Dating Game-Waiting Game

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Waiting for that perfect Christian dating match is not always fun, but often feels like some sort of cosmic waiting game. Problem is in our busy lives we don’t have very much patience to wait on things. Funny though, how we will always wait for things that are important to us. We will wait by the phone for our new love interest to call or a report from the doctor’s office.

We wait in line to get into the newest Saturday night hangout. We will even spend hours waiting in line to get on the best thrill rides. We are willing to wait with excitement filled days before our birthdays or Christmas. The amount of time we are willing to wait often speaks volumes as to how valuable we view
something.

Dating Game-Waiting Game Blues

Why are we less patient in waiting to hear God in certain areas like dating? Maybe we do not want to really hear what he has to say? We have already made up our minds on what we want to do.

We don’t have that kind of time. I am lonely and I don’t want to be alone. It is the beginning of the month and I can’t stretch out my bank account any longer. We need an answer and we need it now.

If we value hearing from God and are assured that we will hear His voice we can muster the determination to wait patiently for His voice. Waiting to hear from God is never easy. Especially when we are hurting in the area of Christian dating relationships. We wonder why can’t God just make this better NOW?

Part of the process of waiting is often as important as the message itself. As we wait our faith is strengthened. We prepare ourselves to receive what God is telling us and respond with obedience. As we immerse ourselves in prayer and devotion God is drawing us closer. We experience an intimacy with Him that we wouldn’t have otherwise.

Most important we need to know that God does have a specific plan and future for us. (Jeremiah 29:11) He does want to be part of every step for our life. (Psalm 37:23) That is why before we rely on our own understanding; we need to ask God what He would have for us.

It isn’t easy but we must remain faithful in prayer and in the secure knowledge that God will speak to us. His timing is perfect, even when our patience is not. (Acts 1:7) Often much can happen while we are waiting on the Lord. Sometimes he changes pride into humility; doubt into faith and peace; sometimes lust into purity. The Lord can and will do it.

Navigating Life’s Storms as a Single Person

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As singles we sometimes think that our lives are in balance and we have things under control. Suddenly, however, we find the rug is pulled out from under us.

I can finally pay those bills each month that I used to dread. My relationship with my family has been restored. My heart is at peace and I can feel complete without having a partner at my side. Then a large gust of wind comes along and all of the things that we struggled so hard to get into place are scattered.

How will I have the strength to pick up all these pieces again? What did I do wrong, or not do that I find myself seemingly back to where I first started? Did I disappoint God? Did He forget that I was here?

These are questions we all as single Christians may ask as we search for some explanation for our crisis. Part of our human condition is that we can’t understand the big picture in God’s entire plan. Our vision is limited and short sighted. We can only focus on what is directly in front of us at the time.

If you looked at a large tapestry up close, it would seem like a bunch of jumbled up threads without any sense of order. Step back a few feet and your eyes would behold the beauty of a magnificent work of art.

Only God can see our lives as that magnificent work of art and know that all that jumbled up messiness is woven together into a beautiful creation. Romans 8:28 tells us that all things work together for good. That is fine, you may say, but how do I deal with my jumbled up mess and have faith in God’s promise in the meantime?

Fortunately we are not left without a resource to navigate this life. We have God’s word and guidance in His word. First we must be assured in God’s unconditional love for us as His children. The trials we face in this life are not punishment for anything we have done. That is not the nature of our God. There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:1)

You may feel like you have already suffered so much. You have turned to God, repented for your sins so why are you forced to suffer more? Jesus promised eternal salvation for all who believe in Him, he never said that it was going to be an easy road.

Our faith in God will give us the strength to endure these times. God is faithful; he will not let you experience a crisis, beyond what you can bear. He will give you a way out so you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

One of the biggest things I have learned about why God allows us to be tested in this world is to bring us closer to Him. We tend to put God on the back burner until we need Him. We check in weekly just to say “Hi, things are good and everything is pretty under control down here”

Are they really good? Do you have things under control or are you allowing God to be in control? Maybe God is just trying to get your attention. We are all God’s children. He wants to be part of our lives each and every day.

As a Christian single going through storm s of life pray continuously and give thanks in your circumstances (1 Thessalonians) that doesn’t mean that God expects us to be thankful FOR the storm we are in. We are just called to remember that we serve an awesome God who will deliver us out of the storm and restore us in Him.

Purposeful Living-Finding Your SHAPE for a Joyful life

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Whether single or married, most all people desire to find purpose, to discover where they “fit in” to this thing we call life. It’s so sad that there are so many people out there who are not living with purpose, and have no reason to get up each morning. Would you fall into this category?

The great news today is that God created each of us for a mission in this world. He has given each of us a unique SHAPE. What we mean by this is that He has given each of us special gifts and talents that He wants us to use for Him and others. Guess what? When we find our SHAPE and live by it, we find that elusive purpose and joy wev’e been yearning for our entire lives.

Oasis-Church-NJ.com is proud to bring you today’s Christian podcast from Pastor Nelson Nelson Searcy the Journey Church on the subject of finding your SHAPE for a purposeful life. I guarantee you’ll get alot out of it.

Looking for a new church in New Jersey where you can use your gifts and talents? Why not check out Oasis Church NJ, a new and upcoming contemporary Christian Church serving Union, Morris, Essex and Somerset Counties. Go to our site for times and directions.

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