http://www.christianchat.co.uk/privacy.php
http://christianchat.com/
http://www.christianchatforum.com/
http://www.chatmag.com/topics/religion/christian.html
http://www.worthychat.com/
http://www.ukchatterbox.co.uk/christian/
http://christianchat.net/
http://www.christianchatrooms.com/
http://www.irc-nl.org/christian-chat.htm
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True Love Signs-How to Tell if it’s True Love or Lust
Is is true love or simple physical attraction and lust? What are true love signs for Christian singles dating? How do you know you’ve found your “true love” of a life time?
Is It True Love?
The following true love prerequisites will help you gauge whether or not this person is “the one”:
True Love: The relationship causes both parties to grow closer to Jesus
True Love: There is implicit trust and no fear of being vulnerable
True Love: The couple has great communication with each other
True Love: Neither party doubts the truthfulness of the other
True Love: True love waits for sexual intimacy. Intense physical
attraction, but neither party defrauds the other (1 Thes. 4:6,7)
True Love: When there are disagreements (if you never had any, someone’s
not being real), the daters have learned how to argue,
but still remain close
True Love: There is no jealousy or controlling behavior.
True Love: Family members and friends confirm and approve of the dating relationship.
Closing True Love Thoughts
Of course, the above is not an exhaustive list of true love signs, but is useful in helping singles assess the potential of a true love match.
Is there such a thing as one true love, or can there be a number of “true loves” in one’e life?
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Christian Dating Advice
One can find Christian dating advice all over the internet. The problem is that the “Christian dating advice” you get on the web may not be from a morally reputable dating site.
Look at the Source of Your Christian Dating Advice
For example, on one particular dating site, you can find Christian relationship dating advice on the sidebar right next to Transexual dating advice. With so much junk out there it’s important to know from where you are getting your Christian dating advice.
One of the reasons we started Christian Dating Service PLUS! was to counteract the crazy Christian dating advice out there by providing Biblical, practical and fun Christian dating advice.
The unique thing about this site is that if you are a Christian single, minister, counselor, etc., you may submit your own Christian dating advice articles and podcasts for publication on our site. Find out the cool benefits about why you would want to submit a Christian dating advice or singles related article.
If you take a look at our sitemap you will see Christian dating advice regarding dating tips, relationship problems, dating site reviews and other issues.
Christian Dating Advice Offline
One of the best places besides the internet where you can find great Christian dating advice is through some excellent Christian authors. Here is a list of some of our favorite Christian dating advice books which can be purchased inexpensively online through Amazon.com:
God’s Design for Christian Dating
10 Commandments Of Dating
Devotions For Dating Couples: Building A Foundation For Spiritual Intimacy
Boundaries in Dating
The One: A Realistic Guide To Choosing Your Soul Mate
Choices: Finding God’s Way in Dating, Sex, Singleness, and Marriage
Finding the Love of Your Life: Ten Principles for Choosing the Right Marriage Partner
I Gave Dating a Chance: A Biblical Perspective to Balance the Extremes
Recovering a Biblical View of Christian Dating
Romancing The Web: A Therapist’s Guide To Online Dating
Black Christian Singles Guide to Dating and Sexuality
Ending Violence In Teen Dating Relationships
