Pornography, Nude Women and Christians

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Now that we have your attention, sorry if you googled “pornography nude women” and came up with our site. Our church podcast of the week is not so much about nude women pornography, as it it about how poisonous pornography really is to healthy dating relationships and to Christians (mostly Christian men) in general. Fact is, the sad truth is that many Christians have messed up sex lives, and are as addicted to pornography as much as unbelievers are. Many are lonely Christian single men, who also struggle with masturbation and all kinds of sexual impurity

Victory Over Pornography

A good first step toward victory over pornography is to talk about it. Open and honest confession, claiming the promises of God in His word and getting accountability in Christian support groups or Christian counseling can go a long way toward healing. Unfortunately many Christians choose to live secretly in their sins.

Pastor Forrest Pollock, from Bell Shoals Baptist Church in Brandon Florida, brings us the following message of hope against pornography. I hope it helps

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Flirting Tips-How to Flirt with a Girl Online

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Flirting is an art, and those men who learn how to flirt with a girl will be more successful with both traditional and online dating. Just what does it mean to flirt? One definition in Webster’s on flirting reads: “to act in such a way so as to attract.” While some Christian singles are more flirtatious than others, nearly all interested in a dating or courtship relationship flirt from time to time.

Many online Christian dating services make it possible to communicate via e-mail, chat and IM’s with other singles. This format can be a very playful and fun way of flirting but should be done with some knowledge of online dating safety in mind. Many singles actually relay that they find flirting easier online because they are more at ease when the other person is not standing right next to them.

Understanding how to flirt online, and what to avoid while flirting may help you get to the next level: a true dating relationship. The following flirt tips are are actually “pre-flirting” tips that will prepare you for the real thing

How to Flirt Online Successfully

Flirt Tip 1: First Let Them Get to Know You a Little Bit

Most people, especially single women, want to know some background on a person before they start flirting online. In other words, she may be thinking, “is the person flirting with me a whacko or is there a real possiblity of a relationship here?” If you begin flirting before making a proper introduction via that initial email, you have less chance of the person accepting your flirt. She probably receives a ton of flirt mail, so put some thought into your email message, and use proper email etiquette. This puts you in a better flirting position.

Flirt Tip 2: Have a Great Photo and Captivating Profile

Guys, this is what will make or break you, even if you are the best flirt on the web. Guess what’s the first thing a person will do after you make initial contact and begin flirting. Yup. They’re gonna check out that handsome picture you submitted (and if you don’t have one you are ten times less likely to have someone even acknowledge your presence).

The second thing a Christian single woman will do is read your profile and look at your screen name. A sparce profile may lead her to believe you a married player looking for a fling, or a complete neanderthal who lacks any sensitvity and brains.

Flirt Tip 3: Have a Creative Screen Name

A good screen name or user name speaks a thousands words. Have fun with this one, but make sure you get it right. Do we need to remind you guys that sexual innuendos are a big no no? I didn’t think so.

Flirt tip 4: Take it Easy and Slow

Single women like to be wooed, not run over. Please avoid asking her for a date on your first flirt. It usually won’t work. Instead, take the time to get to know her likes and dislikes, which will only help you become a better flirt the next time you meet online.

In a future article, we will deal with specific examples of flirting. In the meantime, putting the above into practice will help you in your online dating life.

Are you a Christian single with tips on how to flirt?

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Conversation Starters to Avoid Using With Your Date

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Conversation starter skills are a must if you don’t want to bore your date half to death. Almost every Christian single person has had that sinking feeling that they were losing their date’s interest while conversing with them.

Singles with good conversation starter and communication skills are successful at keeping their dates fascinated and involved because they do do two simple things very well:

1. They avoid so called conversation starters that bore or annoy him or her
2. They develop their own conversation starter skills with their date by determining what makes them perk up

Conversation Starter Tips: What To Avoid-Or at Least Go Easy On

One of the purposes of dating is to have conversations with the other person to determine whether or not the other person is your true love or dating match.

While it’s important to have easy flowing conversation starters, take care when speaking with your date about the following topics:

Health Issues

If you’re thinking this is a good conversation starter, forgettaboutit! While you may gain some sympathy in the short run, as a hypochondriac I can tell you from expereince that you will inevitably turn your date off as you rattle off your litany of ills.

Of course, serious health concerns can and should be shared at the proper time, but do we really need to know about the runs you had last night? You get the point.

Ex Anythings

Nothing bores a date quicker, but this failed “conversation starter” is a perrenial favourite of many, to their own demise. Not only is this a major turn off, if gives the impression they are dealing with a rebound dater. Bad. Very bad.

The Bible

I may get stoned for this, so if you don’t see this site tomorrow you know what happened. Look, incessant Bible quoting during a date is boring and obnoxious. Now I’m not talking about heart felt sharing about your faith, or deep and interesting theological discussions that bring up the Scriptures.

I am speaking about the stooges who have to pepper in Bible quotations during every conversation. Here’s an example:”Praise the Lord, this food tastes great. Hey, could you pass that salt? Speaking of salt, did you know in Matthew 5:13 Jesus states that you are the salt of the earth?” Please don’t…it’s not attractive.

Gossip

Ever been around someone who had negative things to say about someone else when they weren’t around? Human nature being what it is, you may be tempted to use gossip as a conversation starter with your date. Don’t do it. Besides being unpleasing to the Lord, your date may begin to wonder what kinds of things you tell others about her when she’s not around. Get it?

No single person, male or female, has it all together when it comes to conversation starters. If you don’t confident in this area, just remember learning how to start a conversation with the opposite sex in learning process.

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