Many single Christians have told us that dealing with guilt is one of the biggest drains on their personal relationships, self-esteem and spiritual lives. The bottom line is that inappropriately dealing with guilt can destroy our lives and those around us.

Top Areas Where We Are Dealing With Guilt

Dealing with guilt as a single person can come from many different areas of our lives.

Dealing with Guilt in our Dating Relationships

This is a biggie. Many Christians walk around with this heavy burden of guilt because they are allowing sexual impurity in their dating lives. I know I am speaking to some who are weary (hey, I’ve been there, done that) of all the double-mindedness, but can’t quite get up the strength to turn around. So they live with guilt like a millstone tied around their necks, and it’s chokng every bit of spiritual joy out their lives. Sound vaguely familiar?

Other takes on dealing with guilt in dating relationships include:

• Remaining in a relationship include remaining in a liaison that you know you should have never entered in the first place. For example, Dating an unbeliever and all that goes along with that.
• Remaining in a relationship for all the wrong reasons such as convenience or fear over how the other person may react to the news that you’re breaking up with them.

Dealing With the Guilt of Being Single

Much of this guilt is hoisted upon us by those misguided but well meaning friends, family and church members who insist on wanting to to know why we (The great catches that we are!) are still single after all these years.

Not a few singles have gotten quite pissed off at others for pointing out their continued single state. For this reason, many singles avoid church events that are flush with married couples, and holiday celebrations where the topic will most likely come up.

Dealing With Guilt as a Single Parent

In the US alone, there are 13 million single parents living with their children. Many of these are Christian single parents who deal with guilt in so many different areas of their lives:

• Guilt over getting a divorce or having a child out of wedlock
• Guilt over not being able to provide better for the children
• Guilt over even taking a few hours away from the children to go on a date. And that’s only the tip of the iceberg. there are many other potential areas a single parent dating may be be tempted to feel guilty.

How to Deal with Guilt

Understand What Guilt Means

Guilt literally means “delinquency” or “culpability”. If you ask the average person on the street what guilt means they will say it’s a feeling they get when they feel like they,ve done something wrong.

Therefore, it’s important to identify the source of your guilt to determine if it is really appropriate for you to feel this way, or if you’re dealing with what we call false guilt. As Christians we need to remember that Satan , also known as the Accuser, specializes in putting believers on false guilt trips. If you are dealing with inappropriate guilt, you need to claim God’s promises found in Romans 8: “There is no condemnation now for those in Christ Jesus.”

Learn to Forgive Yourself

If you are dealing with guilt deemed appropriate, remember you need to forgive yourself just as Christ has forgiven you. Do I need to repeat 1 John 1:9?: “If we confess our sins (guilt) He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” How amazing is that!

Jesus IS your peace, and He has actually made peace with your past screw ups. Don’t allow the enemy to bring you back to something that’s been washed away. Okay?

Are you a Christian single dealing with guilt? Feel free to share your burdens with us.

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Christian speed dating is an out of the box way of meeting Christian singles in laid back settings such as cafes, pubs, churches and clubs. Although the Christian speed dating phenomenon is popping up everywhere, it is still most prevalent in large urban areas of the US, UK, Ireland and Australia.

How Christian Speed Dating Works

A typical Christian speed dating evening goes is like this: An equal number of Christian single women and men appear at an “event” after having registered beforehand. In an effort to get to know as many potential dates as possible, couples spend up to 10 minutes with each other.

After the pre-determined time of the “Christian speed date” is over, the single person would be matched with another single to repeat the process. At the end of the Christian speed dating event, singles hand in a list of the people (if any) they wouldn’t mind meeting again, and give it off to the Christian dating event coordinators. If there is a Christian speed dating match between any two attendees, the organizers forward this info to the Christian speed daters, along with contact information.

Christian Speed Dating Benefits

Christian Speed Dating Benefit #1

Where else can you meet a large number of Christian singles interested in the same thing you are: finding a date.

Christian Speed Dating Benefit #2

Speed dating does what it implies: It saves time in the search process for a dating relationship

Christian Speed Dating Benefit # 3

The structured interaction helps love shy singles overcome their fears of meeting others.

Christian Speed Dating Benefit # 4

It’s a low pressure and fun way to interact with the opposite sex

Are you a single Christian who has tried speed dating? Share your Christian speed dating experiences with us!

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Flirting is an art, and those men who learn how to flirt with a girl will be more successful with both traditional and online dating. Just what does it mean to flirt? One definition in Webster’s on flirting reads: “to act in such a way so as to attract.” While some Christian singles are more flirtatious than others, nearly all interested in a dating or courtship relationship flirt from time to time.

Many online Christian dating services make it possible to communicate via e-mail, chat and IM’s with other singles. This format can be a very playful and fun way of flirting but should be done with some knowledge of online dating safety in mind. Many singles actually relay that they find flirting easier online because they are more at ease when the other person is not standing right next to them.

Understanding how to flirt online, and what to avoid while flirting may help you get to the next level: a true dating relationship. The following flirt tips are are actually “pre-flirting” tips that will prepare you for the real thing

How to Flirt Online Successfully

Flirt Tip 1: First Let Them Get to Know You a Little Bit

Most people, especially single women, want to know some background on a person before they start flirting online. In other words, she may be thinking, “is the person flirting with me a whacko or is there a real possiblity of a relationship here?” If you begin flirting before making a proper introduction via that initial email, you have less chance of the person accepting your flirt. She probably receives a ton of flirt mail, so put some thought into your email message, and use proper email etiquette. This puts you in a better flirting position.

Flirt Tip 2: Have a Great Photo and Captivating Profile

Guys, this is what will make or break you, even if you are the best flirt on the web. Guess what’s the first thing a person will do after you make initial contact and begin flirting. Yup. They’re gonna check out that handsome picture you submitted (and if you don’t have one you are ten times less likely to have someone even acknowledge your presence).

The second thing a Christian single woman will do is read your profile and look at your screen name. A sparce profile may lead her to believe you a married player looking for a fling, or a complete neanderthal who lacks any sensitvity and brains.

Flirt Tip 3: Have a Creative Screen Name

A good screen name or user name speaks a thousands words. Have fun with this one, but make sure you get it right. Do we need to remind you guys that sexual innuendos are a big no no? I didn’t think so.

Flirt tip 4: Take it Easy and Slow

Single women like to be wooed, not run over. Please avoid asking her for a date on your first flirt. It usually won’t work. Instead, take the time to get to know her likes and dislikes, which will only help you become a better flirt the next time you meet online.

In a future article, we will deal with specific examples of flirting. In the meantime, putting the above into practice will help you in your online dating life.

Are you a Christian single with tips on how to flirt?

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Most Christian singles dating are seeking to meet other single Christians who complement them spiritually. However, as many Christian singles dating will also tell you, finding a date or potential mate with similar beliefs is not so easy.

As opposed to non-Christians who have a larger available pool to meet someone, Christian singles dating who are passionate about their faith are much more limited in their choices. These types of single Christians interested in dating will not be cruising the bars or be inclined to date unbelievers.

Christian Singles Dating Choices

In a previous article, we discussed where Christian singles dating meet other singles. By far, the number one way Christian singles dating meet matches is through family, colleagues or friends. Other ways of meeting people include attending events or activities that attract singles, like Christian singles groups.

Finally, there are numerous online Christian singles dating services, both free and paid, that give Christian singles dating an opportunity to meet their dating and spiritual matches. Many Christian singles dating have found online dating sites to be complementary to other traditional ways of meeting others.

The convenience of online Christian singles dating sites takes a lot of the legwork out of meeting an individual with a similar faith backgrounds and interests. There are also many other benefits to using an online Christian single dating service.

Overall, whichever route you take as a Christian single interested in dating, whether you use one or combine all of the above, remember that it’s the Lord who is leading you as you wait on Him to provide you with all that you need.

What are your views on Christian singles dating?

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Romantic gifts? I know some of you may be thinking, “Why do I need to know about romantic gifts? I don’t even have a boyfriend or girlfriend right now, which is why I’m even on this site!” While that may be true for this short while, understanding the ins and outs of romantic gift giving now, may save you some holiday gift hassles, embarrassment and pain later. Do I hear some amens out there?

Anyway, now where was I? Oh yeah, romantic gifts. A romantic gift is anything dating singles give in order to express or display their special affection for each other. But coming up with romantic gift ideas for your courtship or dating partner can be a tricky and difficult business, especially for Christian singles.

Romantic Gift Considerations

So before going off half-cocked purchasing romantic gifts for your honey, or hope to be future honey, keep in mind the following questions and points as a romantic gift guide:

Pre-Purchase Romantic Gift Question Checklist

• How Long Have You Been Dating?
• How Well Do You Know Your Partner’s Likes and Dislikes?
• What Is The Level Of Your Relationship?
• What Kind of Response Do You Anticipate?

Romantic Gift Points To Remember

• Giving Romantic Gifts Cannot Buy You True Love, or Save a Relationship That Needs to End

• Sending Romantic Gifts Too Frequently Can Ruin the Special Moments

• Remember, Behind Every Romantic Gift, It Really Is The Thought That Counts

• Failure to Think Through the Above Romantic Gift Questions Can Result In Disaterous Results For Your Relationship

• A Carefully Chosen Romantic Gift will Enrich Your Romance

Overall, whether you are looking to find a romantic gift for Christmas, Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year, your date will no doubt enjoy his or her present more if you put both prayer and thought into the process.

Are you a single Christian with additional thoughts on sharing romantic gifts?

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Do you have a single Christian Network in your life? What exactly is a single Christian network, you may ask? No, it’s not the online dating service, Single Christian Network, which we reviewed as being a waste of your time and money.

Defining Single Christian Network

Well, by using single Christian network, we are referring to a group of two or more Christian singles (a network, if you will) who agree to meet regularly online or offline for fellowship, advice and support.

Some examples of a single Christian network would include Christian singles groups, Christian chatrooms and Christian social networks.

Why Use a Single Christian Network?

We find that one of the greatest arguments for using a single Christian network, is so that single Christians can help get answers and advice for some of their most pressing questions and struggles.

I know some of you are just dying to know what some of those issues are, but if you have spent enough time as a single Christian you have already asked some of these questions yourself:

1. What’s wrong with me that I’m still single while most of my friends have found their true love, and have gotten hitched? A single Christian network can help singles with this kind of question work through feelings of low-esteem, depression and discouragement.

2. Is it ok to actively seek a date, or should I just wait on the Lord? Many christians are confused in this area, but a single Christian network can give guidance.

3. How do i get over my recent heartbreak of a failed relationship? Having a single Christian network after having been dissed by the ex will help bring reality to the thinking process.

4. As a Christian single parent, how do I juggle dating life and my kids? Whew! A single Christian network is an absolute necessity in working through this challenge.

5. I’m new to online dating, so how do I start using a Christian dating service?

6. All the good ones are taken, so should I date an unbeliever?

7. Where do I meet some nice, normal single Christians?

There are many more benefits to using a single Christian network, but not enough time to name them all right here.

Are you a single Christian with your own views on single Christian networks?

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In a previous article we wrote about some pros for using a Christian dating site. However, like most anything else in life, involving yourself with a Christian dating site has its negative side.

Christian Dating Site Negatives

Christian Dating Site Users Can Lie

Of course, lying can occur in any forum, whether it’s through an online Christian dating site, or in a Christian singles group. Pathological liars who date make the rounds everywhere. But it is a little easier to lie in front of a computer screen. And most of us have stories of folks pretending to be somebody online that they’re really not, like the dating married guy, or that single girl who manipulates that lonely single guy into spending big bucks on her.

Christian Dating Site Photos Can Lie Too

Boy, we ain’t kidding! That’s all I’ve got to say about that. Next! If you are a little insecure and thinking about touching up, ahem…your photo, please don’t try that. Instead check out our online Christian dating site picture advice that will help fix you up real nice.

There is a Learning Curve Attached to Christian Dating Site Use

Some Christian singles get frustrated with Christian dating sites because they may not attain positive results straight away. That’s why is important to understand how to start using a Christian dating site before spending your money on a membership.

Bottom line: The dating advice here is to join some of the top Christian dating sites that offer free trial memberships, and see how they work.

Christian Dating Site Use Is Addicting

It’s very easy to get carried away when on an online Christian dating site. Not only is it not a good idea for your health to spend too much time in front of a computer, you lose out on family, ministry and other opportunities to enjoy life.

So please see your Christian dating site memberships as a complementary item to other ways for meeting a date in your everyday living.

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Is is true love or simple physical attraction and lust? What are true love signs for Christian singles dating? How do you know you’ve found your “true love” of a life time?

Is It True Love?

The following true love prerequisites will help you gauge whether or not this person is “the one”:

True Love: The relationship causes both parties to grow closer to Jesus

True Love: There is implicit trust and no fear of being vulnerable

True Love: The couple has great communication with each other

True Love: Neither party doubts the truthfulness of the other

True Love: True love waits for sexual intimacy. Intense physical
attraction, but neither party defrauds the other (1 Thes. 4:6,7)

True Love: When there are disagreements (if you never had any, someone’s
not being real), the daters have learned how to argue,
but still remain close

True Love: There is no jealousy or controlling behavior.

True Love: Family members and friends confirm and approve of the dating relationship.

Closing True Love Thoughts

Of course, the above is not an exhaustive list of true love signs, but is useful in helping singles assess the potential of a true love match.

Is there such a thing as one true love, or can there be a number of “true loves” in one’e life?

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One can find Christian dating advice all over the internet. The problem is that the “Christian dating advice” you get on the web may not be from a morally reputable dating site.

Look at the Source of Your Christian Dating Advice

For example, on one particular dating site, you can find Christian relationship dating advice on the sidebar right next to Transexual dating advice. With so much junk out there it’s important to know from where you are getting your Christian dating advice.

One of the reasons we started Christian Dating Service PLUS! was to counteract the crazy Christian dating advice out there by providing Biblical, practical and fun Christian dating advice.

The unique thing about this site is that if you are a Christian single, minister, counselor, etc., you may submit your own Christian dating advice articles and podcasts for publication on our site. Find out the cool benefits about why you would want to submit a Christian dating advice or singles related article.

If you take a look at our sitemap you will see Christian dating advice regarding dating tips, relationship problems, dating site reviews and other issues.

Christian Dating Advice Offline

One of the best places besides the internet where you can find great Christian dating advice is through some excellent Christian authors. Here is a list of some of our favorite Christian dating advice books which can be purchased inexpensively online through Amazon.com:

God’s Design for Christian Dating
10 Commandments Of Dating
Devotions For Dating Couples: Building A Foundation For Spiritual Intimacy
Boundaries in Dating
The One: A Realistic Guide To Choosing Your Soul Mate
Choices: Finding God’s Way in Dating, Sex, Singleness, and Marriage
Finding the Love of Your Life: Ten Principles for Choosing the Right Marriage Partner
I Gave Dating a Chance: A Biblical Perspective to Balance the Extremes
Recovering a Biblical View of Christian Dating
Romancing The Web: A Therapist’s Guide To Online Dating
Black Christian Singles Guide to Dating and Sexuality
Ending Violence In Teen Dating Relationships

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The Christian Dating Services like eHarmony listed on Christian Dating Service PLUS are the most popular dating sites Christian singles use. In fact, one of the purposes of this website is to help singles find godly relationships through reputable Christian dating services. We felt especially strongly about this since there are so many dating websites purporting to be Christian dating services.

Before Using Christian Dating Services

If you’re thinking about using Christian dating services, please keep in mind the following dating advice before taking the plunge:

Christian Dating Services Are Not The Be All To End All.

Don’t get me wrong, there are lots of benefits to using online Christian dating services. However, the above statement needs emphasis because the mullti-million dollar ad campaigns of some Christians dating services like eHarmony and Perfectmatch.com make it seem like finding a Christian soul mate will be an “in the bag” experience if only you use their dating services. Of course, that’s simply not the case. Online Christian dating services are, however, one of a number of great tools God uses to help Christian singles meet and marry.

Christian Dating Services Have A Learning Curve.

That’s right. Some Christians get frustrated when using Christian dating services because they are not able to find a decent date. Ever wonder why? Here are the top reasons some singles have a poor online dating experience:

• The databases and search features of the Christian dating services they are using are not that good.
• The poor single guy or girl doesn’t know how to begin using Christian dating services .
• Failure results due to a combination of the above two reasons.

Most of the Christian dating services, including those reviewed on this site, offer free trial memberships with no obligation. Under these circumstances (No, I’m not cheap, just a little thrifty!), I recommend joining a number of Christian dating services in order to familiarize yourself with what each offers (search, chat, forums, penpals, prayer,etc), and how they work. Read this to understand why this is a good idea.

Christian Dating Services Pre-Dating Checklist

You’re almost ready to launch into using online Christian dating services. That’s great! Going over some pre-dating tips will not only help you keep a Christian perspective, but may also keep you from making some stupid, costly mistakes you will regret later. Have fun!

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