The following article is from Eric, a Christian single and one of our Christian Dating Service PLUS!下面的文章是由李家祥，是一个基督教的单一和我们的一个基督教约会服务加上！ readers addressing why nice Christian single guys have such a hard time finding a nice Christian girl.读者解决为什么尼斯基督教单一的家伙有这样的辛苦，找到一个很好的基督教女孩。 Respond as you wish:作为回应，你是否想：
Though I feel that what I have to say might be taken as offensive, especially to those of you who were given the gift of being a female, I hope to offer it as perhaps a different take on this issue.虽然我觉得我要说的话可能采取的攻击性，特别是那些你们谁给的礼物作为一个女性，我希望能够提供它作为或许不同，采取在这个问题上。 My prayer is that you will truly hear all of what I have to say first and attack it with a biblical mentality if the need arises to do so.我的祈祷是，你将真正听到所有我所要说的第一和攻击它的一个圣经的心态，如有需要，这样做。 I will try to be brief, but I fear that I cannot.我会尽量简短，但我害怕，我不能。
I whole-heartedly agree with the qualities listed, and I feel that, likewise, a Christian man should look for similar qualities in a girl, though in different degrees and perhaps with different emphasis. i衷心同意与素质上市，我觉得，同样地，基督教男子应寻求类似的素质，在一个女孩，虽然在不同程度上也许有不同的重点。 However, this has become a great frustration of mine.不过，这已成为一个伟大的挫折感，排雷。 A little bit of background about myself first perhaps would help.一点点的背景有关自己第一次，也许会有助益。 I am 24 and have only dated one girl ever.我和24月只有一个女孩。 However, we dated for about 7 years, and I was months away from proposing when she broke up with me.不过，我们的日期约七年，我是个月，远离提出时，她打破了与我。 We remain friends to this day, and I would not classify our breakup as a messy one.我们仍然朋友在这一天，我不会分类，我们的解体作为一个乱七八糟的一。 Although some would rightfully argue that we were very young for some of those years, I would have to concede that both of us come from solid Christian families, were valedictorians of our high school, and have each always been actively involved in church and various community organizations and activities.虽然有些人会理所当然地认为我们很年轻一些，这些年，我想必须承认，我们都来自坚实的基督教家庭，被valedictorians我们的高中，并已分别一直积极参与在教会和社会各界组织和活动。 I would offer, and I truly believe, that we were both relatively mature for our age.我想提出，我真正相信，我们都比较成熟，为我们的年龄。 Furthermore, though each of us has hurt the other through the natural course of a relationship, for the most part I would have to say that we very much honored God in that relationship.此外，虽然我们每个人都有伤害了其他通过自然的过程中的关系，大部份我不得不说，我们十分荣幸，上帝在这方面的关系。
During the one and a half years since breaking up, I have learned a tremendous amount about love, relationships, forgiveness, and healing a broken heart.在一个半以来，打破了，我学到了大量关于爱情，人际关系，宽恕与愈合1破碎的心。 God has used this situation, though at times I had wished He hadn’t, to teach me strength, integrity, and how to more closely rely on Him.上帝用了这种情况下，虽然有时我希望他没有，教导我的实力，完整，以及如何更加紧密地依赖于他。 I have learned that true love is not about one’s own happiness, as so often our society preaches, but about sacrificing your own wants and desires for the betterment of another.我了解到，真正的爱情是不是关于一个自己的幸福，因此，往往我们的社会宣扬，但约牺牲自己的希望和愿望，为改善另一个。 This is not to say that one should become a miserable wreck, serving every want of that other person, while living in a personal misery.这是不是说一应成为一个悲惨的破坏，服务每一个想要的，其他人，而生活在一个个人的苦难。 Contrarily, I have found that the model of true love, given to us by God Himself, is one of patient forgiveness, calm direction, and at times, confident discipline.相反，我发现，该模型的真正的爱情，给我们的子民，神要亲自之一，是病人的宽恕，平静的方向，有时，有信心的纪律。
To get to the point: it has been my observation that a large number of Christian women want so badly to find a man embodying the characteristics listed, and yet will find all sorts of reasons to either shy away from any kind of a commitment with such a man, or will allow themselves to be pursued by men who don’t fit such standards.去这一点：它已被我的观察，大量的基督教妇女要这么差，以寻找一名男子，体现特色上市，但会寻找各种理由，要么回避任何形式的承诺，这样的一名男子，或将让自己所要追求的男人谁不符合这些标准。
It will be very hard for me to not seem arrogant to you with only the option to write you my words instead of live them in person, but please try to hear what I am really saying.那将是非常努力，我似乎不是傲慢，你只有选择写你我的话，而是活在他们的人，但请你尝试听到什么，我真的说。 In reference to the points above: 1.在参考上述各项要点： 1 。 God is my Saviour and I strive to walk closer with Him daily, despite the pain I sometimes must go through 2.上帝是我的救主，我努力走更紧密的与他的每日，尽管疼痛，有时候我都要经过2 。 I very openly have shared my feelings with those I care deeply for 3.我很公开分享我的心情与我深切3 。 I have a dry sense of humor, but this girl has always said that I was good at making her laugh, for the right reasons, and we always had random acts of goofy entertainment as well as lots of healthy, God-centered romance 4.我有一个干的幽默感，但这个女孩一直说我是善于使她笑，为正确的理由，和我们一直有随机的行为，疯疯癫癫的娱乐，以及大量的健康，神为本的浪漫4 。 I have an amazing, well-paying job as an engineer, have very little debt, and have a God-given gift for managing finances 5.我有一个惊人的，以及高薪的工作作为一名工程师，很少有债务，并有一个上帝赐予的礼物理财5 。 This is where I slack!这是我呆滞！ Not really, so much.不是真的，这么多。 I played sports throughout high school and intramurals in college, but am not rippling with muscles nor do I look like Matthew McConaughey (unfortunately, right girls?!)我打体育在整个高中和intramurals在高校，但我不波及与肌肉，我也不像是马修McConaughey ） （不幸的是，女孩的权利吗！ ）
Furthermore, this girl to this day still says she finds me attractive, funny, and looks up to me as a spiritual leader.此外，这个小女孩在这一天仍然说，她发现我的吸引力，搞笑，并期待对我作为一个精神领袖。 So my question is: What am I doing wrong?因此，我的问题是：什么，我做的不对呢？
Honestly, I love this girl so incredibly much.老实说，我爱这个女孩，所以令人难以置信。 She is far more attractive to me in every single way than any other girl I’ve met, whether that be physically, emotionally, or spiritually.她是到目前为止，更具吸引力的，我在每一个单一的途径，比任何其他女孩我找到了我，无论是身体，情感上，或精神上的。 I have not met a girl close to my age who shows more love and a caring heart for others and service to God than this girl.我还没有遇到一个女孩接近我的年龄谁表明，更多的爱和爱心为他人服务和向上帝比这个女孩。 I don’t say that lightly, as I am comparing her to some amazing examples of Godly females from my family, a family that has not experienced divorce.我不说，掉以轻心，因为我比较，她的一些惊人的例子，正直的女性，从我的家庭，一个家庭有没有经历过离婚。 I look chiefly to my mom (who has been married to my dad for almost 30 years) and my grandmother (who is a pastor’s wife and former missionary to Chile, and has been married for 50 years).我期待，主要是我的妈妈（谁的婚姻已经到我的爸爸了近30年）和我的祖母（谁是牧师的妻子和前传教，以智利，并已结婚50年） 。 This girl is probably very similar to many of you reading this, in that she loves to relax, have fun, read a book, laugh with friends, and pursue success in many areas of life (which she does in her career as an accountant).这名女童可能是非常相似，你们中许多人看了这本，在她爱放宽，有乐趣，读一本书，笑着与朋友交流，追求成功，在生活的许多领域（她是否在她的职业生涯作为一个会计师） 。 She is known for being such a warm, caring person to so many people.她是已知的被这样的温暖，关怀人，所以很多人。 That comes not just from me, as indeed I have already given away my bias since I love her, but because a large number of Christian and non-Christian guys pursue her.来的不只是从我，事实上，我已远离我的偏见，因为我爱她，而是因为大量的基督教和非基督教家伙追求她。
I am not so much looking for guidance or advice for my situation, as I have only to continue to pray and seek God’s will daily in my own life.我不这么多寻找指导或意见，为我的情况，正如我刚才不仅要继续祈祷，并寻求上帝的意愿，每天在我自己的生活。 Because of God’s love for me, I have gained an enormous amount of confidence in who I am, and I hope that that is conveyed in this “book” I’m writing (it’s getting to be tremendously long – I’m sorry).因为上帝的爱对我来说，我获得了大量的信心，我是谁，我希望这是转达了在这“书”我写作（它的获得要大大长-我'米很抱歉） 。 My hope is that you don’t write me off as cocky, but listen to what I’m about to say, as I’m trying to wrap this up.我希望您不要收件箱小康作为刺耳，但听什么，我将要说的话，正如我试图总结这个了。
My main prayer and hope in writing this is that many of you Christian girls will hear me when I say that Christian guys, and guys in general, have in large part not measured up to the kind of men you are looking for and need.我的主要祈祷，并希望在写作，这是许多基督徒的女孩，你会听到我，当我说基督教的家伙，和一般的家伙，已经在很大一部分没有测量到种男人你正在寻找和需要。 Frankly, most guys, including myself, have a large tendency to be what you might and probably have called jerks.坦白说，大多数球员，包括我自己在内，有一个大的趋势，要什么，您可能和可能有所谓的jerks 。 I would certainly venture my opinion that, in general, there are far more girls with a Christ-centered mentality and a gentle spirit than there are guys with the same.我一定会创业，我认为，一般而言，有更多的女孩与基督为本的心态和温柔的精神比有球员具有相同。 Consequently, many women are hurt, broken-hearted, and want to give up, and they often do, settling for guys they know they don’t want, but are trying anything to get rid of the pain of loneliness.因此，很多妇女受到伤害，打破了心，并不愿放弃，他们往往做的，为解决家伙，他们知道他们不想，但正试图有所摆脱的痛苦，孤独。 Believe me, I VERY MUCH understand the pain of loneliness.请相信我，我十分理解的痛苦，孤独。 (I failed to mention that this past year, I went to 23 weddings, 8 of which I was in – all close friends. I no longer have a single friend, they’re all married. I know what loneliness feels like - I so badly want to be married!) （我没有提到过去这一年，我去了23日的婚礼，八月，而我是在-所有亲密的朋友，我不再有一个单一的朋友，他们都是已婚，我知道什么孤独感觉就像-我谨此急切想要结婚的！ ）
HOWEVER it has become quite frustrating to me to find so many good, Christian men – guys with character in all the right places, continue to be rejected or passed over by Christian women who claim to be looking for the very qualities that these men possess, those embodied by the above list.不过，它已成为相当令人沮丧的我找到这么多好，基督教的男子-球员与性格在所有适当的地方，继续被否决或通过由基督教妇女谁自称为寻找非常的素质，这些男子拥有，这些所体现的上述名单。 I have seen time after time, guys I have met through various church-related and other functions try so hard to rid their own feeling of loneliness and resentment due to years of pain, only to find a Christian girl, even go on a few dates with her, only to find that she suddenly won’t respond, or won’t offer any sort of reason why she’s not interested or unwilling to give effort back.我所看到的时间后，时间，家伙我见过透过各种与教会有关的功能和其他功能尝试，所以很难摆脱自己的孤独感和反感，由于多年的疼痛，才发现是一个基督教的女孩，甚至对数的日期与她，才发现她突然将不予回应，或将不提供任何形式的原因，她的不感兴趣，或不愿意让的努力回。 All the while, I hear countless places and see countless sites such as this one that tell me how there are so many girls looking for that man of Godly character.所有与此同时，我听到了无数的地方，看到无数的网站像这样一说，告诉我怎么有这么多的女孩在寻找这名男子的正直品格。
I sincerely hope that I don’t cause offense, rather that I help each of you, whether you are a Christian girl or a Christian guy, or even not a Christian, to examine your own life and make sure that you are truly walking with a God who loves us, the same God who, in the human form as Jesus freely loved even the weirdest and outcast of society.我衷心希望我不进攻的原因，而不是我，相互帮助，对你，无论你是一个基督教的女孩或基督教的家伙，或什至不是一个基督徒，研究自己的生活，并且一定要知道你是真正的走路谁是上帝爱我们，同样的上帝谁，在人类的形式，作为耶稣的爱自由，甚至weirdest和抛弃社会。 Or perhaps to put it in perspective, Jesus, along with His and our heavenly Father, loved(s) even those people who perhaps aren’t as outgoing, or some might say “confident”, as those around them. ，或者把它的角度看，耶稣，随着他和我们的天父，爱（ ） ，即使这些人谁，也许并不如即将离任的，或有些人可能会说“有信心” ，因为这些他们周围。 Yet they still might have a truly wonderful heart if only one were willing to get past that.然而，他们仍然可能有一个真正美好的心，如果只有一个人愿意让过去。
Wow this was long!哇，这是长期的！ But I hope that it provides some in-depth thought and discussion, and perhaps even some self-reflection.但我希望它提供了一些深层次的思考和讨论，甚至有些自我反思。
In Christ.在基督里。
Eric李家祥
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Know anybody who may need sex addicts anonymous?任何人知道谁可能需要性别成瘾者无名氏呢？ Fact of the matter is if we believe what George Barna writes about the sexual practices of Christians, there are probably many sex addicts in the church who could use a good sex addicts anonymous small group.事实是，如果我们相信什么乔治barna写关于性的做法，基督教徒，有可能是许多性别痴迷者在教会谁可以使用一个良好的性成瘾者无名氏小组。 . 。 For crying out loud, a few years back Focus on the Family estimated that 25% of Christian ministers were sex addicts, addicted to stuff like internet porn and为哭声响亮，几年回侧重于家庭，估计有25 ％的基督教部长们的性成瘾，成瘾的东西一样，互联网的色情和 masturbation自慰 . 。 Many of these folks have suffered in much pain, shame and guilt, feeling they had no where to dump the burdens of their hearts.许多这些乡亲遭受了很多痛苦，羞耻和内疚，感觉他们没有地方倾倒的负担，他们的心。
Sex Addicts and Christian Singles性别吸毒成瘾者和基督教单打
The great thing about have a Christian singles site is that many can伟大的事情有一个基督教单打的网站是许多可以 share their deepest sex secrets分享他们的最深切的性别秘密 without worrying that they will be scorned.无需担心他们会鄙视。 It’sa sad and despicable thing that most churches don’t provide this kind of environment, but just sweep the topic of sex addicts under the rug, making believe the problem is not even in existence.这是可悲的和可耻的事，大多数教会不提供这种环境，只是打扫的话题性成瘾下，地毯，决策，相信问题是，即使是在存在。 This behavior only encourages singles to hide their own desperate state instead of seeking help in a sex addicts anonymous program.这种行为不仅鼓励单打，以隐瞒他们自己的国家而不是绝望，求助的，在性别成瘾者无名氏计划。
If we as a church really want to shine for Jesus, we need to be transparent to the world, scars and all.如果我们作为一个教会真的要照耶稣，我们需要透明的世界，和所有的伤疤。 Let it all hang out (no pun intended) and let people see what God’s amazing forgiveness and grace is all about.让这一切空闲时（没有双关语意） ，让人们看到什么上帝的惊人的宽恕和恩典是一回事。 Having dabbled in pornography myself I am familiar with the vicious cycle of the sex addict: Excitement-Guilt-Despair, but also of the way to victory in this area that is literally eating the heart and soul out of the next generation of single Christians.有涉足色情自己在我所熟悉的恶性循环，性别吸毒者：刺激，罪恶感-绝望，但也对的方式赢得胜利在这方面，是从字面上吃的心脏和灵魂，出于对下一代的单一基督徒。
Our Christian podcast on sex addicts breaks the mold of what we usually find in most churches and I am thankful for men of God like我们的基督教播客对吸毒成瘾者的性别，打破了模具什么，我们通常会发现在大多数的教堂和我感谢上帝的男人一样， Pastor Steve Nicholson, of the Vineyard Christian Church of Evanston Illinois牧师史蒂夫尼科尔森，葡萄园基督教教堂的伊利诺斯州埃文斯顿 (IL) for his sharing. （一）为他分担。 This message on this difficult topic will be sure to help many singles languishing alone in their pain and loneliness.这个讯息对这个棘手的话题一定会帮助许多单打languishing ，仅在他们的痛苦和孤独。
Sex Addicts Signs性成瘾的迹象
Are you a sex addict?您是一位吸毒者的性别？
Rate yourself on these questions:率，自己就这些问题：
* Do you feel like you’ve lost the ability to control your sex life (went over boundary lines you know you should not have, unable to stop sexual acting out even though you confessed them to God and made promises to Him)? *你觉得喜欢你已经失去控制能力你的性生活（前往边界线，你知道你不应该有，无法停止性署理指出，即使您供认他们对上帝和作出的承诺，给他） ？
* Is your risky sexual behavior causing your life to be effected negatively in other areas of like health, work, church, present relationships or the law *您的危险性行为导致您的生活将产生不利影响，在其他地区的一样，健康，工作，教会，目前的关系或法律
* Do you obsess or dwell over sexual activity even when you try not to? *你obsess或谈论过性活动，甚至当您尝试不？
* Do you keep secrets about your sex life fom the closest people in your life? *你保守秘密约你的性生活FOM说最接近的人在你的生活？ Or would you say you are living a double life?或者你会说你是生活的双重生活呢？
If you answered yes to any of the above you need help for a如果您的回答上述任何您需要帮助，为一 possible sexual addiction.可能的性成瘾。
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Into Russian dating?到俄罗斯约会？ Looking for the Christian singles of your dreams in Russia or Ukraine?寻找基督教单打您的梦想，在俄罗斯或乌克兰？ There are a number of Russian dating sites out there that Christians may be interested in, including SeekingChristian.com,有一些俄罗斯交友网站有基督徒可能有兴趣，包括seekingchristian.com ， Anastasia.com anastasia.com
Anastasia.com and Adam-i-Eva.com. anastasia.com和亚当- - eva.com 。 These particular Russian dating sites advertise all around the world, even appearing in Russian mail order bride magazines.这些，特别是俄罗斯交友网站刊登广告的世界各地，甚至出现在俄罗斯邮购新娘杂志。
Russian Dating Site Reviews俄罗斯交友网站评语
There are a number of fake Russian dating sites out there but the above listed ones at least appear on the level.有一些假的俄罗斯交友网站有，但上述上市至少出现在的水平。 They have real profiles and personal info one can observe when looking for Russian girls or guy dating and marriage.他们有真正的个人资料和个人信息一可以观察到，当寻找俄罗斯女孩或家伙约会和婚姻。 The costs are not outrageous either.成本是不离谱。
Overall, if I have any negative comments about the Russian dating sites is that the search databases are not as large as other international Christian dating services like整体而言，如果我有任何负面评论，有关俄罗斯交友网站是搜索的数据库是不一样大的其他国际基督教约会服务，如 Christian Mingle基督教交织 or或 Christian Cupid基督教丘比特 and is a 2:1 ratio of Russian women to men on the russian sites.和是2:1的比例，俄罗斯妇女与男子对俄罗斯的网站。 I suppose that could be a good thing if you are a guy look for Russian women.我想这可能是一件好事，如果你是一个家伙寻求俄罗斯妇女。
Have you ever attempted to use Russian dating services?您是否曾经企图利用俄罗斯约会服务？ Please share your comments and views in order to help others.请分享您的意见和看法，以便帮助别人。
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Believe it or not, instead of dating issues the topic of relationship break ups takes up most of the mail we receive at Christian Dating Service Plus!相信它或不是，不是约会的问题，话题的关系，打破起伏占用了大部分的我们收到的邮件在基督教约会服务加上！ I guess the reason for this is that relationship break ups are one of the most painful experiences to endure, right up there with我猜想，原因是这种关系打破的UPS是最痛苦的经历，忍受，直至有同 unrequited love无偿的爱 . 。
The fact is, relationship breakups cause lots of事实上，关系碎裂的原因很多 heartbreak,心碎， even when we know it wasn’ta healthy relationship and we probably should have甚至当我们知道这不是健康的关系，我们大概应该有 dumped i倾倒i ta while back.电讯管理局局长，而回。 Why do relationship breakups cause so much pain?为什么这样做的关系，碎裂的原因这么多的痛苦？ It’s simple.它的特点是简便。 Whenever we invest our time, money and heart into someone it turns into major disappointment if a relationship breakup occurs.每当我们投资我们的时间，金钱和心脏有人到它会变成主要的失望，如果关系破裂的发生。
Relationship Break Ups cause singles to grieve loss in a number of ways:打破关系起伏的原因单打，以悲痛的损失在若干方面：
- A relationship break up means loss of friendship的关系，打破手段损失的友谊
- A relationship break up involves loss of a vision of “things that could have been”的关系，打破涉及损失的远见“的事情，可能已”
- A relationship break up could entail的关系，打破可能导致 loss of self esteem损失自尊
Overall, no one should go through the break up of a serious relationship without help.整体而言，任何人都不应通过打破一项严重的关系没有帮助。
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The following article, Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women , was written by a single Christian woman who is also a mental health professional.下面的文章， 性的感情，基督教的单身妇女 ，作者是一个单一的基督教女谁是也是一个精神健康专业人士。 The writer thought it important that作者认为重要的是 single Christian men单一的基督教男子 , in their ，在其 fight against lust打击的欲望 and quest for和追求 sexual purity in dating relationships性纯洁性，在约会关系 , understand how the sexual feelings of Christian single women work: ，了解如何在性的感情，基督教单身女性的工作：
I just want to say to all the我只想说，所有 Christian men基督教男子 who think single Christian women don’t think as much about sex as you do - we do.谁认为单一的基督教妇女不认为这么多的性别，你这样做-我们这样做。 We just romanticize and emotionalize it a bit more.我们只是romanticize和emotionalize它多一点。 Romance novels are an emotional stimulus that has an end result similar to porn; so do Cosmo and Glamor magazines.罗曼史小说是一个情绪化的刺激有一个最终的结果类似色情;这样做小宇和魅力的杂志。 This is because emotional and intellectual connection are generally more of what turn women on.这是因为情感和智力方面，一般更多的是什么，从而使妇女。
As a woman who was作为一名女性是谁 sexually abused性虐待 in her own home at a very young age, I have struggled a lot with在她自己的家在一个非常年轻的年龄，我已奋斗了很多与 sexual impurity性杂质 and guilt that my mind fantasizes about my current Christian boyfriend.和内疚，我的心fantasizes约我目前的基督教男朋友。 Long before I met my boyfriend, I went to前不久我见到了我男朋友，我去了 counseling辅导 for years (because of the abuse) and now am a mental health professional.多年来， （因为滥用）和现在感到精神健康专业人士。 Yet, I know from my professional background that in spite of all my healing, there are just some changes in my brain and my chemistry from childhood that just make me a more sexual person than I otherwise would have been.然而，我知道从我的专业背景是，尽管我所有的愈合，有一些变化，只是在我的脑化学和我从童年，就使我更加性的人比我，否则会已。
I was我是 tired of the guilt厌倦了有罪 and just spoke to my boyfriend about my sexual feelings fantasies and he told me he has similar fantasies.和刚才的发言，以我男朋友对我的性幻想和感情，他告诉我，他也有类似的幻想。 We prayed together that God would help us remain in control of ourselves and our sexual urges because we want to save sex for marriage.我们一起祈祷，上帝会帮助我们留在控制我们自己和我们的性要求，因为我们要保存的性别结婚。 We also set up rules for ourselves that would keep us from getting into situations that would give us means and opportunity (because the motive -我们还设立了规则，为自己这将让我们从进入情况，这将给予我们的手段和机会， （因为动机- temptation诱惑 - is there). -是否有） 。 Everyone’s different, so details of this are micromanagement, but I think every couple that is dating exclusively (especially Christian couples) should have每个人的不同，所以细节，这是微观管理，但我认为，每夫妇是专门约会（尤其是基督教夫妇）应该有 a sex talk性别谈 , and share what their insights are as far as setting up fences long before the cliff as not to tip toe until over the edge. ，并分享他们的见解是，据设立围栏，很久之前的悬崖不提示脚趾，直到超过边缘。
When a当 Christian single girl基督教单身女孩 learns over time to trust a man that is willing to work with her for the sake of putting Christ first in the relationship (eg, above sexual feelings and impulses), she is much more free to experience herself and her man as who they fully are, relaxing and knowing that he does not intend to pressure her into sex, either directly or just by exploring her with his hands in ways that tempt her.学会随着时间的推移，以信任一个男人，是愿意工作，与她为求把基督的第一次的关系（例如，上述的感情和性的冲动） ，她是更为自由，以自己的经验和她的男子是谁，完全是，放宽知道他不打算压力，她的性别，无论是直接或刚刚探索，她与他的手的方式，诱使她。
For Christian single women, when we deeply connect with a man on other levels (emotional, intellectual, spiritual) we feel a strong need (our own yearning) and obligation (to please) to reciprocate, sexually.为基督教的单身妇女，当我们深感连接与一名男子对其他各级（情绪，智力，精神） ，我们觉得非常有必要（我们自己的向往）和义务（请）往，非礼也，性。 Our temptation is to我们的诱惑是 use sex to get more love使用性，以获得更多的爱 (remember how much we women romanticize) from a man and validate the love we are already feeling from him. （请记住我们是多么妇女romanticize ）由一名男子和验证的爱情，我们已经从他的感觉。 As leaders, Christian men can reassure us of their love, commitment, and devotion that will not fade when we choose not to go all the way during temptation.作为领导人，基督教男人可以放心，我们自己的爱，承诺和献身精神将不会淡出，当我们选择不要前往所有的方式在诱惑。 That is, the world tells we women if we don’t have sex with a man, we’ll lose him to someone else who will, or that we owe men sex in return for pursuing us and sweeping us off our feet.那就是，世界妇女告诉我们，如果我们不发生性关系的一名男子，我们会失去他给别人谁，或认为我们有责任在男性性别的回报，追求我们和清扫我们离开我们的双脚。 It’sa crock (if the men are decent and worth being with anyway), but some of it sinks in now and then.这是摩擦（如男性体面和价值，正在与无论如何） ，但有些它汇在现在然后。
A Christian man who puts Christ and participating in Christian service/ministry might see dating as an opportunity to show a woman that he is willing to devote himself to her like Christ did to the church.一个基督教男子谁把基督和参与在基督教服务处/部可能会看到约会以此为契机，显示一名女子，他愿意致力于她像基督所做的教会。 This perspective might come from knowing that Christ gave to the church more (= to love, devotion, romantic pursuit from a man to a woman) before expecting the church to understand how to receive and give back to Him (= to sexually giving from a woman to a man) and it was all in the context of the deepest of这个角度可能来自知道基督给教会更多（ =爱，奉献，浪漫的追求，从一名男子向一女） ，然后期待教会了解如何接收，并给予回他（ =性给予从女子的一名男子） ，这是所有语境中的最深的 commitments承诺 (= to marriage). （ =婚姻） 。
God bless all you men who care enough about your relationships with women and with Christ to read this feminine perspective.愿上帝保佑你们所有的男子谁照顾足够的关于您的关系，与妇女和与基督要阅读此女性的角度来看。 I hope I have helped you see a little more into what women need and that you can be the best men God intended you to be.我希望我已经帮助你看到些什么妇女的需要，以及您是否可以是最好的男子上帝，你打算要。
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Never heard of a .com single parent?从来没有听过一。 com的单亲？ Well meet my friend Sue.以及满足我的朋友控告。 She is a .com single parent with two kids in the home, two jobs to pay the bills and no time to relax (let alone date) in the fast paced communication age in which she lives.她是一位。 com的单亲与两个孩子在家里，两个职位的薪酬法案，并没有时间去放松（更遑论日期） ，在快节奏的沟通，年龄在她的生命。 Sound familiar?听起来很熟悉呢？ Meeting .com single parents’ needs can be daunting considering the sheer number of issues.会议。 com的单亲家长的需要，可以是艰巨的考虑纯粹的若干问题。
Additionally, although US Census estimates claim that 59 percent of kids will live in a single parent home sometime in their childhood, most churches do not or cannot address this great need and ministry opportunity.此外，虽然美国人口普查局估计，索赔59 ％的孩子们将生活在一个单亲家庭的某个时候在他们的童年，大多数教会没有或不能处理这个伟大的需要和财政部的机会。 Please pray for请祈祷 Christian single parents基督教单亲家长 everywhere!无处不在！
We are in the process of putting together some single parent resources (books or web sites) to share for meeting the needs of .com singles, so if you have anyplease feel free to share them here as we will be listing them in a future article.我们在这个过程中，把一道一些单亲资源（书籍或网站） ，分享，为会议的需要。 com的单打金牌，因此，如果您有anyplease觉得免费分享他们在这里我们将上市，他们在未来的文章。
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Christian singles looking for New Zealand (NZ) dating services for Christians will be hard pressed to find any true NZ dating services specifically for them.基督教单打寻找新的新西兰（新西兰）约会服务为基督徒将难以找到任何真正的Match.com的服务，专门为他们。 Therefore, New Zealand single Christian guys and gals interested in meeting other Christians for fellowship and dating will have to try other avenues.因此，新西兰单一的基督教家伙和gals有兴趣在会议上其他基督徒团契及约会将不得不尝试其他的途径。 Below are some suggestions.下面是一些建议。
NZ Dating Guide for Christians Match.com的指导基督徒
We recommend the following worldwide Christian dating services for NZ dating Christians:我们建议以下世界各地的基督教约会服务Match.com的基督徒：
eHarmony eharmony
Christian Cupid基督教丘比特
Match.com for Christian Singles match.com基督教单打
ChristianMingle christianmingle
Fusion101 fusion101
All of the above are worldwide dating services that include NZ dating singles.所有以上是全世界约会服务，其中包括在Match.com的单打。
One of the best ways to meet other singles is through networking through Christian singles groups, events and church activities.最好的方法之一，以满足其他单打是通过网络，通过基督教单打组，活动和教会活动。 Since the Bible says in Hebews 10:25 we should not give up meeting together, Christian Dating Service Plus!因为圣经上说，在hebews 10时25分，我们不应该放弃的会议一起，基督教约会服务加上！ highly encourages NZ.高度鼓励新西兰元。 Christian singles to hook into one of these not only to meet nice people but also give and receive spiritual edification.基督教单打，以钩之一，这些不仅要满足人民的好，但也给予和接收的精神启迪。
By the way, if you have a NZ dating events, Christian singles groups or Church activities from and of the following Zealand (NZ) locations, just let us know so we can list them on our site:由的方式，如果您有一个在Match.com的活动，基督教单打团体或教会活动由和下列新西兰（新西兰）的地点， â只是让我们知道，让我们可以将它们列在我们的网站：
Auckland, Bay of Plenty,Christchurch, Dunedin, Gisborne, Hamilton, Hastings, Henderson, Hutt City, Kaitaia,Kilbirnie, Manukau Porirua, Maraetai Beach奥克兰，普伦蒂湾，克赖斯特彻奇，达尼丁，吉斯伯恩，汉密尔顿，黑斯廷斯，恒基，哈特市， kaitaia ， kilbirnie ，曼努波里鲁瓦，马赖泰泳滩
Nelson, North Shore, Parnell, Ponsonby ,Raglan,Remuera,Taupo, Thames,纳尔逊，北岸，帕内尔，旁森比，拉格兰， remuera ，陶波湖，泰晤士，
Waiheke Island, Waipukurau, Wanganui,Waitakere, Wellington怀赫科岛岛， waipukurau ，旺阿努伊，怀塔克雷，威灵顿
Something to share about NZ dating for Christians?一些份额约在Match.com的基督徒呢？
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