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Comment on Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart by Shana

Shana — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:14:53 +0000

The voice you may have heard, may not have been from God. Especially if this guy is your whole world. Especially if you are letting an unhealthy relationship consume you, and maybe at times you put this relationship before God. The devil will try to find a weakness in you and use it to tear you down. Such as this relationship. Let go of the relationship, and focus on God. Ask Him to give you clarity, peace, and strength to get through things. He will help you to become a complete person. and then you can be in a healthy relationship. But the one you described above, does not seem like one.

Comment on Christian Singles Secrets by Isls

Isls — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 20:56:35 +0000

Hi, I dont know why or how I found your e-mail but I did and now I feel obligated to write to you. From your letter its painfully obvious that you are hurting and you need not be. Jesus came do die for sinners not saints. You, like all of us screw up. I’ve been a Christian for 21 years and I screw up; that’s not what make us Christian. A Christian is a follower of jesus, not a perfect, clean, person. Let me explain. Have you heard of David, like in the guy who killed the giant? Well he screwed up. He comitted adultry and murder. GOd called him a man after His heart. Read Romans 7:14-21, Paul was the guy who wrote 13 of the New Testament books, he said he was a mess. Isaiah the prophet said he was screwed too, read Isaiah 6:1-9. My point is you have a false sense of what a christian is. If you love Jesus He promises to wash away all your sins even masturbation )1John 1:9). I am sorry about what was done to you by your father, and I feel for you. But God is not like your father, he sees you not as an object but a child, a child whom he loves and wants to protect and hold and cherish. You don’t overcome your masturbating by stopping it, you stop by replacing it with something better; like your walk with GOd, worship, bible ready and seeking God’s help through prayer. You might also want to find a christian woman who can help you process your feelings. Believe me, God loves you and there is nothing you can ever do to make Him love you any less!! Now get on your knees and tell him how you feel, tell him the pain that brings you to this habbit and ask for his forgiveness and help. Read 1cor. 10:13.
God love you child, He wants to show you his love–reach out to Him you will be surprised how loved you are.

Comment on Jewish Dating for Christian Jews by Anthony

Anthony — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:31:59 +0000

I am a Christain and I want a christain Jewish for friendship and marriage.
I would be happy to have friends and discuss also freely with them.

Comment on Online Christian Dating Advice: Diversify by solomon

solomon — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 10:17:17 +0000

I am looking true christain friend, girl or boy if possible let it be girl that will teach me how to live a life that please God.
I need you people to be sending me messeng to will touch my life and bring me out of my sinful life.
Assist to pray for my Examination that is coming up next year 2010 God should help me, for me to write my Exams and pass by His Name Jesus.
Thanks i am happy to get in touch with you people,
Yours faithfully
Solomon.

Comment on Christian Singles Dating Unbelievers by Danny

Danny — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:26:58 +0000

We need to read through the old testament and take note of the many times God spoke to Israel concerning relations with the people of pagan nations and their beliefs. In every instance, the children of Israel left God and began serving idols of the pagan nations. Samson too, is a good example of what can happen when we enter into relationships with unbelievers. In his case we see he lost what God had given him. Samson was brought to an open shame before the philistines. However, Samson did repent.

Please let us not allow Satan to deceive and distract us from what God has for us. I speak from experience. Pray for that unsaved person before entering into a relationship that the may come to know Christ as their Savior. Put God first and allow Him to do the work.

Our love must always be for God first. Remember Satan is very crafty and can present someone to you that seems so right. But,
we must abide in God’s word so we will know what is from Satan and what is from God.

Proverbs also gives great illustrations about relationships with immoral women and the bad results of messing with such women.

Comment on Christian Singles Secrets by Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:07:28 +0000

I have been born again since when i was 16 years and a virgin and i’m still a virgin .I am now 33 and not married i have never been in a relationship.I love God with all my heart.I really desire to live a clean and a holy life before him but it looks so difficult.I have been struggling with masturbation and ponography for a long time now.I cannot remember what lead me to end up in this mess.I will repent and i will tell my self that i will never do it again but i end up doing this horrible things especially when i’m depressed.Please pray for me. I need God deliverance upon my life.I really want to be married and have my own family.But i need to get rid of this first.May God forgive me and help me to overcome this habit even as i confess my sins right now.I really don’t want to go to hell.

Comment on Christian Singles Secrets by Ana

Ana — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 17:02:30 +0000

I have been masturbating for about 6months now and the worst part about it is I’m a girl. I didn’t think that it was possible for girls to even do thisbut one day I got “curious” and did it and now it has been on and off. I can go several days without doing this sick thing to myself but then I do it anyways. And I know it’s wrong but I just can’t seem to help myself…And I started using bad picures to “get off” and it’s horrible. I don’t need them but I feel like this “need” for masturbation will never go away and it scares me.
Also, my dad molested me when I was little. I can’t seem to forgive him for what he did. Well…I have but I don’t want to talk to him or see him or even acknowledge that he’s my father…so I guess you could say it’s not real forgiveness…but I just don’t want a relationship with the man who stole my innocence away.
I’ve also lost my relationship with God…well not lost butI can’t seem to have the relationship with him I used to have. It’s all my fault too…I never seem to have the time for him my family doesn’t go to a church anymore, I don’t have someone Christian who I can talk to. I feel like no matter how many times I’ve saidthe prayer accepting God into my life I’m not good enough. And look at me…howcan I be? I masturbate, I’m a liar, I’m not nice all the time, Iscrew up. How can he love me? How can he even be in the same room as me. I’m so disgusting, he is so clean. I don’t feel good enough….Ijust need help. ButI don’t know where to go or who to turn to anymore. I feel like no matter how many times I pray God can’t hear me orhe’s not listening…like it’s too late to fix what I started. I don’t want to live like this anymore. I want to be happy, I want God back in my life again. I just don’t want to be lost anymore.

Comment on Christian Penpals for Christian Singles by paulita T. kai

paulita T. kai — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:35:32 +0000

I am looking for someone who will teach me the bible. this my # 231-6-621847

Comment on Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart by Sabrina

Sabrina — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 00:21:54 +0000

Hello, I am in a friendship with this guy I have been knowning for 5 years. We were college puppy lovers…now that I am in my Senior yr of school, I am ready for a real relationship with this guy, I really love him. I feel he do not feel the same way but we talk and see each other all the time. He states, “I’m not ready for a girlfriend right now”. Ok, something is clearly wrong with this picture because he say’s I’m the only girl he is talking with. He just moved in a apartment, ever since then he do not answer my phone call at night. I am thinking he is with another girl. Should I continue to talk with this guy even tho he isn’t ready for a relationship? I have thought about leaving this guy but I feel as if I am in Love with him and don’t know how to tell him that I want to leave. I have ask him several times he needs to change his ways. I also feel like he is not into me at times. I can’t even ask him questions with out him saying smart comments or blowing his breath. The worse thing is I can’t even ask him how his day went without him getting mad!!! We have been arguring for several months now…I ask hiim on day if we could just get alone for one day. Well, not much luck…
Some one please help me figure out what to do!!
I went to God and asked him to send me the right person. I think some times I need to let this guy go, so I can move on and maybe the right guy would come along. I am confused on what to do.

Comment on Dating Advice: How to Break Up by jane

jane — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:28:22 +0000

In regard to dating advice, confused girl,

I can relate with you in so many different ways although i’m much younger still in college. I was in a relationship with this guy that i loved very much He too treated me like a princess. However, after him going through difficult situations, he didn’t feel the love in the relationship anymore. He said he did not love me anymore. And its so painful, i tried my best to salvage the relatonnship but it wasn’t gonna work. So many different things went wrong right from the start, I felt somehow similar at the start of the relationship, i forced myself to just ignore it and think that it was normal. Months later, it worsened, and he felt the same way. after struggling for a really long time, he told me he just couldn’t keep struggling with us anymore. It hurts so much and im still hurting but i know God has a better plan for me. I felt like God showed me in so many different ways that my ex boyfriend was not meant for me but i ignored it. Now its even harder. Either way( long or short relationships) they do hurt. I would advise you to take time off and pray about this. Listen to what God wants you to do. Read the bible and pray. Ask God for a sign, He is faithful. He will show you. In some relationships people have problems and sometimes different interests and only submitting to God and praying would you know how to handle it. Working through problems in dating relationships especially if God wills is very important. Working through a relationship that was never meant to be sooner or later will end anyways.. I pray that God may give you wisdom to decide.
Take care, know that you are not alone.