Now that we have your attention, sorry if you googled “pornography nude women” and came up with our site. Our church podcast of the week is not so much about nude women pornography, as it it about how poisonous pornography really is to healthy dating relationships and to Christians (mostly Christian men) in general. Fact is, the sad truth is that many Christians have messed up sex lives, and are as addicted to pornography as much as unbelievers are. Many are lonely Christian single men, who also struggle with masturbation and all kinds of sexual impurity
Victory Over Pornography
A good first step toward victory over pornography is to talk about it. Open and honest confession, claiming the promises of God in His word and getting accountability in Christian support groups or Christian counseling can go a long way toward healing. Unfortunately many Christians choose to live secretly in their sins.
Pastor Forrest Pollock, from Bell Shoals Baptist Church in Brandon Florida, brings us the following message of hope against pornography. I hope it helps
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Flirting is an art, and those men who learn how to flirt with a girl will be more successful with both traditional and online dating. Just what does it mean to flirt? One definition in Webster’s on flirting reads: “to act in such a way so as to attract.” While some Christian singles are more flirtatious than others, nearly all interested in a dating or courtship relationship flirt from time to time.
Many online Christian dating services make it possible to communicate via e-mail, chat and IM’s with other singles. This format can be a very playful and fun way of flirting but should be done with some knowledge of online dating safety in mind. Many singles actually relay that they find flirting easier online because they are more at ease when the other person is not standing right next to them.
Understanding how to flirt online, and what to avoid while flirting may help you get to the next level: a true dating relationship. The following flirt tips are are actually “pre-flirting” tips that will prepare you for the real thing
How to Flirt Online Successfully
Flirt Tip 1: First Let Them Get to Know You a Little Bit
Most people, especially single women, want to know some background on a person before they start flirting online. In other words, she may be thinking, “is the person flirting with me a whacko or is there a real possiblity of a relationship here?” If you begin flirting before making a proper introduction via that initial email, you have less chance of the person accepting your flirt. She probably receives a ton of flirt mail, so put some thought into your email message, and use proper email etiquette. This puts you in a better flirting position.
Flirt Tip 2: Have a Great Photo and Captivating Profile
Guys, this is what will make or break you, even if you are the best flirt on the web. Guess what’s the first thing a person will do after you make initial contact and begin flirting. Yup. They’re gonna check out that handsome picture you submitted (and if you don’t have one you are ten times less likely to have someone even acknowledge your presence).
The second thing a Christian single woman will do is read your profile and look at your screen name. A sparce profile may lead her to believe you a married player looking for a fling, or a complete neanderthal who lacks any sensitvity and brains.
Flirt Tip 3: Have a Creative Screen Name
A good screen name or user name speaks a thousands words. Have fun with this one, but make sure you get it right. Do we need to remind you guys that sexual innuendos are a big no no? I didn’t think so.
Flirt tip 4: Take it Easy and Slow
Single women like to be wooed, not run over. Please avoid asking her for a date on your first flirt. It usually won’t work. Instead, take the time to get to know her likes and dislikes, which will only help you become a better flirt the next time you meet online.
In a future article, we will deal with specific examples of flirting. In the meantime, putting the above into practice will help you in your online dating life.
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Conversation starter skills are a must if you don’t want to bore your date half to death. Almost every Christian single person has had that sinking feeling that they were losing their date’s interest while conversing with them.
Singles with good conversation starter and communication skills are successful at keeping their dates fascinated and involved because they do do two simple things very well:
- They avoid so called conversation starters that bore or annoy him or her
- They develop their own conversation starter skills with their date by determining what makes them perk up
Conversation Starter Tips: What To Avoid-Or at Least Go Easy On
One of the purposes of dating is to have conversations with the other person to determine whether or not the other person is your true love or dating match.
While it’s important to have easy flowing conversation starters, take care when speaking with your date about the following topics:
Health Issues
If you’re thinking this is a good conversation starter, forgettaboutit! While you may gain some sympathy in the short run, as a hypochondriac I can tell you from expereince that you will inevitably turn your date off as you rattle off your litany of ills.
Of course, serious health concerns can and should be shared at the proper time, but do we really need to know about the runs you had last night? You get the point.
Ex Anythings
Nothing bores a date quicker, but this failed “conversation starter” is a perrenial favourite of many, to their own demise. Not only is this a major turn off, if gives the impression they are dealing with a rebound dater. Bad. Very bad.
The Bible
I may get stoned for this, so if you don’t see this site tomorrow you know what happened. Look, incessant Bible quoting during a date is boring and obnoxious. Now I’m not talking about heart felt sharing about your faith, or deep and interesting theological discussions that bring up the Scriptures.
I am speaking about the stooges who have to pepper in Bible quotations during every conversation. Here’s an example:”Praise the Lord, this food tastes great. Hey, could you pass that salt? Speaking of salt, did you know in Matthew 5:13 Jesus states that you are the salt of the earth?” Please don’t…it’s not attractive.
Gossip
Ever been around someone who had negative things to say about someone else when they weren’t around? Human nature being what it is, you may be tempted to use gossip as a conversation starter with your date. Don’t do it. Besides being unpleasing to the Lord, your date may begin to wonder what kinds of things you tell others about her when she’s not around. Get it?
No single person, male or female, has it all together when it comes to conversation starters. If you don’t confident in this area, just remember learning how to start a conversation with the opposite sex in learning process.
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Christian Chatrooms are locations on the web where Christian singles can chat or converse with other singles. In a mood for a nice Christian chat? In a Christian chatroom, one can find a date, share prayer requests or just have some fellowship.
Many Christian dating services, including Christian Cafe and Christian Mingle have Christian chatrooms on their sites as a free service to both their free trial and paid members. Since there are literally hundreds of Christian chat rooms online (see some of our favorite Christian chatrooms below), we thought it important remind singles about how to make your chatroom experience more positive.
Christian Chatroom Tips for Singles
Christian Chatroom Tip 1: Diversify
This Christian chatroom tip is the same advice we give for those singles interested in using an online Christian dating service. Christian chatrooms are great places to find compatible singles for dating relationships. However, each Christian chatroom offers a different twist or benefit.
Therefore, our recommendation is to try out a number to try out a number of Christian chatrooms in order to see which ones fit your needs.
Christian Chatroom Tip 2: Know the Rules of the Chat Game
Every Christian chatroom operates differently, and each has their own form of online etiquette. Therefore, in order to increase your chance for a positve experience, try first reading each sites’s FAQs before using that particular Christian chatroom or forum.
For example, some Christian chatrooms offer only public discussion chats, while others allow for private one-on-one conversations. Additionally, some Christian chatrooms are moderated by the the chatroom owners, and have specified topics, while others are a free for all. Bottom line: Knowing how each Christian chatroom operates before diving in head first will help you get what you are seeking faster.
Christian Chatroom Tip 3: Enter with Something to Chat About
There are quite a few singles who feel Christian chatrooms are a total waste of time. However, many of these folks have had bad expereinces because they never learned how to converse in a Christian chatroom. While this article on good conversation starter tips does not totally apply to Christian chatrooms, you might find it quite helpful. As one single girl recently told me, “Nothing is quite as annoying, boring and depressing than people who pop in with nothing to say.”
Christian Chatroom Tip 4: Think Safety First.
We are referring to two different types of safety. The first has to do with maintaining your personal online safety while using online dating tools like a Christian chatroom.In this regard, knowing something about email etiquette and safety tips will also help you in Christian chatrooms.
The second has to do with protecting your computer. Beware of attachments that may contain viruses or spyware. If you feel a need to accept an attachment from someone in a Christian chatroom, run it through a virus scan. I can’t tell you the number of bugs I picked up in chatrooms.
Christian Chatroom Tip 5: Remember You have a Life Offline
Christian chatrooms, like much if the internet, can be highly addicting. If you find yourself shirking your real life responsibilities, limit your Christian chatroom time by scheduling set times for going online.
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Singles and Holidays don’t always mix. That’s why learning how to survive and thrive during the holiday season is an important thing for singles to learn. Since holidays are marketed for families, singles who are alone are often made to feel like outsiders crashing a party. Talk about the holiday blues!
How Singles Prepare for the Holidays
As Christian single women and men dreading yet another holiday season alone, you’re probably struggling or thinking about:
- Where you’re going to spend the holidays to avoid loneliness
- How unfair it is that another Christmas is coming, and you’re still single
- What you’re gonna tell or do to those relatives who ask you again why you’re not yet married.
Holiday Do’s and Don’ts for Singles
As you reflect upon how to approach the holidays this season, it’s important to celebrate in a way you feel comfortable as a single person. As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and hype, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you:
Holiday Do’s for Singles
Focus on the birth of our dear Lord and Saviour, Jesus, as the focal point of your holiday. Not to employ an overused cliche, but He is, afterall, the Reason for the season.
Do remember that as a single you have the same need and right to enjoy this holiday season as any other couple or family does. So if you want to decorate your home or apartment, do it up good! How you choose to spend the holidays is your personal choice, not that of those around you. Before being cajoled by friends and family members to attend this event or that party, ask yourself if this is really what you want to do. Will it make you feel more lonely and depressed? Will it bring others AND you some measure of joy?
As a single Christian, set level expectations for the holidays. Have fun in the way you see fit, but don’t allow the world to pressure you into unrealistic expectations of what the holiday time should bring. That way, if things don’t go that way, there will be less disappointment and hurt.
Jesus said “it’s more blessed to give than to receive.” So, make this Christmas a time of service to others instead of focusing on your own needs and wants as a single person. Doing things such as feeding the poor or visiting the sick will not only help you put the holidays into their proper perspective, it will cause your spirits to soar! We guarantee it.
If you have not already done so, find a Christian singles group or church in your area where you can find and give support to other singles during the holidays. If you’re not part of any group, why not throw a holiday bash for other single friends you know?
Make sure to count every blessing the Lord has granted to you during the past year.
Holiday Don’ts for Singles
Avoid using too much alcohol (Ephesians 5:18) to cope with holiday stress because this tends to make one depressed.
As singles, we tend to overbook ourselves to the point of exhaustion. Make sure you don’t do this this holiday season, but give yourself plenty of down time to relax and rest. Fatique can lead to negative thought patterns.
Don’t spend all your holiday time with family members and other couples, but split the time to be with your single friends as well. This will help you keep a more positive perspective while enjoying everybody’s company
Overall, however you choose to celebrate the Christmas or New Year Holidays, remember to be safe, trust in God’s promises for your future (Jeremiah 29:11) and have fun! Happy Holidays!
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Many Christian men, myself included, have made dating mistakes. But yo, Christian Men! Can we talk? A lot of you Christian Men out there keep making the same stupid dating mistakes. In fact, I’m really tired of single Christian men whining about not being able to meet any nice girls, when it’s their own goofs that are driving away the promising possibilities.
Our simple piece of dating advice is that many Christian men can avoid making dating mistakes in the future by simply learning what they are, and taking appropriate steps to sincerely change.
Christian Men Dating Mistakes to Avoid
Christian Men Mistake: Being Out Of Touch With Her Needs
Every woman has heart needs. Not understanding or caring about what Christain Girls Want in a Guy means you’re probably in the group of whiners we already spoke about. All I’ll say is: If you don’t know your playbook, how can you play?
Christian Men Mistake: Failing to Communicate Your True Feelings
Many guys, including Christian men, have a difficult time expressing their feeling. This happens for a variety of reasons. Some Christian men suffer from low self-esteem, so their fears of rejection hold them from sharing their heart with a woman. Other Christian men never learned how to converse with the opposite sex.
Christian Men Mistake: Acting Too Meek and Needy
Can anybody say milquetoast? A whole lot of Christian men make this boo boo by over exaggerating their sense of Christian meekness in order to win a girl’s heart. Yeah, girls love sensitive guys, but not weasels who pander to their every whim as an over pleasing “yes man.”
By the way, the Biblical meaning of meekness actually means “controlled power”, the exact quality women find irresistible. For better or worse, most women are attracted to men who are perceived as being powerful. Ever wondered why a lot of good girls date bad guys? It’s connected to this phenomenon. Christian men, do you think you can strike a balance here somewhere?
Christian Men Mistake: Yacking About The Ex
My brother did this last week while we were having dinner with his new girlfriend. I tried to kick his leg under the table, but I missed. Bottom line: Nothing soaks the kindling flames of a budding romance more. Too much talk about the ex, and she may think you’re taking her as a rebound relationship.
Christian Men Mistake: Compromising Your Spiritual Walk to Get the Girl
Are you doing things you would not normally do only to impress a girl? That’s not a sign of a healthy Christian dating relationship, and you’ll end up regretting it when the relationship ends. Read chapter 5 and 6 in Proverbs if you don’t believe me.
Overall, no dating relationship is perfect. However, Christian men can improve their chances at at having a satisfying experience if they avoid the above mistakes.
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Some single Christians have no problems attracting a man or woman to date. Especially when using an online dating service like eHarmony. However, attracting the right man or woman to date is often a separate issue. By the right man or woman to date, we mean that special person with whom you may wish to spend the rest of your life. Your soul mate. Since you only marry a man or woman you date, it’s important to get it right. Right?
There are several practical steps we can take in order to attract the right kind of man or woman to date.
5 Keys to Attracting the Right Man or Woman to Date
Seek the Lord in Prayer
Yeah, I know we heard this all before, but really, God will hear your prayers, and provide for all of your needs (Phil. 4:19). I know some single Christians are frustrated because they have been praying for a mate, and nothing tangible has been happening. But please don’t give up hope for that special man or woman to date.
The Scriptures state that at just the right time God sent forth His son to save us. (Gal. 4:4). So, if God the Father gave us Jesus, will he not graciously give us all things? (Romans 8:32). The answer to that question is a resounding YES! In the meantime, wait on God, and learn to have contentment as a single person.
Love (Accept) Yourself
Jesus told us to love others as we love ourselves. The bottom line is we can’t love others the way God wants (including your our date or mate) until we love ourselves.
Loving yourself has little to do with self-esteem, but all to do with “God-esteem.” What do I mean by that? It means looking at yourself the way God sees you. He says you were wonderfully and fearfully made (Psalms 139), and He thought well of enough of you to die for your sins while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8).
So here’s my question for you? Can you love and accept yourself as God loves and accepts you, warts and all? If you do, this is a very atttractive quality to the opposite sex. If you can’t accept yourself, potential dates will most likely be turned off as well.
Be the Real You
This means letting others see the real you, not the man or woman you think they want you to be. The reason you should just be yourself is that you want your date to want you just for being you. That way there’s no pressure to keep putting on an act. By the way, keep this in mind if you are writing an online dating profile. Remember, changing yourself to meet your date’s or mate’s criteria is not only stressful and dishonest, but it’s also a surefire way to doom a relationship.
Set Level Expectations
It’s good to make a list (with the help of family and friends who know you best) of the qualities you are looking for in a man or woman date, but just be realistic. I know many Christian singles who have remained single and lonely because they could never find anyone “good enough” for them. Do you get the picture?
Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection and Failure
The God you and I serve calls us to take faith-filled risks. Don’t allow fears to rule over your life. Trust Him to guide you in this area of your life, because you will never meet the right man or woman to date unless you take a chance by becoming vulnerable. Remember that most people, whether they are on a blind date or in a courtship relationship, have faced rejection at one time or another. The key is to trust God with your fears.
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