Christian Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys
Most Christian single women and men we surveyed feel that many girls seem to prefer to date “bad guys”. Yup, hands down most single girls (Christians included) would rather date Jack Sparrow, the pirate, than Richie Cunningham, the Happy Days all-around good guy.
One depressed single Christian guy (I’m assuming he’s a good one) lamented: “I just don’t get it. Here I am, a sensitive, passionate Christian with a caring heart and a good job, but I can’t find a date if my life depended on it. Yet, some strange dude on a Harley pulls into town, and he gets any girl he wants.” Some we spoke to even went so far as to say that girls are addicted to bad guys.
So what exactly is a bad guy? One single girl put it this way: “A bad guy is a guy your parents and friends would freak out over. He’s also someone you know in your heart is bad for you spiritually, emotionally and possibly even physically, but you just can’t resist him.” Does that sound like a vampire attraction thing, or what!
Christian Single Girls On Bad Guys
Single girls who prefer bad guys described them this way:
-
They are exciting and unpredictable
-
They are bold, brash and extremely self-confident
-
They are strong and protective
-
They are sexy and dangerous all at the same time
-
They don’t come across as needy and desperate like a lot of other guys
If you really think about it, some of the qualities listed above are decent things to look for in a guy. So why are bad guys so bad for girls? The problem lies in the fact that even though bad guys’ collective qualities make them not boring, they also make them self absorbent. Some would also label them “jerks“, or possibly even abusive daters.
The bottom line is that this kind of single guy is unable to meet all of the things Christian single girls want and need in a guy. They may offer a girl protection, but be unable to provide financial and emotional support; They may make for a sexy and exciting date, but lack the consistency and communication skills necessary for a longterm relationship and/or marriage.
Help For Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys
If you are a single Christian girl on the verge of dating or presently dating someone you believe to be a bad guy, finding out why is the first step toward saving yourself more pain. Ask yourself the following:
-
Do you feel you don’t deserve any better relationship?
-
Do you continually feel a need to change guys for the better?
-
Do you fear emotionally intimate relationships and commitment?
-
Do you find yourself repeating a pattern of abusive relationships?
Finally, seeking advice from close Christian friends, good a Christian counseling service or pastor, may help guide you toward making better dating decisions in the future.
Related:
Christian Woman-Biblical Advice on how to be Attractive
wow. more advice to keep the myth going that girls need to marry boys so the boys can give them financial support.
economic subservience and dependency is not a healthy thing for a woman in the 21st century with Christian divorce rates so high. what if hubby dies, how does the widow support herself when she was dependent on the man’s income?
this advice should stay in the 1950s where it belongs.
Holly, thanks for the comment. There is no claim here that girls \”need\” to marry boys for financial support. In fact, girls don\’t need boys at all if they have the gift of singleness. Certainly, girls need not be \”dependent\” on a boy to prosper.
Well yeah, I believe women should not rely on men nowadays for the fact that you just dont know, and the Lord said to be prepared at all times anyways so the unexpected won’t bite you in the butt. You know what I mean? And I mean that is true about bad boys and Christian girls or just girls in general. The bad guys are more attractive, but you should always stick with something or someone who is going to benefit you…. God Bless everyone.
Let’s not get a case of tunnel vision here and focus merely on “financial support” - believe it or not when you get a bad day it sure is nice to be the recipient of an understanding hug, kind word or cup of hot tea made just for you by that special caring man. The world(and the bed) soon grows cold without these little tokens of affection and respect, girls. It “ain’t all about the money, honey”.
Only when she wakes up and understands what love is all about…Our advice is to move on in order to avoid more hurt.
I go to a small church and there are no guys at my church
and the only guys I know are doing drugs drinking ect…I am almost 17 and would just like to talk to christian guys and know there still around
thank you
God bess
Ive been a christian for just on 3 years now.. i was what you would call a ” bad guy” in my previous life.. i have cleaned up my game quite a bit as have many other guys in the church..
what i don’t get at church is guys that have been christians all their lives and come to church dressed as rock stars and play this ” bad guy” game with the girls and in actual fact, i have never seen a bigger bunch of losers in my life.. talk to them about th effects of drugs, women, wild parties and whatever rocks their socks etc etc and these guys wouldn’t have a clue..
one thing i know for sure is that just like the death of jesus.. good guys don’t win, but they do win in the end..
so good guys, dont be disheartened.. who wants a chic that thinks like a sheep anyway?