Safety Dating Tips for Christian Singles

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So you’ve decided to try Online Christian Personals. Great! Now let’s talk about safety dating tips to keep you from ending up in some whacko’s trunk!

Most online Christian personals, dating sites and Christian chatrooms provide some online safety dating tips, and do their best to ensure members’ privacy and safety while using their particular dating services. However, since none of these Christian dating sites can 100% guarantee that your next date will not be Ted Bundy II, Christian singles need to be proactive when it comes to dating safety. Here are our five top safety dating tips:

Safety Dating Tip 1

The Bible says it’s a wise and safe thing to have many counselors. So seek out several respected Christian friends and family members who would be willing to offer dating tip advice and accountability. These folks should be seen as a dating safety resource only, not as people you let run your life. While all dating decisions should be yours, hearing other opposing views can help you come to a right and godly dating decision.

Safety Dating Tip 2

Don’t be in a such a rush to meet your potential soulmate in person. Take it slow. If the Lord is really leading you in this relationship, there will be plenty of time together. Instead, use your online chatroom or e-mail experiences as a great way to get to know each other better. Ask questions about the other party’s beliefs, interests, jobs and family, always being on guard for inconsistencies.

One of my good friends who recently got engaged after initally meeting through eHarmony waited over six months before meeting his date in person. By that time, the two had already built great emotional and spiritual communication bridges.

Safety Dating Tip 3

Never publish or give out your real full name, address, home telephone number or private e-mail address to someone you just met online. This precaution will go a long way toward precluding any potetial harrassment or stalking. Quite a few Christian dating Services like Christian Cafe, for example, provide private in house e-mail accounts. If the partiuclar Christian matchmaker site doesn’t, simply create a free account with Yahoo or Hotmail and use a nickname or first name only.

Are we being overly cautious with this safety dating tip? Yeah. But your safety and that of your family’s (especially if you are a single parent dating) is more than worth it. Yes, you can be loving and wise simultaneously.

Safety Dating Tip 4

When you do decide to meet your Christian Date, make sure the location is a public place you know is safe. And while you’re at it, consider bringing along a trusted Christian guy or Christian girlfriend to assess the dating safety situation. Yeah, I know this dating tip could dampen the excitement of the initial meeting. But you could also pre-arrange a plan to have your friend split when things appear kosher. If your date has “a problem” with this arrangement, it should send up a red flag to you.

An alternative to the above dating tip is to arrange for a friend to call your cell phone 20 or 30 minutes into your date. If things are going well, great! If your senses tell you this date is not safe to continue, you could use the phone call to cut short the night.

While we’re on the subject of cell phones, you may want to consider purchasing a Global Positioning System (GPS) cell phone, that will be able to track your location wherever you go.

Safety Dating Tip 5

Seek the Lord for discernment and leading. This is wisest safety dating tip of all, even though it is the simplest. Pray for wisdom and guidance, and Jesus will direct you. (Proverbs 3:5+6, James 1:5). If at any time during the dating process you feel uncomfortable deep down in your heart, this could be the Holy Spirit prompting you to move one. Don’t feel embarrassed or worried what the other person may think. Your safety must come first, since no one else can take care of that.

Do you have a safety dating tip to share? Help other singles by sharing them on our site. In future articles we will be addressing more dating tips for Christian guys and girls.

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Dating Profile Writing Tips

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Writing your online dating profile is the first and most important step when using online Christian Dating Services. However, while almost all the top internet Christian matchmaking services offer free trial memberships where you can post an online dating profile, very few offer dating profile writing tips. The purpose of this article is to gve you some practical steps toward writing a successful dating profile.

Before beginning to write your dating profile, consider what your actual goals are. For most Christian singles, an online dating profile serves as a “resume” used not only to attract interested singles, but most importantly to attract the quality of person you desire in a soulmate.

Top Dating Profile Tips

Considering the following online dating profile tips when writing your own profile will help you find the dating relationship you are seeking.

1. Start by being honest. Being honest when writing a dating profile means not exaggerating on topics like physical appearance, job or financial staus. As my one friend stated; “His profile stated he was 6’1″, but when we met it was more like meeting a Hobbit.” That’s funny but sad. The lesson here is that writing a truthful dating profile can save you time and embarrassment. Be yourself and remember that you are looking for the person who will accept you for who you are, not for what you think they want you to be.

2. When describing yourself in your dating profile freely express your values and interests. This is your opportunity to separate yourself from other dating profiles by telling people not only what you like, but why you like what you do. For example, many profiles state that the person loves the beach, but most don’t expound on what they like about the beach. Writing your dating profile this way makes for much more interesting reading. and lets the reader see part of the real you.

3. Write to your target audience. What do we mean by that? Write your dating profile as if you were addressing an actual person, that particular soul mate you have been praying about meeting. Writing this way will instill passion in your writing, and save time by weeding out those single people who you would have no interest in dating anyway.

4. Practice using a sense of humor in your dating profile. Having a sense of humor breaks down barriers and lets those reading your dating profile sense that you are a real and fun person.

5. Don’t make your dating profile too long, because that can be boring and tedious for a reader. They told me this in seminary, and we can apply this to a dating profile: Always leave them wanting more! Dating profile experts (yes, there are such things ) suggest a profile no longer than 250 words. The breakdowen should as follows: 150 words should describe yourself; 100 words or so could describe the mate or spouse you are seeking.

6. Use a nice photo of yourself in the dating profile. That usually means a close up with not much flesh revealed. Research shows that those folks who include a photo in their profile get 15 times the amount of readers than those who choose not to use them. A couple words of caution here. Do I need to remind you to make it a recent photo? Did you know pics with sunglasses are not cool, but make people think you are hiding something? Okay, I’m done preaching.

7. Finally, make sure you use a spell checker (I should talk). By using a text editor you can also cut and paste your profile on different sites, saving lots of time and hassle in case you want to modify it.

If you are single, please consider helping others by leaving to leave your comments on writing a dating profile.

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Benefits of Seeking a Soulmate Online

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A little over a decade ago, most Christian singles sought a soulmate through more traditional means. Looking for a soulmate online was taboo, and dating services had not yet grown into the $400+ million dollar business industry it is today. Back then, if a Christian guy or girl did not find their Christian soulmate through church singles groups, friends, colleagues or relatives, the only other options would have been to try out the bar scene (never a good idea).

While the traditional approach of how and where a Christian can meet his or her soulmate is still viable, seeking a soul mate online also has many benefits:

Highly Targeted Soulmate Search

You can choose criteria you feel is most complementary in a soulmate. Many times we are at the mercy of our well intentioned friends and relatives who try to set us up in matches we know would never work. With online date sites, compatiblity tests and vast databases gives you more control and a head start in the soulmate search.

Online Soulmate Searches Save Time

Okay, you’ve put the word out to several friends and relatives that you’re in the market to meet a soulmate. You attend singles outings and different events at various churches in your area. These are all good, traditional ways of finding a soulmate, but they take a huge investment of time with no guarantee that you will even meet one potential mate.

However, when you look for a soulmate through a Christian matchmaking site, you can do so 24/7 at your convenience in the comfort of your own home. You also have a huge pool of soulmate prospects right at your fingertips who are looking for the same things you are. This saves you much time and effort while in the date search mode.

Looking for a Soulmate Online Saves Moulah

A typical Dating site for single Christians can cost anywhere from $150 to $200 dollars per year. That sounds pretty steep until you compare that with what it’s been costing you in money and time to go out several nights a month.

Overall, looking for a soulmate online and the more traditional ways of dating should not be couched as an either/or proposition. Using both approaches can be complementary as you seek the Lord for a Christian marriage partner and soulmate.

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