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Comment on Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart by Oasis Church NJ

Oasis Church NJ — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 06:18:51 +0000

We are praying for you Sean

Comment on BigChurch by Chris Ottaway

Chris Ottaway — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:42:30 +0000

I’ve been a non-paying member of Big Church since before it was taken over by Adult Friend Finder. I cannot find any other Christian chat room where you can: a/ join for nothing, and b/ have to be single.
I’m married, but have a lot of friends in BC. I actually met my wife there!
So, until such time as I can find a Christian chat room which costs me nothing and will admit married people, I’ll continue in BC.

Comment on Overcoming Jealousy: Jealous Dating by Kayla

Kayla — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:34:25 +0000

There is a difference between jealousy, distrust, and respect issues. For those of you that feel like you have jealousy “issues” because you get upset that your partner is keeping in contact with members of the opposite sex, that may or may not be true. When you’re in a relationship, as most of us already know, our relationships with friends of the opposite sex SHOULD change. An appropriate relationship with someone who’s been a friend for a long time, never any intentions past or present with them otherwise. Just friends. Someone whom you invite to join you and your partner for lunch, someone you can double date with, someone you would feel comfortable having be a part of your wedding some day lol. But when you’re in a relationship, meeting for lunch one on one with a friend of the opposite sex, keeping in contact with ex’s, a friend whom you had any kind of romantic interest in… Those relationships are inappropriate to bring into a dating relationship with someone else. It becomes your responsibility to show your partner RESPECT by cutting ties like that and/or limiting that contact to a brief “hi, how are you?” convo when you run into them in public. Despite reasoning and excuses for why you don’t want to cut them out of your lifestyle. Especially when your partner addresses that aspect with you! It’s not “Oh, he/she’s just being Jealous!”, When a person continues contact with people who have or have had interest in them, then that person is giving their partner Every Right to feel distrustful of them.

Granted, there is inappropriate jealousy. But I’ve read a couple of the comments above. And some of those, the partner who refuses to address the concerns of their partner, it seems like they’ve made their decision. And unfortunately for them, they didn’t choose you. They probably don’t deserve you then. If they don’t know how to show you respect in your relationship, then they don’t deserve to be with you. And believe me, you CAN do better. There are thousands and I’m sure, millions of people all over the globe that know how to treat their partner with that, much-deserved respect. Go find one! Don’t let anyone tell you that there’s something wrong with you and make you feel like you have to settle or just be “ok” with how things are going. If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.

Comment on Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart by Priscila

Priscila — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:37:37 +0000

I met the most wonderful guy in church, after some months he asked me to be his girlfriend. 2 years later he broke up with me. I was devastated, i felt into a deppresion for months. During that time we were still talking but fighting a lot. But we still love each other, or at least i thought. I time i got very bad and I got into his email, and i discover he was having a “relationship” wit my ex-bestfriend, the one who tried to separate us for a long time. I got shocked, I couldn’t believe it. Then i started to get my life back in order, slowly. We go to the same school now, and we have talk and we told each other that we were still in love, but we decided to pray first. He got no answer, and i got a yes. We discussed this and decided to do it again. I got a yes but to wait, he got no answer. Instead he ask my ex-bestfriend to be his girlfriend. This girl is 7 years older than him, he tells me that God told him that it was ok to have a relationship with her. And we dont know what to do, he is very confused. But thanks to this i’ve been changing tons of things in my life, i’ve been praying, reading the bible and depending more on God. But im thinking that maybe it wasn’t God, i mean i want this so bad, because im only very happy with him, he is a great guy and if we get back together i want to change things, but since i want this so bad, i’m thinking that my mind tricked me. It’s not that i dont have faith in God, but the enemy just wants to attack me in anyway it can. I’ve been praying and i got answers, but sometimes i just want to quit, and when i quit, something just brings me to the same thing. God knows that this is the most important thing in my life.

Comment on BBW Dating for Christian Singles by Epsilon99

Epsilon99 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:27:00 +0000

You know, this is something I would join myself.

Let me start by saying that I am a guy, I love all women including BBWs and I love god. I’ve read all the posts here and I feel really bad for you women who have had bad luck with trying to find the right man.

Someone said on here that they have a hard time finding the right man who loves both BBWs and God. I understand what you mean, I’m 20, yes I am still young, and I still haven’t found a good women who is genuine myself, so don’t feel too bad, it happens on both ends of the spectrum. I have met women too who are only interested in one night stands, it’s quite depressing.

It would be great if a genuine site existed where people who are truly looking for love can find it instead of finding lust.

Comment on Dating Advice: How to Break Up by Confused Girl

Confused Girl — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:44:31 +0000

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is my first and I’m his first. We went through college together and have both just graduated. He’s found a job with a great company, whereas I’ve been unemployed for a full year. I was given this great opportunity of a year off work to just really discover myself. I travelled, I went places, met people, and came to realise my dreams and ambitions. He complains about my dreams stopping us from growing in a relationship together, which is true, but he doesn’t have ambition. Yes, I sound superficial. But I have struggled with sticking by him through this year while he is happy at work, and I am miserable here. I know my dreams have to be pursued overseas. I realise our goals and direction are different. We both want to be in different places and want different things. He treats me like a princess. He has invested so much in this relationship. I can tell he truly loves me. So then, how do I know if we’re compatible?

I have lived by the “dating- rules” and committed myself at a young age to this guy. I am starting to find that I really wish I had waited till I was older. Perhaps when I’ve found myself in my profession, or when I have more clarity about life and vision for a future. We’ve both grown older, our ideas have changed. We are both Christians that met in the same youth group (we go to different churches now due to family).

I’m confused about breaking it off. I know he still loves me so much, and I feel absolutely horrible for even thinking like this. I’ve convinved myself so many times to just keep giving it a go. But the longer it drags out, the more we both realise how we thik differently. I just feel terrible and don’t want to break it off because of how he feels for me.

How do I get clarity on this matter?

Comment on Online Teen Dating 101 by Kelsey

Kelsey — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:27:14 +0000

I AM A 13 YR OLD GIRL
I would like to meet some one 13-15, boys OR girls…… I am a happy up-beat and down to earth person… I am VERY sensitive… I love animals and helping the enviroment.
MY DISCRIPTION:
Eyes: Blue, but the shades turn different colored with my emotions.
5′4″
Hair: medium brown/ light brown curly…
Loves: Michael Jackson and teddy bears!!!!
my favorite book is the BIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I <3 JESUS!

Comment on Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart by sean

sean — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:27:36 +0000

my wife left me for someone else after 20 years we have 2 lovely children and i thank her for that but the pain is tremndous

Comment on Fears That Keep Women And Men Single by Johnny Bravo

Johnny Bravo — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 04:55:28 +0000

I think women have a fear of me. People tell me I am very handsome and intimidating. I am sorry but God made me this way. I divorced when I was 32 from a very unfaithful woman. I am now 49. I have really tried to understand what I am supposed to do in a relationship with a woman. I have taken many classes on love and relationships. I have yet to get to use what I have learned. I am not going to a nightclub or escort service to try and get a date. And I am tired of church hopping trying to find a mate. I have made up my mind that I will be single from no on and all I can say is, you ladies have lost out on a quality man.

Comment on True Love Signs-How to Tell if it’s True Love or Lust by Kay

Kay — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 03:09:49 +0000

I have this guy who helped me come to Christ at a very low point in my life (Paul). He happens to be the best friend on the guy I was dating(Robert). The guys i had been dating was not a Christian(Robert). Needless to say I gave my life to Christ almost 2 months ago in the presence of this friend.(Paul) Hope your following me….Right after I gave my life to Christ I confronted Paul about possibly being more than friends. He said he didnt see me that way and only as a friend. Well time has gone by now and we’ve spent alot of time together since and I am finding him more and more attractive. I keep praying to know more about these feelings and nothing happens except the feelings get stronger. He seems as though his feelings are changing but since he hasnt heard from God that its ok he wont admit it…. Im struggling right now because i dont know wut to do. I feel like i could be completely wrong and feel dumb and hurt if i say something. I dont want to get hurt, what shud i do? He is a very goal oriented Christian and i feel as though he waits for God to tell him wut his next move shud be and he has a lot of things he wants to accomplish. I also feel like thats why hes not considering dating at this time because he doesnt want anyone to stand in the way of wut he wants to accomplish. HELPPP