Interpersonal Dating Relationship Tips

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The following article on interpersonal relationship tips was writtten by a Christian single by the name of Hazel:

I have just broken up with a guy who I was convinced was the one. I truly believe God in his providence allowed me to pursue a relationship with this guy to prepare me for the person he truly has for me. The truth is this guy became like an idol to me and was way more important than Jesus, (although I was in denial about this!!!.)

Top 4 Interpersonal  Relationship Tips

Keep Him at The Center

I think we should ask God to show us how to hold any interpersonal dating relationship loosely especially if we really desire to be married. Guard your heart until you are sure you are both in the same place spiritually and that you both want the same thing out of the relationship.

Guard Your Heart

That is, until you have full confirmation from God that this is the one for you and that does not just include going by feelings, it includes using your head to weigh up all factors.

Walk by Faith, nor by Feeling

Beware of the feeling of falling in love as this can cause a person to say things and make promises that they really have not considered in the cold light of day, which means you could end up hurt when they pull out or go back on what they say. That’ s the painful lesson I have learnt. God in his providence will use every bad experience to bring about his purposes for those he loves regardless of anything.

Take Your Time

I’m thinking give a relationship a year before you let your guard down and then if you both still want the same thing move forward. However if the other person is still unwilling to commit at this stage I would consider breaking up breaking up the  interpersonal dating relationship.

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Dating Allowed During Marriage Separation

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Whether Christian or not, some have asked us, “Is dating allowed during marriage separation?” Of course, I always tell them it’s none of my business. However, I also realize the issue of dating during a marriage separation is a hot button issue,  and so needs to be talked about in the church in an honest, biblical and open way. As both a family court mediator and minister, I’m just gonna shoot from the heart and let it fly.

What the Bible Says About Dating During a Marriage Separation

Nothing.  That’s right, the Bible has zilch to say about dating during separation. Of course, the Bible has absolutely nothing to say about dating at all because dating is really a 20th Century phenomenon.

The closest Scripture we can find that’s even remotely related to dating while separated occurs in 1 Corinthians 7:10-19: “A wife must not leave her husband. But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.”

The above Scripture is pretty clear here that separation is allowed but not desired.  God also appears to teach by implication that if the person who leaves is to remain single, he or she  should not be in a romantic relationship (ie: dating) with any other person other than their spouse. And in the 21st Century, the purpose of Christian dating should expressly be to find a Christian wife or husband, right?

Let’s face it, separation is a sad but sometimes necessary action needed to protect the physical/emotional well being of the person who leaves and/or the children involved. For example, if a husband is physically violent against his wife or kids, the person in this abusive relationship should seek assistance and remove themselves from that dangerous situation.

Putting whatever the Scriptures have to say on the subject aside for a moment, in Family Court we teach there are many other practical reasons and pitfalls why “singles to be” should avoid dating  marital separation. Many of these are similar to those going through the process of dating after divorce, or being a single again person dating with kids.

So where do you stand on the issue? How would you answer the question of “Should dating be allowed during marriage separation?”

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Christian Singles Complaints

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I’ve been ministering to Christian singles for a number of years, and have heard quite a number of complaints from singles over, well, being single.

Top 5 Christian Singles Complaints

The following Christian Singles complaints
were compiled through a worldwide survey of 1000 singles conducted
by Christian Dating Service Plus:

1. Churches look down on singles, and cater mostly to married people.
2. Difficulty finding  Christian singles who are normal and available in the local area.
3. Nagging relatives who badger, especially at holiday gatherings, why we are still still single.
4. Loneliness gets to be difficult to handle as a single person.
5. Single Parenting is a difficult job.

Do any of the above Christian singles complaints resonate with you?

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