Comments on: Christian Singles Dating Unbelievers

By: Lisa Leonard

Lisa Leonard — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 19:18:33 +0000

Born again Christians John3:3 says we are are born of God, so how can a child of God even think about dating any body that is not born again. Not only that God said in His holy word, 2 Corinthians 6:14, “BE NOT UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH UNBELIEVERS: 4 WHAT FELLOWSHIP DOES RIGHTEOUSNESS & INIQUITY? OR WHAT COMMUNION HATH LIGHT WITH DARKNESS” Don’t take this scripture out of context, it simply means “yoked with a DIFFERENT yoke” It not only is true spiritually, but even in regards to our future.

By: aaron

aaron — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:33:54 +0000

second best? who is to say just because they are christian they will further your faith or make you happy. you could be weary because its good to share common interests, but to leave somebody purely on the reason that they share different spirtial beliefs to you is absurd. Jesus spent most of his time being around sinners. God may have placed your bf in your life to strength your faith. or like so many stories ive heard, to witness to them and their friends. if you are in a happy loving relationship with a non christians, if it works, then stay with them.

By: Lisa Leonard

Lisa Leonard — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 20:05:57 +0000

In regard to dating an unbeliever: I want tolet you all know that i got saved 10 years ago aged 17, but had been sexually active b4 that due to bein a young insecure sinner, anyway i met the ‘man of my dreams’ at aged 21, i believed he would be saved, but instead i ended up backsliding, 6 years later (last year) he finished with me, wow, completely broken hearted, but i always knew that we had no real spiritual connection, as he was dead to Christ, and i was dead to sin etc, i humbled myself, repented went back to church, and God forgave me, even blessed me by making me choir leader, blessed me in my uni studies with a first class honours, wow, God is so loving, i beg, pleease do not be foolish and think that they will be saved, ‘be not unequally yoked’ ‘darkness and light have no fellowship 2gether’. I pray for my ex now, and after a lot of sacrifice and tears, i am believing that Jehovah Jirah my provider, will work it all together for my own Good, i am on fire 4 Him again AMEN, its only a matter of time b4 im walking up the aisle to be joined together to a strong devil chasing, prayer warrior mighty man of valor, handsome, ha, amen all things are possible to him who believes, God is mighty and it is not good for a man to be alone, he designed eve for adam, and he will make a ay for me and you also..GOD BLESS!

By: Simon

Simon — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 20:28:53 +0000

You have to be weary. When people are in love or want somebody we can trick ourselves in to believing they are saved when there is no fruit. Ah! But we convince ourselves that the maggot ridden apples are good fruit - they are not. Be not deceived.

If we are seeking a relationship or are in a relationship with an unbeliever they often “get saved” just to stay with us. there motive for “coming to Christ” is not pure and is at its core selfish. The only answer is to get out of that relationship and flee from it.
Often we mistake God’s will for our will because it is convenient. Be not deceived.

Pray for that person but firstly you must break up with that person. Otherwise you fall under the worst sin of all - hypocrisy.

Its hard but God will heal your broken heart.

By: Grace

Grace — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 12:30:40 +0000

I’m attracted to a non christian guy, who keeps on asking me out. We connect in so many levels - intellectually and emotionally. I think he might be the one for me. I’m thinking that God is working on his heart right now, and someday we will cross paths again. FOr now I have to settle for being friends (because he doesn’t know God), but once the timing is right, and God gives me the Go signal, then the rest is history.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 04:18:22 +0000

Hey, this is Chris from the last post with an update. Well, I had been praying A LOT about my Christian best friend dating an unbeliever, and it turns out, she just broke up with him! She said she knew it wasn’t God’s plan for her to be unevenly yoked to an unbeliever.

That’s it
Take care
-C

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 04:24:57 +0000

In regard to dating unbelievers: Hey, my best friend, who is a girl, has been dating an unbeliever for almost a year now. I have always felt uneasy about it but have never truly voiced it. About 3 or 4 months after they started dating, she suddenly felt that God was telling her to leave him because he is not a Christian, and this was tearing her up, but then she suddenly had an “It’s what God wants” attitude and continued to see him. Do you think God would be selective like this? Like he would say “It’s ok for this person, but not for this person,” type of thing??? I am a guy and I used to have VERY strong feelings for her and she knows it, so I have always felt that if I brought it up, she would think I am just being selfish, and I even question myself if I am just being selfish and still want to be with her. Is it even my place to bring it up? I just want the best for her and fear for her giving into sin, and don’t want her to miss God’s plan for her life.

Any advice would be great.

Thank you so much! God bless!
Chris

By: João Manuel Teixeira Júnior

João Manuel Teixeira Júnior — Thu, 15 May 2008 10:37:35 +0000

Desejo manter correspondencia Biblica o que devo fazer? agradeço ajuda de vossa parte

By: Diego

Diego — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 17:39:45 +0000

Hey guys,
I just broke up with my unbeliever fiance, yup, I was about to get married, but the first day at counseling the issue came up, I felt really bad because I love her so much,
but my love for God is stronger, even though i did wrong, i end up living with her for a while. got involve sexually we broke up couple of times and this time it was because of faith i felt I was being to strong with her
I pray for strength specially because we work together
thanks

By: David Butler

David Butler — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 01:19:05 +0000

Rozetta:
Thanks for your comments. We are praying for you. dating an unbeliever rarely works out because “missionary dating” rarely works. Fact. Kit: That’s risky and wrong advice in my book, but I do understand Caroline’s situation. Thanks for your comments.

By: Rozetta

Rozetta — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 20:36:03 +0000

Hi, I am a strong believer in God and I could think of no other place to be than in the arms of God!! In regard to dating an unbeliever I just recently let someone go on the basis of my belief. It didn’t even last a month. I knew from the start that dating an unbeliever wouldn’t work but I persisted with it anyway. I let him know from the start how strongly I felt about God. He didn’t mind but I had a bad feeling every time we met up. Instead of feeling happy to see him I felt dreadful. I hated feeling like that and friends said “give it three months”, “just see if it will work”. I tried to but they weren’t the ones having to deal with dating an unbeliever. I hate to say it but I seen his flaws as soon as he opened his mouth. He tried to take my virginity, but I knew better than that! If I had come this far without “knowing a man” then I could go a little longer!! He got upset but I already knew it was time for him to go and me to move on. What a ride of my life!! We go through things to experience as well as learn, and I learned there is no rush in trying to find the right one when God is trying to shape me and mold me into the woman he wants me to be. I am still pure and whole and waiting on that one man who will bring joy to my life. I am being very careful about the men that try to approach me!!!! Beware dating an unbeliever!!!

By: Joanne

Joanne — Tue, 25 Dec 2007 02:25:24 +0000

For all yyou people who are crying over where it my mate. Remember God is God and that he will come through for you you have to wait on him and be obedient. When I say He is God I am saying He can do anything He can change a sinner. But you must pray, trust and do what He tell us to in His Word. Stop dating the sinner and start praying for God will and no ours to be done. If the sinners in your life never come back and get saved they just were not the one for you and God has something so much better for you. You will be glad you didn’t end up with the people you are in the relationship with now. Trust God and take Him at His word.

By: kit

kit — Sat, 08 Dec 2007 06:40:00 +0000

re: caroline
follow your heart. it’s the 22nd century; if the man loves you as much as you love him, why not? good luck

By: caroline

caroline — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 20:34:02 +0000

I am 31 and have been praying unceasingly for God to provide a christian man to me. Recently I met a muslim man who seems to be everything I have ever prayed for except of cause he is muslim. should I establish a relationship with him or not. What would be the pitfalls of engaging in such a relationship.I just cant seem to find any christian guys around, I have waited, fasted prayed and with 32 peakin around the corner I’m just begining to lose faith in the whole waiting for the Lord game.

By: yvonnesam

yvonnesam — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 17:44:32 +0000

hi, actually now i struggle with this problem. i’ve date with a non christian guy for almost 2 years. for sure, i hope he can become christian one day. But unfortunately, after 2 years he follow me to church, he told me that he hardly can’t accept christian. So, now i don’t know what to do? Wonder to break up with him but i can’t do so, cause i still very love him.And so do him.
and your words >>> Why Settle for Second Best? This remind me of what my church youth leader told me before. why choose the 2nd best but not the best?

i still very confusing, as i’m a easily cry girl.. Almost everytime i cry when think of this problem.

hope to hear from you soon.
if possible, hope we can contact through e-mail. thanks

God bless~

love, yvonne from Malaysia