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Low Self-Esteem in Christian Singles低自尊基督教单打

Low self-esteem in some低自尊在一些 Christian singles基督教单打 is keeping them from finding a serious是让他们找到一个严重 dating relationship约会关系 . 。 It’s really simple: If you don’t feel real good about yourself, you’re not going to think anyone else will either.这是很简单：如果你不觉得真正的好，你不会觉得别人会的。

Sadly, problems with low self-esteem can not only effect our dating relationships, but all other areas of our life, including our emotional health.可悲的是，问题，低自尊，不仅可以影响我们的约会关系，但所有其他领域我们的生活，包括我们的情绪健康。 Single men and women with low self-esteem suffer more单身男性和女性与低自尊受到更多 depression and discouragement抑郁和沮丧 , ， loneliness孤独 and anxiety in their lives than other people.和焦虑在他们的生活比其他人。 These negative emotions feed a vicious cycle of withdrawal that only worsens low self-esteem.这些负面情绪饲料的恶性循环中撤出，只有恶化，低自尊。 This makes me depressed just writing about this stuff!这使我沮丧只是写这个东西！

To make matters worse, it seems many Christians feel confused when talking about self-esteem, somehow thinking it is “unspiritual” or self-centered to feel good about yourself.更糟的是，似乎很多基督徒感到困惑时，谈论自尊，不知思想是“非精神” ，或以自我为中心，以感觉良好吧。 Of course, nothing could be further from the truth, as long as you understand from whence your strength comes.当然，没有什么可以进一步从真理，只要你从何处了解你的实力来。

Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem打破链的低自尊

If you are a single Christian suffering from a poor sense of self worth, and are looking for ways to build self-esteem, allowing the truth of the following points to sink into your soul will help put you on the path to recovery:如果你是一个单一的基督教的苦难从一个贫穷的自我价值，并正在寻找新途径来建立自尊，让真相以下几点陷入你的灵魂将有助于你的道路上恢复：

Know That God Accepts You As You Are 上帝知道，接受你的

The beginning of healthy self-esteem and emotional well-being is self acceptance.开始健康的自尊和感情的福祉是自我接受。 Being able to accept yourself starts with accepting God’s view of your worth as a person, and then gladly receiving what He has to offer.能够接受自己开始接受天主的鉴于你的价值作为一个人，然后高兴地接受什么，他所提供的。

• Do you hate who you look like?你恨谁你会是什么样子？ You shouldn’t because God said you were fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139)你不应该因为上帝说，你是可怕和奇妙了（诗篇139 ）
• Do you feel worthless and unlovable?你觉得毫无价值， unlovable ？ God the Father says He loves you, and finds you so worthwhile that He chose His son to die on your behalf, even while you were far from Him (John 3:16, Romans 5:8).圣父说，他爱你，并认为值得你这样认为，他选择了他的儿子死在您的名义，即使你是远离他（约翰3点16分，罗马5时08分） 。
• Do you feel guilty and unclean because of how you have lived your life?你感到内疚和不洁的，因为你如何生活你的生活？ God offers complete forgiveness and cleansing from all past wrong.(1John 1:19), and a new beginning in life (2Cor 5:17).上帝提供完整的宽恕和清洗从所有过去的错误。 （ 1John 1时19分） ，以及一个新的开端的生活（ 2Cor 5时17分） 。

Know That You Belong 知道你属于

Self-esteem suffers when we feel like there is no place we belong.自尊受到当我们觉得没有属于我们的地方。 A sense of belonging gives us a feeling that we are needed and wanted.归属感使我们感到，我们需要和希望。 This makes us feel good about ourselves, and loved at the same time..这使我们感到欣慰的是自己，和亲人在同一时间..

God made us to experience this feeling of belonging and love through the forming of intimate relationships.上帝使我们体验这种感觉的归属感和热爱通过形成的亲密关系。 The most important relationship you can have is with the Lord.最重要的关系，你可以是与主。 In fact, Jesus’ prayer for His followers was that the same kind of wonderful relationship He had with His Father may be experienced by them too: “That they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us…” (John 17)事实上，耶稣的祈祷他的追随者是，同一种奇妙的关系，他已经与他的父亲可能是他们经历的太多： “这都可能是，因为你，爸爸，是我，我在您; ，他们也可能是在我们... “ （约17 ）

If you are a child of God, you belong in His family, and are dearly beloved (Col. 3:12).如果你是一个上帝的孩子，你属于他的家庭，并珍惜心爱的（上校3时12分） 。 You are not orphans or paupers, but princes and princesses who will rule as co-heirs with Jesus.你不是孤儿或贫民，但王子和公主谁将规则作为共同继承人与耶稣。 If you really believe this stuff, nothing will make you feel better.如果你真的相信这东西，什么都不会让你感觉更好。

Know That You Can Conquer Your Past 要知道，你可以征服你的过去

Many singles who suffer from low self-esteem have had past experiences (often in childhood) that have given them a tremendous sense of failure.许多单打谁遭受低自尊已经过去的经验（往往在童年）已经给了他们一个巨大的失败。 This sense of “being a loser” is so agonizing that they fear taking risks in life.这个意义上的“是一个失败者”是如此痛苦，他们害怕承担风险的生活。 It’s这是 fears like these that can keep women and men single这样的担心，可以使妇女和男子单 . 。

However, part of understanding who we are in Christ is realizing that past failures and experiences no longer have a hold on us.然而，一部分的理解我们是谁在基督是认识到过去的失败和经验已不再持有我们。 We now have the power to conquer our past failures and fears through Him (Romans 8:37, 2 Timothy 1:7).我们现在有能力征服过去的失败和恐惧通过他（罗马书8点37 ，提摩太后书一时07分） 。 The question that remains is whether or not you choose to change your negative pattern of thinking and acting.这个问题仍然是，无论您是否选择改变您的负面模式思维和行动。 That power is all yours through Christ (Phil. 4:13).这种权力是通过你的所有基督（ Phil. 4点13分） 。

If you are a Christian single whose low self-esteem has caused your dating aspirations to suffer, covenant with yourself and the Lord to start seeing yourself through His eyes.如果你是一个基督教单一的低自尊造成您的约会愿望受苦，契约与自己和上帝，开始看到自己通过他的眼睛。

Are you are a single person with something to share about low self-esteem?你是一个人与分享的东西约低自尊？

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