Dating After a BreakUp

Dating after serious relationship breakup can be tricky experience for any single, Christian or not. Self esteem issues, rejection and the ever lurking possibility of a rebound relationships are things singles need to be cognizant of after reentering the the dating world after a breakup.

Do you think you are ready for dating after a breakup? Most experts in the field suggest daters wait at least a year after you break up, whether you’re thinking about dating after a divorce or coming out of a dating relationship that lasted for more than 1 year. Consider the following questions as you ponder if you are ready for dating after a breakup:

• Do you hold bitterness or an unforgiving spirit toward your ex dating partner?
• Were you sexually active during your relationship?
• Do you have dreams of getting back with him or her?

Answering yes to any of the above means you are DEFINITELY not ready to get back into the dating market. If you feel you pass the test and are ready to date again, here are some tips:

First of all, now that you are single take some time to enjoy your freedom. Whatever you do, don’t rush to get into another relationship just because you want to be in one. You will only cause hurt feelings and broken hearts. Take some time to move on and think about what you are looking for in a relationship.

Remember to accept other people that you date for who they are. Some people look for somebody exactly like their ex and reject everyone who is different. Other people try to avoid anybody who reminds them of their ex. Just accept people for who they are and if you feel a connection, don’t be scared to enter a relationship, and do not compare people to your ex.

Don’t expect a date to end up in a long term relationship. If you do this, you will be setting yourself up for another fall. Remember that you cannot act the same way with a new person as you did with your ex, but don’t hesitate to enjoy yourself and do the same activities that you did with your ex before the relationship became very serious.

Above all have fun. If you cannot enjoy yourself because you are still too hurt, then you should hold off on dating for a while more.

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