Single moms have it rough. Christian single moms who are dating may have it even worse: Not only do Christian single moms have to deal with all the responsibilities that go along with being a custodial single parent, they also have to battle the stigma of being a single mom in the church.
Whether we admit it not, more than a few women in the church look at single moms (especially if they’re hot looking) with subtle suspicion. Translation: Is this single mom aka hussie gonna steal my man?
Does the single mom receive this kind of “Christian” reception because she may be divorced? Or is it due to the possibility that she had a child out of wedlock? No one knows for sure, but this is exactly why dating for single Christian moms in the church can be one of the touchiest of issues.
The following single mom dating tips can not only help you emotionally and spiritually, but will also assist you in meeting the right soulmate for you.
5 Tips for Christian Single Moms Before Dating
Surrender Your Dating Life to Christ
Many Christian single moms end up making horrible dating decisions because they exclude the Saviour from the equation. One single mother told me, “I would like to do this, but I’m afraid He may want me to be an old maid the rest of my life.”
Instead of doubting God’s provision, pour your heart, desires and dreams out to Him, and let him guide you in this area. He won’t let you down, mom. I promise. 🙂
Examine Your Own Heart
Before even thinking about dating again, take good long look at yourself and your situation as a single mom. Then ask yourself some difficult questions:
- Are there Biblical grounds for not entering a dating relationship?
- Do I still need some mending from a broken heart?
- Will my next relationship be a rebound relationship?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions you may want to rethink your dating aspirations at this time.
Find Your Target
Huh? As a single mom, what are you looking for in a man? After you’ve prayed and thought about it, make a written list of qualities (spiritual, emotional, physical) you look for in Christian guy. Why? Once you know what it is you are looking for as single moms, you can prepare yourself to fulfill your goals.
Keep Your Kids Safe in the Process
Most single moms make this their natural priority. How do dating single moms do this?
- When we are single parents dating with kids, it’s very important not to rush a relationship when neither you nor your children are ready. Reading all you can on this topic will help you in this area.
- Get your kids in a good Christian youth group, and join a good Christian singles group for your own support and guidance.
- Find a Christian church that preaches the Gospel, but does not make the kids or single moms feel guilty for not being in what they feel is a “normal” family.
Make a Plan
Make a plan based on your goal to meet that special man. Study where Christian singles meet other singles, and get busy. Keep all your options open along the way, and stay optimistic. The Lord is for you, not against you.
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