Codependency ’‡ –” MŽÒ ƒVƒ“ƒOƒ‹ƒY
ŠÕ ƒAƒg •t’Are –› — ƒAƒg codependent “ú•t‚¯ ’‡? Whether –› are ƒAƒg MŽÒ “Æg ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` not, codependent ’‡ ‹X‚µ‚¢ happen •t‚« ’N‚à. What ŠY“–ŽÒ ‘΂µ‚Ä ƒAƒg codependent ’‡? ” –› are — ƒAƒg codependent ’‡ –› îˆÓ •†G‚è ”@‚ ™Î –¼‚‚¢ 60s’ ‰Ì—w ˜Hü: ” Cant’ ƒ‰ƒCƒ”, ” •é‚炵 is –³‚µ –›…”
—B‚Å‚³‚¦ those ‘z‚¢, •Ï‚í‚Á‚½ –G‰è of ƒAƒg codependent ’‡ — “ú•t‚¯ is ™Î ƒU –^ ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` —¼—¼ •t‚¯ îˆÓ be ™F •Ï‚í‚ç‚Ê —e”F ‚æ‚è ”Þ•û, –” •†G‚è •sb”ã–³‚¢ ” ”Þ“™ dont’ ŽóM‘¤ it. Having ƒAƒg codependent ’‡ —Í ™Î –› •†G‚è –› cannot ƒ‰ƒCƒ” –³‚µ ‚±‚¿‚ç –” ™F •Ï‚í‚ç‚Ê —e”F towards –› ˜ë‹Â.
‰ñ”ð Codependent ’‡
” –› are ƒAƒg “Æg MŽÒ interested — ‰ñ”ð codependent ’‡, Œä—— ˆÈ‰º:
- —]—T ‘΂µ‚Ä —ï”N æ‚É ‚æ‚è ŒäŽål •t‚¯ ˆ× “WŠJ ŒäŽålown Žå‰ä ’l‘Å‚¿ –” value. ” –› have ”ï‚â‚· —L‚ç‚ä‚é waking Žž•ª ‹¤‚É ‘¼l, –› are — ƒAƒg codependent ’‡.
- Œˆ‚µ‚Ä ™• — ƒAƒg “ú•t‚¯ ’‡ ‚æ‚è —Jœô of ‘¶Ý “Æ‚è‚
- Œˆ‚µ‚Ä ™• — ƒAƒg ’‡ ƒAƒxƒbƒN who has ‘̧ youeven… ‘\‚Ä. Ÿ‚ ™• —Œû«–³‚¢ “ú•t‚¯ ’‡ ‚É‚æ‚é codependency.
- —]—T ŒäŽål –§ g“à –” ‰Æ‘°’B •t‚« – R¸ˆõ whether –› are ‹¤‚É ‘¼l ˜Ô –› “ Œ‡–R •t‚«” ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` ˜Ô –› “ •K—p •t‚«”. ” –› are — ƒAƒg “ú•t‚¯ ’‡ ‹¤‚É ™Î —]‚è MŽÒ “Æg •û ˜¹‚Á‚Ä ŒãŽÒ, –{ is ƒAƒg codependent “ú•t‚¯ ’‡, –” •K—p •t‚« be –ž—¹ ” –› –]‚Ý –Æ‚ê‚é –– áu’É.
‘S‘Ì‚Æ‚µ‚Ä, codependent ’‡ are –ˆ–ˆ •sŒ’N, –” ƒCƒ“ƒy[ƒ_ƒ“ƒX ’¼”â –” interpersonal –c’£. •¹‚µ“á‚ç, ” –› C—û ‘O “_”, –› îˆÓ Œé ƒAƒg ‰“•û toward ‰ñ”ð ƒAƒg —Ü‚®‚Ü‚µ‚¢ codependent ’‡.
“ú•t‚¯ —V‹Y- ƒEƒGƒCƒg —V‹Y
ŠÕ ƒAƒg •t’ƒEƒGƒCƒg ‘΂µ‚Ä ™Î perfect MŽÒ “ú•t‚¯ •C™Q is not –ˆ–ˆ fun, •¹‚µ —\—\ •†G‚è ”@‚ –^ ‚ ƒRƒYƒ~ƒbƒN ƒEƒGƒCƒg —V‹Y. –â‘è is — ’½ –Z‚µ‚¢ ‰Æ’{ ’½ don’t have –œ–œ ª‹C ‘Ò‚Â ‰—‚¢‚Ä •¨Ž–. ™—Œy ‰¼—ß, how ’½ îˆÓ –ˆ–ˆ ƒEƒGƒCƒg ‘΂µ‚Ä •¨Ž– ™Î are ‘債‚½ ˜M‚·‚é. ’½ îˆÓ ƒEƒGƒCƒg by ƒU ƒtƒHƒ“ ‘΂µ‚Ä ’½ – —ö’‡ interest µW ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` ƒAƒg –Ïà ‚æ‚è ƒU doctor’s ˜ßŽq.
’½ ƒEƒGƒCƒg — ˜Hü æ‚èž‚Þ ƒU ÅV “y—j“ú –镪 ‘ƒŒA. ’½ îˆÓ •½ŠŠ –¾‚©‚· Žž•ª ƒEƒGƒCƒg — ˜Hü æ‚é ‘çŒí–¡ ƒXƒŠƒ‹ æ‚è. ’½ are ‹C‚³‚ ‘Ò‚Â ‹¤‚É “®—h ‘•“U ŒŽ“ú áe ’½ ’a¶“ú ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` ƒNƒŠƒXƒ}ƒX. ƒU —Ê of —ï”N ’½ are ‹C‚³‚ ‘Ò‚Â —\—\ speaks —Ê ‚‚¢‚Ä how valuable ’½ –
‚µ.
“ú•t‚¯ —V‹Y- ƒEƒGƒCƒg —V‹Y ƒuƒ‹[ƒX
Why are ’½ ® •al — ƒEƒGƒCƒg •·‚ “V’é — ŒÅ‚¢ —Ìˆæ ”@‚ “ú•t‚¯? ‚à‚µ‚©‚·‚é‚Æ ’½ –Ü‚ê Œ‡–R •t‚« ‘S‚ ƒqƒA what ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO ‚¹‚´‚é ‚? ’½ have —\—\ o—ˆã‚ª‚è up ’½ ”O“ª ‰—‚¢‚Ä what ’½ Œ‡–R “‚.
’½ don’t have ™Î —Þ of —ï”N. –› U••Ï’² ˜Ì‚µ‚¢ –” –› don’t Œ‡–R Ý‚é “Æ‚è‚. ƒCƒbƒg is ”’[ of ƒU ŒŽ –” –› can’t ’£‚è ƒAƒEƒg ‰ä‚ª —a‹à ”CˆÓ ‚à‚Á‚Æ. ’½ •K—p an •ÔŽ– –” ’½ •K—p ƒCƒbƒg M.
” ’½ value –T’® ‚æ‚è “V’é –” are • ™Î ’½ îˆÓ ƒqƒA His º ’½ ‹X‚µ‚¢ “_ŒÄ ƒU •s‘Þ“] ‘Ò‚Â ‚¶‚Á‚Æ ‘΂µ‚Ä His º. ƒEƒGƒCƒg •·‚ ‚æ‚è “V’é is Œˆ‚µ‚Ä —eˆÕ‚¢. •Ê‚Ä when ’½ are — ƒU —̈æ of MŽÒ “ú•t‚¯ ’‡. ’½ •s‰ÂŽv‹c why can’t “V’é •½‚ç‚© ˜ô –{ —D—˜ M?
–ðŠ„ of ƒU ˆ—‰ß’ö of ƒEƒGƒCƒg is —\—\ ˜Ô ‘債‚½ ˜Ô ƒU l“` Ž©‘Ì. ˜Ô ’½ ƒEƒGƒCƒg ’½ ”O—Í is Œµ‚É. ’½ prepare ourselves –Ⴄ what “V’é is telling “–•û –” “š•ÙŽÒ ‹¤‚É …s. ˜Ô ’½ Z’Ð ourselves — prayer –” ”Mˆ¤ “V’é is •Ÿˆø‚« “–•û –§. ’½ —á an ᧠‹¤‚É Him ™Î ’½ wouldn’t have –”‚Í.
Å‚à ‘å‚µ‚½ ’½ •K—p ”»‚é ™Î “V’é does have ƒAƒg “Á’è –d –” –– ‘΂µ‚Ä “–•û. (Jeremiah 2911:) ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO does Œ‡–R Ý‚é –ðŠ„ of —L‚ç‚ä‚é •à’² ‘΂µ‚Ä ’½ l¶ƒQ[ƒ. (Psalm 3723:) ‘¦‚¿ why áe ’½ rely ‰—‚¢‚Ä ’½ own —¹’m; ’½ •K—p —Š‚Þ “V’é what ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO Ž©Ì have ‘΂µ‚Ä “–•û.
ƒCƒbƒg isn’t —eˆÕ‚¢ •¹‚µ ’½ ‚ׂ« ™• ½ŽÀ — prayer –” — ƒU ŽèŒ˜‚¢ knowledge ™Î “V’é îˆÓ speak ˜M‚·‚é. His ƒ^ƒCƒ~ƒ“ƒO is perfect, •½ŠŠ when ’½ ª‹C is not. (Acts \Žµ:) —\—\ —]’ö ‹X‚µ‚¢ happen while ’½ are ƒEƒGƒCƒg ƒIƒ“ƒWƒGƒA “V’é. ŽžÜ ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO •ÏŠv é˜ü into humility; •sR into ”O—Í –” ˜Ã; ŽžÜ —òî into –³C. ƒU “V’é ‹X‚µ‚¢ –” •Ö‚¸‚é ƒCƒbƒg.
q–@ l¶ƒQ[ƒ’ —’ ˜Ô ˆêlŽÒ
ŠÕ ƒAƒg •t’˜Ô ƒVƒ“ƒOƒ‹ƒY ’½ ŽžÜ ã¾ ™Î ’½ ‰Æ’{ are — —]è –” ’½ have •¨Ž– §Œä‰º. éD‚Æ, •¹‚µ“á‚ç, ’½ E‚¢•¨ ƒU ƒ‰ƒO is ç{ç‚ ƒAƒEƒg ‚æ‚è •t‚« “–•û.
–› ‹X‚µ‚¢ —g‹å‚Ì‰Ê‚Ä •îâR those Ž†•¼ –ˆŒŽ ™Î –› used •t‚« —Jœô. ‰ä‚ª ’‡ ‹¤‚É ‰ä‚ª áÅ‘° has been ƒŠƒXƒgƒA. ‰äS is at ˜Ã –” –› ‹X‚µ‚¢ •†G‚è ‘S–Ê“I –³‚µ having ƒAƒg ”º—µ at ‰ä‚ª ˜e. M ƒAƒg šó ˆê‚« of •— ‚³‚ ‰ˆ‚Á‚Ä –” —L‚ç‚ñŒÀ‚è of ƒU •¨Ž– ™Î ’½ “¬‚¢ ‘´‚êŒÌ “¾“ï‚¢ into —]’n are ‚΂ç‚΂ç.
How îˆÓ –› have ƒU è݌Š—§‚Ä’¼‚é —L‚ç‚ñŒÀ‚è ‚±‚ê‚ç Ø‚êØ‚ê –”‚à‚â? What did –› do •s‰Â, ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` not do ™Î –› E‚¢•¨ Ž©•ª ã•Ó — •t‚« where –› ‘æˆê ƒXƒ^[ƒ^[? Did –› œá‘R “V’é? Did ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO ƒtƒH[ƒW ™Î –› was ‚±‚ê‚Å?
‚±‚ê‚ç are –â‘è ’½ —L‚ç‚ñŒÀ‚è ˜Ô “Æg ƒLƒŠƒXƒg‹³“k ŒÜŒŽ ask ˜Ô ’½ ’T‹† ‘΂µ‚Ä –^ —@Ž ‘΂µ‚Ä ’½ •ª‚¯–. –ðŠ„ of ’½ l“I —l‘Ô is ™Î ’½ can’t —¹’m ƒU ‘åŒ^ ‘œ — God’s ŸÓ‘R‚½‚é –d. ’½ –²‘z is —LŒÀ –” ’á‚¢ –. ’½ ‹X‚µ‚¢ š`‚É •a‘ƒ ‰—‚¢‚Ä what is ’¼‚É ‘O of “–•û ‚É“–‚½‚Á‚Ä.
” –› – at ƒAƒg šó tapestry up –§, ƒCƒbƒg Ž©Ì ã•Ó ”@‚ ˆê”c of –³’ƒ‹ê’ƒ up –ƒãN –³‚µ ”CˆÓ —« of —ß. •à’² — Šô‚‚© ƒtƒB[ƒg –” ŒäŽål – Ž©Ì behold ƒU —íl of ƒAƒg “°“° ”üp•i.
š`‚É “V’é ‹X‚µ‚¢ see ’½ ‰Æ’{ ˜Ô ™Î “°“° ”üp•i –” ƒmƒE ™Î —L‚ç‚ñŒÀ‚è ™Î –³’ƒ‹ê’ƒ up messiness is woven ˜ñ into ƒAƒg ˜Ã “V’n‘n‘¢. ƒƒ}ƒ“ 828: tells “–•û ™Î –œ—L ˜J–ð ˜ñ ‰½Žž‚Ü‚Å‚à. ‘¦‚¿ ãk–§, –› ŒÜŒŽ ‚, •¹‚µ how do –› ŽJ ‰ä‚ª –³’ƒ‹ê’ƒ up l“` –” have ”O—Í — God’s —\Œ¾ — ƒU meantime?
Š†‚àD‚µ ’½ are not ¶‘¤ –³‚µ ƒAƒg Žd—l •t‚« q–@ ¡¶. ’½ have God’s “`Œ¾ –” “±‚« — His “`Œ¾. ‘æˆê ’½ ‚ׂ« be • — God’s –³ðŒ —ö’‡ ‘΂µ‚Ä “–•û ˜Ô His ‘–¯. ƒU ŽŽ—ù ’½ –Ê– — ¡¶ are not ä^’¦ ‘΂µ‚Ä Šô‚ç‚© ’½ have done. ‘¦‚¿ not ƒU âh« of ’½ “V’é. ”Þ•û is M ” condemnation ‘΂µ‚Ä those who are — l‚ÌŽq ƒCƒGƒX. (ƒƒ}ƒ“ 81:)
–› ŒÜŒŽ •†G‚è ”@‚ –› have —\—\ ”íŠQŽÒ Ÿ‚ê’ö. –› have —Ö”Ô •t‚« “V’é, œð‰÷ ‘΂µ‚Ä ŒäŽål sins ‘´‚êŒÌ why are –› ‹§“I – –¢‚¾? ƒCƒGƒX —\Œ¾ •s‹ Ÿ¸žÏ ‘΂µ‚Ä —L‚ç‚ñŒÀ‚è who believe — Him, ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO Œˆ‚µ‚Ä ‘O‹L ™Î ƒCƒbƒg was ŽQ“ü Ý‚é an —eˆÕ‚¢ “¹˜H.
’½ ”O—Í — “V’é îˆÓ give “–•û ƒU è݌Š—½‚® ‚±‚ê‚ç ”{. “V’é is ½ŽÀ; ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO îˆÓ not let –› —á ƒAƒg •ª‚¯–, æ‚É what –› ‹X‚µ‚¢ ŒF. ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO îˆÓ give –› ƒAƒg oŒû ‘´‚êŒÌ –› ‹X‚µ‚¢ ˜I“X up •t‚« ƒCƒbƒg. (ˆë Corinthians 1013:)
–^ of ƒU biggest •¨Ž– –› have æŠo –ñ why “V’é —]—T “–•û •t‚« be ”팱ŽÒ — ‘¢ is æØ‚ç‚· “–•û –§ •t‚« Him. ’½ •ÎŒü ’£‚é “V’é ƒIƒ“ƒWƒGƒA — ƒo[ƒi[ ¡–˜ ’½ •K—p Him. ’½ check — TŠÔ •½‚ç‚© žH‚ “Hi, •¨Ž– are —Ç‚¢ –” –œ’[ is ‰Âˆ¤‚¢ §Œä‰º ‰H–Ñ ‚±‚ê‚Å
Are ”Þ“™ ‘S‚ —Ç‚¢? Do –› have •¨Ž– §Œä‰º ƒIƒyƒŒ[ƒVƒ‡ƒ“ƒYƒŠƒT[ƒ` are –› —]—T “V’é Ý‚é — y•I? ‚à‚µ‚©‚·‚é‚Æ “V’é is •½‚ç‚© Ø‚È‚¢ —ˆ‚é ŒäŽål attention. ’½ are —L‚ç‚ñŒÀ‚è God’s ‘–¯. ƒqƒ…[ƒ}ƒ“ƒGƒ“ƒWƒjƒAƒŠƒ“ƒO —~ Ý‚é –ðŠ„ of ’½ ‰Æ’{ –ÁX –” ˜A“ú.
˜Ô ƒAƒg MŽÒ “Æg ŽQ“ü ’Ê‚¶‚Ä —’ ƒGƒX of l¶ƒQ[ƒ pray ‘Å‚Á’Ê‚µ‚É –” give ŽÓŽ« — ŒäŽål —L‚è—l ( ˆë Thessalonians) ™Î doesn’t •½‹Ï’l ™Î “V’é expects “–•û •t‚« be —L“ï‚¢ ‘΂µ‚Ä “ñ•S\“ú ’½ are —. ’½ are •½‚ç‚© ƒR[ƒ‹ƒh ŽÃ‚Ô ™Î ’½ ‹Î an awesome “V’é who îˆÓ ‹~o “–•û ‚æ‚è ƒU —’ –” ƒŠƒXƒgƒA “–•û — Him.
