Pathological liars are so good at lying that I pity the poor soul who is dating one, whether through an online Christian service like eHarmony, or some other way. What makes a pathological liar so different from every other big fat liar in a dating relationship?
Psychologists feel the answer is found in a paradox: Pathological liars may actually believe the twisted stories they tell their dates, but at the same time know that what they are doing is lying. What? Don’t worry about it, I don’t get it either.
All I do know is that to avoid heartbreak or worse, Christian singles should do their best to avoid such manipulative, compulsive liars. And some of these people are not just liars, they are crooks and liars. That’s what makes them so dangerous.
Singles who familiarize themselves with the schtick of a pathological liar have the best shot at evading becoming one of his or her “suckers.” Of course, since pathological lying is so believable, even if a person knows the tell-tale signs of a liar, they may still fall prey to this kind of jerk. Nevertheless, here is our “liar, liar, pants on fire” checklist of 7 liar signs to look for in your dating partner.
Pathological Liar Symptoms
Liars fidget a whole lot while they talk with somebody. Shifting foot positions, touching their face and mouth area, swaying, rapidly moving hands, and the like, are signs that the person feels uncomfortable while speaking with you, and could very likely be lying.
Liars find it almost impossible to stare you in the eyes while speaking with you. Rapid eye movements, and shifting them downward and to the right while the are talking are a strong keys they are not being truthful.
Liars tend to hesitate or stutter before answering a question. Often a bad liar will ask you to repeat your question in order to give them more time to make up a lie.
Pathological liars are extremely defensive when you question them. If they get overly defensive, asking a question in response to your question, proceed with caution.
Liars, especially if they are married or cheating on you, will mysteriously be unavailable for phone calls or e-mail responses. The will also exhibit other inexplicable behavior that makes you wonder if they are telling the truth. Believe your instincts if you feel this way.
Liars, no matter how pathological, will eventually get caught up in their own inconsistencies on things like employment, past relationships, talents, financial staus, etc.
All types of liars have a hard time giving a simple and short, direct answer. Most pathological liars love to spin stories mixed with truth and untruth in order to build credibility.
Ultimately, whether a single person meets a date through one of the top Christian dating services like eHarmony, ChristianMingle or Christian Cafe, or through a traditional dating path, it’s their responsibility to keep themselves from getting hurt or being deceived by a pathological liar.
Let’s keep our hearts open to romance and love, but let us also use godly wisdom. That’s why the Bible states in Proverbs 4:23: “Above all else, guard your heart, for out of it flows all the issues of life.”
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