Comments for Oasis Church NJ † Christian Podcasts on Dating, Parenting, Marriage, Finances, Life

Comment on Finding a Date in Your Local Area by Dean

Dean — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:42:09 +0000

Every one of the Christian dating sites I have been on the last ten years (and their have been many). ALL have one thing in common. Their is NEVER a pool of “quality” Christians that live within 25 miles of me, that are also physically attractive. It never happens! And Even though some say they can relocate, they really can not or will not! Everyone I have ever hit it off with was way out of state and none of them were into long distance relationships. I feel like I am in an unlisted time zone! I only do totally 100% free sites now. But the problem still exists. I know I am not the only one who feels this way too. This also spills over into real life as well. Oh their are plenty of very attractive, what I refer to as false converts both on the web and in person. Its like good solid Christian women who are also attractive are either taken or not local. Maybe they just do not exist anymore. Maybe all the good one are really gone! Someone tell me this is not so!

Comment on Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women by Angela

Angela — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:07:03 +0000

Thank you for the article. I too was raped as a teenager, when it cmes to sex. I have always thrown myself to men so cheaply, and become wounded and hurt after the act. Now as a christain, I am much better, I know Christ took away my pain and shame. I believe sex between couples should be after marriage. It is worthwhile waiting even when is not so pleasant to wait.

Comment on Christian Singles Secrets by Jeffrey

Jeffrey — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:28:13 +0000

I have been struggling with the issue of masturbation for some time. I am a young guy and I see it as a good relief to sexual tension. I am single and am waiting for the right one so I guess I justify its practice this way. I have felt both good and bad after doing it and have always loathed it when doing it habitually. Is there ever a right time to masturbate or should we do our best to repress it completely? Thank you

Comment on Creative Dating Ideas by Qaroline

Qaroline — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 21:11:44 +0000

These dating ideas aren’t very creative. They’re just standard dating ideas. Going for ice cream? Walking in the park? I’m pretty sure these are things anyone who’s ever dated before has already thought of.

How about really creative and zany Christian activities like having a kazoo concert or going to the local costume shop and trying on clown wigs? Now that sounds like a safe, fun time!

Comment on Love-Shy Singles: How to Overcome Shyness by love-shy girl13

love-shy girl13 — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 21:11:16 +0000

I’m also a love-shy girl. I’m 20 and never had a boyfriend or even had a date. A lot of people ask me how come I don’t have one yet. They said I’m good-looking. I’ve had some guys who asked me out, but I just do not go with them because I don’t know how I will act. Making eyecontacts with other people is kinda hard for me but I find it more difficult to make eye contact and make conversations with potential partner. I’m very frustrated about this because I feel like they will feel bored and they might think I’m weird because I don’t know how to interact with them. I hope I can overcome this real soon. I feel like our society really pressure singles like us.

Comment on Rebound Relationships Dating Advice by Oasis Church NJ

Oasis Church NJ — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 02:37:34 +0000

Please follow your own rebound dating advice

Pastor Dave
http://oasis-church-nj.com

Comment on Dating Tip Advice: How to Spot a Dating Married Man by AC

AC — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 02:25:57 +0000

I agree with these article, I am a young christian woman who tried a popular online dating site, and the person I was matched with was married, I dont know, what to think, he claims he is getting a divorce finalizing in a few months, but I thought it was rather deceptive to be thinking of dating when you’re technically still married and has not had healing after your divorce. The part about hiding the face in the photo is soooo true, I also noticed this about men who are maried, yet they try to prey on an attractive single woman. Needless to say, I unsubscribed from the website, but Im not sure if online dating is for me, I am also still friends with the guy who is getting a divorce, because I dont kno if he may be using me for a rebound out of desperation, I think he needs time to heal, he even mentioned recently that he broke down after his wife came into town, which suprisingly she is engaged to another man. Im not sure I will date him, even after the divorce, it would be long distance. He wont tell me what happen, but Im assuming she may have rejected him, or fussed him out, if he tried to reconcile, why would he cry over it, if he is supposedly separated from her for at least 2years. Is he lying? Should I end all ties…friendship with this man? (Honeslty, he initiated communication when we were matched online, and it seemed like a great match), but now that i know he is married, should I just end all communication with him, even though the divorce should be finalized in April? Help please, Im really trying not to covet or disappoint God in any way, i want His best in my life partner, my soulmate.

Comment on Rebound Relationships Dating Advice by DeJah

DeJah — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:13:38 +0000

I’m dating a man who is going through a divorce and so am I. It seems that we both have the qualities that our spouses lacked. We clicked instantly and as the article predicted, we move pretty fast. We’ve already had sex once. I really care for this guy and I know he cares for me as well. The problem is that I don’t want us to end up using each other as rebounds. Is there any way that I can slow things down but keep our connection?

Comment on Body Language Flirting: How to Know When a Guy Likes a Girl by Theotherwhitemeat

Theotherwhitemeat — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 03:56:48 +0000

This dude seems WAY too open. Not to burst your bubble, but dudes generaly try to conceal affection. (I do!) Thos could mean that he’s using you. (or hes the perfect open minded person.) The last remark is a sad attempt to learn about the other girl. Definatly usin you. Sorry hon.

Comment on Pathological Liars: Are You Dating a Liar? by Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:20:02 +0000

Like most. I wasn’t prepared for the damage I have face living with a liar for five years (breat cancer, ulcer) The relationship started of great “so I thought”. He and his actions appeared sincere and honest. He wasn’t a drinker, a smoker and loved kissing and cuddling watching movies. Then the lies started unvailing (his mail, his phone, his ex. etc), and when he could know longer hide the real him…booy did the DEVIL show himself. This man lied about being divorced. When we first meet he told me that he had been divorsed for 3 yrs. He was still married for the first 1 1/2 of our relatiohship and had just departed from his exwife a few months prior to meeting me. I saw know sign of this…..he was living alone when I meet him. Later, I found out he lied about his children, his work ( a plumber), his finances…the list goes on and on. I realized this person does not love me. I’m just another prey for his selfishness. These kind are all about themselves. They will lie to anyone, even their on parents, childredn, anyone for the benefit of self. The liar will never change. Never! One day at a time……GET OUT!! Save yourself. You deserve better.