Attracting the Right Man or Woman to Date

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Some single Christians have no problems attracting a man or woman to date. Especially when using an online dating service like eHarmony.  However, attracting the right man or woman to date is often a separate issue. By the right man or woman to date, we mean that special person with whom you may wish to spend the rest of your life.  Your soul mate. Since you only marry a man or woman you date, it’s important to get it right. Right?

There are several practical steps we can take in order to attract the right kind of man or woman to date.

5 Keys to Attracting the Right Man or Woman to Date

Seek the Lord in Prayer

Yeah, I know we heard this all before, but really, God will hear your prayers, and provide for all of your needs (Phil. 4:19). I know some single Christians are frustrated because they have been praying for a mate, and nothing tangible has been happening. But please don’t give up hope for that special man or woman to date.

The Scriptures state that at just the right time God sent forth His son to save us. (Gal. 4:4). So, if God the Father gave us Jesus, will he not graciously give us all things? (Romans 8:32). The answer to that question is a resounding YES! In the meantime, wait on God, and learn to have contentment as a single person.

Love (Accept) Yourself

Jesus told us to love others as we love ourselves. The bottom line is we can’t love others the way God wants (including your our date or mate) until we love ourselves.

Loving yourself has little to do with self-esteem, but all to do with “God-esteem.” What do I mean by that? It means looking at yourself the way God sees you. He says you were wonderfully and fearfully made (Psalms 139), and He thought well of enough of you to die for your sins while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8).

So here’s my question for you? Can you love and accept yourself as God loves and accepts you, warts and all? If you do, this is a very atttractive quality to the opposite sex. If you can’t accept yourself, potential dates will most likely be turned off as well.

Be the Real You

This means letting others see the real you, not the man or woman you think they want you to be. The reason you should just be yourself is that you want your date to want you just for being you. That way there’s no pressure to keep putting on an act. By the way, keep this in mind if you are writing an online dating profile. Remember, changing yourself to meet your date’s or mate’s criteria is not only stressful and dishonest, but it’s also a surefire way to doom a relationship.

Set Level Expectations

It’s good to make a list (with the help of family and friends who know you best) of the qualities you are looking for in a man or woman date, but just be realistic. I know many Christian singles who have remained single and lonely because they could never find anyone “good enough” for them. Do you get the picture?

Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection and Failure

The God you and I serve calls us to take faith-filled risks. Don’t allow fears to rule over your life. Trust Him to guide you in this area of your life, because you will never meet the right man or woman to date unless you take a chance by becoming vulnerable. Remember that most people, whether they are on a blind date or in a courtship relationship, have faced rejection at one time or another. The key is to trust God with your fears.

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Dating Match: Are You Dating Your Match?

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Dating match? When most Christian singles use the term, “dating match“, they are referring to a soul mate, that person with whom they feel they can spend the rest of their lives. Many have the following question when it comes to the topic of a dating match:

• How do I go about finding my dating match?

This is an important dating question, which doesn’t come with any easy answers. However, if you are seeking your dating match, the following may help you along in the process.

Dating Match Checklist

Dating Match Tip 1: Get Your Own Stuff Together

This must be your first step toward finding your dating match. You’ve probably heard it before: “Before you can attract the right person (your dating match), you have to be the right person.” It sounds corny and old, but it’s really true. Think about it. If you don’t know who you are as far as what makes you tick, and/or you’re not comfortable with who are, are you in any condition to meet your dating match? Don’t even go there. You already know the answer.

Dating Match Tip 2: Cast Your Vision

This means envisioning your dating match by making a list of attributes of what you’re looking for in a dating match including looks, emotional make-up, spiritutal maturity, age, occupation, location, etc. Include your family and friends as you gather data because they will ensure realistic objectivity.

Dating Match Tip 3: Pursue Your Goal, Taking Risks by Faith

Your goal is to meet your dating match of a lifetime. Although there are many ways single Christians can meet each other, oftentimes this entails putting ourselves in a vulnerable position. If this includes using an online Christian dating service, make sure you do it the right way. As a side note, if you’re confused over the issue of how one can wait on the Lord and pursue your dating match goal simultaneously, read this.

In a forthcoming article, we will share how you will know it when you are dating your match. Are you a Christian single with something to share regarding your dating match?

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Dating Tips for Attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right

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Attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right for a dating relationship that leads toward marriage is a goal of most Christian singles. Although there are a lot of online dating tips for attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right, some singles tend to keep attracting the exact opposite kind of person they need in a relationship. For example, did you ever wonder why abused women keep entering abusive relationships? I do, because I see it everyday in family court.

Why Singles Fail to Attract Mr Right or Miss Right

As a single Christian you may be wondering why you keep missing out on attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right. While Dr Phil and the Minirth Meier Clinic boys offer some cool advice on attracting the right mate, attracting Mr. Right or Miss Right really boils down to two ingredients: Vision and a plan to achieve the vision.

Attracting Mr Right Begins with Vision

The Bible teaches that the people perish for lack of vision. Knowing the general signs of what makes up a good Christian dating relationship is a little different than what we are talking about here. Our meaning for vision here means having in mind the kind of person it is you feel makes a perfect match for you. Think about it. How can we attract Mr. Right or Miss Right if we have no clue about what our Mr. or Miss Right looks like spiritually, physically and emotionally? Some singles may have already let a potential Right or Miss Right slip right through because they had no vision of Mr. or Miss Right in their minds.
A Plan to Attract Mr or Miss Right

Beyond having a vision of what your Mr. Right or Miss Right looks like, having a plan on how to attract that special woman or man to date is most important. Why? If you have an idea of the kind of person you would like to meet, but have no plan of action to achieve this goal, you basically have an endlessly frustrating situation.

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